Welcome to the January Thread!
Let's make some fall 2014 babies
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GRADUATES: Please click here to share how you got your BFP!
Waiting to O
Waiting to Know... Braving the 2ww
Working on IVF
Taking a Break/Figuring Things Out/Waiting to be ready
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October * redrockband
August * Lizbian * Beastie
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February * Granite
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July * Cananny
May * Mtnlisa
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June * Coco
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October * JJNoho * Mommies 2 Be * Megincl & Ktcl
September * Elismum1908 * KSDoulaMama * Pleasantlyfurious
August * Chicagoml * Wishin'&hopin'
July * Hbog
May * Indigoscot
April * Kelmendi * KJM * Whoabethy * Carmen
March * Scalpel * Katwomyn4
February * Deny_zoo29
January * Jodybird511
Thank you so much, @DarcySD !! I'm so grateful to be a part of this group. Sending best wishes to all of you for baby-ful 2014!
AFM - I was disappointed with the RE call today because they are taking me out of the January classes required for IVF and putting me in the February ones, since I haven't started my period yet after quitting Lupron. I know it's not a big deal, but I had been hopeful that IVF would be less frustrating because the RE would deal with the fact I don't ovulate regularly, but it feels like my body's finding a way to be difficult yet again with these fertility issues. I'm just trying to remember that I am my body (instead of me vs. my body), and I guess I just need to love my body through the hard times and be patient.
lrex, I'm so sorry your body isn't doing what you want. i hope the wait isn't too frustrating, and i know you said it's not a big deal, but as someone without regular cycles, i can only imagine how it just adds another level of stress to ttc, so your feelings sound really legit to me!
as the ngp, it's been interesting watching lady go through the process. she has her fertility "dings" like low amh and short luteal phase, but when i imagine if we'd been trying to knock me up, with my 8-9 periods per year, totally unpredictable cycles, pcos, low and lazy female sex hormones, i just think it would be a whole different set of frustrations and anxieties. what's amazing is that, even with lower amh's or fewer periods, people get pregnant! so there's always hope.
So, here's out update. Just got back from our 8 weeks ultrasound and we're finally ready to be graduated. Like I said in QPP, if something awful happens, we'll be back, but I'm now ready to commit to this pregnancy mentally. It reminds me of that moment in dating when you just acknowledge "I'm now so invested that if this ends, it will really hurt" and how admitting that to yourself also helps you be more present. So, you can graduate us for Dec 2013! Our little bundle of joy is now 16mm long and has a heartbeat and a yolk sac and limb nubs and is just amazing to look at! I'm going to keep following along with your insems and adventures, and just know that this thread means so much to me. We really would have been lost without it and you in these last months! Lots of queer conceiving magic (and luck and hard work and sacrifice and perseverance and all the rest this process demands) to you all <3
Thank you @sandiegongp! I appreciate it - and it means a lot to me to hear that. Congratulations on graduating! Hope to join in you the parenting threads before too long.
All the best!
Hi MamaetMaman, Here's hoping for a smooth IVF journey for both of us!
I just did three months of injections of Lupron for my endometriosis, with my last injection on 11/14 (which went through 12/14). The RE wanted to see if I would start my period on my own after stopping the Lupron, which of course I did not. I have an ultrasound and blood work on Thursday and hopefully then I will know what my protocol will be. I will definitely post an update - since I'm sure my brain will be full and need to share. :)
Wishing you all the best!
hi ladies, good luck with the IVF! It worked for both Fried & I so I hope you have the same success xx watch out for hyperstimulation though, it's a killer!
Darcy- Thanks for the new thread. I'm wishing you tons of threadkeepers luck!
lrex- Sorry your body isn't doing what you want it to do. Good luck on Thursday in figuring out what your protocol will be.
Sandie- Yay for your ultrasound and seeing that beautiful heartbeat!
AFM- I am now 8 DPO. So I guess I can be moved to waiting to know. We were able to do three inseminations this month!!! The most I have ever done is two and that was only once, so I am really hoping that is the key for us. We had a little change of plans when our original KD kinda backed out. I saw this coming and had other options kinda ready to go and I am actually really pleased with how it worked out. I feel so fortunate that we had other options and were able to get the contract and everything wrapped up just in time to inseminate. And our KD is lovely! He is super supportive and seems willing to do whatever he needs to do to help us. I also really love that he wants to be a close friend to our LO and be involved in his or her life but doesn't want the role of parent. His partner is also super supportive, which I think is huge. I am feeling really optimistic about this cycle! DP and I keep talking about our zygote as if it already is, and this morning when he was kissing me goodbye he kissed my stomach and said goodbye to our zygote. I really, really hope it is in there getting all snuggled in for a nine month stay.
and to you all for BFPs in 2014!!
lrex - I hope you get the answers you need this week and I look forward to hearing updates about your IVF process. I am pretty sure we will be going this route at some point.
sandiegongp - Yipeee for seeing that lovely little bundle. It felt great to graduate you!!! Thanks for all your support.
mamaet - you are getting so close!!
hopeful - Congrats on 3 insems and thanks for the luck!! Glad you were able to coordinate a back up so quickly. That is really incredible! When do you plan to test?
AFM - This process is teaching me so much. All I can do is laugh right now because we had the funniest/heart sinking insemination this morning. We triggered last night at 9:30 and have an IUI at RE tomorrow morning. This morning was our hail mary insem because I ordered a second vial due to the timing always being crazy. DW was all set to do an IUI at home (we weren't able to find a midwife to come to the house) when we couldn't find my cervix for 30-40 mins. I was shocked. I have always been able to find it and couldn't believe our luck...finally DW turned the speculum around after I did 10 jumping jacks (they say it helps with finding a tricky cervix) and she found it super low and way to the side. My cervix is usually high and open right in the middle during ovulation. All the sperm she inserted into my cervix spilled out because of the way my cervix was facing. All she kept saying every few seconds was, "I'm watching all the sperm just spill out of your cervix." Even when we gave up on the IUI and did IVI the sperm still kept spilling out. She said she did it very slowly but I am thinking it needed to be slower or my crazy cervix was just rejecting the sperm because of the way it was facing. Anyhow, after the shock of it not working wore off all I could do was laugh and shake my head. What a roller coaster! Hopefully they will find my cervix tomorrow at the IUI. There has never been a problem before so I am not sure what happened.
Let me know if you need to be moved!
Omg congrats Angie!! I was wondering how you were doing - it's been so long! I will move you now!
Congrats, twomommy! We were just laughing because the time that led to our BFP also seemed poorly timed to the point that lady said she didn't want to count it as one of our tries! This whole thing makes no sense.
Just stopping by to wish everyone luck with all that's coming up.
lrex - I liked the reminder that it isn't you versus your body. I tend to fall into a similar mindset and it is helpful to have ways to pull myself out of it.
sandie - congrats on officially graduating.
hopeful - good luck in the tww! I love how you and your partner have such positive attitudes about the whole thing and it's so great that you had another kd and did 3 insems - sounds very promising!
Darcy - I have only done ivi, but we've had major spillage problems. But I try to remind myself that it is that sperm's job to find its way to that egg. And it is great that you're having another IUI tomorrow. Fingers crossed!
Twomommyfamily - I am so heartened to hear about your success after two losses. Although I haven't had the luck you did with our attempts since, it is always nice to hear good news from someone who has had success after losses.
Darcy - Also, thanks for keeping the thread again this month. Although technically I'm anxiously awaiting af (should have come today...hopefully will come tomorrow otherwise the timing for my next cross-country insem trip will be a bit off) will you move me to waiting to o?
Hope everyone is enjoying 2014 so far and that those of you in areas that have been hit by this terrible weather are staying warm and safe.
twomommy congrats- what a start to the year!!!!
jam, lea, darcy, hopeful, mama, lrex- good luck with everything!
AFU- We had our third round of blood work today. Last Wednesday we were at 588, today we are at 3945 for hCG. So far, so good. Progesterone was reported as over 40 last week and at 39.4 today. We are scheduled for an ultrasound next Thursday, 16 January. At that point we will be 6.5 weeks in. I'm still holding my breath. I think I'll feel better after the first U/S and then better still after the 8 week mark. Today's appointment definitely made me feel a bit better. I am trying to stay calm and focus on other things but it is so hard! So all we can do is wait. Which is really difficult. But my classes started on Monday so I'm sure I'll be kept pretty busy. I'd like to stay in this thread for a bit. I'm not really ready to graduate yet, all things considered. If that's alright with you guys?
Jam - I'm glad we'll be cycle buddies this month! I usually O a bit earlier than it sounds like you do - sometime between CD 12-15, but it has been slightly unpredictable lately so we'll see. If my cycle starts today (my temp dropped this morning, so I'm sure hoping that means it is going to happen), I'll be there for CD 10-13, so I think I'll try to meet with KD on cd11 and cd13 (which will be Jan 18 and 20).
I'm thinking about extending my trip by a day (esp if my period doesn't come today) but I have an important all-day work event that I was aiming to get back on 1/21 for that would be bad form to miss. I have to decide where I want to put my priorities and whether I want to risk pushing that boundary with my boss so early in a the new year, knowing I may have to travel and miss work again next month or the following for the same reason.
Anyone else have an insem coming up next week or the following?
So, after 3 days of stims, I have 14 follicles! Not sure how that compares to the average, but I'm excited either way!
Lea - Thanks Lea! The insem with the RE went much better! Has AF arrived yet?
Jam - Yeah I would never be apply to rely on home insems because of what happened this month but it was nice to have the extra vial to help calm my nerves on timing. Thank goodness we had another shot with a professional. I am so glad AF showed up on time for you and excited that you will be getting some monitoring done. Despite driving to the multiple visits during my menopur cycles I really enjoy getting to see the follicles develop. My eggs are so unpredictable with their slow growth and the only way we figured that out for sure was through ultrasound.
Agrex - So glad things have been going well! You can stay as long as you would like!!
mamaet - Thank you. I remember you mentioning your home insem before with the headlamp! Things are moving so quickly for you and wow 14 follicles!! That is amazing and I am extremely jealous! When I am stimming on high doeses of injectables I only get two!!
Fried - Thank you! The insem at the RE went off without a hitch! Yeah, DW was a trooper but was mortified about the spillage - maybe TMI but she ended up sucking it all back up in the catheter and then she wasn't sure how much of it was CM vs sperm. What a mess is right lol!
AFM - sitting here at 2dpo - we have been really busy with work and family so I haven't had much time to obsess yet. My FIL is redoing our kitchen and since our house was built in 1939 and has never had a kitchen update it is pretty exciting for us. This weekend I am going sailing to see the whales head down to Baja to give birth in the lagoons and we have a trip to Sedona coming up in a few weeks. Lots to look forward to and hopefully a sticky bean, as well.
Anyone testing soon?
Mama- That sounds like a fabulous number of follies! Yay for you.
Fille- I laughed at your KD's polar bear comment. Just the thought of it being to cold for polar bears here is kinda funny! Good luck to you!
Dary- Good luck and yay for getting your kitchen remodled and watching the whales this weekend! I bet that will be an amazing experience.
My temp dropped yesterday and I tested, 11 dpo, BFN. It hit me hard. I hate this rollercoaster of TTC. We made an appt. with a local RE for the beginning of Feb. We will have one more cycle at home before then so we'll see what happens. My period is due today and it really feels like it is coming so I am counting myself out.
Hopeful - I am sorry to hear you're counting yourself out :( Hopefully the RE is just what you needed and 2014 will prove to be your year!
Mama - I thought you follicle count sounded great! although I admit my IVF knowledge is limited though. I am looking forward to learning more and hearing about your journey!
Fille - Hopefully the non-stress of not worrying about testing is just what you need! And I too laughed about the Polar Bears!
Darcy - I wish I could come with you on your whale adventure, that sounds awesome! Sounds like you will also stay busy for this 2WW which is also great! I am thinking I will have my birthday over my 2WW and some visitors for the occasion so that will be nice. When do you plan on testing?
Lea - So did AF show up? That is a hard one, deciding between extending your trip and your work commitment. I personally can see both sides... good luck deciding!