Thanks for the replies!
The money issue came up with my attorney, and her only response was that someone "could be helping him." The car is not in his name, but his father's name (an 80-something year old man living in El Salvador). I most likely will not have my attorney there with me at our court date because I've already wracked up over $2,000 in fees, and I am terrified of that number getting higher because I simply cannot afford it.
As far as INS... He had a court date out of state a couple of months ago (he hired a fancy lawyer), and he came back saying that he was "going to be deported." The thing is, he has said this 4 times now over the course of a year and a half, and I just shrug when I hear it now. I've seen all his paperwork, and it does look like all of his amnesty & TPS stuff ran out, but he continues to stay, so really it just looks like a bunch of meaningless paperwork to me.
Part of me wants to call and tip off the college, but I don't need bad karma, and I don't think my place is to actively seek his demise - he will get what he deserves when the universe sees fit. (of course, if someone else
wants to tip off INS, IRS, TCC....
I'm wondering if the judge will put him into jail... the last time we went to court, the judge was actually more than fair to him. He gave ex 3 months reduced child support (a little less than half) in order to give ex time to get a job; then at the end of the three months, the c/s amount jumped up to what it was when ex was working full time, plus a little extra to make up for arrears.
And ex is obvioulsy bringing in some kind of income with his photography/videography. I had to buy my son all new clothes (the little guy keeps growing!), and I tried very hard to be as frugal as I possibly could while still getting him things to last through the summer, and I took the reciept for the clothing and shoes to ex practically begging for half, and he tossed $100 cash at me. (But, of course, that $100 doesn't count for his documented c/s because it didn't go through the dispursement agency).
I'm just so tired of dealing with all this. I just wish my son's father had a bit more character and sense of responsibility. *sigh*