Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Prescott, Arizona
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Well, here's an update...
I've never been one for hiding things from the ones I love. I told my husband about my feelings for Tiffany, and he understood. I also mentioned that I would be open to polyamory, but he said he couldn't do it. For the record, so did she. And honestly, my marriage has felt like a gigantic experiment (that failed) and she and I both feel so strongly for each other. We always have, and it seems like we both needed to go our own paths for six years, but I feel that we are gradually working our ways back to each other. I mean, maybe it's naive of me to think that a high school relationship can be saved, but it just wasn't any relationship. We adored each other, and we still do. I am going back to school (nursing) and she's still in school, so it will be a while until we are able to be together full time, but I feel that we've been apart for six years, we can wait a little longer. I think right now I should focus on finishing college, and live by myself for a while. I think that, as a couple, we will be more fulfilled if we both complete the paths we started, and we will appreciate each other all the more. God knows, I want to go to her right now. But I have two little boys to think about, and my own future.
To relate all this to parenting, does anyone have any advice for telling inlaws? My H's folks are very traditional, and I am concerned about telling them. I hate feeling like this, I mean, I came out in high school to everyone, and now I have to do it all over again. And now there's two little boys in the mix. I need some strategies for dealing with the criticism I know I am in for. And also, what do you tell a 4 year old little boy? I want to be open around him, but I don't know how to go about breaking the news to him....
If you made it this far, I am grateful. Any advice or suggestions would be wonderful....