I know that the laws vary from state to state, i am in Virginia, as for getting him to voluntarily terminate his parental rights, a lawyer is not needed!!! you simply pay to file a petition with the court, the clerk is usually a notary and there is a notary at every courthouse i've ever been to. Some states you need someone there to take the place but BE CAREFUL. you could end up in my shoes.... my sons biodad gave up his rights, we just went into court and said we agreed, my new husband was there saying he wanted to adopt... my court paper simply said, father agrees to terminate his parental rights so stepfather can proceed with adoption, custody given to mother and stepfather.... well as soon as biodads rights were terminated the true intentions of my husband came to fruit. He had no intention of adopting him, he did Not want to be financially responsible if things didn't work out, he just wanted biodad out of my life for good. Now after 5 years of marriage and 1 1/2 years of seperation i would like to file for custody of my two daughters of this marriage and possibly a divorce.... and as a stay at home mom and student, a little child support for my now 7 year old son, would be great, but he has no father that is legally responsible to support him. Lovely
Have you consulted a lawyer? My dh is stepfather to my oldest son and under provincial laws here would financially responsibly for him should we separate.
Hello. I am sorry your ex is a bad mom. If you know these things are happening to your child, then you need to do something. I would think your local social services department would be able to help. They are there to look into these type of things. Ask them to pay a surprise visit to your ex, to check on your child when you can not be there. But the thing of this is, once social services gets involved she might pretend to change her ways. Maybe talk to her friends, or neighbors and tell them your concerns. I know that would mean getting involved in your ex's life, but when it comes to your child nothing else matters. I dunno all your situation, with money or what not. But as I was typing this, maybe getting some sort of proof before you talk to her friends or neighbors. If you have money, i would hire a P.I, to see what she is doing with the money that is suppose to be for food. It sounds like maybe there is something else going on with her, drugs or alcohol.
I know my husband is wanting to sign over his rights to a child that he has never seen. The bad part is that he didn't sign the birth cert. By a long time back the mother filed for childsupprt and they didn't serve us they sent the papers to his dad's house. My husband doesn't have a relationship with his father. We do not pay child support but the state had his name put of the birth cert. The mother wants us to sign over. I know we are having a hard time.
Termenating parental rights does not necessarily mean he will be able to escape child support.
After 5 years, 4 moves, 3 court hearings, and $30,000 my husband and I are seriously considering this option. We are at our wits ends with his ex-wife. The woman will NOT let him talk to or see his two children. We have gone to court 3 times and even filed many times with the local police department. His ex-wife even told his children that their father, (my husband) was dead from a car accident. She harressed us and I had to get a stalking order against her for trying to burn my house down 2 years ago. She is mad that he has me and my children now.
Every 6 months his ex-wife takes him to court for a higher child support check but refuses to let him see his children. He is now paying $1,000 a month and hasn't had any contact with them for 4 years. The last time he did see his child, he saw them at a local Wal-mart b4 she grabbed the girls and ran out the door.
I don't know what else to do. We have been married for 5 years now and have 2 children together. She is getting 50% of his salary. He is paying so much and not even allowed to see them.
Any advice would be appreciated. We can't afford an attorney. The last one was $8,500 and nothing happened. She refuses to let him see the girls! Pls help.
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I locked this thread because it's a really old thread that accidently got brought back up. I think it's because there was a mix-up with the thread (same title) that is currently in the blended and step-families forum found here:
Thanks for your understanding.
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