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#1 of 2 Old 01-15-2009, 12:30 AM - Thread Starter
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I only tend to post when I'm having a total meltdown, as evidenced by my previous post titled "Feel like a total babywearing failure."

But we're actually making progress, and I just wanted to give a shoutout to other parents on this board who are working to find out what works for them and their little ones.

While pregnant I had total utopian dreams of being this tranquil babywearing duo and going everywhere with baby, showing him the world. When he was born it was a different story. I started trying to wear him when he was 6 days old. He would sleep in a carrier, but awake - forget about it. He would arch and scream and struggle till I pulled him out. I tried various styles and did all the bouncing, walking, rocking, etc. recommended. But if it didn't knock him out, it just made him mad. He wanted to be in arms, but seemed to hate the feeling of being enclosed or having his motion limited by a carrier.

It was hard work for ME to accept that he wasn't the way I had expected or hoped. I felt so rejected and I felt like we were missing out on stuff - but the whole point of the philosophy is to work with the kid and listen to their signals, right?

Now he's 4 months old, and we've kept practicing. And I think his attention span is getting a little longer and the world is becoming more interesting - running water, dishes banging, cats walking around. And we're starting to have times when he can be in a carrier awake and looking around, doing activities around the house, and I am so thrilled. I am totally selfishly loving that he is starting to enjoy just being toted around and participating in whatever mundane thing I am doing. Sometimes he'll sit on my back in a rebozo, or on my front, especially when we go out of the house, in a stretchy wrap.

I'm humbled by my kid, and if he still hated being worn, or if he starts rejecting it again, I'll adjust. But at least for now I guess I just had to wait until he was ready. It's hard for me to be patient, and also to remember that I didn't grow up using these types of carriers and there's a learning curve for both parent and baby involved. So for everyone on this board who is struggling with it - I hear you, and be gentle with yourself.
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Good for you for listening to your baby and trying to respect his needs, and for hanging in there with the babywearing!

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