I am so happy I found this thread! Just an intro, and wondering if anyone has a similar situation or support, I am new to all this!
My name is Melanie, I have been married for almost 6 years, we have 2 sons who will be 2 and 5 in November. I married a man, but he recently came out as a transgender lesbian. I have been straight up until now (but always accepting of others' lifestyles. Previously, not any strong lesbian feelings, but always felt different from other girls), but when I realized I was madly in love with my partner, I realized I am bi ^_^ A few weeks ago, my husband almost cheated on me, lots of drama, then Amy came out, and Chris disappeared, and our relationship is SO much better! <3 lol sorry so confusing!
Anyways, this all happened so recently, I'm very happy but a bit overwhelmed. Only a handful of people know, our kids don't really understand what's happening. The bad thing is that we are in a small town, very judgmental, we are trying to get out of this state asap, but with work obligations, it's gonna be a while.
Any recommendations for resources/ other support groups? We have a few gay friends, but none nearby. Especially any for lesbian/trans parenting? How do explain Amy's change to the kids?
My partner is trans and started transitioning before we met, and there are other partners of trans folks on this board. Let me/us know how we can help as you sort out your new and changing public and private identities.
Joyful, busy, often overwhelmed queer academic mama to an awesome toddler and:
There is a yahoo group called GQTG Parenting (genderqueer/transgender parenting) that might be a good resource. I've also gone to support groups specifically for partners and/or family of trans people, and I've found that very helpful. It would be worth driving to another city if that's the closest one you can find. Those groups have been incredibly important safe spaces for me.
More than anything, just breathe, and know that everything will be okay.
A, partner to J, mama to O, now with a new username!
Building queer family since 2008!
(and oh, did i mention we're having twins?!?)