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#1 of 342 Old 04-14-2011, 04:56 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Argg, signed in under the wrong girl!


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I wanted to start a thread for all the queers to hang out.  

 

Pictures, general queer conversation, all that stuff.  

 

To start us off with a question of the day, what's your favorite queer parenting story so far?  Did some nurse think your partner is your sister lately?  Have you been set up on a date with the opposite sex despite being happily married?  Has anyone asked if you're the grandmother of your child because they just can't figure your family out?  Did your kid come home asking how anyone could get pregnant by accident, since you have to do all that pesky ordering of sperm?

 

What's going on in your world today?

 

For those of you who don't know me, I'm Seraf.  Baba to an 8 year old and a 5 year old.  One on the way.  Partnered to SmilingSara. We live in middle of nowhere Ohio with a dog and a turtle.

 

Have y'all done that crunchy quiz?


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Thanks, Seraf! Hopefully this will work... I've seen forums elsewhere that do something like this.

I scored 132 on the crunchy quiz... I didn't realize how crunchy I actually am! orngbiggrin.gif

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Thanks Seraf for the new thread. I took the crunchy quiz - 62. I am a newbie.

 

QOTD - We had a moron ask us at DS's wrestling tourney if DP was my sister, then when we said 'no', they asked if she was my MOTHER!!! She's 3 years older, seriously? 

 

Today in my world - I took a 3 hour nap because the preggo fatigue is kicking my ass. And I am waiting for the late night tornadoes that we're supposed to get. Argh!

 

Library - I hope you guys are safe from all the OK storms.

 

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Hey look, I started a thread! I got a 146 on the quiz. People ask if Sara and I are sisters all the time. The best reaction from Sara was at my super Christian friends wedding. Sara said "that would be wrong" and just walked away laughing because that was all there was to do! I was drunk, so I just laughed. We used to get asked that like once a week, now it's once a month or so.


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PS - - - I think I am having my first round of "cravings": bananas and jalapenos. Odd, I know. headscratch.gif


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Ok I feel freakish, I got a 190 and I didn't even count Ari's birth. I love that the cheapest option is always the crunchiest. I think that's why I scored so high. We only made 7 k the year Osh was born. Of course I made my own slings and didn't buy diapers or bottles or formula.

Totally unrelated to queerdom, we took a 5 mile bike ride today and Sara got a flat 4 miles from home. I got to ride home to grab the car and ride back to pick everyone else up. I couldn't find the bike rack so we had to squeeze 4 people and 2 bikes in a yaris!

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Sara- I love that the kids call you baba!  Lennon calls Chels bossie and he decided baby H should call her baba!

 

I took the quiz and got 129, sounds about right.  I am mildly crunchy,Chels isn't at all but she is going along for the ride. I love when one of her friends are over and I hear her saying "we don't use paper towels, there are cloth napkins in the 2nd drawer!" It makes me want to squeeze her.

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Whew! 45. Am I even allowed to still hang out here? smile.gif I think the score is lower if you don't already have kids, right? At least, I hope so...

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Prettyisa: you stay. Kick me off. I scored 44 AND I live in the Bay Area right next to Berkeley. Something's wrong here. Peace.gif


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Whew! 45. Am I even allowed to still hang out here? smile.gif I think the score is lower if you don't already have kids, right? At least, I hope so...



I found that becoming a parent (versus my long, obsessive process of planning to become a parent...) made me crunchier than I expected to be in some ways, and less crunchy in others. For example, when I first had DD, I lived in an apartment without my own washer/dryer, and if you'd told me I'd end up cloth diapering, I would have howled with laughter. But for me, all it took was one trash bag full of disposables to realize that that didn't feel right for me, and I found a way to make cloth work. In fact, I became so obsessed with cloth diapering that we ended up making a bunch of dipes ourselves! (And we are not a naturally crafty people!) Likewise, with breastfeeding, I'd had a breast reduction years ago, and knew that I might have issues BFing. Before DD arrived, I didn't think I really cared one way or the other how she ate. However, once she arrived, I couldn't bear to give her formula, and went to some epic lengths (including driving all over New England for donor milk and basically living on a breast pump for ten months) to keep her mostly breastmilk fed.

 

On the other hand, before DD's arrival, I imagined that I'd want to co-sleep for as long as imaginable. We never bothered to buy a crib, even. However, after a few months of bed-sharing, I realized it wasn't really working for me, and we moved her into her own crib, and eventually into her own room.

 

I'm a big fan of following your gut on parenting- if it works for you and your family, that makes it a great choice for you and your family.:)

 


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I think the lower your score the more you should be here so we nuts can rub off on you!

 

I got a crap ton of points around nursing.  We tried really hard to get my kids to accept a bottle, but they would have none of it.  They nursed with their other mom and a couple of friends since they would eat nothing else.  They nursed for years each, so of course I was tandem.  You really can't know what you're going to do until it happens, tho.  I didn't expect to tandem, but neither he nor I was ready to wean.  He had food issues and even now is in the 5th percentile.  Anything he would eat was better than nothing.  I totally plan on tandem nursing next time, that's part of the reason Sara's trying to get pregnant now, so we can both nurse and all that fun stuff.   And I think co-sleeping rocks.  I have no qualms with Ari still co-sleeping.  She snores like a buzz saw, but I think that's rather endearing.

 

It's funny, if I had filled out the quiz when my kids were tiny and I ate better and shaved less I would have gotten 220.  I never thought I was crunchy, tho.

 

Angela, I love that your daughter is named Ocean.  Everyone thinks Osha is spelled Ocea because, apparently they think I'm a bigger hippie than I am.

 

MizYellow, why does he call her bossie???  I love the name Baba, just because when we're at the playground and I hear MOM MOM MOM MOM! I know no one is calling for me!  I also think it's kind of funny that they don't call their mama "Mama" anymore.  So everyone is called by first names and I'm the only one with a special title anymore.  

 

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Here is a random picture of my kids.  I love showing them off.  The one in the red shirt is Ari and the one in red pants is Osha.  The boy has him some hair.


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Seraf- God what I wouldn't do for that hair! Boys get all the luck. Lennon has these eyelashes for days, I would have to wear falsies to achieve that look. (and we all know THAT isn't happening)

 

Angela- I am with you on the go with your gut. I nursed Lennon to hell and back due to health issues (his) and through that discovered my overwhelming adoration for all things breastmilk. I never ever ever thought I would cosleep and he still sleeps with us 3/7 nights a week. (he chooses the nights). I never even contemplated a natural birth until I had  an epidural and realized I wanted a calm beautiful experience for my next little one. ( Although i tend to run on the high strung side so we will see  about calm ;)

 

I will share a picture too,cause my kid is cute. Really freaking cute.

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I answerd those questions for when there is a baby here! Is that cheating?! But that's what I plan on having happen, and I don't really see not breast feeding or doing ec.

Mizyellow: what a cute guy! Can't wait for the zoo with you guys

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121!  About as crunchy as I thought I'd be. 

 

Lost points on tandeming and CL weaning though.  I'd love to tandem, and nurse until DS wants to stop, but we only have one vial of his donor, and the donor has left the program so we can't get more.  We just can't risk losing our only chance at a full sibling by TTC when my fertility could be reduced. greensad.gif

 

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QOTD - We had a moron ask us at DS's wrestling tourney if DP was my sister, then when we said 'no', they asked if she was my MOTHER!!! She's 3 years older, seriously? Morons of the south strike again.

 

 

I have a story that's kinda like that.  I was at a La Leche meeting, and it was almost over.  DW wasn't with me, but I had mentioned her during the meeting.  And then... my mother came by to pick me up (I have no car) and everyone thought she was DW!  

 

That, at least, was better than the time my little sister and I ran into an old neighbour, and she thought my sister was my wife.  My sister, btw, looks so much like me that the last time I ran into this neighbour she thought I was my sister.

 

...I seem to be having the opposite problem of everyone else.  I'm not sure whether I should be jealous or glad!


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I scored 142 ... If I had answered the questions when I was a twenty-year-old poor, hairy, hippy hitch-hiking between communes, I would've score off the charts! 

 

One funny queer parenting story ... One of the guys at work asked me if I'd had a one night stand to get pregnant this time too.  We were walking up the steps to do a call for a hip fracture when he spouted off that gem.

Me: "What do you mean, 'this time too'?  I didn't last time!"

Him: "Oh, well, I just figured." 

Me: "Do you think that'd be cool with my partner, who I am MARRIED too?" 

Him, with a shrug: "Ah, I thought all your types were open to things like that." 

Me:  "WHAT?" 

Him:  "No?" 

Me:  "No!  We went to a fertility clinic, like pretty much all the other queers I know." 

Him:  "You said 'queer.'" 

Me:  "Yes?  I'm a queerly queer queer-itty queer." 

Him:  "I thought that word was a no-no." 

Me: "A one night stand while in a monogamous relationship is a no-no!"

 

And then the nice old man opened the door and we had to go in and do the call while all the while I wanted to call him on his shit is a royal way.

 

Sigh.


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Only 76% crunchy for me, but some of the questions didn't accurately reflect anything~ like the one about the shoes.  I wear my Birkis most of the time when I'm just doing my own thing, but I have work shoes for work and fancy shoes for fancy times, so I feel slightly skewed. Still, it probably wouldn't have been that much higher. I mean, I do wear makeup etc (indeed I put on my mascara before going to the hospital to deliver Tiny Alice, even though I knew I'd be a sweaty nightmare eventually)...

 

Starling, I'm laughing a horrible, rueful laugh at your co-worker.  "all your types are open to things like that". Whew!!!    I don't think I have any stories that can top these, just a few times when people refer to DP as 'Your...um, your...um...friend"  Nothing too exciting there. 

 

 


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Wait, Starling, you're not open to anything?  You don't want to risk STDs and, um, strange winkies?  I always point out that it's pretty hard to hit in one shot and even if I got drunk enough to do it once, I don't think I could do it every month until one took.  So, do you think when my kids go off to college I'm going to have to tell them to ask potential one night stands about their parentage for fear of hooking up with a half-sib?  That was on the news recently, someone met someone online dating and eventually they figured out that they were half-sibs.  I guess they would have liked to figure it out sooner in the relationship.

 

I actually had a co-worker offer to get me so drunk I "wouldn't remember anything" and then just put me in a room with someone (male, I'm certain) "clean."

 

Library, the shoe question makes total sense when you live around here.  There are lots of people who walk around in public barefoot.  Even when the weather is questionable.  I am surprised it didn't ask about dreads, now that I think of it.  You feel like a cow yet?  Baby Alice sleeping through the night yet?  HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, sorry, couldn't resist.

 

Kelmendi, wow, what a different world. 

 

New QOTD.  What are some songs that take you back to childhood?  Some songs that take you back to, well, whenever you came out?  What kind of music do you listen to now?

 

For me, I go back when I hear Pour Some Sugar On Me, Sweet Cherry Pie, Jeremy, Runaway Train, No Rain (ok, we were looking at a donor called Jeremy last night and that got me singing the song, which Sara was unfamiliar with, so I had to play them all for her today).  I came out to Dilate and a bunch of other Ani songs, tho Hit Me Baby One More Time was really popular then.  Now I listen to country mostly.  We really only get 2 radio stations here and the other one is NPR.  Sara introduced me to Tegan and Sara, so I listen to some of that, too.


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I scored 97 on the crunchy test, which is probably about right: somewhat crunchy but still into my subtle daily makeup and not crafty/patient enough to make my own stuff for baby; some co-sleeping; but LOTS of breastfeeding--we had a no more nursing party in the park for my DD when she turned 4.  But we did live in Berkeley then.  If this one wants to nurse for four years, it will be interesting to see how suburban midwesterners deal with it. 

 

MizYellow and Seraf: those are some super cute and spirited and fun-loving-looking kids!  I love it!  Seraf: both parents nursing sounds like HEAVEN to me.  It will never happen in my household, but I hope it does in yours and that you can tell us all about it so that I can appreciate it vicariously.  What fabulous flexibility and mutual bonding that would enable!  Wow. 

 

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EZ--I have a curry recipe that uses jalapenos AND bananas in it!

I scored a perfect 100! Since I haven't had a child, it is how I am assuming I will be.

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Hey all! 

 

This is an cool thread; it'll be interesting to see how much it cuts down on the post counts in other threads.  

 

I'm loving seeing the photos of everyone's families!  

 

Funny queer story from pretty recently: We plan on using a freestanding birth center for the birth of our (eventual) children, and since we're starting TTC this summer I figured we could go to the birth center and get a tour and some info.  The class thing they offer is called Childbirth Choices.  Anyway, so I called up to register for this class.  The receptionist asked if we are patients there, which we are because they do our "Well-woman" annual exams there - so I said, "Yes, my partner and I are both gynecological patients there."  She took my name and info, then said, "Okay, and what is your husband's name?" I paused.  "My WIFE's name is Teri, actually.  And we have the same last name."  She goes, "Oh, I'm sorry about that."  Haha, about which part?  The part where you didn't listen to me or the part where you assumed I had a husband?  I mean come on.  I told you I had a partner AND I told you we were both GYN patients.  I don't know many men who receive yearly PAP smears, but hey, what do I know.  

 

Also, we just had two new foster children placed with us on Monday night!  We haven't been foster parents very long, and have only taken babies before now so a sibling group (3 year old and 8 month old) is very new to us.  Things are crazy!  It's difficult for us; I can't even imagine being those kids, having to move in with total strangers and just be fine with it.  If everyone would consider sending some healing thoughts the way of our two newest little ones, we would appreciate it.  

 

Hoping you all are well.  Goodnight, queer family.


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I scored a 45.. and live in Oakland..I think being a nanny I have seen to many kids who are a bit hard to handle and who are never told the word NO that I am pretty clear on what I dont want to do as a parent! I am pro breast feeding and doing things as natural as possible without being to overly worried about it ( like DP and i agree CD at home, and Biodegradable diapers on the go)  but this is all being said before we have said baby!! Both of our bosses ( we are nannies) say they can not wait to see how it all changes when the child ( ren) are our own..  :) 

 

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now I listen to most anything, love sarah mclaughlin, tori, lady gaga, just to name a very few of my current play list

 

 

 

Today we casually mentioned children to my mother and her reply to was.. where are u getting this child from? sigh my mother is still in a bit of denial ( 11 years later) . 

 

hope you are all well

 

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question for everyone

 

how many animals you have? what kind are they part of the family? their names?

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I scored 127 on the crunchy quiz. I'd like to be crunchier I think. In some ways, anyway.

 

I had one co-worker ask me if I was "ok with it" when she found out I was pregnant. I'm not really sure what she was getting at but I answered that "yes, I was thrilled." Another co-worker also asked me if I went out and had a one night stand. Ummm yeah, that's what I did. And I thought this woman was "worldly."

 

Lennon is gorgeous! And Osha has such beautiful, long hair. My little one is still lacking in the hair department but little curls are coming in which thrills me because I have REALLY straight hair and I was hoping she'd have curls :)

 

Here is DD learning how to use the potty...it hasn't completely caught on yet. Note that she did take her socks off and is still holding one.

 

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AmandaHope, my midwestern children weaned at 4 and 3.25.  It's certainly different, but here people just don't talk about all the things they do.  Like, I found out at work that more than half my co-workers co-sleep, even with much older kids.

 

Desert, holy wow on 2 new kids.  Good luck with that and yeah, I hope they aren't heartbroken or at least make it through.

 

CaNanny, I really don't think the word No is the be all and end all of discipline.  Honestly I think discipline can go very well without the word.  I would be happy to elaborate if you would like to know more, but many well behaved, well adjusted children glide through the world without being told no at every turn.  I personally only resort to the word when I'm feeling very short and uncreative, which has nothing to do with the behavior of my kids.  I mean, no one tells me "no," I hear real answers, which is only respectful and what my children usually hear as well.  In Japan, I hear, they don't even have a word for "no" but their children seem to survive.

 

Carmen, that picture is adorable.  

 

On pets, we have a shih tzu named Orville and a tiny turtle called Tortuga.

 

 


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Good to hear, Seraf.  And even in Berkeley, DD only nursed in the morning and at night (ie, at home) for the last few years, so I can definitely see keeping that up, if this little one wants to nurse for that long. I hope so! 

 

As for pets, we have a 5-yr-old shepherd/hound mix named Annie and a 15-year-old cat named Djuna.  The cat isn't doing well, and we're not sure if she'll last until the babe is born this summer.  In a certain, sheepish, way, I'd be relieved if she passed away peacefully before then, since her ill health can cause a lot of trouble and mess that I know I'll have little patience for once the babe arrives. But my DP is super attached to her, so I'm also dreading the inevitable end.  I just hope it doesn't come right around when the babe comes!  UGH. 

 

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AmandaHope, I forgot to mention, last time I checked, in Ohio the law said it's ok for a child to nurse any place it's legal for the mother to be.  I almost got kicked out of a library for nursing Ari in the children's section when she was under 3 months old.  I argued with the security guy and then we agreed that his supervisor was the one to talk to.  We left before he got back.  He actually ran down the sidewalk to catch me and tell me that I was welcome to nurse anywhere in the library.  On the other side of it, when Ari was 28 months we missed our flight home from Little Rock.  The next flight was cancelled due to weather and we had been sitting in the airport for several hours.  I was sitting on the floor nursing Ari, she fell asleep and a flight attendant walked up and stopped in front of me, "Excuse me, is she breastfeeding?"  I almost started crying and said, "Please don't kick me out."  She had no intention of kicking us out, she was so happy to see it because she was still nursing her 15 month old and didn't know anyone who nursed past infancy.  I told her to come to Mothering for some virtual support.  So it really can go any way, randomly.  I always smile when I see nursing happen, because I know what kind of looks they get from the occasional grumpy on-looker.


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Hi there!

 

I haven't posted in the Queer Parenting section in an age. Nice to see this thread up and running! After losing our daughter, we weren't TTCing nor pregnant anymore, and I didn't know what to talk about with everyone. But a chat thread will be great!

 

Love seeing the pictures of everyone's adorable kids. Our E is 4 now. 4. Where in the world did the time go?? Here's a picture of him from today, reading to our two cats. 

 

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Took the crunchy quiz, and scored 100. Not too surprised, since we did cloth diaper and try to eat healthy, but I was unsuccessful at BFing E due to a breast reduction when I was 17.

 

Looking forward to chatting some more with all of you.

 

Oh, and s&d, congrats on the new pregnancy!


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Oh, SO GOOD TO SEE YOU, lemurmommies!  I've been thinking about you a lot since getting pregnant this time and what you must've gone through with your loss, especially dealing with the tragedy while also being mamas to a toddling E.  I can't imagine how hard it must've been to bring your hearts out of the dark.  I hope you and your partner are healing as well as can be expected.  Even with this much time having passed, I imagine it would still be very hard. hug2.gif

I was dubious about this chat thread, but if it brings back the likes of you to the forums, then bring it on!  I was trying to remember your user names but could only think of your wife's, but for the life of me could not remember how to spell it!

 

 

As for using "no," we love alternatives at our house too.  We try to steer away from it, so that when we do use it on the rare occasion, it holds some weight.

 

As for pets, we have an 8 lb cockapoo and a 13 lb orange cat.  I'm not used to such a small dog after three decades of having big galufes of mutts in the past.  She needed rescuing though, and so be it.  She's more like an animated stuffed animal!  Good thing she's tough and fun and great with kids.  So's the cat!  E puts him into a cardboard box, tucks in his head and tail and then 'drives' him around the house making train noises, and then she hauls him out and dresses him up in her clothes, all the while he's purring and loving the attention.  Thank goodess! 

 

As for music, I came out to the album Solace by Sara Machlachlan, all the good old stuff from Ani, REM, The Smiths, Michelle Shocked (*sigh*) The Pogues, Spirit of the West (them especially) ... and Frank.  Anyone remember her? 


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There sure are a lot of chatty queers on here!

 

As for the crunchiness quiz, I scored a 109.  I think I had granola pretty much covered in infancy, but didn't fare so well as the child ages.  For example, while I really like the concept of homeschooling, I am so not cut out to execute it.  I would be an awful parent if I also had to be our kids' academic teachers as well.  I do not have sufficient patience to be a homeschool mama. 

 

I also like shoes.  A lot.  As a good lesbian, I own a pair of requisite birks.  I also have flip flops, rain boots, winter boots, dress shoes, dress sandals, heels, boots with heels....suffice it to say, I've got a lot of shoes (and conveniently I'm able to justifying even more pairs of shoes than one should ever need because DW and I have the same shoe size orngtongue.gif).

 

As for pets, we have none right now.  Our dear pooch Gus died very unexpectedly in February.  We still have his leash and collar by the door and his cookies on the counter.  I miss my furry four-legged friend so very much.  If we are going to get another dog, he's going to have to be special and I don't think we'll seriously consider anything until August/September.

 

Carmen - I love your daughter's use of the potty.  It's a foot bath or mini swimming pool!

 

Songs that take me back to childhood...anything by Raffi or Sharon, Lois and Bram.  Ohhhh, how could we forget Kids Incorporated on Saturday mornings or the MiniPops!!! 

 

Now, if we're talking teen years, I was more into people/bands like Sarah McLachlan, Tori Amos, Depeche Mode, Weezer, Nirvana, Metallica, Tragically Hip, etc.  My musical tastes are quite broad. 

 

I came out to Ani (who didn't?) and then listened to all of the lesbian classics.  Now I'm more into CBC and bands like The National, Radiohead, Tegan and Sara, Death Cab for Cutie, Stars and Vampire Weekend. This is also combined with an overly health dose of top 40 as I do live in a house with two teenagers and I'm likely to be overpowered by Lady Gaga or the Black Eyed Peas.


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Oh, SO GOOD TO SEE YOU, lemurmommies!  I've been thinking about you a lot since getting pregnant this time and what you must've gone through with your loss, especially dealing with the tragedy while also being mamas to a toddling E.  I can't imagine how hard it must've been to bring your hearts out of the dark.  I hope you and your partner are healing as well as can be expected.  Even with this much time having passed, I imagine it would still be very hard. hug2.gif

I was dubious about this chat thread, but if it brings back the likes of you to the forums, then bring it on!  I was trying to remember your user names but could only think of your wife's, but for the life of me could not remember how to spell it!

 

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As for music, I came out to the album Solace by Sara Machlachlan, all the good old stuff from Ani, REM, The Smiths, Michelle Shocked (*sigh*) The Pogues, Spirit of the West (them especially) ... and Frank.  Anyone remember her? 


Well, here I am! innocent.gif I have been hanging out on a chat thread over on Diaperswappers for 2+ years now, but I miss my queers. It's nice to have a place where I feel like I can chat with you all again.

 

Yes, it has been hard. We have TTC on three separate occasions since Noelle's birth, and none have been successful. The plan was to try again this June, but I just found out that I was accepted to OISE to do my BEd in the fall (after 8 years of being out of school!), so we are putting TTC off again. Perhaps indefinitely, but at the very least until this December. I am not 100% sure to say that we're done-done with having bio babies, but I think that the time for us is coming to a close. 

 

A big "heck yes" to all your music choices. I think I have a Phranc CD in my car at the moment. 

 



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There sure are a lot of chatty queers on here!

 

As for the crunchiness quiz, I scored a 109.  I think I had granola pretty much covered in infancy, but didn't fare so well as the child ages.  For example, while I really like the concept of homeschooling, I am so not cut out to execute it.  I would be an awful parent if I also had to be our kids' academic teachers as well.  I do not have sufficient patience to be a homeschool mama. 

 

I also like shoes.  A lot.  As a good lesbian, I own a pair of requisite birks.  I also have flip flops, rain boots, winter boots, dress shoes, dress sandals, heels, boots with heels....suffice it to say, I've got a lot of shoes (and conveniently I'm able to justifying even more pairs of shoes than one should ever need because DW and I have the same shoe size orngtongue.gif).


And there seems to be a particularly large amount of chatty Canadian queers!

 

I hear you on the love of shoes. I love shoes too. A whole, whole lot. Sadly, Ru and I do NOT wear the same shoe size, so our front hall is constantly overflowing with footwear. There are worse things, I suppose!

 


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