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#121 of 267 Old 11-15-2012, 07:23 PM
 
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Granite, The crazy thing is, mye state has mandated coverage for fertility treatments nd such (specifically IVF), BUT mye job's HQ is based out of FLorida, so we have florida insurance! UGH!! I can't remember if mye clomid was covered, but it cost meeh $17 (5 pill 50mg). You're right about the principal, you would thing we'd get a break for trying sometimes multiple attempts. I think the more you try the cost should go down! Two thumbs down for all the health insurance that doesnt do what we pay it to do!

 

Sotohana, Welcome back! I remember seeing you around when I first joined a few months ago. Glad you're getting back on the TTC train though! I don't know much about lengthening your LP, but i'm sure one of these amazing ladies knows! Lise helped meeh out earlier..i was curious about fertilitea. Good luck on the upcoming cycle I hope the best for you all!!

 

I'm still waiting on word back from mye OB on her thoughts...i've sent her 3 emails in 2 days lol! I keep thinking of different things to ask about switching up the protocol!


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Sotohana, Welcome back! 

 

Thank you Fmorris! Did she say fertilitea was good or bad? What are your thoughts on it now?

 

Another thing I forgot to mention to y'all is that since the last time I was on here, I've started writing for a website that y'all might like. It's called The Seattle Lesbian. You can find it here: www.theseattlelesbian.com smile.gif


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So, with that, I'm wondering if anyone can tell me what they've done to lengthen their luteal phase. Mine is only 9-10 days long. Other than that, I think I'm doing okay. I have good cm and am very regular with my period. I experience normal pms symptoms and I just got off caffeine- finally! I do acupuncture currently and am taking some herbs that she prescribed me- three pills three times daily (so, 9 pills total). 

 

Have you tried vitamin B6? You should take a larger than normal dose to see effects but it's pretty consistent in helping out in a lot of cases. My LP was short the first few post partum cycles. I took 100 when I was still nursing DD. B6 can have some side effects with really large doses though so check with your health care provider if you aren't sure what you should take.


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lisedea - I used to drink that brand back in the day when we were ttc three years ago, and it didn't have an impact that I know of. This is a naturopathic dispensary blend of just three, so I wonder if it was more potent…or maybe still just a fluke (although I believe otherwise and I'm not willing to risk it).

granite - you get the tank refilled by taking it to a place that sells liquid nitrogen. I went to a air/gas, welding supply specialty place. It cost $20 and they said three other people had brought in cryobank tanks. The woman wished me luck and told me to come back when I'm pregnant! The tank was still cold when he they guy opened it, but it was totally worth the peace of mind to know it's good until next Thursday.
 
It surprises me that clomid is $100 per cycle as it's available her for $5-10 per cycle at most big pharmacies. My non-covered progesterone is expensive though.

sotohana - welcome back! For short-ish luteal phase and low/declining temps half way through, I've done acupuncture, tried a new tea (see above for info about the negative results), in the past did TCM herb pills, selenium and B6 supplements, and now with this cycle I'm planning to use progesterone suppositories.


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Sotohana - I have 9 days as well. I tried Vitex for many months (my charting starts in 2008) with no effect, I am taking vitamins B (currently 300% the daily dose) but don't notice any influence either.
Since I am afraid to waste a lot of money by creating fertilized eggs that just can't implant properly due to such a short LP, so we decided to get it fixed by heavier stuff; progesterone pills that I'll take after ovulation. A hcg trigger short also helps produce more progesterone. I had a blood test run two days after O that confirmed my low progesterone levels and we also ran an ultrasound to make sure I am actually producing an egg. I was told that sometimes a short LP and a weak temp spike mean that the woman makes eggs but they don't ripen enough to get to the stage where they can be fertilized properly. I wanted to rule that out.

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Hi ladies,

 

Sorry I haven't been around much- teaching 11 hour days as well as doing lots of photography is keeping me busy smile.gif I promise to do better next month!

 

I saw the specialist yesterday to find out what the process for us TTC here in Guernsey. The news unfortunately wasn't what I wanted to hear. The only clinic on Guernsey is now not doing IUIs anymore as the regulations were getting too complicated for them so we have to go to England and the cost is ridiculous - close to £2k each time we try which is prohibitive as well as we can't use the donor we wanted to. The good news is that we can try at home but it looks like I have PCOS and which I'm still waiting for confirmation on. The doctor isn't sure if he can prescribe Clomid if we're looking for home insemination as he can't be seen to be supporting it so we have to look at our options.

 

The good news is that he did a scan yesterday and thinks I should be ovulating next week so we quickly put in an order last night for next week, the complication that DW is away in Sweden for work so I'll be on my own!

 

I'm sure things will work out but they look to be even more complicated than I had first thought.

 

That's about it I think - as I said I promise to be more responsive to others soon once I have a moment to breathe!


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Welcome back, sotohanawave.gif I hope your stay is short and successful!

 

How goes the OPKs and insems, darcy and joy? FX for you! I am looking forward to having some company in the TWW.

 

Afm, sitting here at 9DPO. Waiting, doubting, hoping, repeat...


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joy- I would make sure you are getting the generic progesterone.  One time my prescription was for the brand name and I paid $70, another time it was the generic and I paid $7.  I pay 50% for fertility meds.  They looked exactly the same.




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Sphinxy:  I bet you are getting ready to test here pretty soon... Thanksgiving isn't too far (or the day before!) Is that your 14DPO? Really hoping you graduate this round!!

Also, I am with you, and thank god for what easttowest said about temping... I hate it! I guess everyone does it differently and as long as there is enough data to go on we should be good. Some people like to have a full month of temps and that's good for them!

 

mrsandmrs: That guy sounds awful. I'm sorry he was arrogant. And awesome on the open adoption meeting- I totally get you- just need a baby in this house!! 

As far as my eating plan, I am not really doing anything specific but using fitnesspal to count calories and eating healthier. Lost 5 lbs so far! It's been about 5 weeks. So that's good.

Seems healthy and I feel better. 

 

sotohana: looking forward to getting to know you!


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Ooh! thanks for all the suggestions y'all! Right now I take 9 pills daily of an herb called Woman's Treasure: Nu Bao Pian. My acupuncturist gave it to me. It includes fluorite, cistanche (cistanche salsa), curculigo, tang-kuei, peony, rehmannia, cynamorium, deer antler, red peony, salvia, astragalus, cyperus, ligustrum, hoelen, epimedium, cuscuta, and licorice. How's that for a long list of nonsense! lol :) I have absolutely no clue what it is supposed to do for me. Basically I just smiled and nodded when she handed it to me. 

 

I think I will check with my regular doc, though. Perhaps they can test me for my progesterone levels and give me a trigger shot or something. I am just so tired of waiting, waiting, waiting. Maybe if I was 25 then I could be patient, but I just turned 31 and I know I don't have forever to wait. 

 

Sphinxy- fingers are crossed super hard for you!

 

Lizbian- that cost is super high. I'm so sorry about all of the barriers you've been experiencing, but I'll send up some prayers that none of it will matter and you'll get your positive test very soon.


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scorp - Thanksgiving would be 15DPO for me, my first day of actually being "late". DW is getting AF today, and we keep telling her cramps not to give my uterus any ideas (my cycle is longer than hers, last month we got AF the same day!). Anyway, yes, I am getting close to testing. Right about now (9DPO) is when I start biting my fist because I want to test SO BAD but I get all crazy thoughts about jinxing it by testing too early, or what if I get a false negatie/false positive, yada yada I just want this wait to be over! I forgot who it was last month who starting chanting "do it, do it!", but I can hear them again this month, and the voice is coming from the direction of the storage cabinet in my bathroom...

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Good luck Sphixy, and hang in there!  Not to start anything, but we got our BFP on 9 dpo last month, and someone else (Erin?) got hers the next day.  But I completely understand the appeal of waiting, too.  Whatever you decide, I hope it's  an even happier Thanksgiving for you.  :)


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Question for people who like the Brill book - do you have a preference of "The Essential Guide" (2002), or "The New Essential Guide" (2006)?

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I hope everyone is doing well, I feel like I haven't been on the board for a week or two now, I can't keep track!

 

Good luck to all in the tww & everyone tcc.

 

afm - our meds & "goods" are ready to go for our next try, now we're just waiting for AF to arrive so we can have our cd3 u/s and start the process. AF should be coming within the next 2 weeks or so. We chose a new donor for this round which I'm pretty excited about.


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Sphinxy - Thanks for checking in. We're still in the opk (and cervical position, and fluid and temping) phase, hoping to insem sometime this weekend. I have a phone consult on Monday with a nurse practitioner at the fertility clinic we plan to use within a couple cycles. If I haven't ovulated by mid-week we'll call this cycle a bust and see about storing our vial locally or shipping it back to the bank.

Re: Brill, I haven't read the 2002, but I have the 2006. I'd go with newer info as fertility research changes rapidly.

pokey - Thanks for the advice. My rx is for Endometrin which is new and not generic. I could ask for generic, but I did some research and feel comfortable with the additional cost, which through my HMO is less than most folks pay.


 


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Sphinxy - Both inseminations went well! We did the first yesterday at 3:30 and the second was done at 10:45 this morning. This morning I got a positive on my OPK at 5am and I just tested when I got home at 3:30 and it was negative. Also tested positive yesterday morning at 9am. Hopefully the timing was okay. I felt dull cramping on my left side in the middle of the night last night so I am not really sure what that was. The nurse told us our samples were good. The first one was 17 million and today it was 18 million. I am still having some mild cramping and very light spotting. How exciting that you will be testing shortly! What do you do to help pass the time?

 

How early can I test? I am not sure when I ovulate because I don't temp.


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Herzlich Wilkommen, Frederike!  freut mich dass Du uns gefunden hast.  i graduated from this room about 8 months ago, but i wanted to come by and welcome you, because a) we're neighbors (bin Amerikannerin wohne aber in Frankreich), b) my DP and i went through a lot of the same difficulties you're having while TTC  c) we used a Danish donor and d) i have a very long history/love affair with Germany and the German language.  here in France, we have absolutely no access to assisted reproduction (it's completely illegal for doctors to help lesbians get pregnant), and they won't even let you ship sperm into the country.  my wife and i ended up going to Belgium after a very frustrating year of inseminating at home with a known donor.  it was a pain in the ass having to take off work and drive to another country twice a month, but after three months, it worked out for us.  i hope the at-home inseminations work for you.  and wouldn't it be funny if our kids had the same donor?   anyway, wave.gif


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Welcome back, sotohana! Good luck with the luteal phase.

 

Joy, I love your story about filling the tank... You totally have to go back to see them once you're pregnant!

 

I'm am so sorry for the news about your TTC options, lizbian; it seems so crazy that you'd have to travel to England. If there's one thing I've learned from these forums, it's that home insemination really does work, and it sounds like you're going to make it  happen.

 

Sphinxy, FX for you!!! My copy of Toevs/Brill is 2002. When I bought is (secondhand, online), I already knew that we'd be doing IUIs at the clinic, so decided it didn't matter if I had the most up-to-date version.

 

Glad you found a new donor that you like, SanDiego!

 

AFM: I just found out (like, an hour ago!) that my company needs me to go to the interior to do a project this upcoming week... Leaving Monday morning, driving to a far-off mountain town with my foreman and another guy, and working our asses off until the job's done, which will take at least four days but maybe 6 or 7. 

 

Days during which I am likely to ovulate.

 

It's possible for me to refuse, but I'm a "foreman-track" apprentice and the only remaining member of what used to be a crew of 8 (the others got laid off or moved to crappy construction sites)... Not to mention that I'm one of two women in the whole district, the only out queer, and a decade older than most apprentices, therefore have something to prove (whether I like to or not!).  Construction projects have slowed down for the winter, and I'm struggling to get more than 20 hours of work each week... So a week of overtime pay would be extremely helpful.

 

Still, I'm frustrated. Is this cycle going out the window? Tomorrow's u/s will show if the clomid worked this time... Maybe it didn't... And maybe it did but I won't even ovulate until I get back... Or maybe I'll just miss out on this try, and hafta get over it gloomy.gif


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Sotohana, She hasn't come back yet...normally 2 days she's followed up..looks like i'll be waiting till monday. I am anxious to hear what she thinks! I'll definately let you know! And i'm going to check out ur site too! Just won't let meeh right now at work lol

 

Lizbian, Sorry to hear all the hurdles you're having to jump through to make a liddle one! 2k Pounds is a lot! Thats about $4000. Just try to stay positive because this is indeed a journey. Good luck with everything and hopefully you'll have some great news for DW when she comes back!

 

Sphinxy, Hang in there! You're close to the finish line. I've got fingers crossed for you!

 

Sandiego, Good luck with the new donor! Hopefully that'll do the trick on ur upcoming cycle!

 

Granite, Sorry about the frustrations. I understand how it is when things come up at work like that. You have things planned then here comes something unexpected that you really cant shirk off. Hope your appt. tomorrow shows you what you've been wanting nd that the clomid started a party in your ovaries! Keep you're chin up, bc its not over until its over! hug2.gif


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Woke up at 4:30am, took a test, BFN. Does anyone out there have an example of someone who got a BFN at 10DPO and was still actually pregnant?


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Sphinxy - One of my dear friends got a BFN 14 days after her IUI. She tested positive the next day and her db was just born last week. It's still very early!


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scorpio: So glad things are going well with KD! He sounds like a great guy. I know what you mean about the parenting...DP and I have had more discussions about parenting than probably anything else. I just want to do the best job and I worry all the time that we won't be the parents we think we will.

 

outdoorsy: So glad the ultrasound went well, congrats!!

 

sunander: Bummer about the timing but how great that you can help out. A friend of mine just got back from being deployed for just over two weeks. 

 

welcome darcy! Hope your stay is short and sweet here. 

 

mrs: Bummer on the 2nd opinion. I think finding a dr. of any kind is one of the most difficult and stressful situations. My wife actually got banned from a whole family of clinics and hospitals because she asked her new dr. to address her concerns about medication and side effects, the dr. ended up basically calling her crazy. Now that our health insurance has kicked in I am not looking forward to finding new dr's. ugh. Good luck with your next steps forward, I wish we could adopt..maybe one day. 

 

welcome back esenbee! and welcome friederike!

 

joy: what a funny story, I'd love to be somewhere when same sex marriage passed? Is everyone still on a high? 

 

granite: bummer about missing ovulation. I'm sure we will have to deal with that a lot in the coming months. DW travels a lot for work as does KD. 

 

sphinxy: there's definitely still time for a bfp

 

afm: Great news, I was offered and accepted my dream job this week. I'll be making quite a bit more than I anticipated so life is great. We are going to start looking at houses in the next few weeks, thank goodness because trailer living is getting a bit chilly. DW wants to wait until june/july to start insems because she doesn't want a winter baby. I guess we'll see what happens there. On a side note I have been nannying for a close family friend with 18 month old twins for the past few weeks, and all I can say is WOW! I don't know how people do it. They must be extremely talented and energetic, and I wondered a few times if I really wanted my own babies or not. Then I realized I do and that when your own babies poop in the tub, while the other is peeing on the floor, it doesn't stress you out (as much). 


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popping on to say hi. . 

 

sphinxy. . yes, I know many folks who got a BFN at 10 DPO and even know two different people who did not get   BFP until 15/17 DPO though I know that is rare.  Don't give up hope!  Rooting for you! Oh and I have not read the 2002 book but loved the 2006 book re  Brill. 

 

Welcome to the new folks and returning folks.  friederike, essenbee. . sorry if I am missing folks, I read everything but then can't always scroll back so it's a bunch of trusting my old, sad, memory! 

 

granite.  .sorry about the bad timing of work trip, we had to miss a cycle bc things were out of our control for timing and it seemed like the next cycle would never come but of course it did. . hope you just O later this time and still get a chance and if not that your egg next month is your meant to be little baby! 

 

sotohana. . welcome  back, I def think acupuncture can help with short LP but in the end if natural doesn't progesterone is your friend. . I swear by my acupuncturist though .. I think she did miracles for me!  good luck and thanks for the congrats 

 

fmmorris that's annoying about insurance and hope you figure out the perfect protocol

 

joy, that is annoying about insurance.  i feel like giant co-pays add insult to injury on the whole stress of this all!

 

Okay, hope everyone is well and ROOTING for you all! 


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Thanks, everyone. I feel like I've needed a lot of reassurance this cycle and you've all been very patient with me! Today is 11DPO, and I'm a little crampy. It is so easy to get down and believe that AF will be here soon, I just keep trying to remind myself that outdoorsy's cramps were a good sign last month. No testing today, maybe tomorrow. Sending you all good thoughts!

My wife (30) and I (32) have been legally married since 2006. We are proud queer mamas to baby W, born 10/10/2013.
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Thanks for the support, all...

 

The u/s yesterday showed that I have one really nice big follie, almost ready to go. They ran my blood work in the afternoon, and then I went in again for another draw this morning, and signs point to ovulating on Tuesday. So... Yeah, there's no way I can negotiate that disappointed.gif. I even looked into sticking around here for Monday and then flying to meet up with my coworkers in the evening, but there were no flights that fit and anyway I'm not sure the $300 cost would feel that great if I got a BFN (Of course, if it turned out to be a BFP, anything would be worth it!).

 

The other crappy thing is that the clinic is closed Dec.23rd through to the 2nd or so of January, and while it's possible I may just squeak in under the wire, I'm not very confident I'd be O'ing again in time. But, we'll see! And anyway, I like the idea of a new start in the new year.

 

Also looking on the bright side: My body responded to clomiphene! And didn't over-respond! Yay.

 

Congrats on the dream job, 2justicemamas!

 

And Sphinxy, I've still got FX for you...


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Oh, granite. I continue to be impressed by your ability to find the lessons learned and stay positive. That is a frustrating schedule of events for the rest of this year. I truly hope that the stars align for you, sooner rather than later. Safe travels!


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Hi, all. Scorpioma, can I be added to the TWW? Here's my chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/fillefantome.

There's been a lot going on since I briefly broke cover from lurking back in September and then promptly disappeared again:

I had a preconception visit with an OB at the birth center I'll be using if and when. She was very nice and encouraging, but spent a lot of time discussing my weight and how much easier pregnancy would be if I lost weight before getting pregnant. (I have Type 2 diabetes, so I’m very aware that any pregnancy is going to be the unfun kind with lots of medical nagging. No eating for two for me!)

Also, J (KD) and I each got a lawyer (expensive-especially when you consider that any contract won't be binding!), and we have a donor contract drafted.

Lots of questions from both the OB and the lawyer about whether J had been tested for STIs. (I chose not to mention the fact that he’s very sex-positive and in an open relationship, as ultimately it’s none of anyone else’s business. He gets tested often; I’ve considered the risks; we’ve talked about the risks; and I’m confident that he won’t do anything to put me in danger.) It’s weird all the things that we do pre-TTC that folks who’re making a baby via the PIV route don’t ever consider.

We weren't planning to start trying until January, which is why we don't have a signed contract and J hasn't gotten a semen analysis done yet. But, I was visiting him this weekend and figured we might as well give it a try when it doesn't require a $400 flight. (At worst, it would be a good trial round, to get over the insane weirdness of handing J an Instead cup and asking him to jerk off for me.) I usually O around CD18, and was only able to insem once, yesterday on CD14, so figured the odds were pretty low that we’d hit the right window (though I have wishful thinking in the “KD with an insanely high sex drive=supersperm that live for a week” department). I haven't been using OPKs or tracking CM, since I wasn’t going to be able to time the insem beyond “while we’re both in the same city.” (I cared more about making sure I temped so I would know what day I had O’d, and I wouldn’t make myself quite as crazy in the TWW. Of course, I forgot my thermometer when I head out on my trip and had to buy a new one on CD10, which means the earlier temps are going to be useless. *sigh*) Lo and behold, my temp was up sharply this morning, so we may have insem’d on O. Or, it could just be a random spike--I did have a drink last night, on the premise that it always seems to work for straight women, and I know that can push your BBT up. Anyway, what’s done is done. I’m vacillating between the optimistic hope that I might have awesome beginner’s luck and carefully reminding myself that it can take 6 months for even someone with no fertility problems and hot and cold running sperm to get pregnant.

So, I am no longer a sperm-free zone, and I’m officially in this game....

Side note: I have spent the past two weeks having the vaguely surreal thought that I could technically already be pregnant (since pregnancy is dated from LMP). It’s like Schroedinger’s uterus... pregnant and non-pregnant until you look inside.

36, hoping to have a new member of the family in 2015, to join my queer clan: Me , Things 1&2 , my long-distance KD/cheerleader (the guy who's been telling everyone what a great mom I'm going to be) , and the rest of the superheroes and sidekicks .
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congrats fillefantome!! Glad you decided to do a trial run. I hope the trial is IT!

 

I laughed out loud when you wrote "it seems to work for straight women," I totally have the same thoughts when I have a drink near a fertile time.

 

Sphinxy: hope you're hanging in there- this part is the hardest, for sure!

 

afm, 


I have to make this brief, but I am also using KD and waiting on sperm analysis- but we got a CLEAN BILL OF HEALTH for the other tests!

So happy and grateful about that, WOW. ROTFLMAO.gif

We are either going to try with him (I am writing the contract myself, happy day being a law student) December of January. More news on this soon.

 

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also I added fillefantome's chart to her name so if anyone else needs that just let me know !


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Thank you at all for the very nice welcome. That is one busy board here, I can barely keep up. thumb.gif

 

granite - I am sorry to hear about the bad timing this week and the closed clinic over christmas.

 

I want to try really hard to get the first insem in before christmas because I feel it would be so neat to get an extra present in case of an BFP and I'll have plenty of distractions in case it doesn't work. I am dreading meeting my sister though, who is pregnant for the thrird time. It's getting harder not to feel jealous.

 

2justicemamas - Congratulations on the new job. Good luck with your house hunting and a possible move!

And you're right, it's probably not as bad when it's your own kiddos peeing on the floor, throwing up on you or keeping you awake all night. At least I hope so, because on the occacions I co-slept with my nieces and godchildren I wasn't happy with it at all.

 

Nosreves - Hallo und Grüße nach Frankreich. You live in Paris? That is amazing, I love love love the city. The architecture, the clothing styles, the food, the arts. One of my closes friends here is French. But yeah, sometimes it sucks to live in Europe. Were you affected by the demonstrations against Hollande's reforms?

We're further ahead in some areas (marriage) and behind in others (reproduction, adoption) as compared to the States. Assited reproduction isn't illegal per se in Germany, there aren't any laws against inseminations (only surrogacy) and in Berlin some clinics treat lesbians. It just isn't really regulated that the mother of a child can't possibly sue the doctor for child support, so a lot of doctors don't do it for legal reasons or only on a case by case basis. So there's no market for it and it is unreasonably expensive as conpared to the US. What annoys me most is that I would get everything coverd by health insurance if I had a male partner who was infertile instead of paying 700€+ each try. Our state actually provides additional financial coverage for IVF procedures for straight-married couples dealing with infertility. How I would love to start a lawsuit on that. Our bank started shipping to private customers in all European countries sometime eralier this year, probably including France, too. I am waiting to find out how the goods are declared on the paperwork. (We live in a house with lots of elderly couples, it would totally crack me up if they had to accept a package for me with some kind of "Danger - human sperm inside" sticker.) Is your donor from Cryos International too? That would indeed be very cool if we found a half sibling. I know our bank has very restrictive regional quotas that limit the number of pregnancies by the same donor in one country. Right now we haven't picked yet. I looked at profiles but didn't really feel any draw towards a particular person. I think I'll simply pick somebody with a very consistent high sperm count in the samples, reported pregnancies and who has darker hair and isn't overweight.


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