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Old 12-05-2012, 03:48 PM
 
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What is your name? Liz

What are the names/pronouns of your partner and children (if you have any)? She/She, 'the kids' are the 3 dogs & the cat

What method are you using to get pregnant this next cycle? ICI as can't do IUI or IVF where I live

What do you and/or your partner do for work? I'm a photographer & teacher, DW is an accountant

What state/province do you live? UK - Guernsey

What is the most exciting part about this TTC time for you?  the thought that we'll hopefully extend our family & be able to pass on what we've learned to a little one

What is the most difficult part? living on an island with hardly any support, not being able to try most methods on the island & having to pay so much to get stuff shipped to us.

 

In answer to the question about who we've told, just a few close friends and the in-laws. I'm not telling my family until I'm 3 months as I very much doubt my parents are going to be supportive initially & I don't even know if it's going to work.

 

Unfortunately one of our friends who knows happens to be my boss & she told her boss that we are TTC next year which I wasn't very happy about as she didn't ask first.


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fille - Have you thought about shipping sperm?  That's what we did, and it worked the second try.  Kits run about $100, and shipping overnight runs about $100 (less if you don't hit a weekend, which we always managed to do), so it was only $200 each month.  I understand if you want to do it in person, but know that that's also an option if it keeps your KD happier.  

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mrsandmrs - thanks for the info! this is the first time we will be getting it delivered so I appreciate knowing we can get it refilled. 
 
scorpioma - yes, it's more about when I will be getting the trigger shot and hoping that the follicle is big enough to trigger before the tank runs out of juice. My bank doesn't do weekend or Monday deliveries so I have to get it delivered on Friday in case Monday is the day the doc says to inseminate...And yes, the timing thing definitely can make me crazy!
 
friederike - I think it's liquid nitrogen but I will double check. We don't have a basement but I will store it in a dark closet. Thanks!
 
fillefantome - so sorry about AF - It was a relief to me when she came because I could stop wondering. 
 

 

What is your name? Darcy 
What are the names/pronouns of your partner and children (if you have any)? Meghan/she
What method are you using to get pregnant this next cycle? IUI w/frozen WTBK sperm, trigger shot and mid cycle ultrasound to help with timing :)
What do you and/or your partner do for work? I am a Behavior Specialist for adults with disabilities (best job ever) and DW is a Behavior Specialist for children with autism 
What state/province do you live? CA
What is the most exciting part about this TTC time for you? Finally getting started. I have wanted to be a mom since I was in my early 20's and it's so exciting that we are finally ready to do this together. 
What is the most difficult part? worrying about running out of money for sperm and insurance not covering IVF 

me (35) married to dw (28)
TTC#1 with frozen swimmers 
IUI #6 Dec 2013 BFN
IUI #7 Jan 2013 BFP finally but the bean didn't stick
IUI #8 TBD
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Hi everyone! I haven't been on the board in a few weeks I hope everyone is doing well.

 

I think I mentioned that my wife & I experienced a very early miscarriage/chemical pregnancy 2 cycles ago and are now back in the groove.  We're currently doing injectables again, and hope to insem next week.  We just had our cd7 u/s tonight, and they want us to increase our meds.  Poor baby, my wife now gets 3 shots instead of 2 per night.

 

Joy - congrats!

 

Hoping for lots of bfps on this board, good luck everyone!


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Sphinxy, i love the good positive thoughts you've got going! Glad your swimmers are there..best of luck with the insem!

 

Samy, Hopefully AF will stay away and thats not pre- AF cramping. FX for you!

 

Scorp

, Those are good butterflies! Best of luck

 

fille, i love how you've got everything planned out. structure and planning is essential to this process...as nothing will ever be an "accident" . Two thumbs up!

 

Sandiego, Sorry about the CP, but it's so Good to see you guys are back in the game. Hate that your DW has to get all those shots! i've been kinda anxious (not normal) about the trigger for some reason..i've convinced DP that she will HAVE to do the sticken! Good luck to you all.

 

AFM, just heard back from the OB, she transferred mye RX to the other pharmacy i found so now i'll be getting mye Novarel for around $75 with free express shipping as opposed to $210 at walgreens on mye corner! Thank goodess for Google search nd mye relentless spirit to find a better deal!


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Fille you sound very well organised with everything, sorry AF arrived.

 

fmorris yeah I'm hoping it wasn't pre-AF cramps although it felt like it, I had it in the morning and then evening.  Congrats on finding a better deal with shipping.

 

lizbian fingers crossed you get your knee sorted quickly in time to TTC asap.

 

AFM I'm 6DPO today and my temp went up .2 which is a good sign. My pregnancy tests still have not arrived in the mail, so I still can't test yet which is driving me a bit crazy! So fingers crossed they arrive today and I will test tomorrow at 7DPO with FMU finally! (you can tell im not doing well in this tww haha) I just really really really want to know either way right now...and to be honest im going to be quite distraught if it didn't work this cycle as the timing was perfect, the insem was on the day I O'd. Plus I've calculated I won't be able to see my donor next cycle as O will be right around the holiday period between chritsmas and new years and there is just too much going on for us to meet up! So it will be an extra long wait if this didn't work....trying to remain hopefull for a BFP...come on mail!


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Fille - I am sorry to hear about AF, but I just love how positive your are about everything. As a total bay-making newbie I am going to take your positive attittude as a role model. Oh, and your OWL program sounds really great (it does remind me of Harry Potter though).

 

Lizbian - hope the knee MRI results turn out good.

 

SanDiego - all the best to your wife and good luck for next week. Once we have moody teenagers they better appreciate the pains we went through to have them orngbiggrin.gif

 

fmorris - wow, that price difference is crazy!

 

Samy - om.gif for your test.


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hey everyone!

 

fille: Boo on the BFN/AF, but seriously, awesome attitude. That is what gets us through this. I know what you mean about post AF emotions- so much more balanced. That is a sort of silver lining!! Also, your lawyer is way too MIA... If you'd like me to look at it, I am happy to... I wrote our contract and had a friend lawyer review it (because I am only a student). Let me know!

 

samy: Wishing you luck! I don't think very many people get BFPs so early but I will probably be testing then too!

 

SanDiego: Welcome back! So happy to see you! Hope you are feeling better in your hearts. How is DP?

 

A LOT of EWCM this morning, so tonight we inseminate with KD for the first time. DP will be driving to his house tonight, though, which is about 10-15 minutes away, bringing the sperm home, and inseminating me. How exciting! I think I may get a positive OPK today, but if not, I def. should tomorrow or Saturday. As soon as we do, we will insem. again and then the following day.

YAY!

I am using the test strips and the Clear Blue Easy OPK as well. The more tests, the better, IMO. Ha!

 

more updates after insem... oooooh !


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Fille - Sorry for the BFN but happy for you that you have such good strategies for moving forward. E2w makes a good point - shipping may be cheaper than plane tickets. I know of a few people who have gotten pregnant with those kits.

 

Lizbian - Best of luck for good news from your MRI!

 

SanDiego - Sending out so many good vibes to you and your wife!

 

Samy - Sending you positive and patient thoughts! How many tests did you order? Do you think you will test daily once they arrive?

 

Scorpio - My buddy! It's insemination day! We made it! Hooray! I am so excited for you - this insem plan sounds perfect! I have my fingers crossed so tight for you and your DP biggrinbounce.gif

 

Afm, after a negative OPK late yesterday afternoon (both the Clear Blue and the internet strip), I couldn't stop thinking about that nearly positive OPK that I got mid-day on Tuesday. DW and I decided not to insem last night because though I had a lot of CM, it was more creamy/watery than EW. But then this morning my temp creeped up just a tiny bit, as it would typically the day of O, and my ovary swelling sensations were not as strong as they had been for the past 48 hours... So we went ahead and did an insem! I am just trying to think positive thoughts and visualize the sperm finding my strong little egg that I've been feeling growing. My O dates over the last few cycles have ranged from CD16 (today) to CD21, so I will keep taking OPKs and we will see what happens. I know there is a chance that we did it too early since I never actually got a full positive OPK... since we almost didn't try at all this month, I feel like we just have to trust ourselves and let it be what it will be, I am charting and writing down everything so that if it doesn't work we'll have the data for next cycle. We have one more vial in our tank, and we are taking it one step at a time on trying to figure out when to use the next one. But we just didn't want to risk missing our window if that OPK on Tuesday truly was my surge. 

 

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fille -so sorry to hear about the BFN.  don't let that positive attitude diminish!

 

scorpio -good luck with insem!  let us know how it went, plus when you get a temp spike!

 

AFM -I got sick the next day after my sleepless night.  Think I must have been on the verge of getting sick, and probably would have been able to work through it, but not having any sleep must have multiplied the effects times 20...  I left work early on Tuesday -feeling nauseated all morning and afternoon (probably from the coffee I had in the morning mixed with the prenatals and extra folic acid), by Tuesday night I could barely move andI was whimpering and turned into full blown crying when DD would NOT go to bed for TWO HOURS after we put her to bed!  I had plans to put her to bed at her normal bed time -8:15, watch my Tuesday night TV show, ending at 9:00 and hit the hay myself.  Didn't get DD to bed til 10:30.  I was absolutely dying.  I woke up feeling okay, but by the time I got moving and ready for work, I was feeling right back to horrible, so I called in sick.  I did a complete overhaul on the laundry.  (Which I have problem about doing the laundry, but not putting the clean stuff away...  I absolutely DESPISE folding socks, underwear, and putting shirt after shirt on hangers...)  I had to take breaks every 15 minutes or so, BUT got it all done!  My mom was even nice enough to bring DD home, instead of me having to get her, and she brought us KFC so I didn't have to cook!

 

Feeling okay now, good enough to come to work...


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Sphinxy -how often do you do the OPK tests?  That almost positive could have been on the tail end of your surge, or a screwed up test strip.  This next cycle I plan on testing every 4 hours to catch the beginning of my true surge.  I found the Dollar Tree $1 OPKs again, so I will be going to ones all over town to stock up for next cycle, they only have a few at a time at each store.  This cycle, the tests did great at giving a strong positive MUCH darker than the control line.  I think the instructions on the test of testing once a day in the afternoon is a good plan for those BD a few days to get pregnant, but for us using FS vials or other donor specimens, the timing has to be MUCH more precise.


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esenbee - Yes, I agree. As it has been getting closer I increased to twice a day, and then these past few days it's been three times a day. On Tuesday, I got my strong almost positive around 11am, a slightly lighter one at 3:30pm, and then one with a very faint line at 7:20pm. So like you said, I do think there is a chance that it was the tail end of my surge fading out. Now I am going to keep doing the OPKs three times a day for this cycle until I get a clear 3-day temp shift showing ovulation.


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No + OPK yet. We are insem-ing tonight and then will test with OPK again tomorrow and go from there. 

Like Sphinxy, who is my same-timeline-for-everything buddy, it is possible that yesterday my dark, but not dark-er, OPK was the end of my surge, but it's hard to say. I think more likely for me I have not gotten a surge yet.

 

Tonight's insem. will cover my bases, hopefully, just in case. I have been taking OPKs two or three times a day with the test strips, and will continue to do so.

Then we will probably insem. again on day of +OPK and day after, depending on how things go.

 

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Okay, having an emotional moment...  I knew better, but I took a look at our chosen donor's baby/childhood photos again.  I started gushing over how darn cute he was as a kiddo and that turned into being weepy....  I want this soooo badly!


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oh, esenbee. i have done that to myself too. hugs. 

 

this thread is moving so fast it's hard to keep up!

 

welcome back sandiego! it looks like we're practically cycle buddies again. im CD7 today and our first follie scan is tomorrow. i hope the injections are going ok for you two this month. i have been icing my injection sites and it seems to help a lot. 

 

fmorris - we do our injections across my stomach, 2 inches or so below the line of my belly button. did your doc give you injection instructions? it hurts a little afterwards and i've had some minor bruising but it's not as bad as, say, a tetanus shot. 

 

fille - you asked how our son feels about our TTC. he's not involved in the process, like he doesn't know we are doing shots or when we go to appointments. from a theoretical level, i think his reaction has been pretty much what you'd expect from a teenage boy. he doesn't get excited about change. he likes our family how it is. things like that. also, our family has a fairly flat decision making process and we're pretty egalitarian parents, so i think it is weird for him to not "have any say" in the decision.  i'm sure it's a lot to think about for him. 

 

holy mackerel we have a lot of people on the verge of moving to the TWW, huh? i hope we get an avalanche of BFPs from santa. i anticipate i will be testing around xmas time, as in, 14 DPO might  actually fall on December 25th. Crazy! you know how office mates and roommates cycles kind of sync up over time? it seems like ours are kind of doing that? 

 

afm - i have cycle day 8 follicle scan and bloodwork tomorrow. i feel like a vessel for giant ovaries, but i felt the same way last time and there was not a terrific response. those gonadotrophin injections are a wild ride. i don't have most of the side effects i had with clomid, but the new ones are crazy. like, i am outrageously turned-on all the time. like, all the time. it's kind of embarrassing? i feel like a teenager. my poor wife has been taking great care of me with daily (!!!) massages and delicious meals and a lot of attention. it's like living at a spa, only she keeps stabbing me with needles. 


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What is your name? Mrs. ;) 

What are the names/pronouns of your partner and children (if you have any)? She/She. Our kid is He. Our dogs are he and she. Our cats are he and she. Our chickens are all She, thankfully.

What method are you using to get pregnant this next cycle? follistim+trigger shot+wtbk donor from TSBC IUI 

What do you and/or your partner do for work? nonprofit  and emergency services, respectively.

What state/province do you live? washington state, home of gay marriage. 

What is the most exciting part about this TTC time for you? the potential for things to go right, i guess. oh, and the daily massage and doting attention from my wife doesn't hurt. 

What is the most difficult part? money, stress, invasive medical procedures, and the uncertainty. really, i could deal with everything if i *knew* it would pay off, but i don't know that. we have no idea. 


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 it's like living at a spa, only she keeps stabbing me with needles. 

 

Seriously, still laughing! ROTFLMAO.gif

 

And yes, mrsandmrs, it does feel like our cycles are oddly syncing up! It is really nice to have that support and company. I am so looking forward to the peer-pressure let's-all-poas-at-the-same-time phase. winky.gif Good luck tomorrow!


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Wait, mrsandmrs!  You, me and Sphinxy will all be testing around Christmas time!!! My 14DPO might fall on Christmas day as well!

HOW FUN IS THIS.

I might be confused, mrs, are you inseminating tomorrow?

 

Our cycles are totally syncing...anyone else?

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sphinxy, im glad that made you laugh. i keep thinking "this would be perfect, if not for the stabbing."

 

santa, load up your wagon with positive pee sticks! 

 

scorpio --- i am cd7 now and i will probably trigger by cd 10 or around there. it's hard to predict how the follicles will grow, but you don't usually go to cd12 without triggering according to my doc. usually i take the follistim until we trigger and then insem 36 hours later. so, if i trigger on cd10 (which will be sunday dec 9) i will insem on cd 12 (tues, dec 11) and 14 days later would be the 25th. of course, i'll test before that. because i am naughty and impatient. it will either be the best or worst christmas ever! 


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Thanks for the low-down, mrsandmrs!

This is going to be an exciting Christmas- 3 tww-ers!

 

fillefantome, please move me to Waiting to Know!

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Samy, Sure hope you're feeling much better and not crampy! One good way to wait is for preggo tests to come..its so hard when you know they're in the house! I hope the best for you and have everything crossed! Nd man I feel like I've earned that deal as much as I searched lol!

 

Friederike, Isn't it? Odd thing is mye state has mandated insurance coverage for IVF (including meds and such), BUT mye lovely job's corp. headquarters is in Florida who doesn't have any coverage insurance wise! The crappy loopholes always find meeh!

 

Scorp, just reading your post had meeh excited. A KD would be great, but i have the strangest inner feeling there would be A LOT of hassle. Yous guys are lucky! Best of luck with the insem!!!!!

 

Sphinxy, you're on top of things, I sure hope a BFP is in store for you!

 

Esenbee, Being sick is NO FUN. In the last week I've gotten a stye, had the car door slam on mye wrist (that still hurts like hell), and gotten bit by something unknown on mye foot! Hopes that it will blow over asap coming your way! I sure know how you feel about the laundry...i've still got to do mine which im absolutely dreading. You'd be hanging for days if you saw all of DP's t-shirts! She changes clothes sometimes 3 times a day! Atleast you got it all done though..until next time lol! And this whole process is an emotional rollercoaster, i've been in your shoes many times. It gets better.

 

 

M&M, She did give meeh instructions. I don't know what it is about it..i am not afraid of needles..mye mum is a nurse and was bringing mye flu shots home since I could remember. What the hell is making meeh so anxious about this injection! I had blood drawn for a check-up monday with no issues! Maybe i'll get brave soon! And about being turned on all the time...the best thing about us being women! lol "

it's like living at a spa, only she keeps stabbing me with needles. " i absolutely love that quote! gave meeh a needed laugh!

 

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Good luck to everyone trying this cycle, what an amazing gift a BFP would be for Christmas!

 

AFM 7 DPO today and my temp went up again by .2 which is the highest temp this cycle so far, hopefully that's a good sign. I can't believe I'm still not testing, but they have not arrived in the mail and I don't want to waste money on buying something twice so im trying hard not to get one from the store! Surely they will arrive today and I can test tonight and tomorrow with FMU. Had some pre-AF type cramps a bit last night again and generally starting to feel a bit pre-AF-ish but trying not to be disappointed too soon...


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DPO 14 is the 25th for me too, so I'll be testing on christmas day as well :-)

AFM - UPS tracking is great, it tells me our tank has already visited Denmark, Sweden and Cologne last night. It's like those christmas websites where you can watch Santa travel across the world.

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Liz, fingersx.gif for good news on your knee and a speedy journey to TTC, and samy, fingersx.gif for a BFP!

esenbee2, hope you are on the mend!

SanDiego: so glad to hear you guys are getting ready to try again. Sounds like the whole kit and kaboodle of you waiting to O are inseming in the next week, which is exciting!

Speaking of which, Sphinxy and the inseminators (what a great name for a band!), don't forget to let me know when you want to moved into Waiting to O.

Friederike: the OWL program makes me think of HP too. It's short for "Our Whole Lives" and they had it before JK Rowling, but it's still amusing. If only we taught sexuality education and basic wand techniques!

easttowest/Sphinxy: I have definitely considered shipping sperm, but KD's volunteered to do it this way (for now), and it gives us a whole lot more flexibility on timing and the ability to insem multiple times (trip costs will probably be $350-$400 per month, roughly the equivalent of 2 shipments). But, if he gets travel-weary, shipping is a great back-pocket strategy. And so good to hear that fresh sperm shipping works, not just in the theoretical, but from someone whose good luck baby dust-laden HPT is sitting in my bathroom!

scorpioma: thanks for the offer to look at our KD contract. I think we're okay. These are just hoops to jump through, for future legal purposes, as J and I have already talked through all of this stuff extensively. The contract looks virtually identical to what I would have done, cribbing from internet templates, so it's not like we needed lawyers, except to provide external legal validation of our non-binding contract. We're clearly just a low priority (even for these smallish VT law firms). The funny thing is, there were just two changes from the original version--J discussed them with his lawyer, J and I agreed, I emailed my lawyer, she had already talked with his lawyer and was going to email draft language to him for approval. This was in October, but since I literally got charged for checking in with her for an update, I'm more than willing to bide my time to avoid spending more money on this formality. And, next time, it's J's turn to play prod the lawyer (I'm paying, so it'll still be my money being spent to remind someone I exist, but more efficient, since the hold-up appears to be on his end.)

Thanks, everyone, for all the kind words about my positive attitude and forward planning. Believe me, in real life, it's a lot more touch-and-go on both fronts, but it was nice to get that feedback.

I let KD know this month was a bust (Actually, what I emailed was "So, yeah, our 'I happen to be passing through your city' timing was insufficient to the cause, and your valiant sperm all fell in the fruitless attempt to stay alive for 6 whole days."), but didn't actually mention scheduling January, not wanting to be super-pushy. He wrote back and said "We should start up again after the holiday season. Let me know when in January or Feb would be good for you." So, yeah, mid-Jan, hopefully we'll be on-track for a well-timed bunch of insems. I also passed along the SA info to him (thanks again, easttowest, for that tip), so he can get an appointment set up. I love that while I'm freaking out about being a burden, asking too much and how much/little he wants to know about my cycle, J is a full-on participant. He really wants to do this for me, it's not just a big ol' way-too-much-to-ask favor that he feels he can't say no to. (I'm totally tearing up thinking about how awesome he is, and how awesome his kid would/will be.)

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fille your donor sounds great!

 

Update -my tests just arrived and I got a BFN greensad.gif... i'm not giving up hope as I'm only 7DPO which i know is early to get a BFP anyway, and plus it wasn't FMU..felt good to test though ha. I'll try not to test again until tomorrow morning when i can use FMU and will be 8DPO.... should i worry if that is negative? lots of people seem to get positives at 8DPO.


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Hi guys,

 

Sorry to threadcrash, but I wanted to share some very sad news, and I know that not everyone here reads the Queer and Pregnant thread. Nosreves (who many of you know from her long time on this thread) had her son on Wednesday, and on Thursday he died of meningitis. There's a bit more info here:

 

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1366994/queer-pregnant-and-parenting-november-december-and-january-2013/180#post_17193965

 

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Wow. What a fun month for holiday babies...

Hopeful Christmas testing BFP's:

Sphinxy

mrsandmrs

scorpioma

Friederike

 

Inseminated last night with KD... He was at home, this first time, and DP went to get the sperm in a little jar, kept it warm and safe, then came home and did the deed!  Wild.

My temp spiked a little this morning so we're hoping I'm ovulating (per usual) today. It's so hard to know.

 

fille: thanks for being a fantastic threadkeepeer!

also, really glad you and KD are on for January. It would be so hard to wait longer, I'm sure! Onward!

 

samy: I think 8DPO is still pretty early. My midwife said the earliest HPT was 10DPO for anyone, although I could be wrong. 14DPO more typically.

Is that right, others?

 

esenbee2: about the known-donor photos... I totally know. Those emotions speak to how intentional this pregnancy and how wanted this child will be. Hugs!

 

Friederike: Your sperm are world-travellers!!  winky.gif

 

FINALLY:

If any of you send me your email in a PM, I will send you our KD's baby photo. Just to pass the time and for fun! You'll love it!


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Sphinxy and the inseminators (what a great name for a band!)

OMG, I love this! guitar.gifjammin.gifdrum.gif

 

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santa, load up your wagon with positive pee sticks! 

 

Yes!! We've been good!!

 

You all are keeping me so entertained, much appreciated! 

 

fmorris - Thank you so much, I do feel better equipped this cycle. I so wish you were inseminating with us all, but we can't wait to cheer you on in January!

 

fille - Thank you for the reminder. Even though one insem is done, I am going to wait until the after the second one to have you move me. I can only handle being in one state of waiting at a time! I absolutely love reading about your relationship with your donor. How beautiful. You may be single, but I swear, you've got more support going on than some partnered people! 

 

samy - Holy cow, no - you should absolutely NOT take it as a bad sign if you get a BFN at 8DPO! There are some people on these boards who have reported not getting their BFPs until 13, 14, even 15DPO! I am wishing you much sooner relief than that of course, though! You can get through this TWW!

 

Frederieke  - Yay! Another member of the band! (still funny!) That is so cool that you can see your swimmers playing hop-scotch across the continent! 

 

scorpio How's it going, lady? Did ya get your + OPK yet? I thought of you last night! fingersx.gif

 

joy - If you're still out there, we haven't forgotten about you! Wishing you all the best in these early stages.

 

Afm, still waiting on the signs that say it's time for our next insem. I have talked myself into a positive place about yesterday's try, because if I am a multi-ovulator, it is possible that there was a first egg after Tuesday's OPK and if so, we could have caught it. Took my first OPK of the day and got a negative, but there was some fade in so I have hopes for maybe a positive later today. And I got some good sleep last night which was awesome. I think the restorative yoga class that I took last night really helped (it's basically meditation the whole time with a few gentle stretches om.gif). 

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Thanks for all the input on the paid maternity leave.

 

To answer some of the questions: I just started so it'll be two years until I get the 4 weeks paid time off. If we wait, I will get about 6 weeks paid time off. If we don't it would be about 2 weeks paid and another 2-4 unpaid. I'm 30 right now, which isn't old but isn't young either. I work for a small nonprofit, we have a long term disability plan, but not a short term plan, as far as I can tell. I don't want to ask too many questions yet since I just started and the woman that had my job previously left to have a baby. I plan on staying here for quite a while so I don't want to send the wrong message.We could easily save up a months worth of my salary, so it is definitely doable to go ahead and start trying with or original plan in March, but it would certainly be nice to have those 4 weeks paid and be able to take off a couple more weeks as well. I think it might be worth getting some basic fertility tests done before we decide, I don't "feel" very fertile so I worry that it will be hard to get pregnant. Last night while we were lying in bed, DW told me she was really sad we might have to wait longer to start trying, it was really cute.

 

Exciting with all the insems coming up, wishing you all luck.

 

File: Sorry about the BFN, love your energy..it sounds like you have some great things coming up.

 

Rs11: Glad to see you back

 

My thoughts go out to Nosreves and DW. So sorry to hear the news.


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Samy -I most certainly would not feel discouraged if you get a negative at 8 DPO.  I try to not to test until 12 DPO (implantation 10 days, 2 days to concentrate enough hCG), but I have been known to test as early as 9 DPO because of DSp pressuring me.

 

AFM -feeling much better today, but I can definitely feel worn down by the end of the evening.  In TTC news, I've just been charting away, learning a lot about my cycle without feeling anxious about possibly being pregnant.  Glad we decided to wait a cycle before trying (unlike last time), but it was largely in part to a possible plan in the works to go DSp's family reunion in the Philippines.  That is planned for early June, so I don't want to be too far along in my pregnancy to cause complications (labor on a plane = generally NOT ideal........).  Didn't want to be more than 25 weeks pregnant because of the risks, as well as, I want to be able to enjoy the Philippines (and not waddle around being miserable) because it will most likely be the only time I would get to visit.


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