For those of you who have cable and get the LOGO channel, they aired a documentary last night on a lesbian couple who had a baby.
I was so enraged at several parts, mainly when the bio mom goes in for a c-section, as her ob/gyn told her the baby was breech and would have to be born this way. While the bio mom is being prepped for surgery, your partner is standing there and the nurse is asking her all of these questions. When the nurse asked bio mom if she lived alone, etc., she said she has a "caregiver." The partner immediately says, "I'm not her caregiver!" The nurse then says something like, "Well, you're certainly not her legal spouse so I'm just going to put 'other'."
It gets worse. After the baby is born, they tell the partner that the baby has a problem and will need to transfer to another hospital. The bio mom was in recovery and didn't hear any of this. At this point, another doctor shows up and says he told the bio mom and she was OK, he just wanted her to know what was happening. You could tell the partner looked dismayed, as I am sure she wanted to be the one, or at least be with her partner, when she was delivered this news.
OK, so they get to the room with the bio mom. Another pediatrician comes in to talk to her. When the partner asks about forms they would need to sign so that the partner can give consent for various medical procedures, they had no idea what to say and the doctor said he knew nothing about the legality of that. Then he says, "I mean, I know who you are in her life, well, I guess I have an idea of your role..." It was so bizarre!
I was completely pissed off!
And, you would think that this scene took place in a southern, or red state, hospital wouldn't you? NO! This was in Los Angeles!!!!