Just go ahead and tell me the truth. I'm always the exception to most stuff, for better or for worse.
No, I don't hate men or women. I don't think every lesbian is crazy (even though that belief has been tested
). I know there are wonderful people out there. I have an 8 yr old from hetero marriage. I'm aware, as people tell me all the time, how much easier parenting would be if I had a nice healthy relationship.
But, I don't want one!
I'm just not relationship material. What's wrong with that!? And more importantly, why are other people more concerned about my singledom than I am? I don't even want to go out anymore because the inevitable question will pop up ("Are you involved") and the inevitable answer will be given ("No, and I want to stay that way") and the inevitable diatribe will be delivered. If one more person gives me another "encouragement" speech about my "soulmate" being out there somewhere, I'm going to
. I could see if I complained about being single, but I don't. People feel the need to give me speeches, tell me where to look, try to introduce me, tell me what to do, etc. A former gay friend of mine even asked me why I was "paying the ugly tax." When I asked him what that was he said, "You know, pretty women don't have to pay for anything and here you are, staying to yourself, when you could have some woman, or man even, paying for everything!"
So, apparently I'm the dumb one for paying my own way.
Why is it so hard for people to accept that a person can actually envision themselves not ever having a romantic partner, not desiring one (this is what gets them) and actually be happy?