I have recently come out, and live in a great, but very small town. I have a great job and a great (non-gay) community. I don't have a gay community where I live, and I'm ready to find one (to clarify: there are many lesbian couples here in their 50's and 60's - not sure why there aren't younger women here!). There is a community an hour from me, but I'm not sure how to find a way in! I'm on the state's LBGT listserv, but events are few and far between, and nothing appears to be coming up for some time. Most events that do happen occur two hours from me, in the state's biggest city. Through FB I discovered that there are locally (in the town an hour from me) organized events among friends that get planned... but I am not (yet!) one of the "circle" - they don't even know I exist. So, how do I meet people? I'm willing to travel to be a part of a gay community, but I as I don't live there, it seems like a bigger challenge. I don't think I appear gay to most people either, especially with my two kids in tow. I've searched the internet for events/groups/etc., but from what I've been able to determine, a lot of this info is inside info. Advice, tips? TIA!