I'm actually a regular member at MDC but I have to post underneath another name due to privacy reasons.
I'll get to that in a sec...
BUT, I'm really happy to say that my sister called me tonight to tell me she has a gf! I was pretty surprised at first. I knew she had big news but I was more worried that she'd gotten pregnant and was dropping out of college or something.
I feel really happy for her. She's been in a long term relationship for awhile now but I'm the first family member she's told (and most likely will tell for a LONG time because we come from a VERY, VERY conservative Christian background). Honestly, before, I always worried about her. She was so obsessed with boys but never had a bf. She kept meeting random guys off the Internet, etc. DH and I were just really worried that something was wrong, that it was a self-esteem issue or something. After talking to her, it just seems she was in denial and needed some time to work through that. She just seemed so much happier, more self-confident. I saw some pictures of her and her gf and they just look so cute together! A lot of things really make sense now and I feel kind of silly for not realizing this sooner, but I'm just glad to see her happy.
Ok, but besides me being happier for her. I'm also nervous for her (and I know she's really nervous about this too). Like I said, our family is VERY conservative. Her dad might be ok with it but will certainly tease her to no end. Our mom... wow, I know her opinion and it's not good. We've had so many arguments about homosexuality and the Bible it's not even funny (way before any of this with my sister came out, I just hate to see people being discriminated against in general). Plus our mom and my sister are really close and my sister is used to telling her everything so I know it's just eating her up inside.
Does anybody have any suggestions on how I can help my sister deal with this? I want to be as supportive as I can. I feel honored that she told me and that she trusts me with this when she won't tell anybody else in my family. I've told her already if she wants me there when she tells our mom, I certainly would be. Is there anything else I can do? I have also sent her some links from a good website that talks about homosexuality in the Bible (and is supportive).
I also made it clear I'm still expecting to have little nieces and nephews someday and she said that wouldn't be a problem.