He has healthy relationships with his family and keeps healthy boundaries with friends, family.
He won't tell you things that people tell him in confidence.
He is respectful to women, minorities, disabled, small animals, people who have less than he does.. My big green flag is someone who is accepting of other people's body sizes and won't comment on a person's size.
A guy who can open the door for little old ladies (big red flag for me how many able bodied men even though I am 8 months pregnant expect ME to hold the door for them..)
He has good manners. Manners for me are about respecting others feelings, don't get yourself a drink without asking others if you can get them one..don't chew with your mouth open its gross to others....
A man who is the same behind the wheel as in person. Men who swear on the road, cut people off but are meek in person drive me nuts.
A man who attempts to understand how you are feeling.
A man who can think about doing things that might be hard for you (like hang a picture 6 feet up, paint a room) without that painting being on the floor for 5 months first...
A man who can bring home the bacon and cook it...even if he can't cook will order a pizza, try to make a meal. A man who thinks that cleaning up is couple time...that's so sexy a man who rolls up his sleeves and does dishes...oh baby
A man who is all there when he's there with you. (can ignore a cell phone call) looks you in the eyes when you speak..