Waiting to O
Waiting to Know... Braving the 2WW
* Prettyisa (testing around NYE)
Working on IVF
* MaxK - January
Taking a Break/Figuring Things Out/Waiting to be Ready
* Serepartera (February 2011)
* Graceie (February 2011)
* Lisedea (February 2011)
* Miss Scarlett
* Seraf (February/March 2011)
* Indigoscot & DP (May/June 2011)
* Smilingsara (June 2011)
December * FiveGrandBaby 8/27/11
November * Mizyellow 7/25/11 * AmyPDX 7/30/11 * AmandaHope 8/3/11 * Cejae 7/4/11
September * Solejean 5/19/11 * Painefaria 6/5/11
August * Bttrflygypsy 4/10/11 * 2happymamas 4/15/11 * LibraryLady 4/15/11
July * Beastie 3/21/11 * Gumshoegirl007 4/2/11 * Wehrli 4/1/11
June * Coco & DP 2/14/11
May * Burg 2/4/11 * Korey 2/1/11
April * Calimeow * Mtnlisa * Kimlyn32
February * Mistral * Quasar & smartycat * Monarchgrrl * Erthe_mama & DP
January * Lyndzies * FtMpapa
December* Osker * Megan sacha * Mkpgoddess
October * JJNoho * Mommies 2 Be * Megincl & Ktcl
September * Elismum1908 * KSDoulaMama * Pleasantlyfurious
August * Chicagoml * Wishin'&hopin'
July * Hbog
May * Indigoscot's dp
April * Kelmendi * KJM * Whoabethy * Carmen
March * Scalpel * Katwomyn4
February * Deny_zoo29
January * Jodybird511
December * DM630 * Raene * Wazzmum
October * JennM1021 * Lexbeach's DP* QTRANDI
September * Ellie74
August * Heart-n-bones * Love My Family
July * Giggleblue * Pranava * * Quasar & DP Smartycat
June * Starling&diesel * PiGirl * Erica12009
April * Tigermiep * MujerMamaMismo * Tiggerkong22 * Simcon * 2happymamas
March * JenInMpls * Mahrens77
January * Cookie70
December * Scalpel
November * Mamimapster * AngelaM * Solejean * Lmh222
A few notes:
I copied and pasted the first post from the November thread, but links and smilies wouldn't copy over. I've added back in what I think are the most important smilies, but please let me know if I'm missing some that you think should be there. I've added chart links too--would you be willing to check and make sure that your chart link does in fact link to your chart? Thanks!
Cejae: I put you in November bfps--is that where you should be?
Max and Starling&diesel: Should there be a smiley for "Working on IVF"?
Starling&diesel: Do you want to be in "Working on IVF" or "Waiting to O"?
Is there anyone else who should be moved?
I have a proposal: Back in October 2009, FTMPapa (then threadkeeper, now a papa!) removed from the list all the people who hadn't posted in at least a couple of weeks. I wonder if we should consider doing that again, with the definite understanding that we could be thrilled to add them back to our list if they come back. I believe that everyone on the MIA list hasn't posted to QC in at least a month. If nobody objects, I was thinking about deleting that list. I'll wait a few days to see what you all think. Thanks!
Scarlett: I'm thinking of you!
Gelly: Nice temp rise this morning!
Seraf: I still think you're going to be the first December BFP.
Isa: I'm sorry about all your turbulence! That sounds awful.
Library: Ha! Ovulatium Conceptionis to all of us non-pregnant types!
Hey! I have some exciting news! The Illinois state House just passed civil unions--now the senate and the governor, who have both been in favor forever just have to sign off and we officially can get almost-married! DP and I went and got married in Boston last year, so this is a nice addition to our certificate, but my mom and her wife have been married (by their church) for ten years with no civil recognition. I'm super excited that this passed, although I still hope it's a short time before it gets switched over to actual marriage (cue the court cases...). Anyway, excellent news to kick off December with!
And so are the boys!
Mizyellow- Sorry you are feeling so sensitive! Those hormones can do wacky things. I hope you can be gentle and patient with yourself. I also recommend lemon, maybe even just the smell will help, and ginger. Big Hugs!
AmandaHope- Sending you Singleton Vibes!
Rainbow- We are waiting till January when I will be able to walk! In terms of cervix change, mine becomes really open and soft when I ovulate. It starts closing after ovulation. My partner checked it throughout that whole time and really became an expert in recognizing the differences.
Escher- How lucky to start your cycle at the beginning of the month! Keeping my fingers crossed for you! Can you add January next to my name? Thanks! I am for deleting MIA’s that we haven’t heard from in a long time. How about just for the IVF’ers. There was no icon with a long needle… I think this little baby icon looks like a little egg so it seemed the most appropriate. What do you think Starling?
Library- I love your Harry Potter spell! DP and I watched all of the DVD’s the past weekend as we ate a ton of leftovers and just lay around. It was definitely more of a feat than I thought. We plan to go see the new movie this coming weekend.
Seraf, PrettyIsa, Gelly, and Ez- Keeping my fingers crossed for all of you all at the end of the TWW!
PrettyIsa- Nice move toward the civil union. DP and I have a civil union from California and a marriage certificate from Vermont. We like them both but look forward to adding to them. We’re thinking about starting a collection.
MissScarlett- Dear, how are you doing? Sending you big hugs!
AFM- Feeling antsy, foot is feeling better. I want to start my cycle sooner but I keep telling myself to be patient.
TTC#1 since Sept, 2009; in w DP, + two young dogs. Started adoption process May 2011. Baby boy born on June 18, 2013 and placed with us.
Thanks guys for your well wishes. I panic when for 10 min I don't feel awful because I think something has happened but I complain about feeling terrible. I guess just like Prince's mom I am never satisfied!
Seraf- any news today? I didn't get a pos test with Lennon til I was 17DPO so you never know! I am def hoping for a girl this time, although I sure do love my little man so I will take whatever I can get!
Scarlett- thinking about you and hoping everything is good with you!
Max- what a cute picture! I love that dress, you guys look super happy.
Amanda- I am hoping for a single baby in there! When is your ultrasound again? I certainly would freak out if I were having twins, although thankfully that is doubtful. Hopefully your lack of symptoms means there is only one in there. Are you hoping for a particular sex?
Escher- WOO!! THis month has to be it! CD 2! This waiting part might be the worst! Although hopefully the preparations for xmas help!
I woke to snow today, bleh it is def December in Ohio!
Spell check freaked out on me. I haven't officially lost the post, but I can't post it or read it, so.....
Escher, thank you for the beautiful new thread. Hopefully you get some threadkeeper's luck out of it. The MIA list is up to you, they really have been gone a long time. Sara's and my chart are both good. How did you get them to link? That's the part I can't get to work.
Gelly, I feel you with the being so thirsty, I feel like I've been eating ashes. I have been chugging water.
I didn't realize you could get partnered in multible states. I thought they asked if you were already married, or something like it in any other state. I had a cali partnership with my ex and it's a full divorce to get out of it, but there are complications with living out of state.
Isa, I dind't realize your mom was queer, too. That's cool, what she out when you were young?
Max, nice pic! I bet you're antsy. I can't think of a silver lining to having to wait. Would January get you an october baby? You would be marginally less huge in the summer than you would be with a Septmeber baby. That may be nice.
Yellow, I only mention the girl connection because at 7 weeks with Ari I was convinced I was having twins because I was sooooooooooo sick. After Osha's breezy pregnancy it surpised me. My midwives just laughed and said I'm having a girl. Oh, Oh, are you using midwives? If so, who?
I added a dollar store negative to my collection of FRER negatives. My temp is still right where it should be. I have no reason to expect AF today. My temp, CM and stomach all say not today. So I'm late. 17 days into a 2 week wait. 5 weeks into a 4 week cycle.
Well, screw spellcheck. I apologize for all the typos.
I'm running off to class and will catch up on personals later... but I wanted to say that the u/s showed ONE egg sack (nice and high in the uterus)! Everything looks good so far! Thanks so much for the healthy single embryo vibes. Edd: 8/3/11
Partner of 17 yrs to DP, Mommy to 10-yr-old Z , and Lilah Nyx, born 7/24/11 .
Seraf: How annoying that the pregnancy tests continue to lie! Obviously they are all broken.
Mizyellow: I want some snow! Can you send some down here?
Max: I think that little egg baby is perfect for IVF. I'm sorry you're feeling antsy. I definitely know that feeling!
Isa: That is very exciting news! Hooray!
Indigo: It sounds like your DP's cycle is coming along smoothly! Still negative opks?
Morning all~ though I guess it's afternoon now. I had yet another computer workshop this morning. It's a week where I'm not at work very much, but neither am I getting to do fun things. Grrr!!
Escher~ I agree with your MIA list. It's not like once people are on the list they can't re-join. I say, you're the threadkeeper, keep the thread as you see fit!
Max~ That is a CUTIE pic of the two of you! So Christmasy!! I'm glad you're feeling better and sure understand the desire to get started asap. I do like the thought of not being huge during the summer though. 'Round these parts, it would be MISERABLE!!!
Isa~ Hooray!!!! Congrats for living in a progressive part of the country, and for any legal recognition you can possibly be afforded. And yay for your queer mom too!
MizYellow~ Your Prince reference made me snort my iced tea! I swear, when I was a sophomore in high school, that's the only tape anyone ever had in their car.
AHope~ Yay for one baby!!!! Now the li'l bean just needs to keep up the good work!
Seraf~ WTF!? I'm still holding out for a bfp. It's the only logical outcome at this point.
No news here. I'm so short of breath all the time, I can't imagine what it's going to be like when I'm further along. I know I'm very short, I wonder if taller women have the same problem? But just getting dressed and getting my school bag into the car leaves me winded! Also, I'm tired of leftover turkey, but we're nowhere near done...
Seraf: Are you ready for a blood test? What are you going to do? I'd be going super batty at this point. My sister (who is 16 weeks preggers) kept showing negative on all tests at 16DPO. When she took her blood test her Beta was very low and they really thought she wasn't going to keep the baby but voila! Three days later her numbers more than doubled and she was on her way to being pregnant. Maybe you need a good ol' blood test to get this party started?
me (40) DP (47) TTC since April 2010, 5 IUIs & 6 at home w/ fresh
Short luteal phase, septum resection in Sept 2011
Jan 2011 a BFP! Try #11 8w2d (blighted ovum)
April 2011 BFP! Try #12 9w2d (no heartbeat)
Nov 2011 BFP! Try #14 8w0d (twins, no heartbeat)
June 2012 -- Moving onto IVF with PGD
Escher - I say delete away. It will make it more compact and easier to read, not to mention the work it will save you.
AHope - Hooray for the one little (strong) sac. Stick bean stick! I am so excited that you were able to see it. (I can't wait for that day!)
Isa - I am curious too about your mom. Very cool for her and DW. Care to share any personal info?
Miz & Seraf - Hang in there. Positive vibes coming your way.
Indigo - I am right there with you. I get excited about every little cramp, CM change, cervical position...it's pretty sad, but true. Ha!
Max - Cute pict! I was shocked to not see the blonde anymore. Love it! Did you and DP have big ceremonies for both unions? TN sucks and I doubt will EVER have anything here. Backwoods.Conservative.Idiots.
AFM - Nothing to report, unfortunately. Some cramping, which I've had since IUI. Today: BFN and no AF.
Me (35). DP to S (39) ; Mommy to DS: J (6), Furball Pupps: L (10) & S (1) and a new little baby boy arriving on/around Dec 2.
Max—is that you in that picture, too? I feel like I never recognize you… Cute, though! Is it a wedding pic? Also, we have tossed the idea around about a collection, but I really don’t think it’ll happen. Apparently our current marriage certificate will count for IL, so no need to do it again here. Glad your foot is better—when do you O in Jan?
Seraf—My mom came out when I was 14 or so. Kind of rough going at first, but once she started dating my stepmom things got way better (my stepmom, is awesome). This summer Mum made me go to her queer studies class and talk about my big gay wedding and being 2nd gen and such (It was kind of a family affair—she had my dad come and talk about the biology of sexuality, too--obviously they’re still on good terms). All in all both of us being queer is just another thing to add on to the pile of other ways that I am turning into my mother (I’m turning into my father, too. So far it’s 50/50 on interests, looks, and temperament) and gives us some conversation points that I don’t suppose are too common. Also I got to spend a lot of time in the mid-90s being an awkward teenager around a bunch of earth-mother type lesbians. Some of it was great, but I’ll never get over a certain adolescent dislike for stuff my mom thought was cool.
I’m with Krista--can you ask for a blood test? It seems like you’re late enough that your dr might be able to do that and let you know for sure, right?
AHope—Yay! So glad to hear that about your bean!
Escher—I don’t think I’ve seen a post from anyone on this list, and I’ve been here since June or so, so I’d say 6 months is long enough. Especially since rejoining just requires showing up to ask to be re-added.
Library—Can you freeze the rest and come back to it when you’re feeling more excited about turkey? I just cooked ours last night because it’s been 4 days now with no leftovers and I was getting antsy…
2EZ—what DPO are you on again? Hoping for your BFP any day!
AFM—happy Hannukah! I’m going home to dig around in the basement and see if I can find the menorah down there somewhere. Nothing going on with the TWW, but it’s only 7DPO and I’m mostly not thinking about it.
And so are the boys!
Amanda, yay for 1 healthy bean! That is just perfect for you!
Library, I agree with Isa about freezing. Cut to a good size, spread on a cookie sheet and freeze. Once they're frozen transfer them to your favorite turkey storage container and just pull out a hand full of chunks as needed for stir fries, fried rice, pot pie, soup, salad or whatever, really. (or, skip the turkey and do the same thing with cookie dough, even better in fried rice)
Krista, thanks for your sister's story. Gives me a little hope. I'm going to skip the blood test for now because a positive or negative isn't really going to change the outcome at this point.
Isa, I could see that being an awkward time! It's a cool thing to hear about, tho. It would be all kinds of different. I wonder if our kids will have to come out any which way someday.
So random potential symptom, I keep getting the sensation of let down. Like nursing a baby let down. Like, a hot, tingling, squeezing sensation in my ducts. I take that to be a good sign. Also, my chickens started laying again. I know that has to do with the weather, but I went out to feed them this afternoon and there were 6 eggs in there after a month without. I take their fertility as a sign.
Okay! It's December 1 and I'm going to try to keep up this month!
I'm so happy for all of the BFPs last month. I hope there are many more this month!!
escher - you can move me to waiting to O... I'm a day or so away from my trigger for my very first IVF cycle. I'll be in the tww next week some time hopefully.
Doc says everything looks really good. I have 20 follicles or so. Last time I did the injections (for a non-IVF cycle), I had a lot of bloating and I only had 8 follies. This time, I don't really feel anything. Just today, my breasts have become really sore, but other than that (and the bruises from some of the shots), no complaints. Oh, and I suppose I've had surges of emotion, but I think that's largely due to the holiday season, taking care of my gorgeous amazing baby niece (I swear I cry a few times a week, both with frustration and love), and the fact that this was the first thanksgiving in four years that I got to spend with my drug addict (who is now 4 months clean!) sister.
At my appt today, they tested my estradiol and it was lower than they expected. The nurse says it's not bad, but they need to see me again tomorrow, I guess to make sure the follicles are where they are supposed to be size-wise. If all goes well, I'll trigger tomorrow evening for a Saturday retrieval and a Tuesday transfer. He said I'm a good candidate for a one-egg, one-day transfer, so that's what we're doing. I picked up our donor sperm today and delivered it to the IVF clinic... starting to feel the excitement again... But definitely not as obsessed as we were before. The baby is taking our mind off of A LOT, which is good.
Oh, one other thing - if doc sees me hyperstimulating, he'll postpone the transfer by one month, but he doesn't foresee that happening. He said that's the worst case scenario. Here's hoping he pulls 10-12 really healthy eggs (or more!) out of me this weekend!!
I wanted to ask anyone who has done the pineapple thing: what's the protocol for IVF? Is it still something I should think about doing? Who thinks that was their lucky charm?
Okay, will try to check in daily and keep up with everyone! Much love to all of you!
Partner (35) and I (32) have been together since 2004, TTC #1 since 9/09 - 7 failed IUIs with KD
12/17/10: First round IVF w/ WTBK donor results in ; 2/13/11 M/C after emergency surgery
Try #9 FET 4/11 - Negative. Try #10: IVF 6/11 - Negative. Next up: Try #11 FET 8/11
seraf, I think that sounds like a fantastic symptom to me, I'd go with it for sure.
isa, I think not thinking about it is probably the way to go, really. Good luck finding the menorah!
2ez, I've lost count, how many DPO are you?
Library, I'm sorry you can't breathe, that super sucks since you're only halfway done! Also, yes please to the spell.
AHope, I'm so glad that there's only one in there for you! Now get to it, baby!
indigo, yay for CM! It is surely funny, yes.
max, I'm glad the foot's getting better, but I'm so with you on the impatience.
yellow, my housemate woke me up this morning and told me I'd missed the snow. Luckily it had melted already, but it was nice to see on top of the mountains on the way into town for lunch!
AFM: I have a date on Monday! I'm super nervous because I'm not stopping TTC, but my friends are pushing me to start dating again. I've never "dated", so it's a little awkward anyway...exDW and I were best friends who went straight into a relationship, and I can't even remember our first date because we did everything together before that. So I'm meeting this girl at a drag show, and I hope it'll be fun.
Still waiting to hear back from my OB about labs. It sucks, since I work in the hospital and have access to the system, but I can be fired for looking up my own lab results. Sigh. I think I might try calling the office tomorrow to see if I can talk to the doc and find out what's going on. I'm excited about starting to try again soon, trying my hardest to follow the Fertility Wisdom book, and debating Clomid.
Mama to 1 rotten beagle and 3 kittehs
Fivegrand - I TOTALLY believe in it. Scarlett told me about it and my uterus was 8.5 on my IUI day! The thickest it had been the prior 6 months was 1.1, so..... Adding in the pineapple was the ONLY thing I did differently this past month. I am a true believer.
Prettyisa - Today was 14dpo for me. Still no AF. And thanks for sharing the story about your mom and stepmom. And wonderful to hear your parents are still involved in each others lives. I have such angst at times about DS and how he will be affected by our lifestyle.
Happy Happy Hanukkah to those celebrating tonight!
Me (35). DP to S (39) ; Mommy to DS: J (6), Furball Pupps: L (10) & S (1) and a new little baby boy arriving on/around Dec 2.
fivegrand - dp and i are firm believers in pineapple!! :) we both did 1 pineapple (plus core) for 5 days post iui. dp didn't mind the core at all as long as it was mixed with non-core pieces.
afu, high fertility on the monitor this morning, woohoo! now we wait to see when peak fertility will come.
I think we have a lot of bfps coming soon!
Seraf: The veggies are all jogging around and stretching so they'll be all warmed up for your dance.
2ez: I have everything crossed for you! When are you going to test again?
Indigo: Hooray for high fertility! I'm glad that everything continues to go along smoothly.
Chiquitayy: A date! How exciting! (Those were all the date-like smilies I could find )
5G: I do pinapple with IUIs, but I don't know how it would work with IVF. Good luck figuring that out!
Isa: I'm glad that the TWW is treating you well so far. It seems like often uneventful TWWs lead to good outcomes.
Library: I'm sorry you're so short of breath! I hope some of the people over at Q&P have something reassuring to say.
Gelly: Your temps are looking beautiful!
Scarlett: I miss you!
AFM: CD 3. Last cycle my period was very weirdly light (I blamed the vitex), so I'm very pleased that it is more normal this cycle.
Have any of you read Good Eggs by Phoebe Potts? My favorite cartoonist, Hilary Price, recommended it and it looks interesting.
5 grand, you're triggering! I'm so excited for you! When is your niece's projected reunification? Kids sure do give you more to think about during this, I bet a tiny baby would be worth several school aged kids for distraction.
Indigo, you ate an entire pineapple daily?
Christie, good luck on your date! Dating is fun and stressful. Just think, what's the worst that can happen at a drag show? I barely dated, falling into relationships, too. But my first date with Sara, I was still lactating and my right boob blew up so huge, I couldn't wear anything form fitting because I was obviously lopsided! My mom just laughed and said, well, hopefully she's left handed!
2ez, I think you're up! Is Memphis really conservative? I don't think my kids have been negatively affected by our family (my dad calls it a "lifestyle" so I've never gotten on board with that as a word to describe my family, makes me think of preachers and politicians, and not the good ones.) Maybe you're referring to a different worrisome lifestyle?
My temp really and truly dropped this morning. So I guess my cycle was just trying to catch up with Sara somewhat. I'm OK. I was starting to get excited because I was so late for me, but that's life. I'll try again after the holidays and all that are over.
seraf, no!!! we had one pineapple cut up equally into 5 parts. i think dp would have told me i was crazy if it had been a pineapple per day, lol!
Headed to work...but got a BFN this morning. I probably won't test again till Sunday or Monday. Seeing the blank is sooooo depressing.
Lela (39) & Irene (54) TCC #1 ! Mom to furbabies Bruzier (Chorkie), Diesel (Min-Pin), and Giovanni (Chihuahua).
Multiple ICI's, and IUI's...2009-2011....BFN's
1st IVF August 2011....BFN
1st FET March 2012....BFN
2nd IVF July/August 2012....
Good morning all~ Nice to see everyone back in the groove and busy again.
Chiquita~ Woohoo for a date!!!! It's a crazy whirlwind for sure, but you may as well go out a few times, see what's out there. Even bad dates make good stories. I love the idea of going to a drag show for a date. Fun!!
Seraf~ Sorry about the temp drop, but you seem to be taking it with a positive attitude. Maybe it's just fate for you and Sara to be synched up and those babies aren't going to come any other way.
Gelly~ Sorry about your bfn, and I totally agree. The blanks are too depressing to look at, wait until the very last minute!
Scarlett~ Are you testing today? Any news? Papa, can you hear me!?!?
Indigo~ I loved eating the pineapple too. I just skinned it and cut it into circles, then quarters and chomped away at it. The 'core' bites weren't so bad, just tougher to chew.
I'm forgetting someone, and I do apologize. It's probably the lack of oxygen to my brain.
Ovulatum Conceptionis to you all!!!
Seraf—Oh, no. I’m sorry about the temp drop. But maybe you are meant to wait for Sara to be ready. Still, that sucks. Um…IS she left handed?
My coming out to my parents was entertaining—my dad made a couple turkey baster jokes and moved right on to talking about his weekend. My mom was speechless and had to hand the phone to my stepmom while she recovered from the shock. She said that no family member had ever come out to her before.
5gramd—glad everything is looking good! And I’m so glad to hear about your sister’s continued recovery. It makes me want to cry (in a good way) to think of you all together at Thanksgiving after all that time.
Chiquitta—so excited about your date! A drag show is totally the way to go, too! And I think that although TTC might be a little awkward of a conversation early in a dating relationship it also shows that you have a full life and work to achieve your dreams, which is always attractive.
2EZ—I think he’ll have more company than I did, and that kids are more aware of this as a type of family. I’m hoping that it’s better for our kids, although I have to say I was never teased about my gay mom, but then I was already a teenager by then, so it was easier to keep quiet.
Indigo—Yay! Glad you’re getting closer!
Escher—I thought it was pretty good. Some of it was hilarious (the scene in the RE’s office, for one) but it was sad in the end, too. But she’s very personable, and I thought it was worth the hour or two it took to read.
Gelly—Ugh! FX for better tests. They need to fix those dang things…
And so are the boys!
Indigo, I was slightly terrified by the idea. Thanks for setting me straight (well).
Gelly, BFNs suck. Is it time to test already?
Library, yeah, I think that must be it. Have to wait for Sara. About the positive attitude, LOL, I've got a 7 year old and a 5 year old. I know I'm fertile, I don't have that stress. And honestly TTC has been the least stressfull time of my kids' existance. I have had so many scares from them that simply waiting and trying again isn't the worst thing that can happen. I mean, they are doing things now like crossing the street alone and riding bikes down the road. Much more worrysome!
We just got back from the pound, our little Orville got picked up last night, but he's safe and sound at home now.
Seraf~ Good point. I guess there's less stress in ttc than in worrying about the two you've got!
Funny thing just happened~ I was in the cafeteria and one of my favorite students came up to me and said "Someone said you're going to have a baby" "Yes," I said "Doesn't my tummy look bigger?" "Do you know if it's a boy or a girl?" "It's a girl, she'll be here in April." "Can I pick out the name for her?" Um, no. I love you, but not that much! I told him he could give me a suggestion, though. Kids are so funny.
Seraf: I'm sorry your temp is down, and I see from your chart that AF arrived. I've moved you to taking a break, but if you should really be in waiting to O, let me know.
Isa: I know the two candles are for Hanukkah, but when I see candles on here I always have a momentary worry that we're mourning something. We need a menorah smiley.
Gelly: Boo on the bfn! I hope you get more interesting news soon.