December Queer Conceptions - Page 3 - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
Reply
 
Thread Tools
#61 of 344 Old 12-06-2010, 10:45 AM
 
chiquitayy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Asheville, NC
Posts: 95
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Sara: Sucks that you've decided to wait, but at least you have a good reason smile.gif And at least you'll have seraf to distract you!

AHope: Glad the parties went well, and that you got to have some baby lovin'. When will you get to switch to the MW?

Library: Hooray for breathing! I'm glad that your MW told you to go for the steroids, I'm sure they'll help. My youngest sister was born at the end of August in South Carolina, so we spent a lot of time with Mom in the wading pool splashing her smile.gif

Mizyellow: I'm looking forward to hearing about the ultrasound! And I'm glad the Doritos have some company finally smile.gif

5G: Anesthesia makes me crazy, I always wake up in the bathroom for some reason. I'm glad the retrieval went well, yay for nine fertilized!

indigo: Good luck with the temps--I haven't been stressing as much with mine, as they've been fairly clear even when I wake up in the middle of the night.

escher: Tea and a blanket sound fantastic. I've got the blanket part down, but that means I don't want to get up for tea! Fingers are crossed that your timing will be perfect.

gelly: That's utter crap with your insurance. Have you contacted anyone about it yet? Good luck with your finals!

Krista: Why does your KD have to stop donating? Did I miss that somewhere? I'm glad that your DP is up to the babydaddy challenge.

Isa: Instruments sound great! I'll bet she loved them. I figured out during my first break that I had the same symptoms as when I was trying, I just apparently wasn't paying enough attention. Little depressing, definitely.

max: Good that your imagery is helping with taking time off, you're getting so close to being able to try again. The soup sounds pretty tasty to me smile.gif

Scarlett: Welcome back wink1.gif I think taking a break for the holidays sounds like a good idea. Recoup, for sure.

starling: I didn't even think of that aspect of dating, but I'd be horrible if someone had a baby! It would be hilarious. Sorry about your hormonal woes, that doesn't sound fun at all. Keeping my fingers crossed for tomorrow and your lining.

2ez: Waiting to hear about your cyst...hoping it's gone so you can start your Femara tomorrow.

seraf: That's hilarious! Obviously the boob thing didn't matter too much, since she stuck around!

AFM: Drag show (and therefore date) canceled due to weather. Sigh. The bad part is that I haven't been able to get in touch with her to let her know yet. Waiting to hear back...but I went on an awkward last-minute practice date Friday night that was hilarious. She was MTF (obviously), stared at me super-creepy-like the whole time, and tried to kiss me after an hour. Whew. On the upside, I'm WAY less nervous about meeting the girl that I actually like. wink1.gif I'm hoping to reschedule for Friday.

My labs were all normal, so I'm debating the Clomid at this point. For all I know, my KD had horrible numbers, so realistically, I've only had two attempts with sperm that I knew were good. I'm following the diet (fairly well, surprisingly to me), so I'm thinking I'll just ask for a progesterone supplement and keep going. Thoughts/suggestions?

Christie: taking a break until further notice on TTC #1
Mama to 1 rotten beagle and 3 kittehs
chiquitayy is offline  
#62 of 344 Old 12-06-2010, 11:51 AM - Thread Starter
 
escher's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Posts: 1,266
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Hi Everyone,

Christie: I'm sorry you may have to postpone your big date! Your last-minute practice date does sound awkward. I'm glad your test results were all good. Have you tried progesterone or other meds before? I can't remember.

Isa: fingersx.gif I hope you have exciting news on Thursday!

Krista: hug.gif I'm sorry about your temp drop. Let me know if/when I should move you. How do you find all these possible known donors? I'm impressed! I'm sorry that you're feeling so tired of it all right now. hug2.gif

Smilingsara: It sounds like you have a good plan. I'm glad that you're feeling good about this break. orngbiggrin.gif

AmandaHope: What a busy weekend! I'm glad that you're still feeling pretty good.

Library: I'm glad that your midwife was reassuring about the meds being ok. You definitely need to be able to breath!

Mizyellow: How exciting that your ultrasound is so soon! I hope it is great! fingersx.gif

5G: I'm glad that the retrieval went well, and that you have so many healthy eggs!

Indigo: Hooray for ovulation! orngbiggrin.gif

AFM: Just a few more days until I start peeing on my magic opks!

whistling.gifMe, love.gif my wife, blowkiss.gifour son (2.5), and luxlove.gif our daughter (5 months)
escher is offline  
#63 of 344 Old 12-06-2010, 12:15 PM
 
kgulbransen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 386
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Esher: we found both our KDs online. One was from a general search on the Internet and he just happened to be in our area and the other was through a Yahoo! Group that allows for people to post "want ads" for donors and for donors to post "offer ads." I know a number of lesbians that have used it to find their KDs. Let me know if you want to know more or have more questions!

 

Krista


me (40) DP (47) TTC since April 2010, 5 IUIs & 6 at home w/ fresh
Short luteal phase, septum resection in Sept 2011
Jan 2011 a BFP! Try #11 angel.gif 8w2d (blighted ovum)
April 2011 BFP! Try #12 angel.gif 9w2d (no heartbeat)

Nov 2011 BFP! Try #14 angel.gif 8w0d (twins, no heartbeat)

June 2012 -- Moving onto IVF with PGD

kgulbransen is offline  
#64 of 344 Old 12-06-2010, 12:34 PM
 
LibraryLady's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Greenville SC
Posts: 1,300
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Sara~ I'm a big believer in dreams, so I have no doubt that freckle boy will come your way soon (only you must PROMISE not to name him Huckleberry!).  It sounds like you're making smart choices about family planning, even if it is hard.

 

 

Krista~ Biggest hugs. I totally know what you mean about being so tired of this. It gets exhausting, but I'm so glad you're not giving up xoxox

 

Isa~ Thanks for the validation!  Being a librarian and a freakishly avid reader, it's a big NO DUH that my kid's going to have lots of books and storytimes, etc. I think one of the biggest gifts we can give our kids is the ability to entertain themselves!  I don't think I can keep her from watching tv forever, and indeed there are movies and things I look forward to sharing, but so many people just turn on the tv and let it run forever. Ugh.   Can't wait for you to test!!! 

 

Chiquita~ Your date sounds a bit yikes!  Trying to kiss you after an hour!?!??!?  BACK OFF SISTAH!!! 

 

 

Escher~ Yay magic OPKS!!  AMANDA POWER!!!!

 

School day's almost done, then I'm off to pick up my steroids. I've barely coughed today and have only blown my nose two or three times.  I hardly know what to do with myself!


Writer girl~notes2.gif~runner girl~jog.gif ~three cats~ cat.gif~ one dog~ dog2.gif~  and the wonderfully red-haired Alice Meredith, born April 8hearts.gif   
 
 
 
  
LibraryLady is offline  
#65 of 344 Old 12-06-2010, 01:19 PM
 
gellybeangrl's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Ottawa, IL
Posts: 332
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Hello everyone....

 

I'm at home sick today...I woke up with a sore throat, burning eyes, coughing up yellowish/green stuff with a little red in it...YUCK. But I know work was going to be crazy...so I went in...did they appreciate that I was there when I felt like crap...of course not. So, I came home at lunch.

 

Isa/ 5baby/ AmandaH~ I just got off the phone with the insurance company and I asked them if they were aware that the law had changed in IL back in March regarding insurance companies and who they had to provide with infertility coverage. I explained to them that I had a diagnoses of PCOS (which I just found out), anovulatory syndrome and pre-diabetes (insulin resistance). The said that my denial was not based on those things, but rather it was based on category #1, the whole sex for a year with a man thing.

 

While I was still on the phone with them, they did look at the letter that my OBGYN sent them...and they saw that her request for me to see a RE or fertility specialist had nothing to do with sex with a man, it was based on other medical conditions, not my sexuality. So, I was advised to file an appeal, to have my OBGYN, PCP and myself all write letters explaining why I "think" that I should be allowed coverage under  categorie #'s 3 and 4 of the IL Infertility Coverage Act. I have calls in to both my OBGYN and my PCP. The rep from the appeals division said that my OBGYN sent clinical notes from last October to this October, showing what she has done to help me get pregnant...with test resuslts and everything. So, instead of them looking at all 4 categories for infertility, they just look to see that I have a female partner and deny me benefits.

 

Okay...I had a temp rise today...but I am sick and I'm headed to upstairs to take my temp right now and then head to bed.

 

Krista~ Hugs...hug.gif! Hope that you feel better about the whole ttc thing soon. It really is a roller coaster ride. At some point I would also like to hear more about where you all find the Kd's.

 

Library~ Glad that the roids are helping you. My younger sister has twin daughters...B's first work was 'cartoon' (from cartoon network) and S's first work was 'pepsi'...and we don't drink dark sodas. So I toally agree with you about limiting the amount of tv the kidletts watch.

 

Sara~ that does sound like a good plan. Half of the battle is getting things planned and getting the plan in motion. winky.gif

 

MizYellow~ Hope you have a great u/s appointment.

Escher~ yeah for poas...and magic sticks at that!!! joy.gif


Lela (39) & Irene (54) TCC  #1 stillheart.gif ! Mom to furbabies Bruzier (Chorkie), Diesel (Min-Pin), and Giovanni (Chihuahua).dog2.gif

 

Multiple ICI's, and IUI's...2009-2011....BFN's

1st IVF August 2011....BFN

1st FET March 2012....BFN

2nd IVF July/August 2012....

gellybeangrl is offline  
#66 of 344 Old 12-06-2010, 04:43 PM
 
2ezforyou's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Memphis, TN
Posts: 264
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Gelly - Insurance sucks! I am sorry you're having to go thru the nightmare. I'd tell them that you have been having unprotected sex for a year with a man, that you're undecided if you're bi and that you wanted to give it a one year trial run. Then....I'd then dare them to try and prove it! Ha!  Jerks!

 

Prettyisa - Thinking about you. The 2WW is tortured! And mine always seem to creeeeep by. Tick, tock, tick, tock. Hang in there.

 

Seraf - I'd LOVE to meet up on the 26th. Let's keep in touch and plan it!

 

AFM - the alien is still inside me. soapbox.gif The u/s this morning was a nightmare. I've had terrible cramps all day. I was poked on, pushed around, etc. The tech was trying to see what the alien was attached to and if the fluid would move around at all, but to no avail. It seems the cyst is on the outside of the ovary, in an area she called the Cul-De-sac of my insides. And there appears to now be an enlarged tube. So.......I am having another HSG (I had one in May) next Monday in Nashville with th RE - cd11. I really wanted to try and insem this month. I have several really small cysts on my right ovary (which happens often) and zero follicles. My left has the alien and 1 small follicle. I've been tested for PCOS twice and both times all has come back normal as has all my other hormone levels, etc. Guess I am just 'cystic'. On top of all this, DP is being a pain again. I don't know what's going to happen. Things just suck across the board right now. Ugh! argue.gif


Me (35). DP to S (39) ; Mommy to DS: J (6), Furball Pupps: L (10) & S (1) dog2.gifand a new little baby boy arriving on/around Dec 2.1sttri.gif
 
 
 
 

2ezforyou is offline  
#67 of 344 Old 12-06-2010, 05:36 PM
 
smilingsara's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: southeastern, ohio
Posts: 704
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Prettyisa: I'm happy about my plan, at least I've talked myself into being happy about it!

 

 

Chiquitayy: I'm thrilled to have Sara as my distraction until its my turn to inject stuff into me! Your practice date sounds like a NIGHTMARE! I'm keeping my fingers crossed the weather canceling the one date and getting you a new one for friday works out super well! I'm sure it'll be so so fun! 

 

escher: yes, I am feeling good about the break! I just hope it goes by quickly!

 

Library: DEAL! No Huckleberry or Huckleberryesc names will happen here (one promise I'm happy to make and will keep)! But I make no promises about putting loads of overalls on the baby! 

 

Gellybean: The plan will be a hard one, but I'm looking forward to getting the ball into motion (once the holidays are over - I'm cooking my first Hannukah dinner on wednesday night). 

 

AFM: AF came today. It was only ten days after I ovulated. Does anyone know if thats too short of a lutiel phase? Sara says she thinks it needs to be at least ten days for things to stick and work and such. ANyone have any info on that for me (and us)?! 


DP to Sara, two crazy kids running around, lil dude born 11-1-11babyf.gif and the new guy is home !! babyboy.gif  (5/2/12)

 

 

 

smilingsara is offline  
#68 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 06:05 AM
 
LibraryLady's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Greenville SC
Posts: 1,300
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Sara~ I think overalls are excellent on babies of either gender, so no need to make promises there!!  10 days is really short for a luteal phase.  Mine was maxing out at 12-13 days, which is why I was put on the progesterone suppositories, so it's a concern, but not an insurmountable one.

 

2ez~ Ugh. I'm so sorry about the alien, and sorry you have to have another HSG.  Mine wasn't awful, but it's sure not something you'd want to make a habit out of!

 

 

Took my first steroid pill last night, and my second this morning. It's only a ten pill cycle, thank goodness, and I must admit that I'm already feeling better. I didn't have to use the inhaler at all last night, I'm barely snotty this morning and have only coughed up one gross lump. A marked improvement for me!!!

 

Happy Hannukah to all~ I'm reading 'Herschel and the Hannukah Goblins' as my storytime this week. The kids are really loving it.


Writer girl~notes2.gif~runner girl~jog.gif ~three cats~ cat.gif~ one dog~ dog2.gif~  and the wonderfully red-haired Alice Meredith, born April 8hearts.gif   
 
 
 
  
LibraryLady is offline  
#69 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 06:14 AM
 
seraf's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: in transition in ohio
Posts: 4,979
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Library, I am totally into limiting TV time.  I honestly think the commercials are worse than the flashy blinky stuff.  Osha didn't watch anything until the last couple of weeks before Ari was born, then he was allowed videos of kids books.  Like, it showed the page, read it, then the next page.  Very slow stuff )so almost 2.5).  Ari may have seen it younger because he watched the occasional Dora, but neither of them was interested in watching until they were over 2.  Now tho, I'm seeing benefits.  Christmas time and what do they want?  Hardly anything.  They don't see all the commercials telling them what they need.  Over the summer they were limited to 2 hours a week (at my house, no idea what they watch with their Mama).  Now we like to all watch a movie together every now and then.  They are getting to an age where they can watch more interesting things.   Also, my kids don't see a lot of the behavioral stuff on kids shows.  Ari started talking like a brat like someone in a movie, and I cut her off.  She has been more careful about picking that stuff up since then.

 

Yellow, December is a busy month, but I'm sure we'll be in the city again soon.  So glad you're still pregnant.  Have fun in Texas and have a great ultrasound.

 

Christie, bad dates make funny stories.  Of course, I have been known to kiss perfect strangers, so an hour, heck, you were practically engaged!

 

2 ez, woo hoo!  I look forward to meeting you.  good luck finding out the cyst thing.

 

 Gelly, yeah, how are they going to confirm it?  Oh, when they asked about unprotected sex with a man, I was thinking about, um, you know, the other kind of sex with a man.  The milk man and I have had a thing for ages...  2, maybe 3 years?  He's pregnant now, so maybe we've been going about this all wrong.  Sorry the red tape is so sticky.

 

Not a whole lot going on over here.  My temps are randomly sky high.  I only had the one low temp, but I have been sleeping really late.  I re-tested, it's still negative.  LOL.  weird cycle tho.


carrot.gifbroc1.gifbanana.gifbanana.gif 10, 8, 1 & 1
seraf is offline  
#70 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 06:56 AM
 
AmandaHope's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Posts: 1,038
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Seraf: LOVE the pregnant milkman. ROTFLMAO.gif  But SERIOUSLY, you still haven't gotten AF?!  You may be zen enough to avoid a blood test, but that doesn't mean the rest of us are!  What is your body doing?  Yikes!

 

EZ: So sorry about the cyst and the DP tension.  Crap on both fronts.  grouphug.gif

 

Sara: I had 10 day LPs and both my midwife and then my RE said it was too short.  There are natural ways to supplement progesterone that would probably get you an extra day or two (cream, tincture), and some people have found that vitamin B and D supplementation also help.  Then there is the prescription progesterone.  But personally, I was ok with 11 but not really comfortable until I had a solid 12 days.  My RE wanted me to get to 13-14, which I finally did on the prescription progesterone. 

 

Gelly:  You go, girl!  Keep pushing and pushing, and I bet you get it. 

 

Chiquittay: Date stories are fabulous--especially since I haven't had one (with anyone other than DP) in 15 years (!!!).

 

Isa: Hang in there!  Almost ready to test....

 

Escher: Magic OPKs and Amanda Power!  Yee haw!

 

Krista:  More hug2.gif coming your way.

 

Library: How are those roids?

 

Yellow: News?  Can't wait to hear!

 

AFM: Sick, with a cold.  But I'm going to the gym anyway and taking it easy on the elliptical, because I feel like a giant potato latke.  For real.  I swear that my new and newly handed down (yay!) maternity clothes already fit me fine, and IT ISN'T THE BABY (which is reportedly the size of a sesame seed).  Funny question: is it weird to wear your religious leader's maternity clothes?  The (lesbian) rabbi of our temple just gave me a box of her maternity clothes (since she had twins last summer).  There is even a bathing suit, which will be great...except that I feel sort of odd about sharing something so intimate with someone whom I'm supposed to respect and admire as a spiritual leader. rolleyes.gif  That's ok--happy to take the clothes, anyway. 


Partner rainbow1284.gif of 17 yrs to DP,  Mommy to 10-yr-old Z blowkiss.gif, and Lilah Nyx, born 7/24/11 luxlove.gif.

AmandaHope is offline  
#71 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 09:51 AM
 
kgulbransen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 386
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

SmilingSara: 10 days is too short but I would make a couple of considerations. First off, is this definitely not normal for you? I assume you chart so you would know your regular cycle. If it's abnormal, then I would actually look at your chart once more to see if maybe you O'ed earlier than you thought because your LP never changes more than 1 day on either side. Something to keep in mind. So if your LP is normally 14 days and all of sudden your were 10, it's not that you have an LP defect, it's that you calculated your ovulation incorrectly. You might actually be more than 10DPO. This happened to me once and when I went through my chart, I realized I was wrong as to where I was in my cycle.

 

I self-diagnosed a luteal phase defect for myself after consistently having an 11 day LP. Like Scarlett, I've been on progesterone pills that I start the day after ovulation. Some people try to extend their LP through vitamins such as Vitex. I had done that for a number of months prior with no success so the Progesterone pills were the way to go for me. Interestingly, when I did the consult with the IVF doctor he said there was no such thing as a LP defect. Not sure why he believes that but it seemed like the right thing for me. It definitely helps to extend my LP so I'm obviously a bit short on the progesterone naturally!

 

Hope that helps.

 

AFM: AF is sitting right on the edge ready to tip over. I HATE IT!


me (40) DP (47) TTC since April 2010, 5 IUIs & 6 at home w/ fresh
Short luteal phase, septum resection in Sept 2011
Jan 2011 a BFP! Try #11 angel.gif 8w2d (blighted ovum)
April 2011 BFP! Try #12 angel.gif 9w2d (no heartbeat)

Nov 2011 BFP! Try #14 angel.gif 8w0d (twins, no heartbeat)

June 2012 -- Moving onto IVF with PGD

kgulbransen is offline  
#72 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 11:15 AM - Thread Starter
 
escher's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Posts: 1,266
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Krista: hug.gif I'm sorry you're feeling like AF is coming right along. What yahoo group did you use for finding the donor you found there? Thanks!

AmandaHope: I think any free maternity clothes sound pretty good! But I agree that getting them from a religious leader would feel a little bit funny. I'm sorry you have a cold!

Seraf: What a weird cycle. Have you been using the same brand for all your tests? Your temps definitely look funny.

Library: I'm so glad that you are feeling better!

Sara: People do get pregnant with 10 day (or is it 9 day?) luteal phases, but that definitely seems short to me. Since you're taking a few months off, you're in a great position to try vitex and/or B6. If that doesn't work for you, you may want to consider progesterone supplementation when you insem.

2ez: hug.gif I'm sorry about the cyst. What does your doctor think about insemming right after the HSG?

AFM: I'm having little talks with my body, encouraging it to ovulate on the early side (but not too early!) so that the insem will fall on the weekend. I'm so sick of having to miss work with hardly any notice and having to make up excuses. How do other people deal with that?

whistling.gifMe, love.gif my wife, blowkiss.gifour son (2.5), and luxlove.gif our daughter (5 months)
escher is offline  
#73 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 11:40 AM
 
kgulbransen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 386
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Escher: I think the stress alone from trying to schedule things around work and not let them know what I'm doing might just be the reason I'm not getting pregnant! It's very stressful and I do the same thing, try to encourage and mess with my body so it will ovulate when I need it to! Right now, I'm scheduled to O on Christmas so it's quite inconvenient causing me all sorts of problems.

 

We used this Yahoo! Group as recommended by another lesbian from another chat board who's used it.

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/FreeSpermDonors/

 

It's a process and I was happy to get some good advice from the other chatboard buddy who had already used it. I'm happy to turn around and help you guys if necessary so let me know if you have any questions. If you're even remotely thinking about, I recommend starting now because it can take two cycles to get it arranged.

 

Krista

 

PS AF came. So be it!


me (40) DP (47) TTC since April 2010, 5 IUIs & 6 at home w/ fresh
Short luteal phase, septum resection in Sept 2011
Jan 2011 a BFP! Try #11 angel.gif 8w2d (blighted ovum)
April 2011 BFP! Try #12 angel.gif 9w2d (no heartbeat)

Nov 2011 BFP! Try #14 angel.gif 8w0d (twins, no heartbeat)

June 2012 -- Moving onto IVF with PGD

kgulbransen is offline  
#74 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 12:50 PM
 
starling&diesel's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: West Coast, Canada
Posts: 3,845
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 13 Post(s)

Hi everyone ... no time for personals but thought I'd drop in to say the we had our ultrasound this morning and lining looks great!  We're booked to do our FET on Friday!  And you know what's funny?  If it takes and I get pregnant, I'm already nearly two weeks "pregnant" now according to pregnancy calendars, even though I'm no pregnant at all yet.  Weird back-dating-to-LMP thing.  Funny! 


dust.gifFour-eyed tattooed fairy godmother queer, mama to my lucky star (5) and little bird (2.5). Resident storyteller at www.thestoryforest.com. Enchanting audiostories for curious kids. Come play in the forest!
starling&diesel is online now  
#75 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 01:57 PM
 
maxK's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: CA
Posts: 425
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Starling- Good luck with the transfer! dust.gif

2ez- I'm so sorry about your alien and the added test. boo! hug2.gif

Krista
- grouphug.gif I really empathize with what you are going through and how you feel.

Escher- We were lucky to do our insems at home so I would do it before or after work. I teach four-hour classes so there were times when I only worked half days. DP also works from home sometimes. With the upcoming IVF I will have to go in to the office several times for u/s and tests, then the big retrieval, then the big transfer. I talked to my boss about it. She was happy for me and congratulated me on TTC. I figure I will miss some class time coming up but if it's just an u/s I will go back to work. Do you think you could tell your supervisor? Would they understand or sympathize? notes2.gif

AmandaHope- I don't think it's weird at all! I hope someone will donate a bunch of clothes to me when it's my turn! I might just post that on my facebook page when the time comes. thumb.gif

Sara- Glad you came to peace with your decision to wait. om.gif

Seraf- Your cycle is so weird, are you considering taking a blood test? eyesroll.gif

Gelly- It sounds like your insurance company is illegally discriminating against you. I'm so sorry; they suck so bad. FIREdevil.gif

Chiquitayy- Aw sorry your date or activity was canceled. Can you guys go to dinner/movie instead so you don't have to change the time you were supposed to meet? eat.gif:lurk

AFM- I just found an amazing community acupuncture clinic online today. It has great reviews and they do a sliding scale $25-45 per session!! Yahoo! I figure it will be good to get my leg worked on and balance my body before the upcoming IVF! treehugger.gif

TTC#1 since Sept, 2009; in heartbeat.gif w DP, + two young dogs. Started adoption process May 2011. adoptionheart-1.gif  Baby boy born on June 18, 2013 and placed with us.babyboy.gif

maxK is offline  
#76 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 03:11 PM
 
kgulbransen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 386
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Max: quick question for you. When you made consideration for IVF, did you do any research on the clinics or did you pretty much choose one near you? And how did you choose which one to pick?

 

I believe you and I are in the same general area. Not sure if you're using the acupuncture clinic I was using but it has the same situation and I loved it!


me (40) DP (47) TTC since April 2010, 5 IUIs & 6 at home w/ fresh
Short luteal phase, septum resection in Sept 2011
Jan 2011 a BFP! Try #11 angel.gif 8w2d (blighted ovum)
April 2011 BFP! Try #12 angel.gif 9w2d (no heartbeat)

Nov 2011 BFP! Try #14 angel.gif 8w0d (twins, no heartbeat)

June 2012 -- Moving onto IVF with PGD

kgulbransen is offline  
#77 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 03:45 PM
 
LibraryLady's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Greenville SC
Posts: 1,300
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Starling~ Way to go!!!!!  Woohoo!! Stick, babies!!  And I second the weirdness of the pregnancy backdating thing. It cracks me up that you can be two weeks pregnant before you've been anywhere near the swimmers. Still, I'm going to consider you pregnant until proven otherwise!!

 

 

Max~ I'm so glad you're feeling better, and that the cheap acupuncture will help. Won't be much longer for you now! It's also excellent that you have such great flexibility at work. 

 

Krista~ I took a look at that Yahoo group, very interesting!  Who knew there was such a network out there!  I'm sorry you got AF, but glad that it's here if it's coming. Nothing worse than that almost-here feeling. 

 

Escher~ Come on egg!! I'm ready for OPK magic!!

 

AHope~ Lucky you with all the free clothes!  I'd feel odd sharing a swimsuit, but I'll bet a dunk in the bleach would make it better. Or you can just wear panties underneath. You can wear whatever you want, you're pregnant!!! And my 'roids are awesome, thanks for asking! I'm thinking of taking up pro baseball.

 

Seraf~ Testify, sistah!!  That's exactly what I'm talking about.  So many benefits to no tv!!!  I feel more justified than ever. 

 

Not much here. Just took my car in for an oil change that's turned into needing two new tires. Merry Christmas!  Still, important to be safe. 

 


Writer girl~notes2.gif~runner girl~jog.gif ~three cats~ cat.gif~ one dog~ dog2.gif~  and the wonderfully red-haired Alice Meredith, born April 8hearts.gif   
 
 
 
  
LibraryLady is offline  
#78 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 05:29 PM
 
maxK's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: CA
Posts: 425
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Krista- That was a very interesting website. Too bad there were no Korean or even Asian donors in my area... I first started to look into an RE after we tried on our own doing IUI's at home for a year. At first I went to UCSF because my insurance covered it as long as we were doing diagnosis. Once we started to treatment there was less coverage. I had a lot of tests done and found my prolactin was low. I didn't like the staff there and the dr was not very attentive, so we went elsewhere. I now go to Pacific Fertility Center. The staff and all the doctors are amazing and I think I've seen them all. That's when I started Femara for three months. I got my Femara cheap because it is also used by cancer patients! I set a goal for three months of IUIs with Femara and we were not successful. We only did one IUI in the office. The whole journey was just getting too emotional for me and I needed a change. I never thought I would do IVF till we came to that point. The strange thing with my insurance is that they partially covered my fertility meds only because I ordered them from Walgreens online. I still don't understand that one. My insurance also covered my ultrasounds. thumb.gif The IVF is all me though! The acupuncture place is called SF Community Acupuncture and I have an appointment for this Friday. After I get my cast off I may add a massage with my acupuncture because they do it there.

TTC#1 since Sept, 2009; in heartbeat.gif w DP, + two young dogs. Started adoption process May 2011. adoptionheart-1.gif  Baby boy born on June 18, 2013 and placed with us.babyboy.gif

maxK is offline  
#79 of 344 Old 12-07-2010, 05:47 PM
 
prettyisa's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Chicago
Posts: 1,486
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 13 Post(s)

Chiquitayy—I have no good suggestions, but lots of positive thoughts!!!  Did you manage to reschedule your date? The practice run sounds super-awkward…

 

Krista—I’m sorry about AF.  I agree with Library—at least you know, even though it sucks.  About the KD, I have so many questions! But to start off, do you mind saying why you chose to go with a previously unknown KD instead of a frozen id-release donor?  I’m really curious about the whole thing! shy.gif

 

Gelly—so sorry to hear about your cold! I’m glad your dumb insurance company is at least asware now that they’re being jerks and I hope your appeal is quick and in your favor!

 

Oh, 2EZ, I’m so sorry to to hear all of that.  Is there any chance you’ll be able to insem anyway?  Also, I love the idea of having cul-de-sacs inside, although I have to say I’m hoping for more of an expressway… REPlaySkateboard04HL.gif

 

Sara—my friend bought the CUTEST little denim overalls for her daughter the other day.  We’re both totally bummed that she wasn’t big enough to wear them to her first birthday party (they’re for 18-24mos).  I just read that some celebrity did use Huckleberry as a middle name fairly recently…

 

Seraf—I’m with Amanda—get a blood test!  We need to know whether to send overalls.

 

Ahope—Too weird.  I’d wear the other clothes, but the swimsuit would be my limit.

 

Escher—I hope it listens to you!  My dr was having us come at 8 (and leave at 9, so I’d get to work at 9:30) but we mentioned that 7:30 would be better (they’re doing a pilot program to work out their system, so suggestions are encouraged) and, bless their hearts, they agreed to show up at 7:30 to see us, even though it means working a 9 ½ hour day so we can get to work on time.   Makes me really happy to pay, even if it is out of pocket. 

 

Hi Starling—glad to hear everything is looking good for Friday!  If everything goes as planned when will your EDD be?

 

Max—that sounds like a great deal!  How are you and DP doing, anyway?  Can you walk yet? Umm, absolutely have a massage—you’ve had a very stressful last month or so! Some relaxation will do you good!

 

AFM—not feeling pregnant.  Lots of varying signs, all of which are making me think that AF is arriving rather than a BFP.  DP has agreed that the not-testing thing isn’t helpful at this point (since all I’ve done for the last two days is sit around and wonder when I’ll know for sure I’m not pregnant) so tomorrow morning I’ll test and confirm what I already think I know.  Not too happy about things, but it’s early still.  I really was hoping for a summer baby, though.   greensad.gif


She's here!
And so are the boys!
prettyisa is offline  
#80 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 04:26 AM
 
smilingsara's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: southeastern, ohio
Posts: 704
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
ISA: I adore overalls! Best invention for a baby! Too bad you're friends little one couldn't fit the new cute overalls yet, but babies ony get bigger, so they will fit eventually! Both of the kids I nanny for wear over alls frequently, and I try my hardest to resist buying all kids of them when we are out and about! I'm going to go crazy once there is a baby or two to buy clothes for! I cannot wait!

Aslo: thanks everyone who told me about LP. When it gets closer to time I'll be talking-to the doc about it. I do have an appointment with her one week from today about an abnormal finding on my pap-smear (it's called ASCUS but I don't know what it is yet)... So I'm hoping she tells me I should get pregnant sooner rather than later and that'll give me an excuse to start now!

DP to Sara, two crazy kids running around, lil dude born 11-1-11babyf.gif and the new guy is home !! babyboy.gif  (5/2/12)

 

 

 

smilingsara is offline  
#81 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 07:15 AM
 
prettyisa's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Chicago
Posts: 1,486
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 13 Post(s)

Well...BFN.  So we're gearing up for the 21st.  And planning a solstice/full moon/total eclipse/fertility party, for the hell of it.  Maybe that will help? greensad.gif


She's here!
And so are the boys!
prettyisa is offline  
#82 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 07:18 AM
 
seraf's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: in transition in ohio
Posts: 4,979
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I wasn't clear, sorry.  I'm not pregnant.  Escher, ever mindful threadkeeper, noticed on my chart that AF started.  She moved me to taking a break.  I didn't mention it because she did.  The day my temp dropped AF came.  I had 3 light days, but my temp was only low on CD1.  My period is usually longer and heavier and typically my temp stays low after it goes low.  I had 3 light periods when I was pregnant with Osha, so having a strange period, high temp, smell sensitivity and sore boobs I went ahead and tested again.  Still negative.  I've used a couple of tests.  My temp finally dropped agian.  I don't think I'm pregnant.

 

Regarding Sara's LP, I don't know if FF is putting her ovulation at the right day or not.  Her chart is not textbook.

 


carrot.gifbroc1.gifbanana.gifbanana.gif 10, 8, 1 & 1
seraf is offline  
#83 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 08:46 AM
 
kgulbransen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 386
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

PrettyIsa: Hugs on the BFN. I'm finding the holidays a particularly difficult time to accept yet another busted month. Don't know about you, but hope you're holding up okay.

 

To answer some questions on picking a KD through the Yahoo! site and the Internet...

 

We actually were using identity release frozen sperm from a sperm bank for 6 tries. That seemed like the "natural" way to start out and we didn't have anyone in our life we could ask to help so that was it. But once we started hitting that fourth month with no progress, I read Brill's book and really started to think about the advantages of fresh sperm. Let me say that I think there is sort of an equal tradeoff in pros and cons between frozen vs. fresh. Frozen gets right up to the utereus (for those doing it with IUI) which gives you a higher chance of pregnancy but you it doesn't live nearly as long so your window of opportunity is quite slim. Fresh sperm lasts longer (anywhere from 3-5 days) but it has a longer path to travel. I thought for awhile about getting fresh sperm and getting an IUI (hard to do because of legal issues) but Brill's book said that it didn't appear to show any increased success and since it was so much trouble to do it due to the legal issues, we never got there.

 

We did a quick search on the Internet for free sperm and found one guy immediately that worked for us. We've used him for three cycles although they weren't optimal in terms of timing. As we moved along, we started to run into issues on timing because he was giving to so many other women and I was finding it hard to pinpoint my ovulation enough in advanced to schedule on his calendar. Plus, the FDA is trying to shut him down because of his donations. So we used the Yahoo! site to find another donor whom we just met this past weekend. We'll work with him, starting in January for a few cycles and then move to IVF in which case we'll go back to identity release frozen sperm.

 

I think it's especially hard to find sperm (fresh or frozen) if you are in need of a person of color, however the nice part about the Yahoo! site is that it brings people from all over the US (and world) and they can ship. I haven't done fresh sperm shipment but I know quite a few women who do. The only downside to that is if you really wanted to meet the donor ahead of time (which my DP likes to do) to get an idea of true personality.

 

Keep asking the questions. I'd love to help out anyone so that they can shorten their own experience. I think in this regards, the Internet is awesome to help shorten the timeframe for conception.

 

Krista


me (40) DP (47) TTC since April 2010, 5 IUIs & 6 at home w/ fresh
Short luteal phase, septum resection in Sept 2011
Jan 2011 a BFP! Try #11 angel.gif 8w2d (blighted ovum)
April 2011 BFP! Try #12 angel.gif 9w2d (no heartbeat)

Nov 2011 BFP! Try #14 angel.gif 8w0d (twins, no heartbeat)

June 2012 -- Moving onto IVF with PGD

kgulbransen is offline  
#84 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 09:03 AM - Thread Starter
 
escher's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Posts: 1,266
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Hi Everyone,

Gelly: I'm sorry AF arrived. Stupid AF. hug.gif

Scarlett: Any news from you? fingersx.gif

Krista: Thanks for all the information on how your found your KDs. What an interesting process! Thanks also for your sympathy about the scheduling stress. Ovulating on Christmas would definitely be stressful. Although I guess since Christmas is celebrating the birth of a baby, it might be a lucky time? fingersx.gif

Isa: I'm sorry about the BFN. hug.gif How many dpo are you now? I'm impressed that your doctor was able to be so flexible about insem times. I wish mine could do that!

Max: I'm glad that your boss responded so well to you telling her about the ivf. I hope mine is similarly supportive if I ever decide to tell her.

Starling&diesel: So soon now! fingersx.gif

AFM: Tomorrow I start peeing on sticks! orngbiggrin.gif My cervix is still as hard as it gets, so I know we're not anywhere close to ovulation yet...

whistling.gifMe, love.gif my wife, blowkiss.gifour son (2.5), and luxlove.gif our daughter (5 months)
escher is offline  
#85 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 09:26 AM
 
starling&diesel's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: West Coast, Canada
Posts: 3,845
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 13 Post(s)

prettyisa ... So sorry about the BFN. 

hug2.gif

I do think a fertility/solstice/juju party is in order.  I say look up all the fertility-inducing foods you can find and put out a buffet, with pretend pee-stick stir sticks and apple juice in sample jars!  Have a food timeline, one end of the table for foods leading up to TTC (think coffee, booze, junk food, pot), then foods while TTC (herbal teas, leafy green salads, pineapple) then the other end of the table can have food for when you're pregnant (think candied ginger for nausea, and ice cream and dill pickle chips for cravings).  Fun and definitely a great way to boost your morale and bring on the baby vibes! dust.gif But then, I'm a certified Fairy Godmother, so I tend to lean towards that sort of magic anyway.  I'll be the first to admit that we brought our lucky charms with us to the clinic yesterday.

 

I think it was you who asked when our due date would be.  August 30.  I was nearly three weeks early with DD, so who knows! 

 

max ... my sister goes to a community acupuncture place here in Vancouver called Poke and she loooooooves it.  I've never tried it, but am open to it for sure.  I'm not nervous of the needles, but have never gotten around to it.  We lived in a tiny mountain town until a year ago, and then a tiny town via ferry before that, so not a lot of local access to alternatives.  Now that we're in the big smoke, maybe I'll head there!

 

AFM:  This is day one for Endometrin.  Those are EFFERVESCENT VAGINAL SUPPOSITORIES.  The words "effervescent" and "vaginal" should never, and I mean n-e-v-e-r go together.  I just put it in and now I'm waiting for the horrid (or maybe pleasurable) fizz.  I do not want my yoni fizzing.  But this is instead of the spooge progesterone twat-stuffer pills that I had to endure to the tune of 12 a day for 12 weeks last time.  So far (fizzing aside) this is much preferable. 


dust.gifFour-eyed tattooed fairy godmother queer, mama to my lucky star (5) and little bird (2.5). Resident storyteller at www.thestoryforest.com. Enchanting audiostories for curious kids. Come play in the forest!
starling&diesel is online now  
#86 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 10:05 AM
 
AmandaHope's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Posts: 1,038
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Quote:
Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post

 

AFM:  This is day one for Endometrin.  Those are EFFERVESCENT VAGINAL SUPPOSITORIES.  The words "effervescent" and "vaginal" should never, and I mean n-e-v-e-r go together.  I just put it in and now I'm waiting for the horrid (or maybe pleasurable) fizz.  I do not want my yoni fizzing.  But this is instead of the spooge progesterone twat-stuffer pills that I had to endure to the tune of 12 a day for 12 weeks last time.  So far (fizzing aside) this is much preferable. 


I'm on Endometrin.  I did it with two BFN cycles, and now I have to stay on it until I start weaning off at 10 weeks.  Thankfully, I only have to use it once a day.  I have to say that I haven't noticed the effervescent quality, but I do rather dread the mornings and the powdery... umm..."residue."  I can't complain, since I'm still pregnant, and it does seem better than the spooge kind.  How many times a day do they have you on it?

 


Partner rainbow1284.gif of 17 yrs to DP,  Mommy to 10-yr-old Z blowkiss.gif, and Lilah Nyx, born 7/24/11 luxlove.gif.

AmandaHope is offline  
#87 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 12:00 PM
 
cejae's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Colorado's gorgeous front range
Posts: 253
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Quote:
Originally Posted by AmandaHope View Post



Quote:
Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post

 

AFM:  This is day one for Endometrin.  Those are EFFERVESCENT VAGINAL SUPPOSITORIES.  The words "effervescent" and "vaginal" should never, and I mean n-e-v-e-r go together.  I just put it in and now I'm waiting for the horrid (or maybe pleasurable) fizz.  I do not want my yoni fizzing.  But this is instead of the spooge progesterone twat-stuffer pills that I had to endure to the tune of 12 a day for 12 weeks last time.  So far (fizzing aside) this is much preferable. 


I'm on Endometrin.  I did it with two BFN cycles, and now I have to stay on it until I start weaning off at 10 weeks.  Thankfully, I only have to use it once a day.  I have to say that I haven't noticed the effervescent quality, but I do rather dread the mornings and the powdery... umm..."residue."  I can't complain, since I'm still pregnant, and it does seem better than the spooge kind.  How many times a day do they have you on it?

 


Blech, I was on those things three times a day  before the IVF transfer up until last week!  I call them my vagpills. 


Professional nerd, DP to Megan and mommy to 3 y/o Bam Bam . TTC since January '09.  Welcomed our new babes May 22, 2011. Now living life in the NICU one day at a time.
cejae is offline  
#88 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 12:47 PM
 
starling&diesel's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: West Coast, Canada
Posts: 3,845
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 13 Post(s)


Quote:
Originally Posted by AmandaHope View Post  How many times a day do they have you on it?

 



Three times a day.  I just did my second one.  I still prefer it over the little round, white, jelly twat-stuffer pills.  If the FET works, then I'll be one them for the next ten weeks or so. 

 

cejae ... You have my sympathies for being on them for so long!  I was on the twat-stuffers for three months with DD.  Oh, the spooge!  Oh, death to our sex life! 


dust.gifFour-eyed tattooed fairy godmother queer, mama to my lucky star (5) and little bird (2.5). Resident storyteller at www.thestoryforest.com. Enchanting audiostories for curious kids. Come play in the forest!
starling&diesel is online now  
#89 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 01:03 PM
 
cejae's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Colorado's gorgeous front range
Posts: 253
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Quote:
Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post



Quote:
Originally Posted by AmandaHope View Post  How many times a day do they have you on it?

 



Three times a day.  I just did my second one.  I still prefer it over the little round, white, jelly twat-stuffer pills.  If the FET works, then I'll be one them for the next ten weeks or so. 

 

cejae ... You have my sympathies for being on them for so long!  I was on the twat-stuffers for three months with DD.  Oh, the spooge!  Oh, death to our sex life! 


A sex life?  What's that? headscratch.gif

 

I love twat-stuffers.  That might be my new name for them.


Professional nerd, DP to Megan and mommy to 3 y/o Bam Bam . TTC since January '09.  Welcomed our new babes May 22, 2011. Now living life in the NICU one day at a time.
cejae is offline  
#90 of 344 Old 12-08-2010, 02:29 PM - Thread Starter
 
escher's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Posts: 1,266
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Starling&diesel and Cejae: Isn't it sad that (at least for those of us doing suppositories) our sex life gets significantly suckier while ttc? And to think that the hets can get pregnant by HAVING sex. I'm definitely a bit envious of that trick of theirs. innocent.gif

A Question of the Day, because I'm wondering about it: How do you think your approach to TTC has changed since you started the process? Have your views on things changed? Have you gotten more or less intense about parts of it? Do you do things during the TWW now that you used to completely avoid, or do you now avoid activities you used to feel safe doing? What else?

whistling.gifMe, love.gif my wife, blowkiss.gifour son (2.5), and luxlove.gif our daughter (5 months)
escher is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off