Welcome to the group. I'm familiar with CAH, I did a lot of research on it six years ago when I dated a woman who has it. If I'm understanding correctly, you're chromosomes are XX but you were born with some male and some female reproductive organs? I know that is a very personal question so I thank you for any answer you feel comfortable giving. I wasn't familiar with CAH until I encountered it in my life, so I'm guessing many people are like I was and don't know what it is. To me, your physical sex is not as important as the gender you identify as. But, Identifying as male and being pregnant is sure going to be an interesting experience! Have you seen a doctor who understands CAH and pregnancy? It seems like you are trying to decide on whether to keep the baby or find an adoptive family. That is a tough personal decision and I hope you find the one that is right for you and your baby.
Yeh, I would have been surprised too! What did the doctor say when you told him you were pregnant? I've read a lot about adoption and it seems that open adoption is the most common and the most recommended now. But, the birth parent gets to decide how open they want it to be.
Welcome, Albafan. Come join us over on Queer and Pregnant! I think you'll find that we're a supportive bunch. I'll PM ftmpapa and tell him to come have a look at your thread. He's trans, but went through pregnancy as a man and might have some insight more keen atuned to your particular situation. Take care of yourself, hon!
The other group is called Queer and Pregnant, you can search for it at the top.
It might be good to find a local adoption agency and talk with one of their counselors even if it's only a possibility in your mind. If you feel like they are pressuring you, don't understand your situation, or if you won't be able to have an adoption that would fit what you want, then try another one. It's important you feel comfortable with whatever decision you make.
Hi Alex, Welcome to our board! I hope it's helpful for you!
I can't imagine being 18 and having an unplanned situation like this, much less having all of your unique circumstances in addition. I hope that you find our little group to be supportive and welcoming!
I too have some familiarity with CAH, so I hope that you feel at least mildly understood here!
welcome alex! all i know on cah is via some documentaries on tv but i do at least have a basic understanding. we are here to listen, to support and to answer any questions you may have!
Welcome, Alex! This forum has been a source of great support for me. I hope you find some community here. Please let us know how we can support you.
A, partner to J, mama to O, now with a new username!
Building queer family since 2008!
(and oh, did i mention we're having twins?!?)
Hi Alex and welcome! You're very brave to come here and share your story. It must be incredibly hard to identify as male and then watch and feel your body going through the very female experience of pregnancy. Do you have a good support system (friends, family, etc.) to listen and just be there for you?
Sending you warm thoughts and bisous
Ex-pat gal (40y.o.) in France and her Froggy wife (42y.o.). Expecting a little (brussel) "sprout" in Dec 2012 after a year of at-home inseminations and three medicated IUIs in Belgium.