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Seraf that is SO awesome about your brother offering to donate!! I wish so much my husband had a brother who could donate for us.

AmandaHope I only had trigger shots when I was doing IVF so I'm not sure if it's different. I had 31 follicles the first time and more than that the second time so my ovaries were so huge I felt like I needed a wheelbarrow to cart them around lol. I don't remember any specific twinges from the trigger shot though. If I remember right I took it in the evening so I could have slept through anything interesting though.

I wish I could get a beta but at this point I think it's kinda moot. I'd have to find someone willing to order it for me, and then with the holiday weekend I don't think I'd be able to get it done till Tuesday, and I'm fairly sure I'll either have a positive test or my period by then. It would be 16DPO, cycle day 32, and my cycles are rarely longer than 30 days.

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Bunny, stay away AF, stay away!!

AHope, i only had the trigger once... but i did feel those "twinges" afterward. i don't know if they were from the trigger or the clomid... after i've taken clomid, i can feel my ovaries working right up until O day. Happy Insemination Day!!!

sera, i think that's great about your bro... we've considered that option, DPs bros have even suggested themselves, but alas, we don't think we could live with that decision... for many, many reasons. i always think it's great when it works out for another family, though! G/L!

Beastie, i hope you are feeling better today... here's to hoping you have the BEST news for your DPs b-day!!

library, i hope you are having a great time with your family! enjoy every moment of this holiday weekend!!

scarlett, sorry you missed O last cycle! but it sounds like you have a promising new tool in O detection! FX that O is crystal clear this cycle and that 2 weeks later you'll have the best news in the world!

afm, nothin' much... waiting to O. CBE monitor still says low, opk -, O should be at least 5 days away... the time should fly though, our best friend in the wide world is here for the holiday (from washington state) and we are just soaking up quality time with her. she leaves on my CD15 (i have an u/s that morning) and then we trigger after we drop her at the airport. insem scheduled for friday (we have the day off!) !!

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Good morning ladies~

Only time for a quick reply and some extra hugs for my fellow TWWers. A cold, rainy 4th weekend, which is really unusual. Typically it's 100+ for us, but not this time!

My temp went down slightly, back to 97.90. I was having really vivid dreams and nightmares all night long, including one where my temp dropped to 92 and I woke up crying because I knew it was all over. I'd hoped it'd go up or at least stay up, but I"ll try not to freak out.

AmandaH~ Hope your insem goes flawlessly!! Can't wait to hear more!

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My temp went down slightly, back to 97.90. I was having really vivid dreams and nightmares all night long, including one where my temp dropped to 92 and I woke up crying because I knew it was all over. I'd hoped it'd go up or at least stay up, but I"ll try not to freak out.
Every time you start freaking about a temp falling... look at our success chart... DP's temp had been going down for like 4 days straight, almost all the way down to coverline, when it shot back up at like 14 DPO...

If there is one thing I have learned from our success cycle it is NOT to give too much importance to the chart because this was the one chart we had that didn't look promising !

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Coco Regarding your Q&P post about being a bit shocked, *I'm* still reeling at your news, and *I'm* not even the pregnant one! Yikes! But it seems so wonderful, given your long hard journey to conceive and desire for more than one kid (right?).

Scarlett I meant to comment on your last post earlier. I can completely empathize with your physical anger at having missed O last time. The rage and disorientation that I feel when I realize that I either missed or mistimed O is awful. I'm so glad you're back on track now.


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Hi all, and thanks for your kind words during my crabby day. I'm feeling much better after dinner with friends and a full night's sleep. How are you all doing?

AmandaHope: Happy insemination day! How exciting and lucky. I hope the trigger shot did its thing, and that there's a big ripe egg just waiting for those swimmers!

Bunny: Sorry about the disappointing tests and the holiday weekend preventing your beta. I'm holding out hope that you'll get a clear BFP in the next few days!

Wehrli: Have so much fun with your BFF, and then have an easy path through the insems and into the TWW. I'm rooting for you!

Library: What a scary dream! In reality, though, those temps are still pretty freakin high. I hope looking at your chart gives you back some confidence! Will you have a beta when you get back from your trip? How does testing work when you're on progesterone?

AFM: Small temp rise this morning, so I'm feeling hopeful. Also, I almost threw up while I was taking out the trash, though likely that says more about the gross state of the garbage than it does about any symptoms on my end! DP left on his trip today, so I'm enjoying all of my secret single behaviors (mostly this involves watching bad tv and being very lazy). I hope you all are finding time to do something nurturing this weekend!

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Bunny Sorry to see the spotting on your chart today--hoping it turns out not to be AF on her way.

Beastie Glad you are feeling better today.

Library, Beastie, Gelly Those charts are looking good!

Wehrli Have a wonderful time with your friend--what a lovely visit!

AMom Hi.

Well, I had a very nice insem experience. No spills or mishaps and a nice long nap afterward. I got up early for yoga so that I'd be sleepy after the insem--and that worked out perfectly! The only thing is that although I haven't been temping much, I did take my temp this morning, and it was in my post-O range. With those twingy/crampy feelings last night, I'm a bit worried that I Od closer to 24 hours after the trigger, rather than the predicted 36. But I'm doing my best not to worry about it. My cervix was more open this morning than yesterday, and there was plenty of EWCM, so I'm trying to trust in the process. I still don't know whether to do the progesterone vag pills, though....

Who is next for insemination day? Wehrli, perhaps?

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Amandahope I'm glad to hear the insemination went well. Even if you did O a little early the egg can live 24 hours and the sperm only take like an hour or two to get up there.

I had a teeny bit of spotting around 3am just like eggwhite but brown/pink. Then nothing for several hours and last time I checked it was pink tinged creamy. And both those were when checking, not enough to see otherwise. My cervix still feels pretty firm and closed. But I just did another poas which was completely negative. I think I'm most likely out this cycle. Which is really freaking me out.

I mean I know "average' is like 20-25% pregnancy rate per cycle for fertile "couples". But I would have thought my odds would be MUCH higher. My tubes are clear, my cervical mucus was perfect, our timing was perfect, the sperm I'm sure is very fertile, I was on clomid and I know for the IVFs I had TONS of eggs even on the low dosages so I would assume I'd get at least a few with clomid. My eggs fertilize perfectly (like to the point of fertilizing even with sperm the dr was pretty sure were dead lol). My lining was great for both IVF's and this was only my second cycle on clomid (other KD backed out last minute last cycle, but that turned out perfectly). And I'm taking baby aspirin.

So yeah, I'm freaking out. Maybe I shouldn't worry so much, it's just after over 4 years it seems like it's *never* going to happen. I don't know when I should go to a dr. to see if anything's wrong, or what even COULD be wrong? I guess I probably shouldn't worry for a couple more cycles but I'm just feeling like I should have several eggs, how could NONE of them have stuck?

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Hi Everyone,

BunnyLullabye: A bit of spotting doesn't mean anything, and I hope you're going to get a terrific surprise sometime soon, but I definitely understand how frustrating and scary the process can feel.

AmandaHope: Hooray for a good insemination experience! Even if you O'd at 24 hours post trigger, you're still in good shape. How exciting!

Beastie: A temp rise and nausea sound like good signs! Thanks for your thoughts on switching or not switching donors after a loss. Your reasons for not switching definitely make sense (and are appealing) to me. I think we'll have to do some more thinking about it (and maybe give ourselves some more time to see how we feel).

LibraryLady: I completely agree with Coco that a small temp drop means absolutely nothing. I have everything crossed for you!

Wehrli: I hope you have lots of fun with your friend. It is exciting that your insem time is coming soon!

AFM: I'm finally feeling better physically--hooray!

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AFM: I'm finally feeling better physically--hooray!
I'm so glad to hear that, Escher.

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anyone else want me to add their chart??

is everybody in the correct place? if not, let me know, i will make sure it's corrected...

TTWers: want me to add test dates?
Hi Werhli...could you add that I will test 7/6/2010, on 15DPO.

okay after reading all the kudos on my chart I decided to test tomorrow...13DPO.

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Hi everyone...sorry for being MIA and the lack of personals. DW and I are in North Carolina visiting my sister and my new niece...she is sooo sweet. I really hope that I will be holding one of my own by this time next year. We have had the vacation from hell...our 8:35pm plane was delayed till 12:50 am, and we didn't arrive in NC until 3:30am...we missed getting our rental car...and when we go to our oh so NOT-lovely hotel...the room was infeted with roaches. Yeah....that is what I said....Roaches. It was 4:30am by now and we had no way to leave the hotel and no other hotel in that area...so we huddled on the bed, didn't unpack a thing and waited for the sun to rise.

I called my sister who came over to get us this morning take us to get our rental car and help us find a new hotel. We are now in a very nice hot tub suite with a king bed....and NO BUGS!!! Yeah.

So symptoms...over the last 48 hrs I am running on about 4 hrs of sleep. So, I couldn't tell you what is a prego symptom and what is not. After reading everyone's compliments on my chart, I talke DW into going over to Wal-mart tomorrow and getting a prego test...it's a few days early, but I just want to know one way or the other. For the record DW belives that I am pregnant.

For all of you who are inseming this weekend and week...good luck catching that egg.

For my fellow TWW'ers good luck with this week of testing!!!

Love ya all...I gotta get some sleep.

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Can I please be moved to waiting to know? I am currently 6DPIUI. Thanks!
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GellyBeangrl wow that IS the vacation from hell! I'm so glad you're in a good hotel now. Not that the jacuzzi tub will do you much good huh? hehe. Do you mean 13DPO? I didn't realize you were just one day behind me. Your chart is looking amazing!

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Bunny-- Keeping fingers crossed for you! Maybe that pink is just some late implantation spotting

Library--HI! That IS odd rain on the forth (thank you hurricane Alex I suppose) Hoping for HIGH temps and peace of mind for you

Amanda-- Yay for a peaceful insem. Since we do ours ourselves, it always ends up being the farthest thing from romantic, and actually quite hilarious. There are normally phrases like "Could you just let me have my coffee for a minute?!" or "Hurry up, it's already thawing and it takes you ten minutes to find my cervix!" Hoping for a super quick 2WW for you

AFU Im now using THREE count em THREE OPKs Im convinced our issue is nothing but timing, so here we go. Saliva, CBE Monitor (which I must say, has been way off the last few months) and the CBE smiley ones (which almost always do the trick) Also the ovulation confirmation wand (scary title) so we should have a pretty good idea, assuming I get SOME KIND OF LH SURGE verification. If we still cant time correctly, I suppose I will have to get a lot more information RE: Trigger shots, and using ultrasound to pinpoint. There are so many advantages to having a clinic and doing it all ourselves, but as my DP is a family practice nurse practitioner, her OB/fertility experience is limited, and therefore it feels like a lot of trial & error, pressure, research etc. BUT all's well that ends well right?

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Hey ladies~

Another short note since I'm on a pretty public computer. Thanks for all the encouragement~ Coco, I'll keep you and the twins in mind when I start to freak out. I was 97.90 again today and I think we'll test on Friday, but I might test Thursday. DP and I have a shopping weekend in Dallas planned starting Friday and I'd like to either be buying baby stuff or having a beer in compensation (oh please please please let me be able to buy some of that cutie baby stuff from Ikea!!!)


Sorry for the lack of personals, but I'm wishing everyone a safe and fun 4th. Gelly, sounds like you're in a much better roach free place now!! Talk to you all soon, back on a better posting schedule next week.

Good luck to all insems and TWWs!!!

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okay after reading all the kudos on my chart I decided to test tomorrow...13DPO.
So...have you tested, Gelly? I'm so excited and hopeful for you! And I'm *really* glad that you've escaped the roaches and are enjoying your new room and your new niece!

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AHope: Congrats on an easy insem with time for a nap! The whole situation still seems so fortuitous to me, and I hope it is! Sending you a restful and easy TWW!

Bunny: I hope you're not still freaking out! I can understand how, given all of your preparation and time trying, it feels like you're past due for your BFP. But I also know (and keep having to remind myself) that there's no logic here, only luck. I hope you get a lucky BFP this week, or else some clarity about what comes next.

Escher: I'm glad it wasn't overstepping to talk about our donor decision. But so many people were so sure we'd automatically switch that I wish someone had at least reminded me of the option to consider all of the options a bit more fully. I'm sure you'll make the right choice when you're ready, and in the meantime I'm glad your body is feeling better!

Gelly: I'm super excited about your test tomorrow! FX for a nice, clear BFP! Your chart certainly makes it seem like a possibility!

2HappyMamas: How are you feeling at 6dpo? Any possible symptoms?

Scarlett: It sounds like you have a big arsenal of tools and you know how to use them! I did want to throw out there that, while I've never used the CBE sensors, I've always had mixed results with regular OPKs. For me, they go from blank to showing a line as I get closer to O, but almost never get a totally clear positive. So, rather than waiting on the positive, I try to use other signs (mostly temp, CM, and sometimes libido) to get the timing right. This doesn't work for everyone, and I still count on the opks to validate my guess, but I thought I should mention it if you're finding the tools to be more of a weight than a help.

Library: I just looked at your chart and for a second thought I'd made a mistake and opened my own: we have almost the same flatline for today and yesterday! I hope you get the chance to do some baby shopping soon!

AFM: Flat temp today, which is neither here nor there. Still a bit of nausea, but not as dramatic as yesterday, so maybe it really was the garbage stench! Not sure if it's worth testing tomorrow, since 10dpo is so early... Also, I just got back from a department function at which I played with two cute 7 month olds, both daughters of male colleagues. When my chair saw me with them, she said, "Oh no! Now I'm going to have to deal with maternity leave". Great. Way to confirm my anxieties about lack of support for female faculty AND to illegally comment on my fertility, all during my (secret to her) TWW!

Hope you're all staying cool and having fun today.

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Hello everyone...still in North Carolina...we are heading home tomorrow. More vacation drama today. My DW's aunt died today...she has been sick and just recently...as in Wednesday June 30th she was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. We were told that she had 2-3 months to live...but today around 1:30pm we got the call that she was really bad and that she probably would not make it through the day. DW was really upset because we are here and she wanted to be there with her aunt. She just went so quickly...its both a curse and a blessing. For her it is a blessing because she did not have to suffer long...for us it is a curse because everyone was really counting on the 2-3 months to say good-bye.

Anyway...I did test today, but I was unable to use first morning pee...I got a bfn. I'm not trying to get too down about it I still got a few days till AF is scheduled to pay me a visit. I may test again in the morning...or I might wait till Tuesday morning...that will 15 DOP. Not sure what to do if I am still not getting a BFP, and AF has not shown up.

Bunny~ How did your testing go today? Get your BFP?!?!?

Library and Beastie~ Your charts look good...and your symptoms sound very promising. I would so love to join you all with bfp's.

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Gelly s and more s for you and DP. I'm so sorry about her aunt. To have under a week after a diagnosis like that...with no time to adjust or say goodbye...that is so tough and heartbreaking. Of course, your DP wanted to be with her. I'm so sorry. And the BFN on top of that-- . Your chart really does look great, and without FMU, it may well have been a false negative. I really hope that tomorrow or Tuesday, you get that BFP, and that it gives you and DP a bit of hope and joy in this very hard time.

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Hi Everyone,

A few quick notes:

Gellybeangrl: Your chart looks great, but I'm sorry that you keep getting bfn's--I know that is disappointing.

Beastie: Holy cow--look at that temp rise! Are you testing?

Library: Your chart today continues to look great. I look forward to hearing your exciting test results whenever you test! Go team!

BunnyLullabye: Any news today?

2happymamas: Do you have a chart that I can stalk?

Miss Scarlett: I'm also not a huge fan of the CBE monitor, but I LOVE their smiley face opks. And I supplement with internet cheapies, which I think work almost as well as the CBE opks. And then I tend to ignore all those results and base my timing mostly on CM and how my cervix feels. Isn't it crazy how much we do to figure out when to insem?

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Gelly: So sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sorry that you and DP have to navigate this hard and unexpected death while you're away from home. I'm holding out a lot of hope that you'll get your BFP any day now, and that maybe you can find some comfort or peace in the idea that your conception was so lined up with DP's aunt's diagnosis. Thinking of you both.

Bunny? Library? Any testing action? Any news? FX for you both!

Wehrli: Getting close now!

Escher: Thanks for checking up on the chart!

AFM:Escher's right: I had a really big spike (I took it 3 times in a row, all at or above 99. And it tracks my pregnancy cycle pretty closely. But I got a BFN with FMU this morning at 10DPO, and we're having a huge heat wave (even though I do sleep with an air conditioner, and DP is still out of town, so my sleep is more disrupted than usual. So who can know. Last time I didn't get a BFP till 12 DPO, so I'm trying to maintain low expectations and just keep testing. But now I'm so obsessed that once a day seems like so little! AHope and 2happy mamas, distract me with your possible symptoms! Or Wehrli and all the other waiting folks, distract me with your O predictions!

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Library & Beastie - Your charts are looking great!

Gelly - Sorry about your BFN today. Still no sign of AF, though, right? Stay away, AF!!! Hugs to your DP, too, for losing her aunt.

Coco - Big congrats on the TWINS! I couldn't be happier for you and DP.

AmandaHope - Hi! I'm sending you some of my magical cell division and implantation visions.

escher - I'm so glad you're feeling better.

Bunny - I'm still holding out hope for you.

Miss Scarlett - I'm sure you'll catch that egg right on time!

Wehrli - Thanks for the beautiful new thread; I hope it brings you lots of luck this cycle! My chart got lost in the mix somewhere between here and the June thread, so here's a link: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/amandamom

AFM, CD15 and no sign of O, but since we're not trying this cycle, I'm not obsessing. What a relief! Trying to get the timing perfect has got to be the worst part of TTC. I think my easiest days are the first few days post-IUI when I'm not obsessing over ovulation signs *or* pregnancy signs.

I had a great weekend. DP and I went to a local bar on Friday and sang karaoke... quite bad, in fact. We're thankful we didn't know anyone else in the bar. Saturday we drove down to Myrtle Beach hoping to catch Orianthi playing at the House of Blues. Well, Google maps had us driving all the way down to South Myrtle Beach, and it was too late when we realized the House of Blues was in North Myrtle Beach. We still had fun, though, and became very familiar with the ins and outs of MB! Yesterday DP and I attended a lesbian dance in the afternoon on a rooftop bar followed by a big house party with a great view of the fireworks. All in all, a fabulous weekend. I made no effort to avoid alcoholic beverages since there's no chance I'll be inseminating anytime soon.

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Beastie It is just cruel to get a temp rise like that and a BFN (chart stalking). But at 10dpo, I'd try not to get discouraged. You aren't sick, are you? Those temps are sky high!

Library Back up a bit on the temp for you, too, right? Nice! When are you going to test? Yikes!

Bunny Stay away, AF!

Scarlett Watch out for the woman armed with many ovulation-detecting weapons! I'm with the others on the CBE monitor being sketchy. Honestly, I never did find a fully reliable way to detect LH/O, so that's why I'm now a big fan of ultrasounds. I hope you get better results.

Wehrli, would you please move me to waiting to know? There is no point pretending that this is a non-trying cycle when I am already thinking all the time about whether or not I am pregnant (at 3dpo--sigh). Coco's experience has me freaking out a bit about twins, since I'm pretty sure that if I don't conceive this cycle, my RE will try to convince me to go on Clomid, and I'll be very tempted to follow his advice. I just want to be pregnant, already! But as I've mentioned before, we (esp DP) are not prepared to parent three children.

My new thinking (which seems alternatively inspired and truly insane) is that if I do have twins, I could allow my KD and his wife (one of my best friends who is struggling hard with infertility) to adopt one of them. But holy crap! I am not, unfortunately, one of those altruistic, zen women who be a surrogate and not be plagued by self-doubt and remorse. And here is the strangest part: how would I choose which one to keep and which one to allow KD and his wife to adopt? I know that I'm slightly nuts for even thinking about this, but in a way, I feel I have to, if I'm going to use fertility medications of any kind. I don't think I could live with myself if I had a selective reduction of a twin when my KD and dear friend likely can't have their own child.

So here's a strange QOTD for anyone who wants to discuss this. Assuming that you already had (or were pregnant with) your ideal number of children, would/could you ever be a surrogate for someone else? If so, under what conditions?

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AmandaHope: Sorry I missed you in my 2WWer chart stalking! Go team! Clomid is a tough choice if you definitely don't want twins. I wonder what other options you have. Good luck figuring it out!

QOTD: I don't know if I could be a surrogate. At the moment I feel very attached to keeping any babies that I birth, but I can definitely understand that may change once I have a couple of children.

AmandaMom: That sounds like a great weekend!

Beastie: It makes perfect sense to me that if you didn't get a bfp until 12dpo last time you wouldn't get one until around then this time.

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AmandaHope: Talk to your doctor about trying Femara, as opposed to Clomid. According to the RE we use, using Femara has a reduce likelihood of multiple follicles v. Clomid. The RE explained that he usually sees one dominant, better quality follicle when using Femara than the mulitple, not-so-great quality follicles on Clomid.
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AmandaMom: What cool charts you have! I love the way your body likes to hover at exactly 98.2. How precise of you!

AHope and Escher: I know, I know. I don't actually find the 10DPO BFN too depressing because I understand that it doesn't mean much, but I still hate to have to look at it! Nevertheless, it does nothing to defer me from wanting to test some more!

In related news, as evidence of how spacey TTC is making me, it turns out that the 8th (DP's bday and return home) is on THURSDAY, not WEDNESDAY. Who knew? So the bad news is an extra night solo and the possibility of confirming a real BFN by myself, but the good news is an extra day toward the possibility of this BFP as b-day gift plan...

QOTD: As of now, I'm with Escher on this one. I'm just so focused on creating a baby for my own family, and too worried about finding the time and resources to create siblings for that baby down the road, to imagine having the time and energy to have a pregnancy for surrogacy. Still, I can understand why you'd consider it, and I think that being a surrogate for your KD would be an incredible and meaningful gift.

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Wehrli: Getting close now!

right?!

AFM:Escher's right: I had a really big spike (I took it 3 times in a row, all at or above 99. And it tracks my pregnancy cycle pretty closely. But I got a BFN with FMU this morning at 10DPO, and we're having a huge heat wave (even though I do sleep with an air conditioner, and DP is still out of town, so my sleep is more disrupted than usual. So who can know. Last time I didn't get a BFP till 12 DPO, so I'm trying to maintain low expectations and just keep testing. But now I'm so obsessed that once a day seems like so little! AHope and 2happy mamas, distract me with your possible symptoms! Or Wehrli and all the other waiting folks, distract me with your O predictions!

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Look at that chart!! WOW! FX... as for distracting you with O predictions... i'm pretty sure friday will be the day for the IUI... i have an u/s scheduled for wednesday and will probably trigger that night. but i'm watching carefully for other signs because last cycle i O'd 2 days early! but i'm also on clomid this month, and i've always o'd on CD17 on it... so i feel pretty relaxed about it.

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Wehrli - Thanks for the beautiful new thread; I hope it brings you lots of luck this cycle! My chart got lost in the mix somewhere between here and the June thread, so here's a link: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/amandamom

your right! sorry about that.

AFM, CD15 and no sign of O, but since we're not trying this cycle, I'm not obsessing. What a relief! Trying to get the timing perfect has got to be the worst part of TTC. I think my easiest days are the first few days post-IUI when I'm not obsessing over ovulation signs *or* pregnancy signs.

i'm so with you on this one... this is my 2nd cycle with the RE and it is so much less stessful knowing that i'll have u/s confirmation and trigger timing... it's soooo hard to not stress over timing!

I had a great weekend. DP and I went to a local bar on Friday and sang karaoke... quite bad, in fact. We're thankful we didn't know anyone else in the bar. Saturday we drove down to Myrtle Beach hoping to catch Orianthi playing at the House of Blues. Well, Google maps had us driving all the way down to South Myrtle Beach, and it was too late when we realized the House of Blues was in North Myrtle Beach. We still had fun, though, and became very familiar with the ins and outs of MB! Yesterday DP and I attended a lesbian dance in the afternoon on a rooftop bar followed by a big house party with a great view of the fireworks. All in all, a fabulous weekend. I made no effort to avoid alcoholic beverages since there's no chance I'll be inseminating anytime soon.
what a great weekend... i'm glad you are being able to embrace this break and have some fun! i think that it is very important in this whole process to take breaks... otherwise we just get so caught up in these 2 week cylces and day to day life that we forget to relax and really enjoy life, or maybe it's just me...

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Wehrli, would you please move me to waiting to know? There is no point pretending that this is a non-trying cycle when I am already thinking all the time about whether or not I am pregnant (at 3dpo--sigh).

i suppose you are right...

So here's a strange QOTD for anyone who wants to discuss this. Assuming that you already had (or were pregnant with) your ideal number of children, would/could you ever be a surrogate for someone else? If so, under what conditions?
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QOTD: I don't know if I could be a surrogate. At the moment I feel very attached to keeping any babies that I birth, but I can definitely understand that may change once I have a couple of children.


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QOTD:[/B] As of now, I'm with Escher on this one. I'm just so focused on creating a baby for my own family, and too worried about finding the time and resources to create siblings for that baby down the road, to imagine having the time and energy to have a pregnancy for surrogacy. Still, I can understand why you'd consider it, and I think that being a surrogate for your KD would be an incredible and meaningful gift.
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afm, just chillin' out at CD13... O/Insem is getting pretty close but i am feeling pretty zen about it. our BFF is still in town, so i'm not sure if that's part of why i'm feeling so calm or if it's just because of the whole RE/Monitoring = No Guesswork or if it's just that we've done this thing "so many" times now that it's like old hat... probably a combination of all of these things but what ever the reason i'm not obsessed, i'll take it!

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Beastie - Thanks for noticing how precise my charts are. My coverline has always been 98.3, and I hover around 98.2 before O and 98.6 after O. Of course any deviation from this causes me to flip out and scrutinize like crazy. I am thankful, however, that my temps are so consistent. It's the one TTC sign I can usually count on!

QOTD - I think the only instance I would agree to become a surrogate is if my sister asked me to... and even then it would be hard. I don't think I could do it before having a child of my own, though.

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qotd - surrogacy is just not for us. i do admire greatly those women who are able to do it but now that dp and i have both been through pregnancy, birth and nursing - nope, we just could not do it. if fate does give us more than one on our next try we will happily parent 4 instead of 3.

poor dp has mastitis. she thought it was just a clogged duct (i had several when i nursed, not nice AT ALL) but this morning her boob was red and tender. thankfully our ob practice on-call doc called in an rx for antibiotics and she has started taking them.

and now my qotd - we are all very comfortable asking questions and talking about periods, cervical fluid etc, etc on here but what about IRL? yesterday we were at a party and dp's friend said a lesbian couple would be there and they were excited about trying to start a family and would it be ok if they asked us some questions? of course we said yes. anyway, they basically avoided us the entire party! i was in the pool with ds1 for a while but dp was there with ds2 and then we were both sitting around during the food... i'm not sure if they were shy, or couldn't figure out our dynamic - they were very obviously butch/femme (no offense to anyone i hope using that terminology) while dp and i don't really fit into that - we are both soft butch i guess - and of course we both carried...i'm not sure if that was off-putting? what would you have done? is it weird to y'all to talk about this with complete strangers IRL?

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