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pleasantlyfurious, you are in my prayers.
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pleasantly furious I am so sorry. Having just had a scary week with an emergency room visit, and having come out ok, I can only just imagine how devastated you are. You are in my heart and in my prayers.
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Ellie, I hope your ultrasound on Tuesday puts your worries to rest. 110 isn't that much lower than 120 (which is all the HB should be at 7wks). :

PF, you are still in my thoughts. So very, very

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Pleasantly Furious - my heart is heavy for you and your loss - I am so sorry - my thoughts are with you - please take care, and you and DW take care of each other.
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pleasantlyfurious, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I had a m/c at 9.5 weeks on Aug. 1 and I know how devastating it is. I hope you heal well and take care of yourself.

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PF,

So sorry for your loss. May you and your dp find peace as you move forward.

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PF,
So sad and sorry to read your news. I do hope the healing process comes with ease. Take care of one another.

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Brief update: Ultrasound this morning showed a normal, speedy heart rate of 160. This is what happens when you get too much early testing -- a lot of pain and anxiety. I'm extremely relieved, but still shaken. Just have to stay in each moment and have faith in nature to take its course. Easier said than done.

PF - Not sure if you're still reading in this difficult time, but I've been thinking of you and DP, and sending healing vibes....

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PF,

I have written out several responses to your horrible news and keep deleting them because nothing I can say will express how sorry I am that your child is gone. If you ever need anything, please feel free to PM me. I lost my first pregnancy, too, and can understand some of how you are feeling. It's not fair.

I am very sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to heal -- it's been 9 months for me and not a single day has passed that I do not miss my first baby.
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ellie...
I'm sorry you're feeling shaky. I understand completely, and just want to offer a gentle piece of advice; the more scared or nervous you feel, the less you should be on the internet. I find that I over-research everything and work up my anxiety. The best days are when I stay well away from the all-knowing, all-scaring web. And the fewer tests, the better!
So glad to hear that your little one's heart is a lub-lubbing away.

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the more scared or nervous you feel, the less you should be on the internet.
Truer words have never been spoken. When it has to do with potential but undiagnosed problems, DO NOT ask Dr Google!!

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Spend time researching cloth diapers. It is a VERY consuming task.

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Brief update: Ultrasound this morning showed a normal, speedy heart rate of 160. This is what happens when you get too much early testing -- a lot of pain and anxiety. I'm extremely relieved, but still shaken. Just have to stay in each moment and have faith in nature to take its course. Easier said than done.
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Great news!

I'm new to this thread btw Just 4 weeks and 2 days! Nervous but hopeful! Got a BFP my first try after m/c.....I'm interpreting that as I REALLY should have this baby Off to GP tomorrow to get blood work to check levels and 'confirm'.

It's nice to be here!

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Welcome, Carmen! So glad to see you in here.

Thanks, everyone, for your excellent advice. I think DP is going to throw my laptop out the window next time she catches me searching for anything pregnancy related.

If Dr. Google were a real MD, I would have sued his/her ass a long time ago for constant misdiagnosis and horrible bedside manner.
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Welcome, Carmen! Congratulations!

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Welcome, Carmen! Glad you're here.

Ellie--I agree that too much time searching the net when you're already scared is a bad thing! I have to cut myself off frequently!

Had my first real OB visit today (had my two blood draws with my reproductive specialist last week--numbers look good!) and it was fairly uneventful. Will be having an u/s in two weeks, so dp will be joining me for that appt. Looking forward to seeing my little one! Anyone else out there with MTHFR? If you don't know, it's a clotting disorder. My OB assures me that I don't need to be on Lovenox...that my B vitamin therapy and baby aspirin are sufficient. Although I'm relieved....I'm also a little wary. I think I'd almost feel better if I was doing the Lovenox just to calm myself down! I'm with you, Ellie...scared stupid!

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jody, my dp has mthfr heterozygous A1298C (yes, i'm a geek cause i can remember all of that off the top of my head). we had an re consult because she also has factor v leiden heterozygous and thyroid issues. she said because the mthfr and factor v leiden were both heterozygous and that her homocysteine wasn't elevated that a baby aspirin and extra b12 and folic acid should be sufficient. however, if she did have a m/c when we start trying she would recommend moving to lovenox for the first 12 weeks.

i guess it depends what version of mthfr you have. there's the less bothersome one which my dp has, then a compound one and homozygous. homozygous is the worst and would most definitely require lovenox and folgard or something similar. is your homocysteine elevated at all?

as info, i'm also factor v leiden heterozygous and took a baby aspirin a day up until 36 weeks and our son was carried to term with no issues.

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Thanks for the info, Indigo. I'm compound hetero for the MTHFR and my OB just feels that the research doesn't support the lovenox. I'm doing all the other stuff (baby aspirin, b vits) plus Prometrium. I just hope it's enough!

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We just got back from the midwife's ... which is a overnight affair because she's in the city and we're in the boonies, several hours away. We always book up the rest of the day with visits to friends and family, and then we stay the night at my sister's place (where we hope to have our homebirth).

Can I just do a little dance for our midwife? She happens to rock, and very much so. She's a dyke, and the clinic of midwives is hoaching with more dykes, and they serve the gaybourhood full of dykes. It is a very dykeish world when we visit. I just love, love, love that she GETS us. She doesn't bat an eyelash at our butch/femme dynamic, she doesn't look cross-eyed with confusion when we use queer language, she gets every reference, and is in fact, a superhero in birkenstocks. We adore her.

Even DP, who is very reluctant to like anyone who has anything to do with the medical profession, alternative or not, said that if she ever wanted to come up to go fishing or skiing or whathaveyou, we'd love to have her stay over. Wow.

We are just so blessed. And the baby is cooking along wonderfully. We had a very boring ultrasound report, which is just how I like it.

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Brief update: Ultrasound this morning showed a normal, speedy heart rate of 160. This is what happens when you get too much early testing -- a lot of pain and anxiety. I'm extremely relieved, but still shaken. Just have to stay in each moment and have faith in nature to take its course. Easier said than done.
I agree that it is easier said than done! I am going in for a dating ultrasound next week (at 12 weeks), and I'm not looking forward to it. I didn't have one until 20 weeks last time. Glad to hear that your little beans heart is thumping along happily!


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Can I just do a little dance for our midwife? She happens to rock, and very much so. She's a dyke, and the clinic of midwives is hoaching with more dykes, and they serve the gaybourhood full of dykes. It is a very dykeish world when we visit. I just love, love, love that she GETS us. She doesn't bat an eyelash at our butch/femme dynamic, she doesn't look cross-eyed with confusion when we use queer language, she gets every reference, and is in fact, a superhero in birkenstocks. We adore her.
So good to hear that you have a midwife that you adore! We are working with the same two midwives as last time, and our primary midwife is a dyke. When E was born she was also working with a student midwife, also a dyke. There are 6 other midwives in the practice, and some of them are dykes too. I get the impression that midwifery, like librarianship, is a profession that queers are drawn to.

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I get the impression that midwifery, like librarianship, is a profession that queers are drawn to.
Oh, librarians ... swoon! I loooove librarians, and not just because they advocate for my books all the time, but because they are just so darn heavenly. In fact, we were in town today (our wee little one stoplight village) and drove past our Chief Librarian, who was looking extra foxy today ... and DP said, "You know, you writers and librarians have the same kind of sexy going on."

And here, at last ... a belly pic!

http://www.flickr.com/photos/22089658@N04/2927254309/

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that's a wonderful shot of the baby belly!

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Oh, librarians ... swoon! I loooove librarians, and not just because they advocate for my books all the time, but because they are just so darn heavenly. In fact, we were in town today (our wee little one stoplight village) and drove past our Chief Librarian, who was looking extra foxy today ... and DP said, "You know, you writers and librarians have the same kind of sexy going on."

And here, at last ... a belly pic!

http://www.flickr.com/photos/22089658@N04/2927254309/
Awww... what an awesome belly you have

I have a coworker that is getting her masters in library science and I was telling her how you all were swooning over librarians. She thought that was great, but she is hetero and felt it wasn't really going to help her get laid. :nana:

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Aww! I just got my MLS, so this discussion warms my new librarian heart. :

Fabulous belly, S&D! I feel like mine is getting there at just 8 weeks from bloat and saltines alone...
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Has anyone heard from Pranava lately?

If you are reading, are you doing okay? How's your baby?
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Nice belly!

Mine's staring to get a little poochy too. I haven't gained a pound yet, but my usually flat stomach is definitely protruding some. I find myself wishing more of my clothes were form fitting now... but, alas, I'm a baggy clothes kinda gal.
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I'm having another miscarriage unfortunately. Dr. called me today and had me go to hospital for another beta hsg test and it is indeed dropping. She's worried that it's an ectopic pregnancy actually so I'm at home with instructions to go to emergency if I have any pain or bleeding. I feel so empty and can't believe this is happening again.

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I'm having another miscarriage unfortunately. Dr. called me today and had me go to hospital for another beta hsg test and it is indeed dropping. She's worried that it's an ectopic pregnancy actually so I'm at home with instructions to go to emergency if I have any pain or bleeding. I feel so empty and can't believe this is happening again.
s: I'm so sorry Carmen. Sending you all the healing energy I can muster. And my fingers are crossed that it's not an ectopic. Thinking of you.

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Carmen, I am so sorry to hear your news. What a sad week here. :

Hopefully your body and your heart heal quickly and you are able to find the strength to try again soon.

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