Keep your chin up mama. If you can get some antidepressents. It has helped me tremendously.
One child to care for wont be to bad. You can do it! You will find it in yourself to be the very best mama possible.
Homebirthing, somewhat crunchy, single mom of ~5~.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
Hey honey, I think I have the opposite advice of the last post. If it were me, I would have his a** in court asap! You already have two children by this man? And one about to be born? Huh-uh, no way you go hungry. Have the baby, surround yourself with love, and then get your butt down to the local courthouse and file a petition for child support. DO put his name on the birth certificate, and have the courts make sure he gets a blood test. That's what it's there for. If it was just this baby, that would be a different story, but three? NO WAY. Get what you deserve. Let the legal system work for you. Please....I've been through it too. Good luck
It is so frustrating that he can spend money on an engagement ring when you are on food stamps. I would throw the adultry card at him, if your state has that. Proof of adultry can get your more than just 50% of your assets. As the PP said protect yourself financially.
It is a horrible betrayal at a very intimate, tender period for you emotionally. I cannot send out enough cyber hugs to make anything better, but I'll be thinking about you.
This actually brought tears to my eyes. I went through what you're going through and I promise it DOES get a little better with time, emotionally. But I'm so sorry you're facing this. Just concentrate on your new, precious baby and put everything else on the back burner until you have that baby. And he's buying an engagement ring while you're on gov't assistance???? I wish I could give him a good beatdown for you
Have a wonderful, peaceful birth...I'll DEFINITELY be thinking of you.
Very blessed mama to one bouncin' boy (12/07) one who didn't get to stay (6/09), one potty learning, mess making diva(4/10), and one cheerful milk monster. (12/11) Happy partner to the love of my life.
Wife of 20 years to my superhero firefighting DH. SAHM to 2 boys and 2 girls (3 babies in Heaven- Baby # 5 5/2010 & Baby #6 8/2011 & Baby # 7 2/1013). Cancer Survivor 2011 ( Persistent Malignant Gestational Trophoblastic Disease)
So in a nutshell here is my story. DH and I started TTC in late 2006. We got pg right away but lost our daughter due to a NTD on 3/16/7, she was still born. It was devastating and we knew we had to TTC again. We got pg right away. My DH out of no where leaves me when I am just 2 months pg for no reason. just "he wasnt happy" crap. Ive gone through the pg all alone not to mention I lost my job no one will hire me pregnant and its been a living hell. Im now on foodstamps wic... you name it. But here is the kicker. Just when I thought he couldnt hurt me anymore he does. Come to find out he got engaged last night. He has only been gone 6 1/2 months and he is ready to shack up with someone already!! I cant believe that he is out buying engagement rings when I dont have money to even eat. I am 9 months pg now and in the last 2 months I have only gained 1/2 a pound. I feel so betrayed that he has done this. I dont know what to do say think or feel. Im numb. i thought the 4 yrs we were together meant something, I thought that the two children we had together meant something as well, and the fact that Im going to give birth in a matter of days I thought meant something as well...but I guess not. His last email to me when I told him I know that he has cheated on me now was "F**k off". I guess i just needed to vent and share my story. I dont know if I can or will trust anyone ever again. I wish there was a way for my child not to have to have this monster in his life.
I am so sorry you have to deal with this.