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Hi! I've been thinking it would be fun to start a Queer Maternity Fashion thread! I don't know about y'all, but when I got pregnant, I was worried about what I would wear when my belly got big. My personal style is kinda dykey...not super femme, not super butch. I know that there are other non-gender-conforming women who struggle with what to wear during pregnancy, as the majority of maternity clothes are very feminine. So, I was thinking we could post our experiences and ideas here! Pictures, too! Hope some of you join in. smile.gif

Here is a cool "love makes a family" maternity shirt I found online:

 


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I'm a queer femme. I have it easier than my butch wife did when she was pregnant in the 1990s. However, I do still have taste so maternity clothing does not really speak to my sense of self. In the same way that I am queer but I am not attracted to everyone, I am femme but I will not wear just ANY dress. So much maternity clothing is infantalizing and stupid. It is offensive.

 

I wear a lot of horizontal stripes. I think I am a pretty adorable pregnant lady, but for the sake of style, I'm glad it's a temporary condition. 


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Thanks, Coco! Great idea, and nice top.

I tend to lean moderately femme in my dress clothing, but I spend the vast majority of my life in pretty androgynous casualwear. I guess what I have found at times to be a struggle is that there are so many clothes that aren't just feminine, but "girlie". When I'm getting dressed up I want to look feminine, but not like a 10 year old!

Favorite find so far is just the simple Gap Body t-shirts (in tank or short sleeve). The fabric is so soft and they manage to incorporate some side ruching for extra belly room without making it look too girlie.

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Haha, mrsandmrs, you nailed it!

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I found a cool blog on tumbler called Preggo Butch.  She has lots of pictures of what she wore.  I think she talks about the outfits too but it's blocked at my company, so I can't see it right now.  The name is butchpreggo.tumblr.com.  Here's another site that has a link to the blog. 

NCLR also has some maternity t-shirts.

I got most of my clothes at Old Navy.  I got some nice pants at Kohl's.  Yoga pants are also pretty great.  Men's shirts work pretty well too because they are so much longer.  I had a nice sweater that I wore for a while. 




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When I was pregnant with my first, I lived in some tunics and leggings from American Apparel. This time I needed more professional wear. Luckily a colleague lent me an entire wardrobe- mostly from Motherhood, some Target and Pea in the Pod mixed in. Very little of it was stuff that I would have chosen on my own, but most of it wasn't nauseating, and best of all, it was free. By the end, I was so huge that very little fit. I am SO GLAD that I will never be pregnant again. Now if only I could fit back into my own clothing again...

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For a while it wasn't so bad with the belly band on my jeans and looser or stretchier shirts, but when my belly really started getting big, I had to look around for other options. I found some light and loose maternity cargo pants at second-hand stores--super comfortable, total score! Also, I did get a pair of maternity jeans, and two pairs of long maternity shorts. I found one pair of long (but not boy-style) maternity shorts at Ross, and the jeans and other shorts were from a second-hand store. On my more femme days, I may wear the maternity jeans with a striped maternity shirt (found some cheap at Ross also). On more "dykey" days, I may wear the cargo pants or long shorts with a band t-shirt (right now men's medium band shirts from Hot Topic fit me perfectly!). During the colder months, I had some sweaters that stretched enough to continue wearing through my second trimester. I also am a fan of hoodies, and always get them in larger sizes anyway, so they still fit me.

 

Today: More dykey, super comfortable.

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good find on the preggo butch blog, pokey!


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Lookin' good, CocoBird!




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Thanks pokey smile.gif

I was *hoping* more folks would join in with posting pics!

Also, I found this on Pinterest, bought myself a plain white maternity tee, and made one for myself! (batbaby! haha)


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I would post pics, but I'm blissfully no longer pregnant! I wore low rise jeans, maternity jeans and long shirts for the most part. And scrubs. I gave up the extra smalls but otherwise kept the same size all the way through.

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blisffully?  Wait I thought all of us loved being pregnant :)

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