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Smilingsara- Congratulations on telling your parents.  It's always hard to know when the right time is, but looks like you found it.  I am glad they are excited for you.  

 

Invitin- Two of my closet friends used NW Cryobank and conceived their second try.  They were happy with the quality of the donors, and the price.  They did run into some customer service issues.  Specifically, they were told sperm would be released once the quarantine period was over , but there was some sort of delay and it ended up being another 3 months.  They also had a few hiccups with shipping.  In general, they felt that one way how the bank keeps their cost downs is by having cut some corners in the customer service/organization department.  They felt they frustration was worth the cost savings.  My friend also got a little addicted to their online forum.  eyesroll.gif

 

Carmen- Sorry about your BFN.  Hope your appointments help.

 

Sky - I hope your donor drama settles down.  I am glad he has many positive qualities, and hopefully the postal stuff will work out. 

 

Lise- Wow! 21 days cycle? Good thing you trusted your instincts and sent the goods back.  Nice job saving sperm and money!

 

AFM:  Well, I am now 8 days post ovulation.  I tested the afternoon of day 6 because my in-laws were in town.  It was negative, though not surprising.  My temps are still toasty, boobs hurt, and I almost threw up at the bus stop.  I know this all sounds great, but I am not sure.   I have a sensitive stomach, and I frequently feel sick when I am nervous.  I basically ignore it.  But since I am in the TWW, I am paying so much attention to how I feel.  It's a feedback loop.  I feel sick, think "wow, I feel sick," then I feel sicker.  For those who have been pregnant, does the nausea/upset stomach of early pregnancy feel different than the GI symptoms you may have experienced before?   

 

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Vienna and Desert: thank you on the feedback about NWcyrobank. I couldn't believe that we found a bank so reasonably priced and we really have had no problems with customer service.

 

Brite and Desert: thanks on the heads up about bromelain...interesting. I am currently taking evening primrose, 5HTP, and fish oil so i'll just add it to the mix after O.

 

Brite: sorry to hear about the tension in the house. After AF I know I need at least a couple of days to feel human again and get back on the saddle with this process. This can be a very trying time for DW and I.

 

Desert:hug2.gifHard days suck. They make you question your whole existance and meaning of what you are doing. Hopefully tomorrow will look different. My thoughts are with you.

 

Carmen:sorry about the BFN. I particularly hate the digital ones that say the words "not pregnant." A friend told me about a woman who came up with an ingenious concept of make your own BFN sayings like "time for a latte" and "hot bath here I come."

 

Handerson : boo AF. Cuss.gifhang in there ladies.

 

AFM: So when I come upon things that inspire me on this journey I must share- Little self disclosure I love reality TV- the good kind (is there such a thing?) anyway on BRAVO I've been watching the Rachel Zoe project and I have to say that I am impressed that she can pregnant. Don't get me wrong as I watch her fashion-drama, I still tear up seeing her baby bump. However, I'm in awe that she doesn't seem very healthy and seems overworked and was 39 when she conceived. Today I am impressed.Next week I will probably be annoyed. That's the way the story goes.


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Welcome, Tilly! I hope conceiving #2 goes quickly for you!
 

sara: Telling people is SO fun! I'm glad to hear they are excited :)


Vienna: Your symptoms sound really promising! I don't think I had any significant nausea until about 5.5-6 weeks....then I felt mildly sick pretty much 24/7 for the next 7 weeks ;) I don't think it was any different than nervous nausea for me though...other than it never really went away.
 

invitnconceptn: I have no idea what show you are talking about but I was 38 when I conceived DD so I love hearing about "older" women getting pregnant :)



Afm: Acupuncture was great again today. I have tons of cramps tonight and a mild headache so I'm guessing AF will starting tonight or tomorrow. DP was disappointed and said she wished this had been the one. She doesn't often talk about her feelings around TTC as she finds the roller coaster really hard to deal with. It was nice to hear she is actually paying attention though ;)

 


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I just about fell over in shock this morning. My temp is still up so I tested again and I got a very faint positive. I'm not sure what to make of it because it's so very, very faint and I'm 12DPO. My LP hasn't been longer than 12 days since my cycles came back so I'm wondering if this is going to be a chemical pregnancy. I feel like it "should" be darker at this point. Please, no celebrations yet as I'm really not feeling good about this but needed to tell someone! I'm not sure I'll even tell DP unless it's darker tomorrow (I have one test left in the house).



Eta: feel like af is going to show ANY minute...

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Carmen, I'm thinking good thoughts for you this morning.

Desert, I have followed some of your foster drama and want to remind you that it's very different parenting children who have been with you from birth, are firmly bonded to you, are healthy and have no history of neglect or abuse. You see more doctor and specailists in some weeks than we see in a year. It is just different. Don't let this experience shake you.

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Carmen, thinking positive thoughts, and keeping my FX! hug.gif

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Carmen, thank you for the welcome.  I am sending most positive, pregnant thoughts your way.  I felt just like AF was coming the cycle I was pregnant.

 

Vienna,  To me pregnancy nausea felt different than other GI stuff,  mostly as it was accompanied by complete exhaustion. 


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Good luck to everyone, and sorry about the disappointments!

 

I have another questions (actually, I have several, mostly about terminology, but I'm going to look that stuff up).

My DP decided she's not comfortable with us going the IUI and sperm bank route yet; she would like us to try a couple more times with our known donor if we can get my O's worked out. I'm fine with this, but I was wondering if anyone might have any advice on ways to make it more likely that we would catch with an at-home insem? Thanks!


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Carmen: OMG! I know you're cautious (if anyone understands that, it's me) but girl, a line is a line. And BTW, total myth about how dark the line is to whether the pregnancy is viable or not. Just as the beta blood test number isn't the predictor. This might be it, girl. Hang in there.

 

Vienna: I love that you love Rachel Zoe because I can't stand her! There's something about the lines around her mouth that make her look like a marionette (sp?) doll and it creeps me out. But don't you look at someone like her and think she had to have gotten pregnant IVF or some assisted method? I guess I'm just a bitter 39 year old hag with two miscarriages behind her. <sigh> I hate what this journey has done to me.


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Short luteal phase, septum resection in Sept 2011
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Carmen- FX this is your BFP and it STICKS!!

 

Krista- I have a feeling you will be getting your BFP sooner than later!

 

Desert- Hang in there. You and DW will be wonderful parents! I am sure of that. Anyone willing to take in foster children have to be wonderful ppl. Jaxon has been sick for a few days and DW has been driving me crazy about it so I can only imagine how she will be once we get our BFP, he is better now tho and think goodness cuz this mommy is tired! And yes a puppy is such a pain while dealing with everything else in life but lucky us lil Jaxon was very easy to potty train and now sleeps thru the night with a night light. Who would have thought a puppy would be afraid of the dark lol

 

AFM- Well from NO symptoms and being 6 days "late" to waking up to AF! Guess that means I'm out this month. But we will keep trying. The plus side this month I finally got DW to open up a lil and talk with me about this crazy TTC process and I feel closer to her now.

 

 


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Just had time to pop in and catch up! I don't have time for personals, but I just wanted to quickly say...

Carmen, I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you! A line is a line is a line. I understand your hesitation, but think this is it! thumb.gif 


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Hi friends! So sorry - don't have a lot of time right now but I wanted to pop in and let you know that AF arrived this morning. Spotting started last night and she came on full force today. We're bummed but excited to try again. I had coffee this morning and you better believe I'm having a glass of wine (...or three) with dinner tonight! I think we'll go out for sushi this weekend too. eat.gif Yum.

 

Carmen - Fingers crossed!!!!! xoxox

 

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Welcome to all the newbies! Nice to see so many!! Welcome.gif

MrsPP—So sorry! greensad.gif Glad you are enjoying the things that you can’t have while pregnant…it always makes me feel better to have a glass of wine and some goat cheese! smile.gif

Amt—Sorry to you as well!! greensad.gif

rs11—Well….the good thing is that fresh lives longer! So…really, the timing isn’t quite as difficult as with frozen (even though it still is difficult!). I would make sure you are tracking your fertility in a variety of ways (temps, cervical fluid, opks, or how the cervix looks). Have you read the Brill book?

Carmen—Ohhhhh!!! I hope this is it!!! Fingers crossed!! fingersx.gif

Vienna—Don’t you just love all of the symptoms that are around when you pay attention? I think the symptoms (and now knowing if I am making them up or not…) stresses me out more than anything else. Hang in there! You are almost done with the wait!

Sara—CONGRATS ON TELLING! I know you were super nervous about it and am so glad that it worked out so well. Also, congrats on the first ultrasound! Mr. August is still waiting in Seattle for us…hopefully patiently.wink1.gif I sure hope it works and we can have half siblings!!

Brite—I totally know where you are coming from with wanting to hold out on insemming if things don’t feel right in the relationship. Hope things are going much better so you can continue on!! hug.gif

Desert—Hope you are feeling better today!

invitn—Sorry, I know nothing about NW BUT we use European Sperm Bank out of Seattle and LOVE them!

Hello to everyone else! wave.gif

So…today was my first appointment with the fertility specialist and things went well. She thinks my messed up cycle was the result of a cyst---one that is now gone!! Whew!—on my left ovary (a follicular one). I am taking this month off to track and get blood work done to make sure everything is normal (I had some today—a good thing about AF arriving so early!) and then we are actually going to try an IUI in November at the clinic. I am VERY excited to try something new!

M (30), D (30)  TTC #1 since October 2010. 13 unsuccessful cycles--no meds (2 m/c). First medicated IUI July 2012: BFN. Second medicated IUI: BFP! Triplets! bigeyes.gif Actual Due Date: May 17...GOAL: April 5th!

 

Sawyer, Elliott, and Miles arrived on March 24th @ 32 weeks & 2 days.

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Rainbow- Thank you for adding me to the board I feel like part of the group now lol.

 

Vienna- I hope the drama settles down too, it's just making me more stressed out.


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Thanks for the good wishes, everyone. AF hasn't shown up yet but I had tons of cramps off and on throughout the day. I have my RE appointment tomorrow which is interesting timing for sure! Maybe if I am actually pregnant they can do some blood work for me and check my hcg and progesterone. I'll test again in the morning if AF doesn't show up over night. Will update you all tomorrow. Oh, I told DP, she is cautious and not really believing it. As am I.


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Well, there is definitely a second line this morning. It's VERY faint and I almost wonder if I'm imagining things. My temp jumped higher this morning though. AF didn't show up. I'm guessing the RE will take a blood test so I should know for sure this afternoon.

 

 

ETA: Just went to look at the test again and I pretty much can't see a second line. But, I still have yesterday's test and the 2nd line is still faintly showing on it. I think this is all in my head. Thankfully I have no more tests in the house to drive me crazy irked.gif

 


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MrsPP, I'm so sorry.  Always good to have a newer and better plan.  I always considered the first try to be very expensive practice.

 

Carmen, I'm excited and hopeful the RE visit is amusingly ironic.

 

 


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ive been lurking for like, forever smile.gif  love reading this forum! i did post a few months back but havent been active since then.

 

am 7PO and this is my third TTC.  so crazy how preg symptoms can show up and then get BFNs.  for the most part, I know it wasn't my imagination because it was only after some symptoms occurred and I looked em up, then realized they were possible symptoms.  Of course, now that I know, it only makes it worse... "oh, a backache!  is that a symptom?  or was sitting on the bleachers all evening the cause? hmm... " :)  

 

have been cramping differently this cycle than the other two tries.  however, no symptoms at all today except heartburn and this eats away at me, because it makes me feel not pregnant!

 

thanks for the above info re: nwcryobank.  am currently using sperm bank california and didnt really like their attitude this recent cycle (lady in cust svc says "well, you have to send back the dewar ASAP... 7 days is too long to keep it..." even after I explained that I dont often test positive on OPKs and have to rely on temps most of the time-- which means i need the dewar for 7 days).  will def check out nw if this cycle is fruitless. irked.gif

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I told my parents today! My dad and I were chit chatting on the phone and he said he finally almost feels like a grandfather now and I told him another isn't far off. And he asked what I meant, if I needed to tell him something. I paused and he knew! He is in shock. He then had my mom call me after he picked her up from work. She's SOOO excited! Her voice is all high and squeally! I'm so glad they took it so well! I feel soooo much better now! 

YAY!!!

 

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Hi all,

I am excited to join this thread.  My partner and I are going to TTC this month.  I have been on this board a little in the waiting 3+ months, but now we are ready to begin.  We have a 15 month old son.  We will be doing an at home IUI with frozen sperm from a bank.  Our son's donor is no longer available so we are trying with a different donor.  I got my first postpartum AF in June and have been charting since then.  Can I be added to waiting to O?  Should be in the next two weeks ( or less).   Thanks so much.


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AFM:  Well, I am now 8 days post ovulation.  I tested the afternoon of day 6 because my in-laws were in town.  It was negative, though not surprising.  My temps are still toasty, boobs hurt, and I almost threw up at the bus stop.  I know this all sounds great, but I am not sure.   I have a sensitive stomach, and I frequently feel sick when I am nervous.  I basically ignore it.  But since I am in the TWW, I am paying so much attention to how I feel.  It's a feedback loop.  I feel sick, think "wow, I feel sick," then I feel sicker.  For those who have been pregnant, does the nausea/upset stomach of early pregnancy feel different than the GI symptoms you may have experienced before?   

 


For me, the nausea was maybe not as intense as a stomach bug, but more constant if that makes sense.

 



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I just about fell over in shock this morning. My temp is still up so I tested again and I got a very faint positive. I'm not sure what to make of it because it's so very, very faint and I'm 12DPO. My LP hasn't been longer than 12 days since my cycles came back so I'm wondering if this is going to be a chemical pregnancy. I feel like it "should" be darker at this point. Please, no celebrations yet as I'm really not feeling good about this but needed to tell someone! I'm not sure I'll even tell DP unless it's darker tomorrow (I have one test left in the house).


Eta: feel like af is going to show ANY minute...


I am really interested to hear what happened at the RE. A faint positive is still a positive... and 12 DPO is not that late in the game. It's still on the early side for testing.

 



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AFM- Well from NO symptoms and being 6 days "late" to waking up to AF! Guess that means I'm out this month. But we will keep trying. The plus side this month I finally got DW to open up a lil and talk with me about this crazy TTC process and I feel closer to her now.

 

 


Darn! Sorry to hear about AF!

 



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Hi friends! So sorry - don't have a lot of time right now but I wanted to pop in and let you know that AF arrived this morning. Spotting started last night and she came on full force today. We're bummed but excited to try again. I had coffee this morning and you better believe I'm having a glass of wine (...or three) with dinner tonight! I think we'll go out for sushi this weekend too. eat.gif Yum.

 


Have some good food for me, please!

 



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So…today was my first appointment with the fertility specialist and things went well. She thinks my messed up cycle was the result of a cyst---one that is now gone!! Whew!—on my left ovary (a follicular one). I am taking this month off to track and get blood work done to make sure everything is normal (I had some today—a good thing about AF arriving so early!) and then we are actually going to try an IUI in November at the clinic. I am VERY excited to try something new!


Well, that's good news about last cycle... Good luck moving on to a little something more. :)

 

 

 

AFM: I am currently laying in bed watching Desperate Housewives and doing... nothing. There are two strong-looking, embryos- Day 6, hatched, and healthy- snuggling in my uterus. 10 days till blood test and counting! It's a good thing I have a lot of things to keep me busy between now and then!

 


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AFM: I am currently laying in bed watching Desperate Housewives and doing... nothing. There are two strong-looking, embryos- Day 6, hatched, and healthy- snuggling in my uterus. 10 days till blood test and counting! It's a good thing I have a lot of things to keep me busy between now and then!

 



I hope they snuggle in nice and tight for the next 9 months!!

 

 

Afm: My appointment with the RE was interesting. He sent me for a hcg and progesterone blood test and I was supposed to get the results tonight but I recently changed my surname and I think that's why the results aren't showing up in my online account. I'll try and get them tomorrow. ARGH!

 

He asked a lot of questions and gave me a lot of info/advice. He doesn't think there is anything 'wrong' with me. He said if I've gotten pregnant 5 times out 11 then I'm even beating the odds of a 30 year old who is having intercourse with a male (I'm 40). He is guessing that my m/cs are probably because of genetic abnormalities that are just more common as you age. He could very likely be right. He uses progesterone all the time for IVF patients but gives others the choice of whether they want to supplement. He doesn't feel like there is quality research on it but he gave me a prescription for it anyway. He said we can do some testing and he gave me a requisition for a huge list of Day 3 bloodwork and an hsg to see if the shape of my uterus shows anything out of the ordinary. I'm not sure I'll do the hsg...it kind of scares me (even though he told me if I had a home birth then this will be walk in the park lol). He said monitoring and a trigger shot would be a waste of money for me (only the tests are covered by our provincial insurance) because I'm already obviously able to predict my O really easily. Finally, I asked him about clomid and he said that it may help in that it would produce more eggs..which would up my chance of catching a "good" one. So, if I'm not pregnant right now (which I really don't think I am...even though AF still isn't here) then I'll do the blood work, think about the hsg and just keep trying a couple more times before jumping into using clomid. As I've said before, even though I'd be thrilled to be pregnant again no matter what, the idea of twins is very overwhelming for DP and I.


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Just dropping in real quick to say GOOD LUCK!! to KS!  I hope this first round works perfectly and you don't have to go through all this again.  Fingers crossed!! 

 

Also, Carmen, you are on my mind tonight.  I'm sorry you are so hesitant and feeling like this pregnancy isn't viable.  However, you did get TWO positives, so I just thought I'd let this little guy out.  Regardless of whatever may end up happening... you are pregnant and deserve at least one, tiny little vegetable who is dancing his ass off for you. carrot.gif

 

MrsPP, so sorry about AF.  It sounded so promising!  Next time.  

 

csn75, welcome!  

Tilly, welcome!  It's great to have some fresh faces... er, names, in here.  winky.gif

 

We're at the tail end of 6 DPO today.  I wanted to thank everyone for their support in regards to my concerns and drama and doubts.  I appreciate you all so very much.  It was mentioned to me that I haven't been quite myself lately (by my mom, lol) and I hadn't even noticed that I was becoming more and more bitter and short with the people I care about, as well as overly critical and just... angry, I guess.  I hate that.  I don't want to be that way, and the fact that I hadn't noticed really scares me.  I don't want to be that person, at all.  I have so many things to be thankful for, and I need to get a grip and get over myself.  


Seraf, I particularly wanted to thank you because everyone always tells us that parenting our own kids will be different and better, but nobody has ever really been able to articulate how it's different and better.  Of course I understand that parenting our own children will be different than parenting these two... but since foster kids are the only ones we've parented, it's really impossible to know what having our own will be like.  Your talking about the bonding and the relationship foundation makes so much sense and I appreciate you.  

 

With distance inevitably comes perspective.  I'm feeling better, and I hope my wife is feeling better (though she may be less than pleased with me at the moment, since I hijacked the computer to talk to you all and she's gone on to bed).  We love our foster children, and I think that having this community has made me feel so comfortable that I feel like it's one of my few outlets to complain in.  I never mention how funny these little ones are, or how cute, or how amazing it is when they want to come to us and cuddle just because it's safe and comfortable.  I sometimes need to remind myself of all the wonderful things they have brought to our lives, as well.  I accept that they are going home to their mother, and that we are a blip on their radar.  I accept that it's likely they will never remember us.  I accept that there isn't a single thing I can do for them once they leave our home... but until they leave, I can help teach them.  I can help them get caught up, I can try my hardest to give them every advantage possible.  They aren't going to be here much longer, and I feel incredibly torn by knowing that.  Knowing that once they leave, we can have our own permanent family... but once they leave, they'll take a piece of me with them.  

 

Hopefully by the time they leave, my wife will be growing a baby of our own.  

 

Thank you all again, for listening to me whine and worry.  Thank you for celebrating with us, for understanding and supporting.  Thank you all for being there.  Much love to you and yours, from me and mine.  

 

 


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Good luck carmen. I hope you get results soon!


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Carmen---Okk....what is going on?? Any results yet?? smile.gif

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KS--Ahh...that sounds so nice. Keep those embryos safe!

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With distance inevitably comes perspective.  I'm feeling better, and I hope my wife is feeling better (though she may be less than pleased with me at the moment, since I hijacked the computer to talk to you all and she's gone on to bed).  We love our foster children, and I think that having this community has made me feel so comfortable that I feel like it's one of my few outlets to complain in.  I never mention how funny these little ones are, or how cute, or how amazing it is when they want to come to us and cuddle just because it's safe and comfortable.  I sometimes need to remind myself of all the wonderful things they have brought to our lives, as well.  I accept that they are going home to their mother, and that we are a blip on their radar.  I accept that it's likely they will never remember us.  I accept that there isn't a single thing I can do for them once they leave our home... but until they leave, I can help teach them.  I can help them get caught up, I can try my hardest to give them every advantage possible.  They aren't going to be here much longer, and I feel incredibly torn by knowing that.  Knowing that once they leave, we can have our own permanent family... but once they leave, they'll take a piece of me with them.  

 


Thanks for sharing this :) This is what I imagine when I think of loving foster parents....you are doing a wonderful thing for these kids and they'll remember you even if they don't really remember you...if that makes sense :)

 

 

Afm: My temp took a very deep dive this morning so I'm expecting AF today or tomorrow (I'm thinking I had an evap line the first day and was imagining things the second....?). That gives me at least a 13 day LP which is where I was pre DD. So, with an O on CD16 and a longer LP I think I'm in a pretty good spot right now. I'll get the testing done just in case and try again in November. We are heading out on vacation on the 17th to Philadelphia, NYC and everywhere inbetween for a road trip for 2 weeks so I'll probably O for this next cycle while we're away.

 

ETA: *Just* got my blood test results. Hcg is 6 and progesterone is 2.something....so I guess I was pregnant but it didn't work out. Sort of encouraging I guess...just need to wait for that good egg to come along.....

 


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TillyBarry: Welcome.gifI hope that your stay is short & sweet!

 

Sara: I am so happy to hear that you had such a postive experience telling your parents!

 

Carmen: hug2.gif I am so sorry to hear about everything that you are going through. I am hoping that your vacation allows you time to reconnect with yourself & DP.

 

Amt:  Sorry to hear about AF showing up hug2.gif

 

MrsPP: So sorry to hear about the mean witch showing up hug2.gifI am happy to hear that you are ready to get back in the horse! I hope you enjoyed those glasses of wine & sushi for all of us smile.gif

 

Lisdea: I am sorry to hear that you had cyst, but I am happy that you were able to find out what was going on!

 

Csn: Welcome back!

 

KSDoula: How exciting! Hope those embies are getting comfy!

 

Any one that I missed: Good Luck & Baby Dust to ALL!

 

AFM: It has been a crazy hectic week for me, and on top of it all I found out that my grandfather (who is already very ill) is back in the hospital and things are not looking great right now. I am in the process of trying to get a plane ticket so that I can make my peace with him before the inevitable happens. We have our follicle check this afternoon, so my fingers are crossed that we at leats have 1-2 eggies, and I am also hoping that we are not hyperstimulated again. I will check in and update you all later on!

 


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Carmen ... Dropping in to give you a virtual hug for all that you're going through.  hug2.gif I had my pom poms and knee socks all ready to do a dancing veggie cheer for you.


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Thanks Brite!

 

And extra thanks, Starling for taking time out of your new busy family of 4 life to send good wishes.

 

I'll be ok. Sadly, a m/c isn't shocking at all to me anymore. I'm very, very encouraged by how easy it is for me to get pregnant (and have a donor with super sperm apparently!) but I just wish I could get a sticky one soon so I don't have to go through this again. It really does take away any excitement I have when getting a bfp. *sigh* Anyway, I have a 4 day weekend, just had music together class with DD and I'm about to join her in bed for a nap before heading to the park. Not a bad way to console myself.


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Carmen- Sorry to hear the news I hope you both enjoy youselves on your vacation, and start fresh next cycle. Have a lil fun for us all!thumb.gif

 

I've been patiently waiting for AF but it seems like she's taking forever to get here, no pre-cramping, no warning headaches, no nothing. she is normally very regular actually too regular. I must be too anxious to insem for the first time. If i am acting like this now I can imagine how I would in my TWW. Any advice on how to calm myself and focus on other things?help.gif


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Hey carmen - I wanted to let you know I've been following and thinking of you. I'm so sorry about this m/c.hug2.gif

 

I'm glad all was good news with the RE. My partner had the HSG and I had the saline one - not sure if I'm getting the acronyms mixed up? anyways both are the same just one is with saline and one with dye. I wanted to let you know that they were easy and not painful. They were slightly uncomfortable during, and because of the pressure the fluids put in your body - my shoulders hurt afterwards! They actually warned me that they would hurt and I was like... um. why? anyways it was sharp but sight pain and totally okay. Not even on the birthing scale. We just learned that we have open tubes, the shape of the uterus, any other blocks or cysts, etc... so if your only concern is the experience, for us it was just a bit uncomfortable with some minor pain after.

 

enjoy your vacation - Happy thanksgiving fellow canadian ! and rest up because that great egg is surely soon to come...


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I thought I posted the other day but I guess not.

 

Carmen- So sorry to hear that this pregnancy didn't take. I suppose it is promising to know that you are able to get pregnant easily- How frustrating that it's been hard catching a viable egg!

 

AFM- I really think this is going to take. Right now I'm 2dp6dt. They told me that the embryo/s will implant late day 6 or early day 7. Well, yesterday morning I felt some twinges like light cramping in my uterus, very distinct. Last night I dreamed that I was pregnant with two girls. I'm not sure the dream means anything aside from just knowing I have two little girl embryos in me, but I'll take it as a good sign. ;) I'd be really surprised if I'm not pregnant. Today is my last day in CA, tomorrow I fly back home, Monday is an easy day, and Tuesday morning I will allow myself to test. That will be 5dp6dt (or the equivalent of 11DPO.) I got my BFP at 11DPO when I was pregnant with my daughter, so I feel that that is a reasonable day to test.


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