Argg, signed in under the wrong girl!
I think what's so interesting about it is that trans issues and gender issues are getting a lot of air time in Canadian media in the past year (well, not a lot per say, but it's actually being talked about in mainstream media on a frequently casual basis). What's so interesting about this baby, Storm, is that I'm pretty sure that if hir parents weren't straight that there wouldn't be such a dialogue about this issue. Storm's mom did an interview on CBC earlier this week and I thought it was awesome. She's incredibly articulate and thoughtful and demonstrated excellent media interviewing skills. You can hear the interview here - part 3 around 14:30.
Yes. My DD is 9 years old, and though she has said that she wants a sibling for years, she realizes now (with a baby sister due in early August) that she is about to lose her place as the center of attention in our family, and she is worried about it. So am I. She is a wonderful kid who suffers from some anxiety and mild OCD, and I really do worry that we won't have the time or (especially) patience to support her fully once the baby arrives. I also know that I'll fall in love with this kid (already am feeling that way), and it does feel like something of a betrayal. And what if the baby just makes her anxiety worse? I'm hoping that in the longer term, it won't, because I think that DD might benefit from a little LESS intense parenting and micro-managing, if you kwim. Sometimes I think that having two affectionate, over-educated moms is a bit much for her--that less scrutiny and attention might let her relax a little. At least that's what I tell myself, now that we're getting ready for a little one. I think your feelings are natural, especially since your little one is so small. She can't possibly understand how her life will change with a sibling, and as parents, we never really know whether the sibling relationship will end up being as rewarding as we hope and envision. As with so much of parenting, it really is a leap of faith. Good luck to you with your upcoming efforts to conceive!Originally Posted by ninefirefly
Ok, so I don't really have a QOTD but just a question. DP and I are trying for #2 later this month and I keep feeling incredibly guilty about it. Like I will be depriving my DD of my attention and time. Did anyone else have these reservations before having another? I mean I want her to have a sibling but what if they don't get along and I ruin her life or something? I'm probably being dramatic. . .
I couldn't not quote this. OMG, s&d, she is adorable. And has a cute little accent. I love her. Maybe she'll be a precocious reader like E (who taught himself to read a 3y4m). The perils of having two librarians as moms!Originally Posted by starling&diesel
And now for some cuteness! Here is dd 'reading' one of her library books. That's my sister in the background. Sorry it's a skinny video ... I'm just learning to use my iphone and didn't realize that I should've turned it on it's side. Doh!
Oh, I understand that it's certainly not DS's decision as to whether we have another child. In fact, I am sure that he would like being a big brother. It's more about whether *I* am resilient enough to survive the upheaval and deal with all the changes involved. When DS was still in the "baby" stage, another seemed like no big deal and an easy fit into our family. Now that we are definitely in the "child" phase, I am not sure if I can handle going back to parenting an infant. I feel like I go back and forth all the time.
They are so adorable Coco!