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Our children make a study of us in a way no one else ever will. If we don't act according to our values, they will know.~Starhawk New User Agreement! http://www.mothering.com/community/wiki/user-agreement
What's your situation with family? Unless you have substantial extended family, and good relations with them, I would probably not do this, regardless of how much I wanted a child. Here's why:
1. Siblings will grow up together; if the first was not a product of a sperm bank, then one has a father, one doesn't.
2. If something happens to you, who gets the second child?
3. Sibs are not necessarily friends. If you don't have a large/warm family, then once you're gone, or if something happens to you, this child may find him- or herself profoundly alone in the world.
What does your family say about all this?