: I'm sorry about your family.
Thank you so much for your support! It means a lot. I will definitely stick with my kid. And don't worry; we have had the conversation a few times where if she ever feels like being a boy again or doesn't feel like either a boy or a girl, we will still love her and support her. Her "boy clothes" are still easily accessible in her closet, and she knows where they are. (I think it's funny that she calls them "boy clothes" because DP dresses similarly to those clothes, only without cars and stuff on the shirts. lol)kkearney1982
: Thank you very much for both of your congratulations! We only told family a week ago about our pregnancy, and it went relatively well, with very few rude questions. However, now, (and I know this is kind of selfish) we feel kind of overshadowed by our kiddo's news... *sigh*
I really like your advice about respect. I'm going to remember that and tell it to my mom later. Well, that is when she's speaking to me again... Augh. What we're really afraid of is that my mom will try to sneak Serafina into reparative therapy or something... (She's a Christian and has tried to convince me to go when I first came out to her).EkkaGrrl
: I'm really glad you're thinking about supporting your child in this! It's a hard road sometimes, but worth it. DP and I have lots of friends who wish they had parental support with this as kids... some are not doing so well because of lack of support.
The book is "The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals" by Rachel Pepper and Stephanie Brill
. It's been enormously helpful in dealing with the school especially. We've been trying to get them to educate the rest of the kids about gender diversity, but it's been a no-go so far. We're about to bring in the fleets. Especially since yesterday evening we had our child tell us of an incident at school where three kids from an older grade followed her around all lunch hour asking her to take off her pants and prove she's really a girl.
DP phoned the school and bawled out the principal, but we're all VERY upset!! Beautiful~Life
: Thank you!! starling&diesel
: I absolutely agree about how letting them air their concerns is reasonable. We let them do so for a good couple hours on Sunday, and are still willing to listen again as long as they are willing to listen to us. I really like your idea about a family meeting with a trans-positive mediator. I'm not sure the family will go for it, but I'll definitely try to find someone to do that, and give it a shot! (Btw, our kid wasn't in attendance at our meeting on Sunday; she was in bed thank goodness. We wouldn't have let that go on in front of her. Also, there are no other children in my extended family.)
Thanks for your support and advice.