Contrary to my nature, I've become very structured and organized. For example:
Each day of the week has a set breakfast (monday = oatmeal, wednesday = eggs, etc.) lunch, and dinner (monday = meat/fish, tuesday = pasta, friday = pizza, etc.). This makes meal planning easier and it helps make sure we are eating balanced meals.
I have a schedule for chores for myself for each day of the week. Clean the bathrooms, laundry, change the sheets, pay the bills, take out the garbage/recycle, etc.
Every night I run the dishwasher (even if it isn't all the way full) and unload it every morning so that I can put dirty dishes in it throughout the day instead of letting them pile up.
I do all my meal planning for the upcoming week on Sunday and grocery shop that morning while my boys are still at their dad's house. (They are there from Saturday late morning til mid-day on Sunday.)
Wednesday is garbage day, so Tuesday night is the night to clean out the fridge. Plus, Wednesday I get my produce box and a cleaned out fridge makes that easier to put away. Doing it every week makes it 5 minute chore, instead of what it could be if I waited a month...
I know which days at work are busier and plan easier meals for that night. I also plan meals around leftovers... say I roast a chicken one night, I plan to use the leftovers in something the next day, and the chicken stock I've made from the bones a following day.
My boys (ages 6 and 3) have chores as well. Simple ones, but they help out and it then doesn't feel like the WHOLE burden is on me. They set the table and clear their dishes, put their dirty laundry in the wash room, etc. Age appropriate stuff.
I also do my best to clean the kitchen right after dinner and even while cooking so that once the kids are asleep (usually around 7:30) I don't have to face that mess and can quickly finish up the rest of my chores and have some time for myself before bed.
De-cluttering is also a huge support. The less there is in the house, the less there is to pick up, put away, or clean.
Anyway, this helps me, as uptight as it seems some days. And, there are some days where I am so tired I can hardly stand up by the end of the day... But keeping up on things everyday makes it easier for me, and my house is usually clean and tidy, which makes me (and my children) feel more at peace.
I'm tired just writing this all out...
Hang in there all you wonderful mommas!