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Welcome queer, pregnant and parenting folks!


This is the late winter/early spring thread, for the months of February and March 2013. 

If you want to be added, just post in bold with your due date. Also, if you have recently had your babe(s), please chime in with the name and birth date in bold. If your information is not correct or has changed, please also post in bold so that I can get it corrected!!

Pregnant - due dates: 

 

March 2013

withlittlelungs, EDD 3/15/2013

 

May 2013

KnittingTigers, EDD 5/2/2013  (twins!)

wishin'&hopin', EDD 5/15/2013

 

June 2013

PokeyAC, EDD 6/17/2013

Outdoorsy

Cordelia15

easttowest, EDD 6/23/2013

erinTNgirl, EDD 6/23/2013

CocoBird, EDD 6/11/2013

 

July 2013

Tourneymama, EDD 7/4/2013

 

August 2013

Carmen 358, EDD 8/7/2013

 

September 2013

mrsandmrs & Bigfoot, EDD 9/6/2013 (twins!)

esenbee, EDD 9/20/2013

 

October 2013

Sphinxy, EDD 10/10/2013

 

November 2013

granite

escher, EDD 11/24/2013

baby.fatty, EDD 11/30/2013

sotohana, EDD 11/25/2013


Graduates

 

lisedean, Sawyer, Elliott, and Miles, 3/24/2013

Cananny, August, Gage and Finn, 2/24/2013

KateAdele, baby girl, 12/2012

Nosreves, Elio Sol, 12/5/2012 - 12/6/2012   candle.gif

MidwifeStephPDX, Lucie Rain, 10/25/12

Planet, Wylie Blue, born 9/9/2012

DesertSunsets, Everleigh Jane, born 9/1/2012

dandylez, Adair Seamus, born 6/28/2012

KSDoulaMama, surro-babe, born 6/27/2012

SwtRainbowBrite, Riley Sophia, born 6/25/2012

PleasantlyFurious, Zoe Aurora, born 6/22/2012

SmilingSara & Seraf, Soren Dare, born 5/2/2012

PrettyIsa, Edith Josephine, born 4/18/2012

Ad Astra, boy/girl twins, born 4/11/2012

Onemommyonemama, Sage S., born 3/21/2012

Qmama42, baby girl, born 1/18/2012

Indigo and DP, baby girl A, born 1/8/2012
CrystalPerez, Cohen Anthony Perez born 12/12/11

glassesgirlnj, Annamaria Sigyn Estelle, born 11/28/11
Mami2mami, Layla Janae born 11/22/11
DAWNMP1, Raya Sylvan, born 11/10/11
2ezforyou, Jagger Stone, born 11/2/11
Seraf and SmilingSara: Shay Brock, born 11/1/11
Escher: Son, born 10/24/11
Julietea8: Rowan Kathryn, born 10/16/11
Starling&Diesel: Hawksley Solace, born 10/2/11
AmyPDX: Alexander Cole, born 8/7/11
AmandaHope: Lilah Nyx, born 7/24/11
Pigirl: Son, born 7/22/11
Mizyellow: Harrison, born 7/20/11
Painefaria: Keegan, born 5/23/11
Cejae: Emmerson and Parker, born 5/22/11
Imogenlily: Soloman Dov, born 5/3/11
2HappyMamas: Baby, born 4/16/11
Bttrflygypsy: Elliot Graham, born 4/15/11
LibraryLady: Alice Meredith, born 4/8/11
Wehrli & jenmostoften: Silas Scott, born 4/4/11
Gumshoegirl007: Addison Alexis Réal, born 3/24/11
Beastie: Esther, born 3/13/11
Burg: Reed Kylie, born 2/05/11
Korey: Baby girl T, born 1/30/11
Coco99: Chloe and Charlie, born 1/30/11
Abeecharmer: Twin girls, born 1/10/11
Mtnlisa: Josie Anne, born 12/18/10
Kimlyn32: Kacey Elaine, born 12/13/10
Erthe_mama & fsonj: Vida, born 11/23/10
Monarchgrrl: Sophia Elizabeth, born 11/2/10
Quasar & Smartycat: Charles Jeffery, born 10/29/10
Mistral: Olivia Grace, born 10/18/10
Lyndzies: Cadence James, born 10/15/10
FTMPapa: Elise Ember Soliel, born 10/3/10
Megan_sacha: Zivia Littlewood, born 8/23/10
Mpkgoddess: Catherine Margaret (Cate), born 8/18/10
Osker & H: daughter, born 8/11/10
Jjnoho: Sam, born 7/8/10
Megincl & Ktcl: Wylie Grace, born 7/4/10
Ksdoulamama: Grace Elizabeth, born 5/17/10
Pleasantlyfurious: Leo Sebastian, born 5/16/10
Kelly: Asa Brent, born 4/29/10
Wishin'&hopin': Henry, born 4/10
Indigoscot: son, born 1/24/10
Kjm: Kale, born 1/12/10
Carmen358: Skylar, born 12/30/09
Kelmendi: Simon, born 12/23/09
Babyfatty: Henry Earl, born 12/9/09
Beth: Hazel, born 11/19/09
Scalpel: Nathan Fisher & Maxwell Edward, born 11/3/09
Denny_Zoo29: Dekaylee May Katherine Bond, born 10/29/09.
Jodybird511: Asher, born 10/9/09
Wazzmum: Tate, born 9/15/09
Raene & River: Cedar, born 8/30/09
DM630: Amelia, born 8/14/09
Ninefirefly: daughter, born 7/31/09
Serenekitten: Asher, born 7/21/09
QTRANDI: Rudy, born 7/7/09
JennM1021: Alexander, born 6/29/09
Lexbeach & Lena: Leo, born 6/26/09
Heart-N-Bones: Ella Grace, born 4/22/09
Quasar & Smartycat: Raymond Joseph, born 4/5/09
Pranava: Zion, born 3/24/09
Giggleblue: "A", born 3/16/09
Pigirl: Baby, born 1/30/09
Starling and Diesel: Esme, born 1/30/09
2happymamas: Colette (Coco), born 1/5/09
Simcon: G, born 12/28/08
MujerMamaMismo: Sebastian Felix, born 12/21/08
Tigermiep & M: Anders Xavier, born 12/11/08
JenInMpls & Jo: E.W., born 10/24/08
Becca: Phoebe Joy, born 10/9/08
Scalpel & Darcie: Alexis Jean, born 8/29/08
Venustx: Levi, Sage, and Jillian, born 8/12/08
AngelaM: Ocean Rae, born 8/10/08
Mamimapster: Jocheved (Julia) Hadassah Bat Sara V' Miriam, born 7/15/08
Kk_davey: Grier, born 7/7/08
MollyKenzie: Lucy & Edie, born 6/18/08
Rightkindofme: Shanna Francesca, born 5/24/08
TheGirls: Alexandra Kathryn Stay, born on 5/12/08
Thismama: Zelda, born 5/6/08
Mamastotwo: son & daughter, born 5/2/08
Msjodi: Delaney Cait, born 5/1/08
Jentina & Sarah: Ellis Thomas, born 2/20/08
NZmumof2 & Leah: Florence, born 1/23/08


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shiny new thread! hello! i got a snoogle and slept really well last night! 

 

also, pokey, our EDD is 9/6/13 and we're having twins, can you update that when you have a minute? 


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pokey -DSp was nervous about raising a girl the last time around. Has since done great with it..

AFM -just been snacking away. Went to grocery yesterday and bought about $100 in snack food to munch on to try to curb the nausea. Pretzels, cheeses, snack mix, tomato juice, fruit. Second night in for trying Unisom and B6, so we'll see how it goes in about a week or so.

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Hi Pokey - I'm glad you're excited even though you originally wanted a girl. It's pretty cool how knowing the sex makes it seem more real! I think the same would be true for me, but we decided to hold out for the surprise. Still, I'm dying to know!

 

AFM - We had a scare last weekend. Got the call Friday that I was above normal, in the "borderline" range, on the alpha fetoprotein test, which can indicate spina bifida and two other things, one of them fatal. I dropped everything and went to repeat the bloodwork. Then, on Monday, we found out the second test was in the normal range. The genetic counselor said that means our risk is no higher than if we'd gotten the normal result the first time. Phew. Still waiting for the results of the genetic test for trisomies.


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Yay, new thread! I like the bi-monthly idea.

 

Cordelia - Sorry about KD's mom. That is tough. As for the teenager, we did not drop the twins news on him yet. We still feel like we want to see them on that 12 week ultrasound even though it may be arbitrary. It is getting increasingly hard not to talk about it in front of him with our parents calling us frequently to talk about it. I have gotten to the point of confusion, where I will talk about "the baby" when DW and I are alone and she has to correct me. Each of our moms is asking us every single time we talk when they can tell people. Somehow getting the same answer each time doesn't help them remember, I guess. We wanted to tell them early since we each have sick dads and they were really in need of some good news. It is really hard not telling people! I broke down last week and told my work BFF since she knew we were trying and asked about it.

 

A friend of mine suggested special dates or things to celebrate the big milestones, like 12 weeks and 20 weeks. I love that idea! Our good friends already planned a big dinner out with them to celebrate when we hit the 2nd trimester. Did anyone else celebrate milestones? Also, how superstitious was everyone about purchases? We have decided at 12 weeks we will start thrifting and crafting since both can take a lot longer, but we will try to hold off on new purchases until... 20 weeks? 


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bigfoot--We are going out with our friends tomorrow night to celebrate finding out it's a boy.  We also had ice cream sundaes last night to celebrate and also to reward DW for putting together some furniture all by herself.  I guess I am kind of superstitious about buying things.  We have received a couple small gifts, but we have bought only a few small things at 20 weeks.  Finding out the sex gave me the urge to go shopping though.  I may pick up some things this weekend.  We have also been waiting until we can clear out the room, and that should be done soon.   

 

outdoorsy-I'm glad the results came back negative.   That must have been really scary.  I'm excited to hear your other test results.  It sounds like a useful test, but I don't think they offer it at my health plan.




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Oops, just posted in the old thread!

Cordelia, I'm also sorry to hear about KD's mom. You are very sweet to be so supportive - what a good friend.

Outdoorsy, eep! Glad it turned out ok the second time around.

Bigfoot, no we don't really celebrate milestones in pregnancy...not for any particular reason, just don't lol of course we're both hyper aware of going week by week though!

We don't need to buy much for this second baby except a car seat and maybe a few more items of clothing. But we are both kind of superstitious about buying stuff before baby arrives in some ways....last time we asked our friends who were throwing us baby showers to hold off until after DD was born.

Btw, what's the etiquette for showers for second babies? Do you have them? DD's was more like a "meet the baby" thing and we'd like to do the same again but don't want to do anything socially awkward....I'm SO out of the loop on these types of things and the unspoken rules surrounding them....

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Cordelia - So sorry about your friend's mother, and how much more emotional it must be that she is your son's biological grandmother.  Sending you, your friend, and his family my best.

 

For Cordelia and others who have used a KD - Do you have any ideas of ways to involve them in the pregnancy, or ways to thank them for such a big gift? I sent my brother an ultrasound picture today, but I'm not sure what else I should be doing.  When we were planning to adopt, there were a lot of ideas for birth mother gifts, but actually carrying a pregnancy seems like a much bigger deal than donating sperm, and women are more likely to appreciate a gift of jewelry with their child's name or what have you.  I talk to him about once a month and give him an update, but just wondering what others have done.

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Planet.... I am totally bummed that DP cant take more time off than a week.. But being in the nanny career we do not get a lot of time off or accrue vacation time, sick time , ect.. But a week is better than none :/

Advice on your mom and Wylie.. I really think it will all be ok.. Your mom loves him.... and this is great bonding time for them.. I am sure that your mom is feeling a bit nervous and watched and has not been able to really relax with the baby yet.. I think they will find their own groove and they will work it out .. My mom does not agree with the things we want.or plan to do.... but she is coming to help with the babies.. I know that she loves them.. and at the end of the day the little bit of time is not going to screw them up ( ha right).. We will be spending the majority of the time with them.. Grandmas mean well.. I never had to chance to know either of mine.. so as much as my mom drives me crazy.. It is important that the boys have grandma in their life... As for the bottle  thing.. he wont starve.. He will either take it or he will wait for you.. try the next size nipple and the key to getting babies who are BF to take a bottle is being very consistent.. meaning even if you are home.. he gets a bottle every day.. having DP give him one a day should not hurt your supply or your nursing relationship .. Try and see the time your mom is spending with the baby as a blessing....In the end I truly think it will be ok :) I also second the ball idea.. they are great for babies :)

 

Carmen.. I think that is exciting you are waiting.. I am to much of a planner to not know :) And glad to hear DD is taking it all :) I bet she will be a big sister

 

Pokey.. Oh I think you are going to get a good stash of hand me downs.. since there are 3 boys from us.. and our friend who gave you the pump is saving stuff for you too:) I love hand me downs~

I also like the idea of a monthly or bi monthly thread :)

 

Big Foot/Mrs.. I was soooo nervous to buy things.. but DP was buying things early.. I had to get over it because I would not be working meaning no extra income.. so we bought the things that were important to us . we had the cribs by 15 weeks because we got a good deal on them.. I freaked out when we bought the triplet stroller.. I felt I was jinxing things whenever we bought 3 of something.. I wont even let DP throw out the car seat boxes.. I am still very nervous about having 3 of things.. but since the boys are coming soon.. I am relaxing a bit more... We also had our shower early ( 20 weeks) because of holidays and me going to be on bed rest.. ... So i think buying things or making things is all about what you are comfortable with... Mrs.. I love my snoogle.. it takes up a lot of the bed. but it does not help me sleep any more...

 

Cordelia.. So sorry to hear about KD mom.. hopefully your little one gets to meet her...

 

Outdoorsy... Sorry about the scare .. but so glad the 2nd test came back ok.. Pregnancy is full of emotions and scares.. but the good outweighs the worry most of the time.. How many weeks are you now?

 

Afm.. boys are very active lately.. I think they are just bigger so I feel them a lot more.. I am nesting and feeling the need to buy things for them.. even though we really do not need anything.. ,.. we do need a diaper bag still .. and we are debating on getting a video monitor.. Our house is not that big so I feel a regular monitor would work.. but I kinda like the idea of being able to see them... but then worry I will obsess about seeing them.. LOL.. any opinions ? We also need to get the carseats installed at some point.. 

I finally agreed to having a maternity photo done ...DP has been asking.. ive been saying no.. but found a good deal online..so I agreed. .. since this is the one time Ill be pregnant...


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Thanks for the new thread, pokey!

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Pokey, thanks for the new thread! :-)

Cananny, thank you for your thoughts. I agree with you..it is just so painful to watch/hear her with him as he screams. With us he so rarely does that. We try to give then space to hang and and not watch over her..but it's impossible to ignore. Also, she disagrees with things that we know are really important for Wylie. We say he needs to nap three times during a day, she says "oh that's a lot of naps! He won't need to nap that much with me!" Then we have to kindly yet firmly tell her it's not negotiable...he's a wreck when overtired! So, yeah, we love her, and it's hard. I really appreciate your perspective. I wish yr dp had more time off, but I'm glad she has some, at least! I hope yr mom will be a great support for yo! Wish we lived nearby so we could help!

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Carmen -I think the proper etiquette for a second baby is if they have an age gap of 5 years or larger or if it is a different gender and all of your stuff isn't gender neutral. My cousin's girlfriend threw a baby sprinkle for her second son, a little more than a year after her first was born. She just asked for diapers and explained that she didn't want the second one to feel left out. She found a cute little poem for the invites. We'll be throwing a full shower for this one, going by the 5 year rule, but most of our big stuff like highchair, bouncer, bassinet, pack n play are gender neutral. So is our bucket car seat and matching stroller, but DSp doesn't like the pattern, but we'll buy that. Basically all I will register for is cloth diaper stuff, the new Bare bottle, (or the mimiijimbi or whatever), wash rags, and burp cloths, and a set of receiving blankets.

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thanks everyone. . 

 

easttowest. . we didn't give a gift for our KD's either time but involve them by sending them pics, calling after big appointments, like finding out the sex, the anatomy scan etc.  Since both of our KD's will be in our kids lives, I think they also kind of think that having the kids is a gift so in some ways our situation might be a little different but I guess I don't know exactly what you are planning since in some ways your situation seems differently complicated.  We have traveled out to SF to visit them, plan to take vacations once a year or so when the kids get older and basically just have created a family.  I think if there was something you knew your brother wanted, it would be appropriate to give him a gift but i also bet you just expressing how much it means to you would be priceless.  Another thought, it probably depends on how involved he wants to be and how you and DW want him to be, like I think in some ways the more you involve them in the pregnancy, the more you are setting up the structure to be more involved later on. . and obviously your brother will be in your kids life bc he is your brother but will he be more involved than a typical brother.   If not, maybe a gift is better than creating further attachments.  okay now I am just babbling but have been through a lot of thinking on this for myself and with other friends. . 

 

outdoorsy.  what an awful scare but I am so glad your next test results were comforting!  

 

cananny. my thoughts on video monitor.  I would do it.   We lived in a small one BR for the first 6 months of DS's life and didn't even have a monitor bc he slept with us or was in the living room with us and we could DEF hear him.  When we moved to a small 2 BR :)  we got a monitor and got a video one.  DH thought the extra money was a waste but we ended up so happy that we did bc later on when he was more mobile older, we could tell if he was standing up, just a little restless and likely to go back to sleep, etc and it made knowing when to intervene so much easier!  Granted we didn't need any type of monitor for the first year but if you are going to get one anyway, I would def say go for the video. . oh and awesome about the maternity shoot !

 

pokey.  I am with you, it is REALLY hard for me to buy anything.  granted I have some basics from DS but I have not bought anything new for DD. . (so yes, we did find out and are having a girl this time, which will be great until we have to wall off our LR for a BR in 6 years!)  

 

carmen.  i think you can DEF have a meet the baby thing. . i think "generally" some people frown on big baby showers for #2 but I think inviting people to meet the kid is more of a party and it does not need to be about gifts and if people want to bring stuff they can, it's a new life, and a new journey for you and I think that's always worth celebrating and you deserve it!  

 

bigfoot.  hard to juggle the difference in information. . FX no one slips.  That would be my only worry, that your son would find out from someone else and feel upset though I totally get why you would want to wait.  We still haven't made a huge announcement (like FB) and are 21 weeks

 

lisedea.  how are you feeling?  


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cananny -I got the regular monitor with DD, and I totally wish I had a video one! I will be buying a video monitor for this next one. There were just too many times when I was wondering if she was actually getting sleep when she was being quiet and stuff like that.

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Cordelia - So sorry about your friend's mother, and how much more emotional it must be that she is your son's biological grandmother.  Sending you, your friend, and his family my best.

 

For Cordelia and others who have used a KD - Do you have any ideas of ways to involve them in the pregnancy, or ways to thank them for such a big gift? I sent my brother an ultrasound picture today, but I'm not sure what else I should be doing.  When we were planning to adopt, there were a lot of ideas for birth mother gifts, but actually carrying a pregnancy seems like a much bigger deal than donating sperm, and women are more likely to appreciate a gift of jewelry with their child's name or what have you.  I talk to him about once a month and give him an update, but just wondering what others have done.

 

We didn't want our KD to feel like we were "paying" him but we did get him and his wife (fiance at the time) season's tickets to our city's soccer team - which is the only sport he's really into. He was totally blown away and we felt really good that we could give him something that he would enjoy. He works really hard and NEVER complained about having to drive to our place after a long day at work....we just felt he deserved something fun. We didn't give it to him until DD was about 2 though. He is not involved in her life in parenting at all (but has met her and sees her a few times a year) so we didn't really feel the need to include him in any other way other than sending him updates on the pregnancy, birth, etc. He may end up more active in her life as time goes on...it's really up to the two of them.


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Pokey, thanks for the shiny new thread.

Outdoorsy, yikes! I'm glad your follow up went well.

CaNanny, would you be able to position a video monitor in a place to see all the babies? We have a regular monitor but only use it when we're going to be downstairs, because down there you can only hear when someone jumps upstairs (we live upstairs, my mom lives downstairs). My mom couldn't hear me yelling swear words and hitting the floor when I was in labor, we would never be able to hear the boys. Our room is probably too dark for a video monitor to be effective. So, if you have light and a good position you might go for it.

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Bigfoot/Mrs—well, I’m not a huge fan of Fontenot. Though a friend just told me recently that she had several ancestors named Thankful, which could be pretty cool. Good luck with the grandmas—my moms announced Edie’s birth before we did, which made me so, so angry. I know they are just excited, but oh, it pissed me off. I hope you don’t have to deal with them spilling the beans!

Pokey—congrats on your little boy!

Carmen—that’s such a cute idea! I’ll have to remember it for whenever we need to introduce Edie to the concept of a sibling. And a big, heartfelt YAY for second tri! I think if people want to throw you a party for the second baby it’s perfectly acceptable. Like Essenbee said—a “sprinkle” with either no gifts, or a specific, small thing (maybe special snacks or little things to pamper you and your DP instead of for the baby directly). Mostly it’s just an excuse to eat cake and get excited about the new baby, which I think most people enjoy.

Planet—no advice, but hugs to you. It’s got to be stressful all around. I hope you find a way to make it work so everyone is happy.

Cordelia—Oh, I’m so sorry about your KD’s mom. I hope you have a chance to introduce her to your DS while you’re there. I’m sure it will mean a lot to your friend to have you with him.

Essenbee—I’d recommend hard boiled eggs and greek yogurt as options, too, if you haven’t tried them. They might help!

Outdoorsy—I’m glad the second test came back normal for you—and I hope the next ones do, too!

Cananny—I’d say get the video monitor—our house is teeny, but sometimes I wish I could just lay in bed and see that she’s fine in her room without having to drag myself the whole 25 feet between our room and the nursery. Oh, and do the maternity shoot! I had so much fun at mine. smile.gif

Seraf—he’s so sweet! I’m putting together our photo album from last year and just did June—it’s amazing how much they’ve changed since then!

Aaaand we’re sick again. Again. This is about the 7th full cold that we’ve had since October. I certainly hope that all of the talk about babies getting sick EITHER in daycare or kindergarten is true, because I am going to be one sad panda if this happens all over again. Though, come to think of it, this will just happen with every other kid we have, won’t it? -sigh-

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Carmen, sorry, I missed you. If someone wants to throw a shower, it's probably rude to refuse. Sara's parents hosted an event to introduce both boys and they were only 6 months apart. We were told that it would be rude to request no gifts, also. Because its her family, I argue a little less and just say thank you. We did manage to refuse a crib twice.

Isa, if it makes you feel any better, Soren has had as many illnesses as Edie. None that needed medication beyond Tylenol/Motrin. He catches them from the older sibs. It's just life for some babies.

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Wow, February!  Thanks for the new thread, Pokey! 

 

Cordelia - I hope KD's mom rallies and can meet your LO!  What a great friend you are though, to be there for your KD.  I'm sure he appreciates it. 

 

Outdoorsy, that sounds frightening.  I'm glad that the second set of bloodwork said that everything was okay, but waiting for that must have been nervewracking.  Hope everything is going smoothly for you now!

 

bigfoot - I like the idea of small celebrations of the big milestones, although we didn't really do anything.  Maybe for the next one we'll remember.  We were not at all superstitious about buying baby things, but I think part of that may be because we foster parented for 2 years prior to conceiving our own child, and had a lot of stuff already.  We also had faith that we WOULD have children, no matter how they came to us, so buying stuff for babies wasn't weird or hard at all.  That being said, we were hesitant to do anything that was SPECIFICALLY for the babe that DW was gestating until she was in the second half of the pregnancy.  We even avoided anything with her name on it until right up at the end.  I guess for me the biggest difference was whether or not I was buying things for "a baby" or for "THIS baby".  Good luck telling DS about there being two!  I'm with the others in crossing my fingers that someone else doesn't spill the beans before you have the conversation. 

 

carmen - second trimester, yay!  I think previously that having a shower for your second baby was considered tacky because some people were asking for a bunch more stuff.  It sounds to me like you aren't concerned with how much people are going to buy for your family, so I'd just try and make it clear that you're looking to celebrate this new life with family and friends.  I knew someone who did a Reuse/Recreate themed shower where she said she wished to receive only handmedowns, thrifted gifts, or home/handmade items for baby.  I thought that was cool.  

 

Cananny - hooray for agreeing to a maternity photo shoot!  I'm glad DP talked you into it.  Even though you feel huge and everything, those boys are going to look back and appreciate that there are photos of you being pregnant with them.  And I don't have any advice on the video monitor, because we just bought a regular one.  Although everyone with older babes make great points about being able to see if the kid is asleep or pulling clothes out of their drawers quietly!  Haha.  Maybe if you're lucky, all three boys will sleep at the same time every once in awhile.  

 

Isa - so sorry you guys are sick again!  We're just getting over a cold, and it seems that all of our baby friends have been sick in some way for the last two weeks.  I know it's just the first of February, but I'm ready for the weather to warm back up and have the trees blossom and give everyone crazy allergies... wait a minute.  Damn.  Can't win.  Edie is just going to have the best immune system when she gets older, right?!  

 

As for us, Ever is five months old today!  Five whole months.  She's getting over a mild cold, but other than that she's fantastic.  I am having such a blast parenting her these days.  Every day is something new, and she's changing so fast.  She's close to sitting independently (she can do it if she's focusing, but when she stops paying attention she tends to fall over), and is thinking about inching herself along the floor.  She has become quite the wiggleworm to hold onto, especially when you're sitting down.  She's got a lot of ideas about where she wants to be and go.  

 

In other news, I quit my job 2 weeks ago.  No, not because we can magically afford to have only one income, but because I arrived at work one morning to learn that my only coworker who was worth anything was fired just before I got there because of an off-color joke he'd made about a new hire.  She made a stink about it and threatened a sexual harassment lawsuit if they didn't fire him, so they did.  He was the only one (other than me) who did any work!  And they fired him.  I was outraged at the blatant disregard for the protocols we had in place in case of a sexual harassment claim as well as the fact that I was going to have to work my butt off for an unspecified amount of time, until they found a suitable replacement.  I quit on the spot unless he was offered his job back.  Of course they didn't want to do that, so here I sit.  I've got a couple leads on new jobs, so I'm not concerned about finding another one.  In fact, it's been really fun to play "Stay at home wife and mom" for a couple weeks.  

 

That's about it, I suppose!  Gotta share some pictures, as always. 

 

 

Me and Ev!

 

Wearing the onesie that nosreves sent us while DW was still pregnant

 

Practicing with a spoon - yeah, almost there... 

 

 

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With her first Valentine - from her great great aunt

 

 

Ever and her "Cupig". 

 

Just took these yesterday, I only intended to see what the wings looked like in pictures but they're so cute I had to share. 

 

 

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Thanks everyone for input n the "shower". As for getting "stuff" another reason we didn't want one before DD was born is because we could afford to buy everything we needed for the baby. DD has no living grandparents so there was no pressure to accept big ticket items. We were practically begged to get a baby registry for the showers after she was born so we got an online one at a natural baby store and asked for mostly cloth diapers, etc. only one person out of about 30 got us something from it lol so, yeah, we don't need stuff and would likely say that gifts aren't necessary...but people still love to buy/make things...I know I do! Thanks again!

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Thank you for your input on KD gifts, everyone.  We'll just play it by ear for now.

 

Desert, I love when you post pictures of Ever.  She is the most insanely adorable baby.

 

AFU, baby is kicking up a storm.  It's weird and amazing and pretty much what made me realize there is an actual human being in there.  20 weeks on Sunday and scan on Monday!  One of DW's good friends just told her she's pregnant too, just about two months behind us, so hurrah for support systems and being in it together!

 

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Carmen-Yeah for the fundus!  Enjoy the second trimester!

 

easttowest--Yeah for movement!  Are you able to feel it too?  That's so exciting that DW's friend is pregnant too!  I'm sure that will mean a lot to both of them.

 

desert--I agree.  That is one adorable baby!  Good luck on the job hunt.  It's very good that you took a stand and knew that staying there would not work for you.

 

AFM--I got an email from my OB yesterday.  She looked at my u/s pictures and the baby looks perfectly healthy, but I have placenta previa.  I couldn't really tell from the scan but it looked close to me.  So now I am on pelvic rest.  No running or doing anything strenuous or jarring, no lifting anything over 20 pounds and no "sexual intercourse."  I'll have to get clarification on that last one.  She said yoga was fine.  I also can't fly until they can see if it has moved.  We had scheduled a trip to Vegas for my birthday and a babymoon, and we will have to reschedule.  I have to have another u/s in 2 months to see if it has moved.  I have to watch out for any heavy bleeding and call in if it happens.  OB said not to worry that most women don't have heavy bleeding or need to deliver early.  I'm just really hoping it moves out of the way so I don't have to have a c-section or have the baby early.  DW says not to worry, everything will be fine.  I know we'll both be fine, but it's just a huge bummer and it could make big changes in how these next months go.  I've really been enjoying being pregnant and happy to know we're having a boy and finding this out has really put a cloud over it.  I don't want to spend the rest of my pregnancy sad or worried so I need to work through it.  There's a good chance it will move and we will be able to proceed as planned.  We will just have to plan for 2 different births for now.  Maybe some retail therapy will help.  We see the doctor on Tuesday so we'll be able to ask lots of questions.




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Pokey, I'm so sorry about your placenta previa!  It must be stressful, knowing how many risks can be associated.  Like you've said, most placenta previas move on their own so we'll all keep our fingers crossed that yours migrates upward quickly!  A friend of ours who was pregnant at the same time as DW had placenta previa and was on bedrest early in her pregnancy, but it cleared itself up in a few months and the end of her pregnancy was fine and she delivered without any complications.  


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Pokey, I'm sorry to hear you have something to worry about....I don't know much about placenta previa but I've also heard that for many women it resolves before birth. Try not to worry too much.

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Pokey - sorry to hear about the placenta previa. Fingers crossed it moves!! Our friends just gave birth to a healthy baby boy at 37 weeks after dealing with it as well.


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bigfoot - I really like the idea of celebrating the milestones. I'm not very superstitious, but I can be cheap and picky smile.gif Both of our mothers have already asked when they are allowed to start shopping and we made them promise to wait until the second trimester. I don't want a house full of every random cute thing they lay their eyes on for the next 8 months - luckily we have the kind of relationship with them that we can just say that. I've started a few baby registries but kept them private, just to help me start "pre-shopping" and narrowing down my ideas of what we might like to have new. At some point my sister and I will have a date to go through her boxes of hand-me-downs, and I don't care how early that happens. Her kids are 6 and 2 now, and she's not planning on a third. 

 

outdoorsy - Oh my goodness, so sorry to hear about that scare. What a relief to have those second tests come back normal. I can't imagine. 

 

cordelia - Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the video monitor. DW has been saying that she will want one of those, but the reviews on Consumer Reports aren't that positive. Do you mind sharing the brand you have?

 

carmen - I agree with cordelia. For my sister we did not throw her a second shower for her second child, but we did throw a meet the baby party and it was almost better because then the men in the family who didn't want to come to her first's shower felt better about being there. Some people brought gifts and some didn't, but that wasn't the focus. 

 

desertsunsets - holy crap that is one cute kid!

 

easttowest - Wow, congrats on 20 weeks! That sounds so great to have a friend IRL pregnant at the same time, I would love that (but doubt it will happen).

 

pokey - Sorry to hear about this potential complication. I hope it moves along soon. We have a babymoon trip to Vegas scheduled too, but it is a much longer flight from where we live so I'm getting a little nervous that I may have been too optimistic when I booked it. I am just trying to remember to stay flexible in case the doctor says I can't be on a flight for that long. 

 

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Missed heaps, so I'll just jump in here ... 

 

Loved your bundle o'belly picture, Cananny!  Yay for a photo shoot!

Pokey ... Let's will that placenta away from the light!  Sending you fortifying and placenta-shifting vibes, dear.  dust.gif

 

 

Carmen ... We are right with you on the superstition.  I will never understand how most folks can have a baby shower before the baby comes.  It truly rattles my sensibilities, yet I know that we're in the minority on this one.  I just don't get it.  We had a couple of showers for E, with a request for no presents.  We asked people to contribute to buying a bike trailer.  That was awesome.

We didn't do a shower for H at all.  We were content with that.  People still brought little gifts now and then, but I think most of our folks have figured out that we really don't need anything, and that a little contribution to the children's education accounts is far more appreciated.

 

Gifts for donors ... We were given our embryos, and nearly five years later, we still haven't come up with an appropriate thank you.  It's a bit of a running joke with the other women.  Still thinking.  So much of what we've considered seems like a pay-off or trite.  

 

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We don't need to buy much for this second baby except a car seat and maybe a few more items of clothing. But we are both kind of superstitious about buying stuff before baby arrives in some ways....last time we asked our friends who were throwing us baby showers to hold off until after DD was born.

Btw, what's the etiquette for showers for second babies? Do you have them? DD's was more like a "meet the baby" thing and we'd like to do the same again but don't want to do anything socially awkward....I'm SO out of the loop on these types of things and the unspoken rules surrounding them....

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Pokey, I'm sorry about the placenta, I'm hopeful that it shifts out of the way as you grow.

Starling, how have you been? Did you deactivate FB? I haven't seen any blog posts in ages.

Planet, I saw a recall on the rock and play. You don't have to send it in, just look under the seat cushion for mold. Or read about it.

Soren's sick again. He seems happy, but sounds croupy.

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