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2happymamas 06-28-2008 06:43 PM

Okay folks, the list is here! If you want to be added, just post in bold with your name and due date.

Queer and Pregnant

May 2008
Thismama, due 5/2008
mamastotwo (Liz & Janet), twins(!) due 5/2008
MsJodi (Jodi, DP Maureen), due 5/2/2008
TheGirls (Angela & Kelly), due 5/8/2008
rightkindofme (Krissy), due 5/25/08

June 2008
kk (DP Annie, Baby Daddy Rob), due 6/23/2008
MollyKenzie (DP Kari), twins(!) due late June

July 2008
Mamimapster, due 7/15/2008

August 2008
Solejean (Peggy, DP Lydia), due 8/1/2008
AngelaM (Angela), due 8/4/2008

September 2008
Scalpel (Jess, DP Darcie), due 9/4/2008
Cookie, due 9/14/2008
Venustx, due 9/23/2008 - oh my god it's triplets!!
Roxie, due 9/27/08
baby_baby_mommy, due 9/29/2008

October 2008
TryingMammas, due 10/2008
Becca, due 10/16/08
HeddyBee, due 10/19/2008

November 2008
Melissa and Susan - due 11/21/08
Cartesia - due 11/27/2008

December 2008
Deah, due 12/4/2008
JenInMpls (DP Jo), due 12/8/2008
MujerMamaMismo, due 12/14/2008
Simcon, due 12/20/2008

January 2009
2happymamas - Jill & Kerri, due 1/3/2009

February 2009
Starling and Diesel, due 2/14/2009

March 2009
Pigirl, due 3/8/2009
Erica12009, due 3/8/2009
Pranava 3/14/2008
Giggleblue 3/14/2009

April 2009
MamaCaveBear

May 2009
Lemurmommies, Due 05/01/2009

Graduates!!! Yeeeahaaa!!
NZmumof2 (Anna, DP Leah), Florence born 1/23/2008
Jentina (Jen & Sarah), Ellis Thomas born 2/20/2008

Recovering from Losses, to Rejoin Us Soon
Jen
travelgirlz
Snoopy13 (JD)

2happymamas 06-28-2008 06:45 PM

If any information needs to be changed, just let me know. This is going to be quite the experiment -- I have never been thread keeper for anything. I suppose it's about time to learn, huh?

starling&diesel 06-28-2008 10:03 PM

I'll be your guinea pig ... can we be added to the list? We're due February 14th ( ... everyone say "awwwwww").

solejean 06-29-2008 03:17 PM

I find it interesting that I keep getting the same question from people, "are you tired of being pregnant yet?" I don't get it - they act like being pregnant is a disease. Perhaps I have just been lucky - no morning sickness and I still move around pretty well. I actually love being pregnant and feeling my son squirm and move. : Anyone else getting that question? And how do you respond?

pigirl 07-01-2008 12:04 AM

Dude, I didn't realize there was a queer and pregnant thread! (Hi again, 2happymamas .) Sign me up, please! We're due March 8th.

MujerMamaMismo 07-01-2008 01:00 AM

Welcome pigirl! Congratulations too! : This thread doesn't have quite the same amount of traffic as the TTC thread but we're not adverse to change

JennM1021 07-01-2008 10:35 AM

Hey ladies. I check in often to see how you all are doing...and can't wait till you all start popping out some little babies!

2HM...looks like I'm still on the list for December. Could you take me off please?

ellie74 07-01-2008 03:52 PM

Hi and congrats to all of you! Hope each of you is enjoying a happy and healthy pregnancy, wherever you are in the process.

I posted this question to the TTC thread, but thought I might also get some answers from TTC veterans:

My DP may be out of the country when it comes time for us to inseminate (@ home with fresh KD sperm). Have any of you done this solo? Did you use a syringe or a cervical cap? I thought I might try the cervical cap, but it seems like it might be hard to, um, insert and remove.

Thoughts? Advice?

2happymamas 07-02-2008 10:56 AM

I have made the changes to here.

Pigirl....I was totally reading your username as " Pig Girl" until you posted your BFP. Silly, huh?

Jen....I moved you. Sorry about that. I can't wait for you to get your ass back here with us on this thread.

Ellie....Unfortunately, I do not have any personal experience with doing an insem by myself. But I wish you the absolute best of luck!

pigirl 07-05-2008 12:29 PM

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Pigirl....I was totally reading your username as " Pig Girl" until you posted your BFP. Silly, huh?
I think that's probably the more reasonable way to read it, actually. I memorized the first couple hundred digits of pi in college, and got the nickname pi girl, but the pigs, they are more commonly discussed than the pi.

And I posted this in my DDC, but I want to post it here too: We had our first doctor's appt this week (I was 4w 4d) and it wasn't what I expected at all. They had me come in to confirm the pregnancy I guess, but they didn't do a blood test; it was just another pee in a cup thing. No hcg numbers, no progesterone numbers. Is that normal? I was expecting a pap, and some quantitative results. They did draw blood for a rubella titer, my blood type, etc. Anyone have any input? My next appt is for 8w 4d.

Thanks.

KnittingTigers 07-05-2008 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by pigirl View Post
And I posted this in my DDC, but I want to post it here too: We had our first doctor's appt this week (I was 4w 4d) and it wasn't what I expected at all. They had me come in to confirm the pregnancy I guess, but they didn't do a blood test; it was just another pee in a cup thing. No hcg numbers, no progesterone numbers. Is that normal? I was expecting a pap, and some quantitative results. They did draw blood for a rubella titer, my blood type, etc. Anyone have any input? My next appt is for 8w 4d.

Thanks.
Yup, this is what happened at my first doctor's appointment. Man, I wanted that beta test and all those pretty numbers! But no, they just had me pee in a cup. As if I hadn't done that at home! I think that if you've been seeing an RE for medicalized inseminations, it's much more common for them to do the blood work, etc. Regular family practice and non-fertility specialists don't seem to do them. I was a nervous wreck about it all, but in the end, I realized that there wasn't a whole lot I could do, regardless of what the numbers might have revealed. I'm sorry, I know this isn't super helpful. The first couple months suck- lots of stress and waiting. But man, I remember the first day I heard baby's heartbeat on the Doppler (9weeks, 2days), and realized that there really was going to be a baby. Amazing.

And as for me, I'm just hanging out, trying to get my apartment, life, etc., ready for baby. I'll be 36 weeks on Monday, which is crazy. I can't believe the end is almost here! Or actually, I guess, the beginning!

My one piece of bummer news is that I tested positive for Group B Strep, which means that my midwife is recommending an IV of penicillin during labor. I'm not really psyched about this, for many reasons. Various studies have shown that only treating high-risk women (early labor, fever, lapse of time between water breaking and labor, etc.) yields the same results as treating everyone, but if I refuse the antibiotics they'll make me stay in the hospital for two extra days to observe baby. : Anyway, I'm still figuring out what to do, and really, really, really wishing that I were having a homebirth. I *really* don't want to deliver in the hospital, let alone hang out there for days after. Ah, if only I hadn't blown all my money on getting knocked up...

Gotta run, more later, and I'm thinking good labor wishes for KK!

venustx 07-05-2008 02:57 PM

pigirl, that is totally normal. I only had the beta and progesterone tests done at my RE's office, not the OB.

And the first couple hundred digits? WOW!

Erica12009 07-05-2008 06:51 PM

I'm glad to have made it here! Due March 8th...please add me! :

JenInMpls 07-06-2008 02:11 AM

still hoping to hear some big news from kk!

*wave*

pigirl 07-06-2008 06:03 PM

Thanks, folks. We'd been doing IUIs in the OB's office, but they're just regular OBs, not REs. I guess that explains it. I am, as you can tell, a numbers person, and would have liked some nice quantitative results. Ah, well.

In the OMG department-- my boobs have been so sore, yesterday I went out to buy a new more supportive bra. Two drastic changes: 1) my favorite brand no longer makes anything in my (larger) size, 2) I'm a #%! DD now, up from a C. I think a DDD would have fit better, but I'm a small band size and so couldn't find any. DDD!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!

JenInMpls 07-06-2008 08:30 PM

pigirl - you might find something here?

Small band size = 28 or so?

I'd tell you about Bravo Bras but they're local, and I don't think that they have a web site. There's a company that always advertises in the back of Mothering magazine, but I can't remember - oh! yes! it's decent exposures.

Good luck, send some breast-growing vibes my way...

pigirl 07-06-2008 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
pigirl - you might find something here?
Holy crud-- they have the size I need! Thank you! I'm looking for (gasp) 34 DDD. Try finding that in Target. My sister, who's about my size, went up to a G cup when she was nursing. I've never been small-chested, but this is getting ridiculous. Esp. because they're too sore for any real *fun* with them, you know?

I was, for the record, too shy to post this in my DDC.

MujerMamaMismo 07-06-2008 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by pigirl View Post
In the OMG department-- my boobs have been so sore, yesterday I went out to buy a new more supportive bra. Two drastic changes: 1) my favorite brand no longer makes anything in my (larger) size, 2) I'm a #%! DD now, up from a C. I think a DDD would have fit better, but I'm a small band size and so couldn't find any. DDD!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!
My boobs are like balloons. The first 8 weeks of pregnancy they were freaking enourmous, then they deflated back to their regular (D cup) size and they're now on their way back up again. I think it's got to do with all the weight I lost in the first trimester - but whatever it is, I'd like them to make up their mind so that I can find myself a bra or two that actually fits for 2 days in a row!

JenInMpls 07-06-2008 10:27 PM

pigirl - I've got a good tipster... a friend of ours is a 36J and can only wear custom, cantilevered bras. No kidding - cantilevered. They cost $60 apiece. Prior to her being able to buy custom bras, she bought retail and she KNOWS where to find 'em!

MujerMamaMismo 07-06-2008 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by AngelaM View Post

My one piece of bummer news is that I tested positive for Group B Strep, which means that my midwife is recommending an IV of penicillin during labor. I'm not really psyched about this, for many reasons. Various studies have shown that only treating high-risk women (early labor, fever, lapse of time between water breaking and labor, etc.) yields the same results as treating everyone, but if I refuse the antibiotics they'll make me stay in the hospital for two extra days to observe baby. : Anyway, I'm still figuring out what to do, and really, really, really wishing that I were having a homebirth. I *really* don't want to deliver in the hospital, let alone hang out there for days after. Ah, if only I hadn't blown all my money on getting knocked up...

Gotta run, more later, and I'm thinking good labor wishes for KK!
Have you had a poke around MDC? There's lots of mums with GBS success stories - women who have gone hard on a diet/vitamin/probiotics and something else (???) regime and retested negative prior to labour. It's worth a try methinks.
Can't believe you are so close!!!

2happymamas 07-06-2008 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Erica12009 View Post
I'm glad to have made it here! Due March 8th...please add me! :
Welcome! You have been added to the list!

KnittingTigers 07-07-2008 01:08 AM

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Originally Posted by MujerMamaMismo View Post
Have you had a poke around MDC? There's lots of mums with GBS success stories - women who have gone hard on a diet/vitamin/probiotics and something else (???) regime and retested negative prior to labour. It's worth a try methinks.
Can't believe you are so close!!!
Yes, I've done some research. Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of time left for massive dietary changes, but did try doing several hibiclens douches (which is what homebirth midwives use to treat GBS) and then retesting. I'll find out tomorrow if anything changed. Fingers crossed...

Yeah, I can't believe it's so soon. Crazy! Utterly crazy!

Welcome to all the new members. This can be a bit of a quiet thread sometimes, but I'm really grateful to have this little queer pregnancy support group.

pranava 07-07-2008 11:14 AM

Hi there I want to play too!!! I'm 4 weeks 2 days and thinking sticky thoughts.

I just realized how much knowledge I've gained about TTC in the last 12 months. I was beginning to feel like an expert with that. So, now that I'm in completely uncharted territory for me, it feels daunting to have so much to learn about pregnancy and birth!

JenInMpls 07-07-2008 01:18 PM

Angela, I can still remember your post: OMG. OMG. Two lines! TWO LINES!!! And now you're a month away from holding a baby! To that I say: OMG, OMG!! If I had been faster on the draw I could have given you my beat-the-GBS-test regimen which I took with #1 to beat the test. It came back negative, so either it worked or I was GBSneg to begin with?!

I am just sick of the heat, and tired and cranky. The whole weekend was, unfortunately, little fun. OK, the fireworks were nice, and I really enjoyed walking back from them, pushing our big little guy asleep in the stroller and actually talking to my wife. I feel like we don't have any quality couple time together anymore. She also spent much of the weekend painting half of the trim around the porch windows. I don't envy her the job, I'm glad that she did it and not I. There was just a lot of yelling at our son which always makes me sad. they have such a combative relationship somehow.

Yesterday was 90 (32C) and very humid, and everyone around here is raving about it finally being summer, but yeah, thanks, you can keep your summer heat like this. If I wanted hot like this, I'd live in Texas.

grouse, grouse, grouse. :

pigirl 07-07-2008 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
pigirl - I've got a good tipster... a friend of ours is a 36J and can only wear custom, cantilevered bras. No kidding - cantilevered.
J?! Cantilevered!? Holy smokes. Nothing like a little perspective to help a girl feel better. (Now I'm imagining, like, the suspension bridge bra, and the flying buttress bra, ...)

Welcome, pranava and Erica!

KnittingTigers 07-07-2008 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by pranava View Post
Hi there I want to play too!!! I'm 4 weeks 2 days and thinking sticky thoughts.

I just realized how much knowledge I've gained about TTC in the last 12 months. I was beginning to feel like an expert with that. So, now that I'm in completely uncharted territory for me, it feels daunting to have so much to learn about pregnancy and birth!
I am so glad that you are here! We have been waiting for you!!!

Quote:
Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
Angela, I can still remember your post: OMG. OMG. Two lines! TWO LINES!!! And now you're a month away from holding a baby! To that I say: OMG, OMG!!
I know, it's crazy, right? I'm so excited. And, just trying to get my head around what it all means, becoming a parent. Whoa...

Quote:
Originally Posted by JenInMpls View Post
If I had been faster on the draw I could have given you my beat-the-GBS-test regimen which I took with #1 to beat the test. It came back negative, so either it worked or I was GBSneg to begin with?!
Heh heh, douched with hibiclens and retested, and CAME BACK NEGATIVE! My MW wants me to retest in two weeks just to make sure, but I'm assuming that if I repeat my protocol, hopefully I'll retest negative as well.

And yes, it's hot here too. Been spending more time in the pool than cleaning my house. Not ready for baby. Oh well...

giggleblue 07-08-2008 12:36 PM

can you please add me to the list? i'm due on march 14, 2009.

thank you...

JenInMpls 07-08-2008 01:00 PM

ok, Angela, I'm trying to remember my regimen for you.. I know it involved garlic and vitamin C and echinacea. Like 200% of the RDA of garlic, 500% of Vitamin C (might not be hard considering the doses that are in vitamins nowadays) and a normal dose of echinacea, for 7-10 days prior to your test. If you do it, remember to stop the echinacea after a week because your body needs a break from it to normalize.

No guarantees, of course, but it sure can't hurt, if you are up to it. *shrug*

giggleblue!! Woohoo! You are so mellow about this whole being pregnant thing. And I'm loving seeing all of the future pisces babies! :

ETA: yes, cantilevered... actually they are a lot like a nursing bra in that they have an extra support that is sewn up at the shoulders to support the cup, it's just not detachable to let the cup down. They're pretty serious. And, like major construction, they also have metal trusses. Her bra sets off the metal detector when she goes through airport security and she usually just flashes the person with the wand to speed up the process. "See? Look! It's just my bra. Really." Although she uses her bra for carrying things all the time... cell phone, cigarettes, money... she once got an entire place setting out of the college cafeteria, I've heard. (My wife went to college with her.)

giggleblue 07-08-2008 01:54 PM

i am really mellow about it. i feel kinda bad for the other woman who have been trying for years that aren't pregnant yet, and so i don't want to be "screaming from the roof tops", because i'm really concious of how they may be feelilng. i tried for two months only doing home iuis.

a lot of people told us we were stupid for doing them at home, that we didn't know what we were doing, that it wasn't going to work because no one they knew got pregnant at home. that we needed a doctor. how we were going to puncture our uterus. all that stuff. i deleted a lot of comments from the blog that were left like that. i don't know. so i'm still kinda in a bit of a shell about it.

sometimes i want to cut off the blog, cause i feel like that could be preceived as "rubbing it in". i don't know. i just have mixed emotions. in addition to that, i really want dp to be pregnant too. she should have an insemination sometime this week, and i hope that we have fixed our timing issues.

so that's that. me being mellow-yellow...

giggleblue 07-08-2008 01:58 PM

oh, and much like pranava, i realize that it didn't read anything past pregnancy, so now i feel like i really don't know what the hell i'm doing. i need to find a good pregnancy diet book. any suggestions. my mom had pre-eclamsia with both me and my brother, which caused us to both be delivered by c-section.

i'm scared of developing it. we are walking at least a mile everynight, and i've started cooking at home and watching what i eat. no more junk food.

but i heard there was a way to at least prevent or reduce the risk of pre-eclamsia with food choices, but i haven't been able to find anything online about it quite yet.

i tried calling the birthing center, but i didn't get a call back - i'm guessing because i'm not 12 weeks yet. i think that's when they have you come in.


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