Originally Posted by kellyuk
Thank you both for your replies, hopefully it will work first time, failing that the idea that sperm be frozen over here is a damn good idea and not something that we had thought of. I will look into the books and the websites that you have advised me on.
Yes, the logistics is a concern once and if a baby were to come along, but this hasn't seemed to phase us.. as yet anyway. I guess our main concern at the moment is the possability of getting pregnant. I absolutly hate the idea that one or the other of us wouldn't be able to see the child when they wanted to, but the urge for us to do this together is so strong we couldn't possibly see ourselfs doing it with anyone else. This may seem crazy to some people, but I dunno, it just feels right even with all the hurdles life will be throwing at us.
You gotta trust your gut through a lot of this.
One thing I did before I started trying was to get every single test I could get. It didn't really help, it was three years later when I finally conceived, but whatever is up with my fertility doesn't show up on tests, apparently.
So, talk to your GP and see what ze will order for you. And get your donor/coparent to get a semen analysis. I paid out of pocket for mine, it cost $60 here in the US.
Roughly, here are the blood tests I would recommend:
HIV, syphilis, Hep B, Hep C.
Up to date pap and STD tests. Blood typing. Titres for chicken pox, german measles, rubella, etc. If you were vaccinated, rather than exposed naturally, it's important to get booster shots before pregnancy if you feel that it's warranted. Similarly, get up to date on all your other shots if you were vaccinated for anything like pertussis (whooping cough). It doesn't apply if you have natural immunity, but if you don't, you want to make sure that your immunity is up to date.
If you have pets, get titres run for toxoplasmosis - if you have cats, do your research here. I tested positive on my titre, so toxo is a non-issue for me. It's only the initial exposure during pregnancy that is dangerous.
You also want to check you day 3 hormone levels, and track your cycle for a while, you want to know what's going on with your hormones, your ovulations, and your luteal phase and fix any issues before you start trying.
You may want an HSG and/or SHG - two different tests to assess your uterus and fallopian tubes.
STD tests, semen analysis. Blood typing, if you have a - rh factor.
Some folk will tell you you need to know your CMV status, and if you're negative, only choose a negative donor. I say phooey on that, sure if you're going through a sperm bank, but otherwise, people conceiving through sex with their partner don't worry about it, why should we?
Some folks will also tell you to ditch him if you have a negative Rh factor and his is positive. I say do your research and decide what risks you're willing to take, and keep in mind that straight couples aren't told not to have babies together if the gestator is - and the impregnator is positive.
Now, all this may sound like A LOT and it kind of is. It may be total overkill, but it's better to know right away if there's a problem before you start spending lots of money on travel and freezing sperm and suchlike.
I did ALL of this testing at least once, most of it I repeated annually, for three years. My results told me that I should have no problems getting or staying pregnant, which turned to be absolutely untrue, but I am very glad I had all the tests done because if I had found out after three years that I had blocked tubes or something the entire time, I would be a very bitter duck now.