Originally Posted by bjorker
In any case, I inditify with "queer", not meaning gay... just queer. I don't know if I could explain that to anyone that doesn't understand what I mean, but it's just the way I feel.
I hear that. I think "queer" is a great wat to describe many types of sexual orientation in the community.
"In contemporary usage, some use queer as an inclusive, unifying sociopolitical umbrella term for people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, transsexual, intersexual, genderqueer, or of any other non-heterosexual sexuality, sexual anatomy, or gender identity. It can also include asexual and autosexual people, as well as gender normative heterosexuals whose sexual orientations or activities place them outside the heterosexual-defined mainstream (e.g. BDSM practitioners, or polyamorous persons). Queer in this sense (depending on how broadly it is defined) is commonly used as a synonym for such terms as LGBT.
Because of the context in which it was reclaimed, queer has sociopolitical connotations, and is often preferred by those who are activists, by those who strongly reject traditional gender identities, by those who reject distinct sexual identities such as gay, lesbian, bisexual and straight, and by those who see themselves as oppressed by the heteronormativity of the larger culture. In this usage it retains the historical connotation of "outside the bounds of normal society" and can be construed as "breaking the rules for sex and gender." It can be preferred because of its ambiguity, which allows "queer" identifying people to avoid the sometimes strict boundaries that surround other labels. In this context "queer" is not a synonym for LGBT as it creates a space for "queer" heterosexuals and "non-queer" (straight-acting, conformist) homosexuals."http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queer
I figure that rather accurately describes it.
Anyways, I've come out as a dyke. (I don't really care for the term "lesbian"... but I have used "gay" or "queer".) I had my ds in my last long term hetero relationship, and since found out that I'm really not happy with men at all. Even if I'm physically satisfied, I feel... err... "empty". The same attraction is just not there. Right now I'm dating a lovely bi womyn who's helping me confirm that I'm much more satified with members of my own gender.
Sorry if this is OT...?