51 views no responses I guess I'll look somewhere else for some answers thanks for reading anyhow
---Okay thanks for responding I'll post my original issue in a minute
I guess I took it down not that I was upset I didn't get a response but I started to wonder with so many people looking at it if people were just clicking in for curiousity....
So the party went well, and I didn't mention it to her father at all. I delt with it in the parents are embarassing PERIOD
if we are different then you could be embarassed about that but people are embarassed when their parents are boring and normal as well! She is proud of her father and I stressed how hard it was to be him and what he went through in life and that she can be proud and private about her life as 13 year olds gossip and are nasty at times if she doesn't want to give information that's fine but she shouldn't lie.
Its been an interesting journey for me as when she was little she was very proud, and loved to educate her friends that you must have got it all wrong not just boys marry girls but families come in every single variation known. I know that identity wise she has to forge her own and that although being parented by two gay fathers shapes her experiences it doesn't change her own identity that is of her own choosing.
I guess it has become so normal to us that I have forgotten that there are still people who might take issue with her family make up. I realise that there will be a few more hurdles in life, such as when she finds a mate herself that his family might be a little shellshocked but its just so normal to me now I don't think about it. I forgot that there are people out there that might be that ignorant..... I know what was I thinking! I realised that a part of it is that she's comming to the dating age when she will be bringing home some pimply faced boy to us! And we are such a bunch of characters that are well not the picture of normal rockwell's perfect family but probably just as dull half the time
But then again I do look forward and think that all those ideals that we thought about that our parents wanted for us in the sixties my kids actually live... (my father's side considered my parents marriage a mixed marriage in the sixties she's italian/albanian catholic he's scottish protestant.... lol.... Mine must be a blender!)
there's just some people still in the last century. And one day once she gets over the whole teenage stuff she will think it was pretty neat that she's been exposed to a heteromom/two gay dads/multiracial/multiethnic/multireligious open and accepting family.
and here's a question for everyone regardless of family makeup... my husband and I were talking about our family and I wondered are there really still a majority of people/large segment of society who would be very uncomforatble around homosexual people, homosexual parents/families? Its become so normal to us that I don't really often think (or give anyone I talk to any opportunity to say anything negative about our situation) but I figure just because this is normal for me doesn't mean I should keep my blinders on and should try to be prepared for the issues that might come up in her life going forward (like meeting a boy, inlaws etc... )