Warning.... a whole lot of info for Lunadoula:
It could go either way now in the U.S. - fresh or frozen. The FDA changed the regulation a year ago that previously called for quarantine of all sperm other than a husband's. What was happening is the regulation was not being followed by doctors when it came to surrogate mothers for married couples. Wasnt being followed when a married man with male factor infertility had a brother or first cousin as a donor. Unmarried male-female couples were not being asked to quarantine. Couples with different last names were not asked to prove they were married.... The quarantine was only coming up for lesbians and single women. It was a policy that was only being enforced to the queer patients. Go figure.
But the FDA admitted publicly this wasn't a consistent practice. So they issued a policy statement a year ago which stated the 6 month quarantine time on IUI (if you are not married) is now voluntary. You just sign a statement which releases the clinic of any liability of STD's.
Getting a clinic to allow a lesbian or single straight woman to enjoy this same policy as the straight patients can be a struggle, though. In fact, clinics can openly say they don't do accept lesbians or unmarried women as patients AT ALL. I wish the AMA would develop a policy stating that doctors had to treat unmarried and gay patients the same as married. I think they will someday. Overall, they are a pretty liberal group in my opinion. And there is the Gay and Lesbian American Medical Association (GLAMA) pushing for equality in patient care.
Whew.... anyway.... because you have a location issue, I would honestly suggest going the frozen route. It is VERY difficult to schedule somone else to be available even in the same town on a day's notice. When they do a freezing, it is very simple. He would go in to a clinic for just two deposits. They divide up each "deposit" into 4-6 vials. So two trips in and you'd have 8-12 vials. That's a LOT. He'd probably want to go in over the course of 3 days (skipping a day in between deposits in order to build up count). This could cost you as little as $300 for the processing and storage for all those vials there with your name on them (WAY less than bank sperm costs, at $200 per vial plus $200 shipping per month just to get the stuff). They call this a "directed donor". And they may or may not want to quarantine 6 months... depends on your clinic. The expensive part is the STD tests, which can run around $800 so be aware of that... that is what bank vials end up being so much each.
The other thing you could do is have your donor go to a bank where he lives and sign on for the process there. He would then have the vials shipped to you (either to your doctor, or to you at home for home IUI or ICI). With him going in as a client, he can have the sperm shipped to whomever the hell he wants to put on the form and they don't ask any questions (uh...... again, medical double standard). If you pay for him to freeze where he lives, and then have vials shipped to you at home, you can do IUI or ICI at home with the same set-up as if you were doing frozen bank donor at home. The storage place will even put some syringe/catheters in the shipment sometimes. So here the expense would be the shipping to you every month. It would still come out less than frozen bank sperm, though, because you cut out the donor bank profit margin. For more info on this kind of thing, google "sperm storage".
Okay, I have rambled on waaaay too long. This was just something I put a lot of research into. You can do a cost comparison between taking him to a clinic near you, using a clinic near him and shipping to you, or flying to meet him when you are ovulating.