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#61 of 141 Old 08-11-2007, 01:47 AM
 
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I was a late bloomer in sexuality, like I was in puberty. I didn't know I was attracted to girls until I was between 19 and 20. I realized how I'd felt for a while meant I was bisexual, which isn't something I had any reference to growing up where I did and in the family I did.

I had a very active sex life as a teen and it seemed I was searching for the reason everyone loved sex. I couldn't seem to find it, so I just found more and more male partners. I could do sexual things just fine, but I cared less about it and it certainly never felt all that great. Not until I started dating my first husband did I orgasm or feel pleasure at all. The female equation didn't occur to me until later.

I was separated from my first husband at 22 or so and had me some good times (and bad times) with quite a few of both sex. Then I settled in with my now hubby at about 24 and I am now 31. The older I get, the more I understand my needs and desires, but I am in a monogamous relationship.

However, hubby understands (as well as he can) and encourages me to find someone. But the downside is, being a hetero male, he wants to also be involved with me while I am with her kind of thing.

I am sure that interests me, but I am also looking for an emotional relationship - the kind only women seem to provide. So not sure how that would work!

For now I am preggers and happily raising my family. I suppose I have time to "play" later. I LOVE my husband to no end. He's wonderful. But I have told many many friends and hubby (whether they believe me or not) if anything happened to my husband, I wouldn't be with another man. Who knows, but that's where I stand now.

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I found this http://www.technostud.com/public/newsite/klein.html kinsey scale test. I scored 5.2 on it.
though mostly I found sites that say how there can be no truly accurate test, and the scale is flexible; changing with you as you grow, and in different situations.

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3.9 - You are completely bi-sexual

I knew it! heh heh
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3.9 - You are completely bi-sexual

I knew it! heh heh
4.8 -- Bisexual with homosexual tendencies. :

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3.3 Bisexual with hetero tendencies.

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3.9 completely bisexual.

If I were to "rate" and catagorize my bi tendencies, I'd say:

I'm sexually pretty much in the middle bi. I'm attracted to people of all genders.

I'm emotionally a little bit more of a giver on the homosexual side - I am a romantic and like to give gifts, massages, cuddles, take care of, etc my female partner. I tend to get crushes and fall - HARD - for women. I will put up with a lot from a female partner because I am just silly in love (hence the string of not-very-successful relationships - heh).

I'm emotionally more of a taker on the heterosexual side - I have very high expectations and am very demanding. I think that I expect my male partner to take care of me romantically the way that I take care of a female partner - and that kind of irks me, now that I think about it. I should work on evolving beyond that "he should take care of me" mindset. Men tend to fall in love with me, rather than the other way around, but then don't live up to my expectations.

I am currently living a lifestyle that falls firmly into het territory. Str8 male, me, one child. Casual acquaintences, coworkers and his family have no idea whatsoever that I am queer.

Politically I lean further into the homosexual side. I consider myself queer and have ever since 15 years of age. I try to be involved politically as much as possible and keep a presence in the community, although I haven't done this as much as I would like in the past few years.
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3.7 completely bi-sexual

hmmmm thats a cool quiz.
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4.9 Bisexual with homosexual leanings.
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sounds like we're all in the right thread
we can start testing new applicants

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4.6 - Bi, with homosexual tendencies.....

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4.5!! Can you say, fence sitter?

Although from your answers, it looks like even a 4.6 labels me bi with homosexual tendencies. I am surprised I wasn't in that category, but perhaps it's because I am also happily man married. I just think about the girlies all the time

Ooops.. total of 7, guess a 3.5 would make me a 100% fence-sitter. Hope it's a girl fence hehehe

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I forgot to enter my score right after I took the test and now I can't remember...but it was nearly 4...3.9???

What I thought was weird was that "ideally" I had a lower score than "currently" OoooooK.

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Talk about total fence sitting average...

4.1 You are completely bisexual.

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lol. so lets change the title of the thread to -sitters anonymous
Hi, I'm majikfaerie and I sit on the fence.
the first step is admitting it, you know :

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4.8 here and subbing. More later. :
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lol. so lets change the title of the thread to -sitters anonymous
Hi, I'm majikfaerie and I sit on the fence.
the first step is admitting it, you know :
: : : :

Hi, I'm heket. I permanently reside on a fence at 4.1 ...


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I got an even 5. Seems about right, I think. Of course my "ideal" was noticeably higher than the other two.

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Of course my "ideal" was noticeably higher than the other two.
Mine too.
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what a neat quiz. i scored a 4.8.

i will come back and talk more later...
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It's interesting, I had a friend comment a while back, "Why do you sit on the fence on absolutely EVERYTHING!"


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I found this http://www.technostud.com/public/newsite/klein.html kinsey scale test. I scored 5.2 on it.
though mostly I found sites that say how there can be no truly accurate test, and the scale is flexible; changing with you as you grow, and in different situations.
That's the Klien Scale. Goes from 1 to 7.

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5.2 You are bisexual with homosexual tendancies.

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It's interesting, I had a friend comment a while back, "Why do you sit on the fence on absolutely EVERYTHING!"
I am definitely not a fence sitter, but two things I am is on the fence between mainstream and crunchy, leaning to crunchy, and of course I am bisexual. The irony is being here

Anywhoo, I have always felt that I don't belong. I don't ever seem to belong fully to a group or an ideal that a lot of others do. So I guess it makes sense that I sit on the fence for a few of these things, you know?

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So now, I'm wondering, what kind of fence are you sitting on?
Could be you can tell a lot about a person by their fence.
Like, do you prefer
White Picket (kinky)
Cyclone (unstable)
Brush (natural)
Wire (also comes in Barbed variety for the really masochistic)
Electric (for the S+M types)
Brick (for the solid and stable folk)
Wrought Iron (for those into form and function)

think of the possibilities!
and does your fence have a gate? is it locked? Rusty or new-ly painted? height? colour?
:

Anyway, my next-door neighbour had a friend to visit on the weekend, and It was hard work to keep my jaw off the floor, and my eyes in their sockets - she was GORGEOUS, sexy, funny, and sang like an angel (she's a locally famous singer/ songwriter). AND she played capoeira with me.
I'm sooooooo smitten :
but since DH was there too, and I cant really do anything about it, I just got depressed and went to bed early.

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but since DH was there too, and I cant really do anything about it, I just got depressed and went to bed early.
Oh I'm so sorry it sucked for you that way!

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Aww, majikfaerie, what a bummer! I'm sorry about how it turned out in the end.

I loved your fence question! : What really tickled me was when you asked what kind of fence and had the meaning in parentheses. I've always loved the typical white picket fences, and that definition explained a lot! Yup, mine would have a gate, one with those latches you pop up. Not rusty but probably squeaky. And no lock, although the gate would usually be closed...

Hmm, wonder what great inner mean that all has!
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Anyway, my next-door neighbour had a friend to visit on the weekend, and It was hard work to keep my jaw off the floor, and my eyes in their sockets - she was GORGEOUS, sexy, funny, and sang like an angel (she's a locally famous singer/ songwriter). AND she played capoeira with me.
I'm sooooooo smitten :
but since DH was there too, and I cant really do anything about it, I just got depressed and went to bed early.
You were talking about MDC crushes recently and I was thinking how much it sucks big bi butt. I would rather not at this point. I'm crushing on my bank teller and was thinking about changing banks (for a different reason). I am definitely changing banks though, unrequited crushes stink.

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Wow, I didn't know this was here... So... I'll jump right in.
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I'm finding this thread very thought provoking and making me ponder the nature vs. nurture question regarding sexuality.

Here are the things I've been pondering:
*Is sexual orientation fixed? Are we born the way we are and we never change although our environment may change.
*Is sexual orientation a mixture of both nature and nurture. Do we become what we are based on where we are in our life...does it evolve?
*How does being poly help a bisexual womon feel content, or on the flip side, unsettled. (not suggesting anyone should be poly)

On the lighter side....am I the only one here who likes boys...a lot?
No... I like boys a really lot too... I just happen to like girls just as much!

It's lonely being the only XX in a house of XYs.
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No... I like boys a really lot too... I just happen to like girls just as much!
yep, we have another fence sitter
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*Is sexual orientation fixed? Are we born the way we are and we never change although our environment may change.
*Is sexual orientation a mixture of both nature and nurture. Do we become what we are based on where we are in our life...does it evolve?
*How does being poly help a bisexual womon feel content, or on the flip side, unsettled. (not suggesting anyone should be poly)

On the lighter side....am I the only one here who likes boys...a lot?
1) Mine isn't overly fixed. In general, I am not attracted to many people. Most of the time when I am its a woman, but its not a hard and fast rule.
2) I think being allowed, and allowing yourself to explore something leads you to grow in that area. So I think what you do can effect what you become.
3) For me, I REALLY wanted a girlfriend. REALLY REALLY. And I fell in love with Shawn while waiting to find one. I still really want one, but I am not willing to lose him to get it. The poly possibility may allow me to have both. Knowing that there is a possibility helps me to feel more calm.

And I don't know about *boys* in the plural, but I like my boy an awful lot!
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