A&A I understand why you are seeking advice form the members of this forum. However:
Queer Parenting is a space for parents who identify as LGBTQ to discuss the challenges and joys of parenting their children. This may include discussions from pre-conception through college. This space is not intended for those who do not identify as LGBTQ to post to ask advice from the community. Threads that do not fit in the guidelines will be moved."
If you are not getting the advice you need in other forums your option would be to identify a Mothering member in the QP forum whose posts have been helpful and informative and contact them by PM to ask for advice. Thanks for your understanding. :)