OK, now I get what you were on about to me the other day. I guess I am so used to being a freak, I didn't get how you were feeling so persecuted!
Tales from my life:
If it makes you feel any better, I consider myself about 70% straight, 30% same sex interested.
My 18 yo dd is completely bi.
My neice is a lesbian, from a really really fundie family to boot. She is a tough little dyke, with a lot of love still, somehow, in her heart.
We all took a nice trip to Northhampton last summer. (MA lesbian friendly town, maybe you've heard of it.)
The lead singer in my dh's rock band is a large middle-aged black woman whom we do not know whether she still has a penis or not. Beautiful voice.
My UU pastor is a lesbian (as well as having many other good qualities) in a commited relationship, and they had twins last spring and I helped them get bfing going.
Our church is "Welcoming" to GLBTs. Yeah, we have pagans too!
Now that I am a WOHM, in a flower shop, can I tell you how disappointed I am that there isn't a gay man working there? Well, heck, I didn't even know straight guys could arrange flowers! Ha! I keep hoping someone will show up. It just seems something is missing in the ambience.
March yourself on down to the queer org and I bet you will meet more bi people there than you think. My own personal theory is, everyone is bi, culture just beats it out of them. Then you get things like football and hair salons and women only Bible study and gyms. For "acceptable" intimate same sex contact, I mean.
I hope my exps make you feel a tiny bit less alone.