I haven't posted about ex in some time because he was behaving so nicely. Well, sooner or later I knew that would end. Today he was late to show up at his house with the kids, at pick up time. He got out of his car shouting at me. Later I found out that he left the kids with someone he is not suppose to leave them with. In our PPP, it states that he can leave the kids with one and only one person. After that, he must call me and give me a chance to care for the kids before calling my parents to ask them. After that, he has to stay home, if he can't find someone to care for them.
Not involving the parenting plan, but he allowed my 7 year old to watch Harry Potter, year three. I know many of you allow your children to watch movies like that, but she has nightmares sometimes, and gets scared easily. I watched it with my 10 year old son last year, and was quite frightened by it.
Lastly, my son kicked her in her belly, and here is how the ex chose to deal with it.
He forced ds to say sorry, then my son got angry. He then pulled his hair, and when ds would not settle down, he pulled again. Ex tacked on to that, "If you don't stop, I'll make you stop, I'll do something much worse". My son was at his knees.
So the issue wasn't dealt with, instead my son was hurt. And then, you'll not believe this, he sent both kids back into the living room (telling them to stay away from each other). My daughter was hurt, dad didn't hug her, or see how she was, and not only that, was sent back into the living room with her brother, who brooded and glared at her, occassionally lashing out with a hand karate style, but not hitting her. She is very obedient, part of her nature, so she never complained, never said to her dad she was scared. She knows if she does, my son will hurt her again.
We are seeing the counselor tomarrow, and I think this time she should report this. I hope she does.
My dd is not safe in that home, then on top my ds is not safe, as he is allowed to hurt his sister, only making his problem much much worse.
I found out later that dd was told to lie by ds, when she was about to tell me that they were watching HP. She told me something else, then feeling so bad, came and told me tonight that she lied to me.
She is a sweety, and I know she wouldn't have done that on purpose, but her brother was glaring at her, saying to do it.
I hope I can at least stop my daughter from visiting until ds and ex can get some serious help. There is NO supervision at all. That is one of the big problems, then that the dad doesn't think being kicked in the stomach is very bad.
What do you think? I'm sick with worry.
Vegetarian Hindu, mother to L,P and R.