This is my first post here...
My wife and I were married in September (eeee, so fun to say "wife"!), and very much want to be parents. While it will probably be a few more years until we are ready practically to bring a babe into the world, I am overwhelmingly ready (on an emotional level) to have a child. I'm channeling this longing by doing lots of researching and thinking about our plans, talking to my wife, reading, imagining... ok, and getting a little overinvolved with my two friends who are expecting this summer. And feeling really sad, too.
My question is this:
One of my dear friends recently suggested that we might be able to use her husband's sperm to conceive. Now, clearly, we'd have to ask HIM what he thought, and there are all kinds of potential reasons this might not work, etc etc. BUT... if we were, hypothetically, to use his sperm sometime down the line... well, I have some logistical questions and would love to hear anyone's experiences with similar situations.
These friends live about a 4.5 hour drive from us. Basically, what does one do about travel? Do we go to him? Does he come to us? And, more specifically, how do we time it all with my cycles? I'm assuming, never having tracked my cycles, ovulation, etc., that we can't know this kind of thing more than a month or so in advance, if that (correct me if I'm wrong). How have people managed with this, dropping everything to drive almost five hours every month, or asking that of someone else? Now that I imagine that, I guess we'd have to go to him - I wouldn't want to ask him to go to that kind of effort when he'd already be giving us this amazing gift.
So... thoughts? Experiences? Ideas?
Clearly I'm getting ahead of myself hear, but my sweetie and I just sat and talked about how much we would like to at least ask him someday, what a good "candidate" he'd be in so many ways... and anyway, I just started wondering.
Thanks so much!