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Welcome Queer, Pregnant, and Parenting folks!

This is the end-of-year thread, for the months of October, November & December 2013.

If you want to be added, just post in bold with your due date. Also, if you have recently had your babe(s), please chime in with the name and birth date in bold. If your information is not correct or has changed, please also post in bold so that I can get it corrected!!

Pregnant - Due Dates


February 2014

gamitzer, EDD 2/9/14

BreadandCoffee, EDD 2/22/14


March 2014

Madronedw, EDD 3/9/14

JenMostOften & justrose13 (formerly wehrli), EDD 3/13/14



April 2014

Lizbian, EDD 4/20/14


July 2014
Redrock, EDD 8/7/14
PrettyIsa EDD 7/10/14


Graduates
Sotohana, Olivia born 11/16/2013

Baby.fatty, Freddie born 11/30/2013

Escher, girl, born 11/25/2013

AMT1015, Emmitt, born 11/18/2013

Granite, boy, born 11/14//2013

Sphinxy, boy, born 10/10/2013

MrsandMrs & Bigfoot, twin boys (O & M), born 8/13/13

Esenbee, twin boys, born 8/11/13

Carmen358, London, born 7/26/13

Outdoorsy, baby boy, born 7/3/13

erinTNgirl, Saxon Nash, born 6/28/13

Tourneymama, Anakin, born 6/27/13

PokeyAC, Charlie Vaughn, born 6/26/13

CocoBird, Amadora Charlotte, born 6/21/13

MaxK, Aiden, born 6/18/13

easttowest, Nathaniel, born 6/18/13

Cordelia15, baby girl, born 6/11/13

wishin'&hopin', baby boy, born 5/12/13

SplashingPuddle, baby girl, born 5/2/13

KnittingTigers, Theron River & Jane Sofia, born 4/27/13

lisedea, Sawyer, Elliott, & Miles, born 3/24/13

Cananny, August, Gage & Finn, born 2/24/13

KateAdele, baby girl, born 12/12

Nosreves, Elio Sol, 12/5/12 - 12/6/12

MidwifeStephPDX, Lucie Rain, born 10/25/12

Planet, Wylie Blue, born 9/9/12

DesertSunsets, Everleigh Jane, born 9/1/12

dandylez, Adair Seamus, born 6/28/12

KSDoulaMama, surro-babe, born 6/27/12

SwtRainbowBrite, Riley Sophia, born 6/25/12

PleasantlyFurious, Zoe Aurora, born 6/22/12

SmilingSara & Seraf, Soren Dare, born 5/2/12

PrettyIsa, Edith Josephine, born 4/18/12

Ad Astra, boy/girl twins, born 4/11/12

Onemommyonemama, Sage S., born 3/21/12

Qmama42, baby girl, born 1/18/12

Indigo, baby girl A, born 1/8/12

CrystalPerez, Cohen Anthony, born 12/12/11

glassesgirlnj, Annamaria Sigyn Estelle, born 11/28/11

Mami2mami, Layla Janae, born 11/22/11

DAWNMP1, Raya Sylvan, born 11/10/11

2ezforyou, Jagger Stone, born 11/2/11

Seraf & SmilingSara, Shay Brock, born 11/1/11

Escher, baby boy, born 10/24/11

Julietea, Rowan Kathryn, born 10/16/11

Starling&Diesel, Hawksley Solace, born 10/2/11

AmyPDX, Alexander Cole, born 8/7/11

AmandaHope, Lilah Nyx, born 7/24/11

Pigirl, baby boy, born 7/22/11

Mizyellow, Harrison, born 7/20/11

Painefaria, Keegan, born 5/23/11

Cejae, Emmerson & Parker, born 5/22/11

Imogenlily, Soloman Dov, born 5/3/11

2HappyMamas, baby, born 4/16/11

Bttrflygypsy, Elliot Graham, born 4/15/11

LibraryLady, Alice Meredith, born 4/8/11

Wehrli & jenmostoften, Silas Scott, born 4/4/11

Gumshoegirl007, Addison Alexis Réal, born 3/24/11

Beastie, Esther, born 3/13/11

Burg, Reed Kylie, born 2/05/11

Korey, baby girl T, born 1/30/11

Coco99, Chloe & Charlie, born 1/30/11

Abeecharmer, twin girls, born 1/10/11

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Yay, thanks! my EDD is 2/9/14.

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Thank you Liz for the new thread! Glad all was well on your scan!

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A shiny new thread ... Lovely!

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Hi everyone! Just checking in. We had some "practice labor" Tues night into Wed morning. Thought it might be time to meet our son, but 8+ hours of contractions turned into nothing. I'm 39 weeks today and off to my weekly appt this afternoon. I also think this morning I started to lose some of my plug. So things are happening and we are just trying to wait patiently! I am surprisingly more clam now than I was before the contractions started. I feel good knowing that my body is preparing and the "practice" helped us adjust some of our plans and expectations.

Hope everyone is doing well - Happy October!

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Thank you for the new thread, Lizbian! And congratulations on reaching the telling people stage! That is so exciting. 

 

Yay, Sphinxy! That is so exciting that things are moving right along! You got this, Mama! Sending lots of ELV and praying you get to hold that sweet boy in your arms sooner rather than later.


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So excited for you, Sphinxy!!! Looking forward to a play-by-play, LOL...

Thank you for the shiny new thread, Liz smile.gif

Today as I walked down the street downtown, a (slightly inebriated?) guy called out, "Nice basketball!"... LOL. I guess I'm also reaching the really-pregnant-looking stage.

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So excited for you, Sphinxy!!! I hope your birth experience is safe and beautiful. <3 It sure is amazing and powerful.

Granite, that cracked me up! Hope it made you smile :)


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sphinxy - good luck!!!!

 

Granite, better than people thinking you look fat!


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It sure did! smile.gif

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Granite, better than people thinking you look fat!

Oh, I'm quite used to people thinking I look fat & otherwise judging my body. I've always been tall, with a round belly & a chest smaller than my hips. In fact, I've found that living my life in this body & learning to love it in a society that tells me I should be skinny has been fantastic preparation for the physical changes that have come with pregnancy! Or more specifically, other people's reactions to how my body has changed. From chatting with other pregnant folks who are struggling with the constant barrage of unsolicited opinions about how they look, I feel very lucky to be in a place of relative peace and able to celebrate my body for being able to carry this kid.
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 bless you Granite - you do make me laugh!!!!


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 bless you Granite - you do make me laugh!!!!


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Oh, I'm quite used to people thinking I look fat & otherwise judging my body. I've always been tall, with a round belly & a chest smaller than my hips. In fact, I've found that living my life in this body & learning to love it in a society that tells me I should be skinny has been fantastic preparation for the physical changes that have come with pregnancy! Or more specifically, other people's reactions to how my body has changed. From chatting with other pregnant folks who are struggling with the constant barrage of unsolicited opinions about how they look, I feel very lucky to be in a place of relative peace and able to celebrate my body for being able to carry this kid.

Granite, this is a struggle for so so many women today. Most, if not all. Pregnancy certainly changes our bodies, and it is a little overwhelming sometimes seeing how much focus is on getting your body back to how it was pre-pregnancy. For me and so many women, that just ain't gonna happen. But I am eating well and a lot to feed my baby who, now that she is born, still relies on me and my body to give her nutrition. So the extra fat around my belly is not something to be ashamed of. Abdominal muscles had to separate to allow my baby to grow inside of me. It's amazing. Our bodies are amazing! The stretch marks, too, they are marks of motherhood! Why should I want to get rid of them? I have stretch marks on my thighs, my belly, and my boobs now. Because my body changed as I became a mother. It's something we should embrace rather than be embarrassed about!

A few links that I'd like to share on this subject:

4th Trimester Bodies Project: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/16/4th-trimester-bodies-project-ashlee-wells-jackson_n_3757793.html

Why I've Started Telling My Daughters I'm Beautiful: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/amanda-king/telling-daughters-i-am-beautiful_b_2166212.html

And this wonderful Ani song:

Lately I've been glaring into mirrors picking myself apart
You'd think at my age I'd thought of something better to do
Than making insecurity into a full time job
Making insecurity into an art

And I fear my life will be over
And I will have never lived in unfettered
Always glaring into mirrors
Mad I don't look better

But now here is this tiny baby
And they say she looks just like me
And she is smiling at me with that present infant glee
Yes, and I would defend to the ends of the earth
Her perfect right to be

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Here is the actual link the the 4th trimester bodies website: http://4thtrimesterbodies.com/


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Hi everyone! Hope you're all doing well. Two days left until my due date, and I'm wishing someone could just knock me out until it's over. Working from home basically means working from bed, because there aren't really any comfortable seated positions left that don't involve at least four pillows. And I'm just so bored! My to do list is done, has been for over a week. The only things left are one last big house cleaning before any guests arrive, but I don't really have the stamina or mobility to do that, and just don't know how much I care about it at this point. Any suggestions on how to pass the time?

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Oh Coco, Thank you so, so much for sharing that song. I'm totally crying right now. She's so right- many mothers would defend their daughter's right to be exactly how they are, yet they would judge themselves and pick themselves apart. My own mother is incredibly judgmental of her own body and my sister's and mine by extension- well, really, of all women's bodies. The other day my aunt was showing my mom a picture of her daughter at 39 weeks pregnant and my aunt remarked how beautiful her daughter was and how her belly was just sticking straight out and her hips hadn't gotten any bigger. My mom said "Oh yes they have!," to which my aunt and I both gasped/awkwardly laughed. And then mom said that it was funny because Jen (my cousin) was carrying like she was having a girl, but I am carrying like I'm having a boy "all big and round." You know, it was really hurtful, but that's my mom for you- absolutely tactless. Perhaps if we didn't have so much body shame instilled in us as girls from the time we are so tiny then we could find it easier to be kinder to ourselves and others. 

 

Sphinxy- I'm sending you lots of comfort and relaxation vibes. From what I've heard, it is good to sleep and rest as much as possible right now so you have stamina for when labor really gets going. That's easier said than done, though, I imagine. I'm certain I'm going to be totally wired at the end, so take my advice with a grain of salt. I wonder if you could find something to do with your hands- knit or craft or play guitar or something- that would allow your mind to wander, but keep you busy. When I'm really wired I can't seem to focus even enough to read a book or magazine. Then again, maybe some guided meditation might help to relax your brain and body a bit more. That has really been helping me lately. All my best to you! I can't wait to hear about the birth of your sweet baby!!

 

AFU- Hello from 33 weeks, 2 days! Things are going pretty well still. Been enjoying dressing in warmer clothes and drinking pumpkin spice lattes on a daily basis :) I've also started going to a Mom's group that has been surprisingly really nice. I'm not the only lesbian there, which is the reason I do go. There's one other mom who is a lesbian and has a baby girl. Honestly, if she didn't go, I really wouldn't go either. I'm just not really motivated these days to intentionally break down barriers- not when I'm feeling so vulnerable anyway. But she's already done this work to a large extent and I'm grateful for that. These women are very nice and seem kind of forward-thinking and best of all, they are just there. I know that I'm going to need that support fairly soon, so I'm trying my best to prepare myself. Actually preparation has been a huge goal of mine lately in other regards as well. Been trying to take as many classes and go to as many counseling sessions and chiropractic adjustments and massages and practice the meditation required by HypnoBirthing as much as possible so I can best prepare myself for this huge life change. I know that there are things that will pop up for which I have no preparation, but I do at least feel that having some basic self-care skills in place and a working knowledge of the resources available to me will help me figure out how to deal with the unexpected situations a little bit easier. 


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sphinxy, when i was DONE with my pregnancy, i watched orange is the new black and call the midwife and bunheads (ballerina show by the creator of gilmore girls). prettttttty much over and over. also, AWKWARD, that MTV show. they are all on one of the streaming services we have (amazon, hulu, netflix). if my water hadn't broken, i probably would have watched gilmore girls and all the harry potter movies, too. i am a bigggg reader, but at the end of my pregnancy i literally couldn't read 2 pages without falling asleep. and i spent a lot of time sewing baby leggings, baby clothing, and cloth diaper supplies (doublers, wool soakers, and so on) and knitting sweaters and hats. my only regret is that my water broke before i made boppy covers. i have about five boppy covers for my three boppy's (i nurse all over the house) and they are vonstantly soaked in breastmilk. i wish i had a few more covers -- i have the pieces cut and the zippers purchased but fuck if i've had time to sew much since the twins were born!

 

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Good luck, Sphinxy! So excited for you. 


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Hang in there Sphinxy!  The excitement will be here soon enough.  Do anything you like to do by yourself and quietly.  Take baths and showers.  Are there any more prenatal yoga classes you can go to?  If you like to swim, maybe a nice float in a pool would be nice.  I hope everything goes smoothly!




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Well, okay, Liz! But I sure wasn't trying to... I'm dead serious! If someone thinks I'm "fat", and that "fat" equals "ugly" or "unworthy", then that's their problem, not mine... And I'm not interested in letting them try to make it into my problem, by giving room to their judgements of me and my body, ykwim?

 

About 7 years ago, when I was 25, I got an email from the first girl I'd ever been in love with, telling me that she had cancer. I hadn't talked to her in years, and we lived on opposite side of the continent, and still it hit me like a ton of bricks. I took a shower to try to ground myself, and in the steam I looked down at my body and suddenly knew to my absolute core how incredibly lucky I was to have it, and how temporary its wholeness and magnificent health could be. How much time had I wasted, thinking of what it would be like to be skinny? Why would I occupy my time in this way, instead of taking advantage of all the blessings that come with the body I *do* have?  Since then, I've worked hard to take care of & celebrate everything I can about my body and all that it can do... Whether that's carry 100 ft of steel pipe on a construction site, or grow a great big baby and (hopefully!) push it out into the waiting arms of my spouse!

 

So, YES, CocoBird, I agree: Our bodies *are* amazing! Thank you for sharing those links, and especially the Ani song... I'm with Soto, tearing up over here...

 

(As for the first girl I'd ever been in love with, we've sadly drifted out of touch again, but I know she did recover from that bout of cancer, and now has two sons with her wife, at least one of whom she herself gave birth to... How awesome is that!)

 

Soto, thanks for sharing about your mom... Mine is like that sometimes, and then other times is so fantastic about body acceptance; it drives me nuts. Oh, and I know what you mean about socializing & vulnerability! I was supposed to go to a prenatal "crafternoon" at my friend's house today, and just couldn't muster the energy, especially as I wouldn't know any of the other women and they are all straight.

 

Hi, Sphinxy! Looking forward to hearing your baby's arrived! Filling time but without much energy, hmmm... Well, Pokey's idea of floating around in a pool is super-appealing. There's one here in my city that uses salt instead of chlorine, and I think I'll be making the trek over there a lot in the next month or so. Otherwise, I'm a big fan of the knitting/sewing + teevee combo, as suggested by mrsandmrs. Mostly I like shows produced by the BBC. I'm not really knitting anything practical for baby anymore; just finishing a big lace blanket that we'll all use, and going to be starting on a cape for myself to wear... Can't start a sweater without knowing how big my breasts are going to get once my milk comes in!

 

Mrsandmrs, I still haven't sewn boppy covers either, mostly cuz I'm not liking anything in my fabric stash... But you're inspiring me to make at least one from my collection of thick terry cloth, LOL.

 

AFM: My mom was visiting from Toronto for the past week, and after saying goodbye to her at the airport yesterday morning, I went back out to my car and cried for a good 45 minutes. I've been living far away from her for 12 years, and it never used to bother me... In fact, it's been fantastic for helping us to build a great, adult relationship. But there's something about being hugely pregnant with my first kid, and knowing my mom is across the country, that is really getting to me. :(


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Sphinxy - good luck!!!! I hear you, everyone says they just want the baby out by the last couple of weeks. My poor friend went 2 weeks overdue last time!

Granite - you're absolutely right. I used to take my body for granted as did so much sport etc etc. it wasn't until I had 2 knee operations thatI realised how much harder it was to keep in shape. With this little one now I realise that it doesn't matter what we look like, a few pounds extra don't matter especially if the little one is healthy. Our bodies are so fantastic to be able to go through this childbirth journey and do what they should, when they should that I don't really care any more about a bit of flab.

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Happy due date Sphinxy! Hope it's soon smile.gif I remember that last stretch feeling super long. Excited for you, because it will be soon!

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Sphinxy—every day i hope it’s the day you get to meet your babe.  have you figured out anything that’s enjoyable to do while you wait?

 

mrsandmrs—i love your television recommendations.  gilmore girls is my go-to show, and my dp and i are making our way through all of the episodes right now.  during early pregnancy, when i was often laying on the sofa, i also watched orange is the new black and call the midwife.  i prefer the comfort of familiar, feel-good, but well-written shows like gilmore girls...orange is the new black often left me infuriated and unsettled.

 

granite—your studio space consolidation sounds hard organizationally, and also familiar—since we’ll be doing something similar soon.  right now all of my dp’s painting supplies, big stretchers, etc. are packed into our laundry room since we have a friend staying in the outbuilding in our yard that is typically the painting studio.  once she moves out (in a few days) we need to return everything to that space, but also somehow set it up with a bed so that it can be a guest house/studio.

 

also, i appreciate reading your perspective about body size/shape and other people.  normally, i am entirely disinterested in anyone else’s opinion about my body, but an unexpected side-effect of this pregnancy (for me) has been engaging in conversations about the way i look.  my dp and i live down the street from a lovely small food co-op, and we end up stopping in every couple of days.  they offer a 10% pregnancy discount, and so the workers have known about this pregnancy since the very beginning.  it has been surprisingly enjoyable for me to have some of the workers there anticipate the development of my belly along with me.  one cashier in particular and i are both impatiently waiting for a more impressive belly to emerge.

 

sotohana—thank you for moving me.  your shower photos look very festive.  good luck with your move!

 

lizbian—belated congratulations on your excellent scan! 

 

CocoBird—i remember the last time i saw ani she had recently given birth to her baby, and she talked extensively about dealing with her self image in terms of having a baby that looked just like her.  it’s especially interesting to me now, knowing my child will be a girl who is genetically linked to me, because i really want her to look like her own self, rather than a miniature version of me.  for some illogical reason the image of having a boy child that looked just like me was easier to handle...in part because i hoped to eventually get to see what i would look like with a beard.

 

does anyone with older babies/kids have experience using prefold cloth diapers?  i'm seriously considering only buying assorted wool covers for my prefolds, because it seems like they are able to be used many more times between washings, and because i would much rather use a natural versus synthetic material.  does anyone have certain wool covers they love?  are there non-wool covers that have worked especially well for you?  any downsides (other than cost) related to exclusive wool use?    


 

 

 

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how are you doing, sphinxy? thinking of you....

 

granite - definitely stock up on boppy covers. esp. in the early days of breastfeeding, boobs are leaky, babies are not skilled at eating, and you basically cant have enough boppy covers. the ones you can buy at the store are IMHO not very cute. i love your body positivity. xo

 

B&C - the funny thing is, i am usually not that into TV, but when I was pregnant (and now that i spend so much stinking time sitting around nursing two babies), it seems to fit into my lifestyle a little better... 

 

RE: Wool covers 

We have a couple for the twins and I love them. The main downside for me is that we live in the pacific northwest and they take forever to dry when you wash them, so you may need more than you think you do. (mine take 4+ days to dry). with that said, i have made them out of recycled and felted wool sweaters, so the cost is very low. i used katrina's soaker pattern (beloved by many in cloth diaper circles http://katrinassqs.blogspot.com/2007/10/free-soaker-pattern.html ) and felted thrift store sweaters. i plan on knitting some shorts and longies at some point with elizabeth zimmerman's pattern from the knitters almanac (seen here http://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/baby-leggings-february ) but, well, let's be serious. i should have finished my knitting projects before the twins were born. katrina's soaker takes me less than an hour to crank out, so that's what we have in newborn and small sizes. 


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Hi B&C! I second Katrina's diaper cover from felted wool sweaters, and Zimmermann's February Baby Leggings, as linked by mrsandmrs above! Well, they're what I made, at any rate... Depends how crafty you are, of course! If you are a knitter, I've also heard tge Curly Purly pattern is great (http://www.curlypurly.com/soaker.html), and my mom prefers this old fashioned straight stitch one: http://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/soaker-pantie

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One more practical downside on prefolds and wool- I might just be bad at prefolds, but in my experience, they tend to have more poop leaks than fitteds or pockets. As mrsandmrs pointed out, the drying time can be intense on wool, and if your covers are getting poopy every day, you might start to feel a little done. We used a bunch of kissaluvs newborn fitteds that I bought on diaperswappers and NEVER had a poop leak with them.

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We use prefolds and snappis with wool covers and don't have many blow outs, but a lot depends on the baby. And to be totally honest, 85+% of the time, the twins are in prefolds and rumparooz or thirsties covers instead of wool. They are easy and we have a huge stash of them.

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He's here! Born right on his due date, just like his mama. Birth story to come later - long, hard, no regrets. 2:05pm Eastern on 10/10, he is 8 lbs 7oz, 21.5 inches long and has a 36 cm head. Already latching like a champ!

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