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Wohooo. A dozen eggs. Lets hope for a best case result and they all develop, so you get lots of icicles to freeze as backup. How many are you planning on transfering? Will you transfer more if it is a 2/3 day as compared to blasts? Will you get to look at them w/ this embryoscope thingy? Oh and are you planning on using laser hatching? Sorry if that are so many questions, but I am kinda excited for you and curious how it all works.
Were you conscious during the procedure? The clinic I am looking at puts you under general anesthesia, so I thought there wouldn't be any pai n. Gosh, IVF is so different, so much to learn, it's like starting allover again. I am sorry you had to go through that pain on your own. Take care of yourself today.

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Hey Fried - I think on average 70% usually fertilise which I'd be happy with. To be honest any fertilised is good! If we do the 3 day transfer we'll do laser assisted hatching & transfer 3 given my age. If they are all surviving well we'll wait and do the 5 day blastocyst and will only transfer 2 because of the higher chance of it working. They don't do laser assisted hatching on 5 day blastocycsts which I found out last time. I'm also having acupuncture before transfer and not sure about getting to see them, that would be a 'blast' haahah. Yep they just did a local so you could still feel everything that went on and when she pushed it was pretty uncomfortable. Also you then bleed like a period afterwards. They're bloody cleaning my room too so have to sit down and wait until I can go and have a shower and a lie down -HURRY UP!! I now need to go and find a pharmacy to get the progesterone cream but don't need until Friday so that can wait for now xx


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Just got a minute before work...    I think I might've blown this try.  I started my LH tests yesterday, too late, I think, to catch the peak and get an OPK.  Now we're wondering if we can time the insem well or not.  We'd have to order sperm like right now for pick-up, and we're not sure if we should invest the $900 in a try right now.  I charted this month, and it looks like I should insem today, maybe tomorrow.

I don't know if we can pull it together...


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July 2013- 2nd at home IUI with FDS (new donor)- BFN, June 2013 1st at home IUI -BFN... 

(Before that, 3 tries at the clinic with FDS, 2 with clomid and 1 with femara)

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liz: WOOT WOOT WOOT WOOT WOOT WOOT WOOT WOOT WOOT WOOT WOOT WOOT!!!! (One for each egg!!!)  Here's hoping 70% or more fertilize!    Glad to hear things went more smoothly this time!  

 

lovestreet:  sorry about the timing issue.  I hope for you that you can make it work if that is what you would like to do !

 

friederike: ttc is nothing like I ever imagined it would be.  I mean, I knew it would be difficult, but I really just had no idea what the extent of the craziness would be. (And the cost!)  My partner and I have sort of a unique relationship situation.  We started off as friends and we moved in together (just for financial reasons as friends) and over time, our relationship has slowly been changing.  It's not really anything I can explain, but we're not to the point where we have agreed to parent a child together.  We have discussed the possibility of co-parenting, but we're not sure what her role will be yet. She's incredibly cautious and I'm in "all in" kind of person.  I would get married tomorrow (1st day legal in RI!), but she's not there yet.  :-)   I'm at the point age wise, where I couldn't wait any longer and she is supportive of that.  So, I identifiy as a smbc (single mother by choice), but I have a lot of support and it may end up that she does decide to co-parent.  We're sort of figuring it out as we go.  It's not the way I imagined I would have a baby, but I at least everything we are doing is an intentional conscious decision. She's not terribly invested in this pregnancy thing for her own feelings -- she never wanted kids and is afraid of them. LOL!  However, she knows how important it is to me, and therefore she is a great voice of reason because she's not as emotionally invested in the process as I am.  I expect that if I do get pregnant and have a baby THAT will be more difficult on the relationship.  I feel somewhat guilty at times (I put this on myself not anything that she has said or done) because I know what a change a baby will be in the house.  I suspect that she will fall in love with that baby and all will be fine, but I still feel a little selfish for doing this when she's not 100% sure.  If it weren't for my age, I would wait, but it is what it is.  She said she doesn't want to be the reason that I end up childless, so we've agreed to just plunge ahead.  All that being said, she has been amazingly supportive and comes to nearly all of the appointments and grounds me when I'm losing it.  


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lovestreet - any chance for a last minute US to see if the follie is still there and how close it to O looks? I wouldn't want to waste 900 bucks. We also had one month where the sperm would probably have arrived 12-24hrs too late that we canceled. Bad luck.

 

Jenny - wow that is an interesting background. If I hadn't been in a relationship for 11 years, with a partner who wanted to wait until last year, I probably would have done the same SMBC. It sounds great how supportive your DP is when it isn't what she signed up for, this support means so much in those crazy TTC times.


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lovestreet - Fried's advice sounds good. I know there is a window of opportunity but you also want to give yourself the best chance, especially if spending so much money!

 

jenn - very interesting background indeed! It's always hard for partners to be on the same wavelength at the same time, especially with lesbians as it seems that so many aren't fussed about kids at all. It's great she's being supportive and I hope you can travel the journey together. I had to wait for DW to be ready as didn't want to force her into anything. We've been together for almost 12 years but she's 7 years younger than me. I wasn't 100% sure myself & didn't want to push her into it and have her resent it later. It worked - she's so supportive now and has been fantastic with everything. She worries about being a good parent but I know she'll be fantastic & can't wait to raise a kid(s) with her xx smile.gif

 

been lying down most of the day as not feeling amazing - all that scraping around hurts!!! There was more blood than last time and I'm not forcing myself to do anything much as it's just a waiting game. I worked out we could test on my 40th when we're with my parents in France but we've decided to wait until we're back home as I wouldn't be able to tell them about a positive test anyway & we want to be alone to celebrate/commiserate. As it is I'll be testing on the day of my 40th party!


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Liz – I am glad to hear it went so well, but stinks for the pain. Hopefully it would all be worth it in the end! I can understand why you would want to test with your family and then why you would want to wait, it’s so hard to hold back your excitement but you still have to stay guarded! Jenny – Thanks for sharing your story. It is great that you have the support and are confident enough in what you want to go after it. I wish you all the best and your DP continues to support you and comes around when you need her too. This month was our first IUI. We haven’t decided what our cut off is, we’re just hoping for a BFP before we have to worry about it. Lovestreet – I would wait as well. Even though it will be hard to wait a whole month again I would think you would feel better about not potentially wasting $900! Sandie – That does seems like a lot and what a pain we have to go through just to have a child! Our sperm is $650 a vial, $185 to ship and $540 for the IUI, Progesterone bloodwork and Pregnancy test. So a total of about $1,375 which I even thought was hard to swallow! Congrats on the wedding! That is so exciting! Redrock – Glad to hear your stepmom is doing better! I can’t imagine the extra stress during an already stressful time. Fmorris – It should like this cycle is going perfectly for you! Great timing all around! FX for you! Granite – Thanks! I actually can’t get in any sooner because of my work schedule so I guess I will just have to wait. AFM – My BFP was short lived. I took the test FMU yesterday and then started to spot in the afternoon. Nothing in the evening or this morning but I have started to stop again today. Looks like AF is just around the corner  Kind of wishing I wouldn’t have taken that HPT after all so I wouldn’t have gotten our hopes up. I guess not we just have to change our focus to trying next month. Unfortunately DW will be out of town the whole week I should O so I will be flying it solo or taking a month off. I think I would rather do it alone than not at all but they’re both emotional choices. So unfair everything we have to go through just to have a child we all want so deeply.

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liz- yay for all the eggs! Hope you have lots of healthy blastocysts so you won't have to go through the egg retrieval again! I'm so excited for you and this round of IVF! Heal up soon smile.gif

fried- sorry to hear about your BFN. I hope the timing works out for you next cycle. When might you switch over to IVF?

lovestreet- I agree with friederike. Any chance you can get some monitoring done? It would suck to waste a cycle but also to waste sperm on a ship that has already set sail.

jenny- interesting situation you're in. Sounds like it's working well so far though, and it's good that both you and her have been honest with each other about your plans. I'm in a bit of a contentious situation, where DW has always wanted to be the gestational parent, and I've always wanted to be the biological parent, but our career and financial situations greatly favour me being the pregnant one.

AFM- tomorrow is CD9, and we have returned from the cottage to do bloodwork and monitoring tomorrow. I'm a bit nervous about the bloodwork because all except one of my good veins have collapsed due to the constant poking these past 4 cycles. When you consider that on average, I have blood drawn 10 times per cycle, that's a lot of poking. Anyways, I'm sad to say this, but with all the monthly monitoring, disruption to our lives, the financial costs, and the BFN after BFN, I have really lost my optimism for these IUI's.

We are going to inseminate this cycle, and then we have a review appt with our RE (he usually only recommends 3 IUI before considering IVF) to discuss IVF with my egg and DW's uterus, which is what makes most parties happy anyway.
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mama sorry to hear about your collapsing veins - that's an awful lot of bloodwork every cycle. They always have trouble finding my veins which is a bit annoying & once the machine broke down when my blood was in it and had to do the whole process again. Grr. I know what you mean - it's hard to stay optimistic and I hope you have success soon - good idea re IVF. if my eggs don't work we might try DW's eggs with me carrying but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it xx

 

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Liz, things are great! I'm glad you had such better luck this cycle…I knew you would. I kept everything crossed for you! Sorry you had to go through a bit of pain but I'm sure it was well worth it. Completely off topic, but do they show Coronation Street in Guernsey? lol Just curious :)

 

Jenny, thank you so much! So do I!! And this was our 4th try, but the first two were badly timed so I say its our 2nd actual good cycle where we insemmed right when we should have instead of way to early. 

 

Lovestreet, I know the feeling dealing with the timing issue. I hope that the pair of you work it out.

 

Mamaet, I'm sorry about you veins, DP gets blood drawn a lot as well (not for TTC though lol) and I've seen too many times people constantly poking and not finding a vein or blowing it. I hope it gets better. 

 

AFM, Well I didn't even realise this, but I'm in the TWW lol. I guess I've been thinking so much about getting timing right and checking mye opk's that I didn't notice lol. I had a smiley yesterday morning still (we insemmed the night before) and had major O pains during the day. When I got home from work I took another test and no smiley so I think we caught the peak. So we ended up doing the first insem about 35 hours before mye first + opk and the second insem 35 hours after the first positive. I feel A LOT less stressed than the other cycles we did at the doc's and I love that feeling. I'm keeping everything crossed. I'm visualizing a beautiful LO due around 19 April 2014 and the same for all mye cycle buddies! 

 

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Thanks for the suggestions, everyone!  Lizbian, Friederike, Mama...

It's been a weird day, that's for sure!  After talking about our options this morning (trying today if possible, or just waiting til next cycle at the end of August), we called the sperm bank and just asked how quickly we could get our sperm.  (Now that we're doing home insems, we pick up at the bank which is only 10 minutes away.)   At first it sounded like it might not be an option for their lab and there would be a $100 rush fee.  I must've sounded disappointed on the phone, then, because the service rep asked me if she could check with the lab and also see if they would waive the rush fee.  When she came back on the line, she said Yes, they could have our vials ready at 1:00 today and they would waive the rush fee.

 

When I woke up today, I had a bad headache already.  I sometimes get these in sync with ovulation.  I ended up calling in sick to work, because of the headache, and because it would give us an opportunity to insem.  We picked up the swimmers just after 1:00, and had our first insem done by 2:30.  We checked out my cervix before even pulling the vial out of the tank, just to make sure, and it was as open and full of egg-white as it was last time.

As far as the suggestion to go get an US before trying, I don't really have that option right now.  At least, not so at-the-last-minute, the way things were today.  We are not working anymore with the fertility clinic we had been using last year.  My regular doctor could have maybe done it or recommended some place to me, but that may have required more planning.  My current insurance also doesn't cover any "infertility" services.  Getting an US may be a possibility in the future, but it could require more work than I could do this morning.
 

DP thinks that last month we may have insemmed at the end of my ovulation, and that's why it implanted but then didn't stay.  Going for it early this afternoon seemed like a good idea to me, because I think I will ovulate today.  (Based on my charting and my headache, and the medium-dark LH test I had on Tuesday morning.)  I know that if this round doesn't stick, I'm going to be "blamed" by DP, because it was my idea to try anyway!!  winky.gif  Really, I'm mostly joking.  Neither of us wanted to skip this round, but we both wished it had been better planned.

 

Speaking of better planned...  We also found out, in the middle of our insem, that the syringes and catheters that we ordered in bulk actually don't fit together as well as they should!  There was not a tight seal, so we had to mess around for quite a while with getting the swimmers in there, and the process involved electrical tape.  Very weird.  If our kid does come out of this cycle, we'll certainly have a great story!!

 

Lizbian, congratulations on all the eggies!!  How wonderful!  The process sounds... not fun.  But I'm so glad you've made it through.  C'mon little petri dish babies!!  joy.gif

 

Sandie, please keep us updated with how things go this weekend!!  As for purchasing more for siblings, we didn't.  We talked about it, but we don't really care if they have the same donor or not.  And really, it wouldn't have worked for us to buy more, because we have switched donors since the beginning of this process.  If we had purchased more for siblings, I think we would've had to deal with selling it back!  Yuck!

 

Jenny, thanks for the background!  That is a really interesting story!  It's great that you are going forward with what you feel and what you want for your life, and not letting your relationship status change that.  If it's meant to be, it will work out.  stillheart.gif

 

Mama - Geez, that's a lot of poking and blood-drawing!  Yikes!  That's exciting that you are going to discuss IVF options.  Especially with your egg and your wife carrying!  Both my DP and I would love to do an IVF if I was carrying her egg. 

 

Fmorris - Wow, I read your times for your insems, and was like what?  35 hours before and after OPK?  But I forgot you are using fresh swimmers.  How nice is that to not have to think in terms of such short life-spans for these little guys?!   Best of luck to you in your TWW, and I hope those little swimmers to their job!

 

rainbow1284.gif rainbow1284.gif rainbow1284.gif  Also, tonight at midnight (Aug 1st), same-sex marriage will be legal in Minnesota.  Our Minneapolis mayor is so excited that he is officiating 40 weddings at the state courthouse, back to back, starting at midnight.  Local vendors have all stepped in to put on a giant wedding reception that is going to take over the courthouse.  stillheart.gif  So incredible!!

This is our mayor, RT Rybak, prepping for the ceremonies tonight.  Such a great guy!!  stillheart.gif

 

Also starting tomorrow, any same-sex marriages performed in other states or countries, will be automatically valid in Minnesota.  I can't wait!!  DP and I aren't married yet, but that will be in the cards for us once we get a bun in the oven.  But tomorrow, all my lovely friends who have gotten married in Iowa and New York and elsewhere will have equal marriage rights!  I'm so thrilled for all of their families, to be safe and legally protected.


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July 2013- 2nd at home IUI with FDS (new donor)- BFN, June 2013 1st at home IUI -BFN... 

(Before that, 3 tries at the clinic with FDS, 2 with clomid and 1 with femara)

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Oh yeah, can you move me to TWW, please?   smile.gif
 


I am 33.  I've been with my partner for 6 years. partners.gif  July31/Aug1- 3rd at home IUI with FDS

July 2013- 2nd at home IUI with FDS (new donor)- BFN, June 2013 1st at home IUI -BFN... 

(Before that, 3 tries at the clinic with FDS, 2 with clomid and 1 with femara)

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lovestreet- sounds like your insem went great! Keeping all things crossed for you to get that BFP! Yay Minnesota!
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