Ok, it took me way too much time to come up with a title to sum this post up!
I'm looking for input -- particularly any negatives/potential negatives you can see.
Background: We're planning to TTC in August. Our preference is for a known donor, but that search has not been going so well. Mostly because we just don't know
many people, I think.
Soooo, yesterday we were talking to a church friend at lunch. He is a currently single, fairly recently widowed after a long-term relationship, gay man. We were talking about how we were going to be (hopefully) having a baby soon. He shared that he really wants to have a baby, but doesn't see it as a real possibility -- he wants a known surrogate. Talk then shifted, sort of jokingly, to him being our sperm donor and then me carrying a baby for him. We were all sort of joking... in that what if
sort of way.
Kim and I were then talking about it last night. And realized that neither of us were really joking. What we would like to see happen: he donates for us until we have two children (twins, if we're lucky
or two separate pregnancies) and then I conceive a third time for him.
Positives: we get our known donor (which is a whole host of positives)
Potential negatives: we go to the same church/have largely the same social circle -- will that be weird (for us? for others? for the children?)?; will I be ok with it being *his* child -- particularly if he doesn't make the same parenting decisions I would?
Ok, thoughts? Other positives/negatives?