Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: somewhere over the rainbow
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I'm a SAHLM to a 13 month old. It is really hard sometimes because my DP works full time and is also continuing her education, so she's in class 4 nights a week right now. I'm finding the most challenging thing to be fitting into the mom scene here in my ultra conservative area. I don't currently belong to any play groups or anything, in part because I'm so paranoid that I'll encounter someone who feels they need to do their "religious" duty by getting my child taken away. (You have that baby in bed with both you women? You're still breastfeeding that child? among other things) Anyway, it makes for a kind of lonely lifestyle, especially with DP gone so much right now.
Things have been a bit hectic around here because we're getting ready to move, but typically ds loves to "help" with any of the chores I'm doing. He plays in the garage while I do the laundry, or I give him pots/pans to play with in the kitchen if I'm working in there. I try to get my chores done while playing with him throughout the day, because I need the time during his naps to take a break and have "me" time. Things take a bit longer to get done, and if he needs more cuddles/nursies/storytime from me on any day then the chores just have to wait.
DP and I have us time after DS is down for the night and she's home from class. We talk, enjoy a glass of wine, play cards or a board game, just kind of catch up on each other. Our evenings are important, and when things get too crazy and we don't get that for awhile our relationship suffers a bit.
We also found ourselves on the AP path without quite knowing how we got there. Actually, many of the ideals we had, we didn't even realize there were names for! Everything just sort of fell into place as what felt natural, and it was through talking on more mainstream messageboards that I realized a lot of my ideas weren't shared by many people. I happened to stumble across this messageboard, and it was like a lightswitch went off in my head. :LOL
Me: married to my :fireman Mama to my littles: Toby 8/04 and Elina 10/08