Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: Nursing the revolution
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Well most of the lesbian mamas I know are fairly older (late 30's, early 40's) and middle to upper class. I've noticed a diversity in parenting styles... some ppl are more AP, others more mainstream. Of course, I live in a very conservative little city by Canadian standards, and most of the lesbians here are quite mainstream. I know a lesbian mama who bf'ed for 3 yrs, and another couple who gave me The Baby Whisperer as a gift when my daughter was born.
I've noticed ppl tend to stop breastfeeding early, IME because one mama feels left out, or there is a desire for the child to bond with both mamas more or less equally. Upon reflection tho, I'd say lesbian mamas I know stop bf'ing at around the same time as straight mamas around here for the most part.
Around here, the young, hippie, bi-with-a-guy mamas are the ones who are more AP, and more politically progressive. That is most of who makes up my crew, along with some surly childless butches.
ETA - My daughter's father is a fag, and he is the only gay man with a child I know. He is very AP, but then he is a psychotherapist, so his understanding and valuing of attachment and respecting children's developmental processes is influenced by that.