Originally Posted by Avani
the age of 3 seems awfully young for all this travel and visiting.
I agree. Some kids could probably handle it fine. Mine wouldn't be able to. All depends on the personality
My long distance set-up is different, and not really pertinant to you, since my ex doesn't have an interest in seeing ds. I'll tell you what's "supposed" to happen though.
I moved ds (4 now) out of state (2 states away, about a 6 hour drive in good weather/traffic). What was "supposed" to happen was me bringing ds back to Michigan every 6-8 weeks for the weekend. Ex had the chance to see ds as much as he wanted on Saturday and Sunday morning before we left (supervised by me). However, ex skipped all the visits in 2007 so this year we won't be doing that. I'll still take ds back to Michigan (most of my family lives there) but it won't be on any set schedule and I won't be informing ex of when. If he decides he wants to see ds then he can call me and we'll work something out (more than likely I'll set up a weekend where I'll take ds back to Michigan and ex will be given the chance to see him (supervised).
As for who pays.... DP and I foot the bill for the gas and other expenses of traveling every 6-8 weeks. But, even if ex were seeing ds during our visits, we wouldn't ask ex to help pay for it. We use the time to visit with my family and, honestly, we'll probably be going to see my family every 8ish weeks still (even without ex doing visits).
Ex does not, and will not, have visitation where ds and I live. This is ds and my sacred place, without any ex vibes going on.
Let me get this straight.... starting in December your ex is going to get 6 one week visits with your ds? When are these visits supposed to take place? I can't imagine any Judge is going to order a child to miss a week of school at a time. Yikes!
What about doing a week over spring break, a week in June, a week at the beginning of august (before school starts) and a long weekend over Thanksgiving or week over Christmas break? Shoot, that's only 4. So 2 would still need to be done during actual school, which means he would miss up to 10 additional days of school. That's way too much! Maybe a long weekend in October (I know my old school had a long weekend in October for.... teacher days or something).
Sorry, just thinking aloud about what I would try to do in that situation.