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#1 of 5 Old 02-08-2014, 10:53 AM - Thread Starter
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I'm a 38-year-old  woman with a very handsome, lovely, amazing guy who happened to be a woman when we met!  We have been together 5.5 years and feel ready to have a kid.  This brings up a little problem, because -- although he's had a very successful social, medical, and legal transition to life as a man --  we don't have any sperm in the house!  


We live in a college town in the midwest. We're working with Pacific Reproductive Services to acquire sperm.     We've already tried 1 ICI at home, but have decided to bump up to IUI on our next attempt. 


I feel young, but at 38 I know that statistically we might run into some problems.  I'm a hispanic, geeky, liberal, funny book-lover who's a little bit chubby. My partner is an affable, fun, blond guy into the outdoors.  I'll definitey be the one to carry the baby.  We chose several sperm donors that look a little bit like him.   


Nice to meet you!

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Hi heyfoureyes,

Just a note to say hi! Another queer woman with a trans partner here: We have a toddler and I'm 28 weeks pregnant with a second baby now. Oh, and we're in the Midwest, too!

Typing on my phone now, so I'll leave it at that. Welcome, and best of luck on project baby!
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Hi Beastie and foureyes- I am also a queer woman with a trans partner, but I am not in the midwest like you all are. :)


Foureyes- If you have not already you should come on over to queer conceptions for february. There are a bunch of wonderfully educated people over there that can help you along in the process.

After years of waiting, DP and I are so excited for the arrival of our baby girl, expected January 15th 2015.
Remebering our Angel Baby, Emery.

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Thanks, I'll come over there
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Welcome. My ex husband is a transman too and we had a baby together and he helped raise my older daughter. I had a hard time letting go of my lesbian identity bc we looked so hetero but at times I admit it was a lot easier.

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