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#1 of 184 Old 06-29-2012, 10:53 AM - Thread Starter
 
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WELCOME TO JULY!!

 

PLEASE PUT YOUR UPDATES IN BOLD!

 

 

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After years of waiting, DP and I are so excited for the arrival of our babies, expected January 2015.
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Welcome to July Queer Conceptions all!!! Lets make some babies! makebabe.gif

 

 

 

Carmen! Congratulations on your wonderful numbers!!!!! I am so excited for you. Let me know when you want me to move your name.

 

Pokey-hug2.gifto you and your DP. Hang in there. It will happen. It is awesome that they have a counselor. I am sure that will be helpful. I have been seeing someone for a few months and she definitely helps me in this process. Will you be doing the Femera again?

 

Darth- I hope the HSG goes well for your DP and everything comes up all nice and clear.

 

Jenny- Thank you so much for the info on Vitex and congrats on losing 30lbs!!

 

AFM- I am 10 DPI today and may test tomorrow morning. I had a fasting glucose test done to test my sugar levels and they came back fine at 83. I am thinking about also doing an A1C test to see if that would show anything. After the advice from you guys I started to look into how irregular sugar levels can affect fertility and I get a lot of the symptoms for hypoglycemia when I get hungry so that makes me think that my sugar levels tend to drop quite often. Does anyone have any experience with sugar levels affecting fertility? I was reading about it online and a few people said that they were able to conceive after eating a diet that helped them maintain their levels and one person said that they had done this experiment with insulin and mice in high school and there were something like 30 or 40 mice all in a cage together, half male and half female, and they were injected with insulin everyday for a certain amount of time and during that time none of the female mice became pregnant. Well after the insulin experiment was over the person decided to keep the mice all together in the same cage and within a few weeks all or most of the females were pregnant. So now I am wondering if there is in fact something off with my own sugar levels and maybe I need to regulate them better.

 

 

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ETA: I have had some light cramping yesterday and just had a very small spot of blood on my toilet paper. I hope this is a good sign!


After years of waiting, DP and I are so excited for the arrival of our babies, expected January 2015.
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Hopeful, if you have a link to share from your research on the sugar issue, that would be great. My concern is more about high sugar than low. I've tried to research whether too much sugar or variable sugar (not in the diabetes sense, but in the afternoon-cookie-binge sense) could hinder conception, but I haven't found much info other than from sources that are generally anti-sugar for nutritional reasons.


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Thanks for the new thread, Hopeful!  My fingers are crossed so tightly for you!  Those signs do sound good.

 

Carmen - That is wonderful news!  I hope the little seed continues to grow and divide healthfully and that you get to see something good on that ultrasound.

 

AFM - I am 99% sure that I am not pregnant, but AF is not here yet.  She would normally arrive today, but may be delayed due to the progesterone.  If it doesn't happen today, I will take a test tomorrow.  My wife got home late last night and was so emotionally exhausted that we haven't really had a chance to talk about what's going on yet.  Poor thing broke her toe the other day too!  It's always something.




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Hopeful: My RE believes strongly that elevated sugar levels can cause problems both getting and staying pregnant which is why I'm on Metformin. And if you read further about sugar levels (whether you believe you tend toward elevated sugar levels or low sugar levels) they can be a contributing factor in infertility. Why? Because ultimately it can mess with your hormones which obviously, play a big role in your fertility.

 

An A1c predictor test is used to determine whether you have a more likelihood towards diabetes and is thought to be a more reliable test than a fasting glucose because it's more accurate. Frankly, you're in a very optimal range for a fasting glucose I think most doctors would find it doubtful that you would have an issue with how your body processes insulin. The study you found supports the theory that elevated sugar levels can pose a problem. But you don't think you lean towards elevated sugar levels. And even in that, you don't have what would be considered a low sugar level.

 

I don't mean to confuse you as you're looking for potential answers but if all your other hormone levels are checking out then it's unlikely your insulin is playing a role in anything.

 

Hope that makes sense!

 

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hopeful: Sounds like you have some promising symptoms going on! Crossing my fingers for you.

 

pokey: You never know............keep us updated!

 

krista: How are things going with your IVF journey?

 

 

Afm: Thanks for the kind words! I'm doing pretty good. I had my final exam today and I ended up graduating top of the class which I'm pretty proud of given what I was going through the last week! I'm also bloated again with mildly sore breasts. I've been having some mild/moderate cramping off and on since last night but no spotting or anything so I'm trying to just relax. I have another acupuncture appointment scheduled for next week - for any of you who don't do it...it is SO helpful even for dealing with the emotional drain of TTC.


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Hiya July ....
Wow June sure has flown right by us....
I'm still waiting for the ugly af to show her face....I finished the progesterone a few days ago so hopefully she gets a clue...it's been two months since I've tried and I'm getting very impatient here .....
I got a bill for my Hsg and was scared to look at the amount....I was so relieved to see I only owed 20.00...love the good insurance:/
In other news we are now licensed foster parents.... We r waiting for the final paper and then wait for calls smile.gif

Carmen great beta ....I know you are scared to hope but I'm holding out this little nugget is a sticky bean!!

Hopeful.... Fx these are good signs ....

Pokey...it's not over until the fat lady sings (af) so i am crossing everything for you!!


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Carmen!!! Yay!!! On my phone so I can't do all the fancies, but my head is full of dancing broccoli over this news!!!

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carmen --- WOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

 

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STICK LITTLE BEAN!


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Still hanging out here in the TWW (10dpo)...I keep making DW pineapple/chia seed/coconut milk smoothies and adding umeboshi vinegar to things...(foods our acupuncturist recommended).

 

We just got a BIG bill from the RE, so we are really hoping that this will be the month...stupid insurance company, ergh!


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Cananny - Congrats on finishing up your foster parent certification!  That was quick.  You have an exciting journey ahead!  Also, I hope AF shows up soon so you can start a new cycle.

 

AFM - I took a test yesterday and it was negative as I suspected.  AF has arrived today.  I'm feeling ok.  I already had my freak out a few days ago.  We decided to try the injectables this cycle to increase our chances of getting a sticky bean.  So the next 2 weeks should be busy with appointments and such.  I'll have to talk to the nurse tomorrow to see what I need to do.  I also got some sad news the other day.  My friend's husband passed away on Friday.  I mentioned her here a while ago.  He had a rare form of cancer and he's been sick for 3 and a half years.  Luckily, they had a great specialist who kept him relatively healthy for most of this time.  They ran out of treatment options a little over a month ago.  The wake is on the 15th so I will be going up to Portland for a few days to be with my friend.  I was prepared to go this week, but I'm glad they are not having the service for a while because that gives me time to do all my TTC stuff and then go visit her without having my own stuff to worry about.  Could I please be moved to Waiting to O?

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Wishin, yuck!  Crossing my fingers that this is your month too, so you don't have to do another round.  :D

 

Happy Canada day to all you Canucks out there!!


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July already? Ugh...things have been so hard around here. DW and I got into a HUGE fight this afternoon and I'm reeling. She's off with my friend, whom she's basically stolen, at her son's birthday party. I couldn't go and face people. 

Have any of you fought like this while TTC? I feel like she doesn't give two shits about how I'm feeling. When I try to talk to her it's like talking to a brick wall. She deflects everything back on me. I ask what I can do differently and she lists fifteen things and then doesn't offer to come my way at all. I feel completely unacknowledged and left out of everything that she's feeling. I have to pry every word and thought out of her and when she starts talking she blames everything on me. She never says anything even remotely like "I'm sorry you are feeling that way." She doesn't take any responsibility. If I'm sharing my feelings, I'm nagging. Goddamit.

Honestly, we've always fought because we are both hot heads, but I'm getting so damn tired of it. I know she is too. Somedays all I want to do is throw in the towel- just cut my losses and leave. 

I'm sorry- I don't want to share any of this with anyone who knows us in real life... is anyone out there to chat?


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Awww Soto, I'm so sorry you're dealing with all this stuff.  TTC sure brings out the worst (and sometimes best) in all of us.  :(  I think parenting can too, so this may be something you guys hash out before there actually IS a tiny human, who doesn't deserve to hear his or her parents fighting all the time.  Our year of TTC has certainly not brought out the best in DW and I... we are currently locked in a battle of wills over my frustration over DW not currently having a job (and me feeling like she's not actually putting forth the effort to find one).  I hope you guys can get through this, you can always try counselling!!  At least then you have a witness if DW locks down and refuses to talk!!


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Pokey - So sorry to hear about AF. A new cycle is a fresh start -- good luck this cycle!

 

Cananny - I hope AF comes soon.

 

Soto - Yuck. I'm sorry you're going through that. It sounds like a pretty bad situation. If you try serious sit-down talks and they don't help, seems like counseling would be a good idea if your wife is willing to go. Have you tried writing down and/or emailing your discussion instead of saying it out loud? It sounds weird, but it can take away some of the emotion, and the reading into one another's tone, so you can make more progress in a discussion.

 

A belated Happy Canada Day to the Canadians, and good luck to everyone who is still in the TWW this cycle!


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wishin: Yum, the smoothies you are making sound yummy! When will you test?

 

pokey: Sorry about the negative greensad.gif I hope the injectables are the ticket for you.

 

soto: Ugh, I'm sorry you're going through that. My DP and I have had some WICKED fights while TTC...and while parenting. It's really hard because it just adds to the stress for everyone and isn't very conducive to creating a perfect environment for conception! It sounds like you both have different ways of communicating and processing things (same for my DP and I). Have you tried not prying directly and trying to get her to talk using a different method? Perhaps she feels attacked. I'm totally not defending her or blaming you...I just know from experience that you can't change another person....just how you deal with them! Good luck...

 

 

Afm: I believe I'm still pregnant....5 weeks today or 1/8 of the way to my due date shy.gif I've been fall over tired and hungry every 2 hours. Only a couple of waves of nausea so far but it didn't kick in until about 6 weeks with DD either. I go between being completely calm and completely anxious. Good times ;) I need to call the RE today and get my u/s set up. Hopeful, you can move me to graduates for June - may as well, I'm pregnant today.

 

Happy Belated Canada Day to everyone! We had lovely day out at Granville Island and then so some friends' for a BBQ. A long day but fun.


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Well Af showed up yesterday along with a horrid flu that has has me in bed for 24 hrs...throwing up is my least favorite thing in the world...today I'm better and actually able to keep liquids down:)

Pokey you and I are cycle buddies ..being we r on injectables I'm sure we will see each other at dr H ...again sorry about your good friends husband... Tough to lose a loved one ....

Wishin.....fx ...insurance is a joke ...I'm fortunate to still have insurance that covers most fertility stuff ... I got a bill and was scared it was going to be exp ..it was my hsg that out of pocket was 20.00 ...I'm not going to have this ins for long so I'm using it up as much as I can !!! I wish we all had excellent coverage !!!!

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Soto: I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through. When they list out the most stressful things in a person's life that can happen (death of a close one, moving, new job) trying to have a child/having a child is right up there. I think the truth of the matter is that it shows a person's true colors. When it gets down to the nitty gritty, who is supporting you and how? I think DW is giving you a very clear message about her capabilities in that department.

 

I'm going to throw out the usual suggestions that can help someone in this situation. Couples counseling? Counseling just for you? Counseling for DW? If DW not into it one-on-one, a class on communication where you guys aren't the only students. I think many people go through this process (or processes like this) and realize that all along, their partner had shown their true colors, it was just easier to sweep it under the rug before because maybe your life was a little easier or you weren't dealing with such large emotional issues. But now, when you're in the emotional turmoil of something like TTC, and you're in serious need of support, you're not getting what you need. And it will only get tougher when a child comes along unless it gets worked out. To take off and not deal with the situation head on is immature.

 

I know it's not easy to make the decisions you need to, but I think you need to set some boundaries for yourself. At the least, get yourself into counseling so that you can openly discuss with a neutral and professional party, what the next best steps are for you. And for your emotional health. This may mean staying together, this may mean a period of separation, it may mean a full breakup.

 

Lots of hugs coming your way,

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Outdoorsy- I like your advice of writing or emailing serious things that you have a hard time talking about. It seems like it can be a good way to get things heard without having an accusatory tone or the other person becoming defensive. I am gonna keep that tucked away for later!

 

Pokey- I moved you to waiting to O. I am sorry to hear about your friends husband but glad you can be there to comfort her. Good luck this month with injectables. I hope it does what it needs to do. Question for ya if you don't mind me asking, is an injectable cycle a lot more expensive than a regular clomid cycle?

 

Soto- I am so sorry to hear that you and DW are having troubles right now. PM me if you wanna talk more or get that coffee we talked about awhile ago. I may not have a lot of advice but sometimes its nice just to talk to someone. 

 

Wishin- When are you guys planning on testing?

 

Cananny- Congrats on getting your foster license! And Yay for only having to pay $20 for the HSG!

 

Krista- Thanks for the info on sugar levels and the A1C test.

 

AFM- BFN 11 and 13 DPI. We are out this cycle just waiting for AF to show. My first BFN this cycle was on Saturday and it hit me kinda hard. I was cleaning out my closet and in the very back I found the Oregon Duck onesies I had purchased 4 months ago at a second hand shop. I took them out and started crying. DW and I had a long talk about being in different spots re: TTC. She says she wants a baby and is ready for one but is also fine if it doesn't happen right now, so its ok if it does and its ok if it doesn't happen. I feel beyond ready to be a Momma. I worry that maybe she isn't ready and will feel like I pushed her into doing this. Do any of you feel like you are in different spots re TTC than your partners? 


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One of the things I think is interesting about being queer and TTC is that by the time many of us decide we are ready to have babies we mean "a baby, NOW"--which in our family means that being ready to start the process of TTC was really when we felt ready for the actual, in the flesh, baby.  This made the whole process of waiting through the trying and the pregnancy much harder--because really we were ready for "a baby, NOW" about 2 years before we actually had that baby.  It feels sort of the same now, we are ready for child #2, NOW!  So the TTC part is aggravating and frustrating and irritating...for loads of reasons, but also because we wish we could just skip the whole process to get to the end result.  

 

Communication has been key for us...and we have seen a counselor a couple of times (prior to DS1) just to process out loud what we were going through. This time has been easier for many reasons--mostly I think b/c we have done the work we needed (together and separately) through our DS's birth/infancy.      Soto, I hope that you are able to work stuff out before you have a baby earthside--for us the first year of DS's life was a pretty tough year (and in some ways harder than TTC).  

 

Anyways, bummer for the BFNs for Hopeful and Pokey--I hope the next month is kinder to you both.  

 

We won't be testing until DW goes for her blood test on the 5th...we are tired of spending money on tests for BFNs.  


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Hopeful - I'm so sorry about your BFN's.  That is a huge bummer.  I had a similar sad moment to your Oregon Ducks onesie when I was looking at the kids backpacks in the LL Bean catalog.  I hope you are feeling better and that you come up with a plan for the future that will work for you and DP.  I'm sorry you are not on the exact same page with TTC.  It sounds like you are pretty close.  It may be that it is more urgent for you because you are the one trying to get pregnant and that when you do DP will be totally on board.  Maybe she will realize how ready she is when she sees a positive test or an u/s picture.  Sending harmonious vibes your way!

To answer your question, yes injectables are a lot more expensive than Clomid.  Clomid cost me about $7 plus $120 for the monitoring ultrasound.  The shots can cost hundreds of dollars and they you go in for 3 or more monitoring ultrasounds.  There may also be blood tests involved.  My insurance covers half of drug costs.  I don't know how much the medicine costs yet, and the cost depends on how much I need to use.  I spoke to the nurse yesterday, and the doctor recommended that I do 5 days of Femara and then 5 days or so of injectables.  It's a little less aggressive and less expensive.  I think she said this plan also does not require the daily blood tests which is a relief because I have squirrely veins that are hard to find sometimes.

 

wishin' - Fingers tightly crossed for you!

 

Carmen - So glad things are moving along well.  I hope you continue to have symptoms but that the nasty pain goes away.  Take care.

 

Soto - I'm very sorry to hear you and DW are having troubles.  I second what everyone else said.  Communication is so important in a marriage, in TTC and in parenting.  Counseling for one or both of you could definitely help.  Our RE's office has a social worker people can talk to.  Maybe yours has something similar. 

 

AFM - Thank you for all the kind words for my BFN and for my friend.  I'm very glad I will be able to spend some time with my friend.  I have been trying to support her from afar, and I'm grateful that I am able to travel and do it in person at this time.  Well, we had a busy day yesterday.  I made all my appointments and then I talked to my wife and we realized we won't have the money for TTC until after we need it this month.  I was very disappointed, but we decided to postpone until next month when our savings will be more robust and I will be less stressed.  I don't always deal well with change so last minute changes really throw me off.  It's probably a good thing because the nurse said I shouldn't leave the area for 2 weeks after taking injectables, and I will be in Portland for several days right after I O.  I think I will be less stressed next month too because I won't be traveling or going to a wake or trying to schedule appointments when nurses and co-workers are all on vacation for the holiday.  I'll still go to acupuncture and try to do all my other healthy things.  I am also getting a massage which I am very excited about!  I need it.  Please move me to Taking a Break.  I'll still be around cheering you all on.  Cananny - I'm so sorry we won't be cycle buddies!  I was really looking forward to that.




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It's possible we're waiting to ovulate in July (30 or 31), but it will more likely be the first few days of August. But we're finally to the time we're just waiting to try. Donor will be in town for a few weeks, so we're just going to relax and try it at home. It's much less stressful than getting all the tests and filling out all the paperwork that would be required if we were doing it at a doctor's office. We hope it will stick on the first try, but of course, we know that's not very likely. Any advice on how many times we should try in a cycle? I'm thinking three (each day starting on the day the LH surge is positive, since that will probably end up being two days before ovulation, day before ovulation, day of ovulation), but I've also heard that male fertility can decrease with time if you try too many days in a row. We just want to take full advantage of donor being here because we'll have to ship after this.

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Hey all, just a quick pop-in from my TTC break to say hi. I'm sorry about the BFNs this month.

 

Pokey, good luck with the injectibles! We're headed that way if our next cycle doesn't work.

 

Carmen, glad to hear things are going well, and sorry you've been having pain.

 

East to West, there are others here with more experience with fresh sperm, but I think once a day for three days sounds good. I can't remember- has your KD had his sperm tested for count, motility, and morphology? Darthtunaqueen can weigh in on the importance of that. Really exciting that you get to try soon!

 

Soto- TTC is hard. Be good to yourselves and to each other. We, like everyone else here, have found counseling helpful at points. We have similar communication breakdowns sometimes. If you can find a method for communicating that works for you both, it will do your relationship a lot of good in the long run. We had a counselor who did some Imago therapy with us at one point, and I liked the model for dialogue that they use.

 

Krista, how are you doing? Where are you in things?

 

Hopeful- I'm sorry about the hard emotions. It sucks sometimes, doesn't it?

 

AFM, AF just arrived, but we decided to take another month off. If we got preggs this month, our due date would exactly coincide with the one major conference obligation DP has next spring. So, we're waiting another month. It makes more sense timing-wise (late spring baby would make for a nice summer off), but I'm anxious to get started again. We go north to the promised land of Provincetown in just 3.5 weeks. I cannot wait!

 

Sorry for everyone I'm missing. Hugs to you all.


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easttowest - your plan sounds good. Multiple insems per cycle is one of the big upsides of fresh sperm, so you want to take advantage of that as much as possible, but more than 3 is probably unnecessary. From what I remember reading, it's true the sperm count can drop a little with frequent tries, but not so much that the tries aren't worthwhile, provided everything is OK with the guy's sperm.


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EasttoWest: on the three times we got pregnant we insemmed day before O, day of O and day after O. Not sure what the magic was there, but so you have it. Most REs will tell you getting ahead of ovulation is most important so you might want to consider two days prior to O to cover all bases. We didn't necessarily mean for it to work out that way, it just did and it worked for us. As for sperm count, in a young, healthy male, ejaculating every 24 hours and not waiting the obligatory 48 hours in between is going to be fine. Sperm counts are most likely going to still be good. If he's older, and if you haven't had his sperm tested, it may be worth timing it every other day to give him time to recover.

 

AFM: go for my egg retrieval tomorrow. Talk about fireworks! It's been a rough beginning. At first I was doing well and responding to meds as expected, then things kind of slowed and they weren't so sure so they pushed me another day on the meds. That seemed to work and it looked like we had enough to move forward. But this is only one of many hurdles we have to get over so one step at a time. We leave for vacation in the Sierras on Saturday and I am oh-so-excited!

 

Happy Fourth to all, no matter how/why you celebrate it!

 

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Krista - Good luck tomorrow!  I hope you get lots of healthy eggs.  We are all rooting for you.  And have a great vacation!

 

Angela - Happy vacation to you too!  Enjoy the rest of your break.

 

easttowest - I agree with the other folks that the timing sounds good.  Good luck!




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wave.gif Hello everyone,

 

I have been reading the forums for a long while now so I thought I would officially join in with the conversation. All of you ladies are so motivating and inspiring!

 

I will start by telling you about our story: I am 30 and my DP is 31. We live in Oklahoma (ultra conservative state...ugh), but I tolerate it most days. We have been together for 7 years this October.

We always wanted to have kids but we had to wait until the finances lined up and I graduated from nursing school. Originally, I was going to carry first, but last Christmas, DP had the idea that

we both carried together. I was completely baffled by this, considering she never even wanted to carry at all until 2 years ago! I was overjoyed though and intrigued at the prospect of twins in the

house!! So we both began charting on FF in March this year. We had our first at home insemination with frozen sperm with DP in June...BFN greensad.gif I think the timing was off.

 

We were literally down to the wire at the end of June awaiting her testing and/or AF, so we overnight shipped the sperm for my insemination in the nick of time. She started the morning I got my 

sperm shipped.  I am now 7DPO and knee deep in the TWW ugh. I am excited yet apprehensive, bc I know the odds the first time around...I will try and wait to test on 13DPO.

 

I am glad to be here and share this experience with you guys!

 

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Ooohhh can I ever chime in about the importance of getting a count, motility and morphology done PRIOR to insemination.  On BOTH ends (the TTC and the post "oh hey our baby has this incredibly rare chromosomal defect that is so rare it doesn't even have a name, but our baby is incompatible with life and living on life support in the NICU" part too).  The TTC end is simply frustrating, the actual-baby-made end is devastating and sickening to watch.  The latter is incredibly rare, we see maybe 2 cases a year (out of the 45,000 babies born in BC every year), but we're pretty sure our KD's abnormal morphology meant that we were conceiving, but DW's body was dumping the pregnancy because it was abnormal (she does a lot of meditation for her body to keep and grow a healthy pregnancy, and to terminate if it's abnormal).  

 

Krista, GOOD LUCK with your egg retrieval tomorrow!!!  I'll rub some babies at work for you and send their magical baby dust your way!!  :D


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Hi everybody,

 

I tried to post a while ago but for some reason it would not post...I would like to be added to waiting to know please.

 

If this post works, I will repost my little story...I think I may be doing something wrong though.

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