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#1 of 8 Old 07-24-2011, 08:36 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I just finished reading this book a few days ago, and I wanted to put the word out there that you soon-to-be mamas should check it out!  I would think it will be especially helpful to non-bio moms who are sorting through the feelings and requirements of their new role.

 

Being from Minneapolis, MN, just like the author-- I was lucky enough to run across a review for this book in our local (mainstream, daily) paper.  I ordered it right away and got to reading! 

 

The author is a lesbian, with a long-time partner.  They decide to have a baby together, and their discussions are covered in the book.  Considerations, thoughts about how life will change, hopes, etc.  The author decides she wants to carry their child, and goes through many sessions of insemination.  And nothing takes...  Her partner goes in for insemination, then, and gets pregnant on the first try.  So, then the author needs to deal with her new role-- no longer the body that will be physically growing their child, but now the caretaker of the pregnant partner, and later, the main caretaker of their infant. 

 

The book was entertaining, high on emotions and the nuances of caring for a partner/ working through the many changes in a relationship.  It's not heavy on technical details, so I'm looking to other books for that information.  I found it helpful that the book was so honest in how the relationship between these two partners struggled and changed through the course of creating their baby.  And how difficult it was on the two of them to finally have that little one there! 

 

I highly recommend this book.  Has anyone else read it?  smile.gif

 

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July 2013- 2nd at home IUI with FDS (new donor)- BFN, June 2013 1st at home IUI -BFN... 

(Before that, 3 tries at the clinic with FDS, 2 with clomid and 1 with femara)

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It's been on my list since I first heard about it!  Thanks for the personal opinion of it.  It will be moving higher up on my to-read list now.  I just read "The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians" and "A Donor Insemination Guide."  The first was lighter and broke it down really nice.  The second one felt a bit more academic and I didn't get as drawn into it.  There were lots of things that neither of them covered and I found better answers to on the forums.  I read "Confessions of the Other Mother" a few years ago; that was fun.

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I just got this book from the library; thanks for the recommendation. I'll try to remember to come back and post my thoughts after I've read it! :-)


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Jennp85:  That's great! I'm reading "Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy For Lesbians" right now.  I figured I would start with the story, kind of ease myself into it, and then get into the more technical stuff.  I do like this book, too.  There is a bit that doesn't pertain to me, so far, but of course there would be since it's more of an overview of all the possible options.  I have also heard of "Confessions Of the Other Mother" and it looks really fun.  If it's easy to read, I might want to get that for my partner-- she's not a big reader.  winky.gif

 

HappyHappyMommy:  Great to hear!  Glad your library had the book.  Let us know what you think!  I found it to be a really easy read, sometimes tough to put down.  Hope you enjoy it!


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July 2013- 2nd at home IUI with FDS (new donor)- BFN, June 2013 1st at home IUI -BFN... 

(Before that, 3 tries at the clinic with FDS, 2 with clomid and 1 with femara)

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Lovestreet--confessions is definitely easy to read--and not that long (not long enough! I wanted more!). I'd recommend it for pretty much anyone on this forum. smile.gif

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I'll stick this on the Resource thread!

Thanks!

 

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Great!  smile.gif  Thanks!


I am 33.  I've been with my partner for 6 years. partners.gif  July31/Aug1- 3rd at home IUI with FDS

July 2013- 2nd at home IUI with FDS (new donor)- BFN, June 2013 1st at home IUI -BFN... 

(Before that, 3 tries at the clinic with FDS, 2 with clomid and 1 with femara)

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I love this book! I've had the book since I first seriously considered having a baby.. I don't wanna read it all up at once, I'm reading as I am going through it so I'm only like 3 or 4  chapters in. Any other books anyone finds out about, I'd love to hear about them!! <3


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Gave birth to a BEAUTIFUL baby girl January 10th 2013. Never have been so blessed!

 

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