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justrose13's Avatar justrose13 08:33 PM 03-29-2010
Does anyone know of a group online like this? DP just showed interest in having her own "group" to chat with... i have always shared this with her but she is looking for a DP support group. Any ideas??

Thanks everyone!

megincl's Avatar megincl 10:28 PM 03-29-2010
I'm the non-bio mom, and I don't know of other places. I'd invite her to start a thread here, if she's comfortable (I would understand wanting her "own" place, aka not MDC, though). While we are no longer in the TTC part of the process, I definitely value the non-bio mom conversations....

A note: I just realized that I assumed she wanted a place for non-carrying queer partners to chat, but that may not be the case, so feel free to add more details and ignore anything I said that doesn't apply!
giggleblue's Avatar giggleblue 08:56 AM 03-30-2010
there are some GLBT groups on sheknows.com and also on the baby center that she can join. i can totally relate to wanting to talk about TTC stuff, not at the same place as your partner. it's totally nothing personal, but sometimes, you just want to forge your own.

i hope she finds something!
justrose13's Avatar justrose13 09:29 AM 03-30-2010
thanks for the advice!

DP will be the non-carrying/non-bio mom. she just would like some ppl to chat with about all the things that go along with supporting me while we TTC via me. i think there are quite a few ppl here that have experience with that. i will suggest her just starting a thread here or maybe one of the other two that were suggested. however, i am on babycenter well... i found sheknows last night so maybe i'll suggest that to her if she wants to find her "own" place.
kkearney1982's Avatar kkearney1982 10:43 AM 03-31-2010
I will have to fwd this to my DW: we are TTC with me right now, and it seems to be an uphill battle due to previous cancer treatment. We do plan on having her carry the next child, but right now she's feeling "left out" even though she knows in her head that she's not...if that makes sense. She's afraid that by the time it is her "turn", she'll be too old (at 30 ish, and she understands that that is somewhat irrational) and won't be able to get pregnant. So those kinds of issues are not necessarily things that would come up on a board like this one. And I know there are jealousy issues, even though in her head she knows that there shouldn't be, but having "her own" place where she can discuss this without me knowing/reading it would probably help a lot.

Thanks!
Kate
CascadiaMama's Avatar CascadiaMama 01:19 PM 03-31-2010
My DP mentioned something along these lines last night. She's not feeling left our, but she would like to commiserate with other people whose partners are 11DPO and dreaming up pregnancy symptoms at every turn and generally obsessing and driving their partner nuts.

where's the board for THAT, she asks?
justrose13's Avatar justrose13 09:52 AM 04-01-2010
i think i'm going to encourage her to start a place to discuss these sorts of things and i will let y'all know where that is so you can tell DPs. unless one of your DPs start it first, then let me know so i can tell my DP.
thanks again, everyone!
justrose13's Avatar justrose13 11:05 PM 04-07-2010
so my DP has just started a new thread on the sheknow's gay/lesbian board. here is a link:

http://talk.sheknows.com/f39/non-car...1/#post8527510

please tell your partners about it if they would have intrest in joining her.
AmandaMom's Avatar AmandaMom 12:08 AM 04-08-2010
wehrli - Your DP sounds EXACTLY like my DP! I will share the link. Thanks!!
megan sacha's Avatar megan sacha 01:07 PM 04-08-2010
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Originally Posted by kkearney1982 View Post
I will have to fwd this to my DW: we are TTC with me right now, and it seems to be an uphill battle due to previous cancer treatment. We do plan on having her carry the next child, but right now she's feeling "left out" even though she knows in her head that she's not...if that makes sense. She's afraid that by the time it is her "turn", she'll be too old (at 30 ish, and she understands that that is somewhat irrational) and won't be able to get pregnant. So those kinds of issues are not necessarily things that would come up on a board like this one. And I know there are jealousy issues, even though in her head she knows that there shouldn't be, but having "her own" place where she can discuss this without me knowing/reading it would probably help a lot.

Thanks!
Kate
Kate, I just had to share that DW carried our first and I'm pregnant now with our second. I'll be 38 when this one is born and it took 8 tries for DW to become pregnant. I absolutely had the thoughts that by the time it was my turn to ttc that I'd be too old since my mom went through menopause at 40. But, turns out I got pg on the first try, despite pcos! I this if she's 30 she really has nothing to worry about. That is still SO young! But, I do understand the feelings and they are unique to a situation with two moms who both want to carry.
PixelDust's Avatar PixelDust 02:30 AM 04-12-2010
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Originally Posted by AmyPDX View Post
My DP mentioned something along these lines last night. She's not feeling left our, but she would like to commiserate with other people whose partners are 11DPO and dreaming up pregnancy symptoms at every turn and generally obsessing and driving their partner nuts.

where's the board for THAT, she asks?
That was me when we were TTC and my partner was the one carrying. I was the one charting everything and going nuts.
smilingsara's Avatar smilingsara 02:18 AM 04-19-2010
I checked out that link, and that board looks super confusing. Has your DP posted anything on here?!

My DP is currently a very avid member on here. She loves this board and we talk about it frequently. We are trying for our first baby (her third) and I am overly giddy about all of it!

justrose13's Avatar justrose13 09:38 AM 04-19-2010
sara, i agree with you that that board is kind of confusing... i finally figured out how to switch it to view like this one. however, i don't really like it there anyway. i am just partial to mothering.com. DP also doesn't really like it over there, but someone here had mentioned that her DP might like a place away from her partner and her posts. so my DP started over there, and just a few people commented... then we found out i was pregnant just a few days later. she has been checking that board occasionally, but she also has been lurking over here... she is too discouraged to start another thread over here not to mention she is fairly new to this whole chatting/threads thing. when i mentioned what you posted, she made a comment that she would probably participate if someone else started a group for DPs, she just didn't really have it in her to start another...

good luck!
kkearney1982's Avatar kkearney1982 12:58 PM 04-19-2010
I'll send this link to my DW--I can't figure it out very well, but she might be able to!

Thanks,
Kate
smilingsara's Avatar smilingsara 11:52 PM 04-19-2010
wehrli: where do you think I should start a thread?! I'd be happy to start one, chat with your DP and anyone else's too?!
justrose13's Avatar justrose13 10:09 AM 04-20-2010
my DP would love to participate on a thread here on mothering.com... if you build it, they will come.
smilingsara's Avatar smilingsara 10:50 AM 04-23-2010
I'm on it!
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