But my chiro is right about one thing: my back is an absolute mess. I'm having a lot of headaches from neck and shoulder strain, and every part of my back hurts in one way or another (i.e., tender, tight, strained, loss of mobility). At the same time, I'm unwilling to stop wearing my son. I love the benefits that both of us get from being so close, and honestly, somedays babywearing is the only thing that gets us through the day.
Any suggestions for a different type of carrier or way of carrying? I wear my son on the front in the wrap and on my back in the Ergo.
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If you are BF, I think you should ask chiro if it could be affecting your joint integrity. What I'm talking about has nothing to do with core strength, or peace of mind but actual ligament length.
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I'm definitely going to look into the mei tei carriers. I, too, have felt that the majority of my back and neck pain has stemmed from the Ergo. And the mei tei appear to be a better option for hip carry as well.
I've had an Ergo-expert help me adjust my Ergo and it has still caused pain and strain whether I have my son in the front or back carry positions. The back carry position is a little better, but it's still causing me to hunch forward. I failed to mention that my 23-pounder is 20% of my body weight. I'm very petite and recently learned that "backpack rules" say that you're only supposed to carry 10% of your body weight on your back.
I'll check into the relaxin thing as well. Very interesting idea. I'm certain my back pain isn't to the point of needing surgery. I've always had a strong back and done strength training. I think the pain I'm experiencing is a combo of carrying my hoss son around all day and not being able to strength train those muscles the way I did pre-mommy-hood. But the relaxin idea may be part of it because he is still exclusively breastfed.
Thanks again to everyone for the info...helps to know I'm not alone!
I've been toying with how high I wear my babe and I think it makes a difference. I don't have a mei tai, but usually wrap high on my back (so baby can see), but I find I round/hunch more. Today I tried wearing him lower and I felt I was able to keep my posture more erect. Less pain.
When I hunch it's worse. And I find I hunch when I wear him in the front, too. So maybe try adjusting your position?
I started doing handstands against the wall for other reasons shortly after she turned one... and happened to notice that it became much much easier to wear her for longer periods of time, even though she was getting heavier.
I did only 2 min once or twice a day. And my little girl started doing them too... so cute!
Def try those core strengthening excercises that you used to do. Even a few minutes a day will help. Rotate carriers like a pp suggested so that the weight isn't always distributed in the same place.
I know it's tempting to strap the baby on and go, go, go but take a break and just sit down w/ your baby every once in a while if you can (it's hard I know!).
Hope you feel better!
another option is a new carrier the chunei distributes weight really well :http://www.hosausa.com. it's like a vest that the baby sits in. i haven't tried it but a friend really likes it.
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What kind of wrap do you have? If it's a woven wrap, have you tried using that for a back carry? I'd stop with the front carries especially since you're so petite, as front carries with heavy babies are much harder on the body than back carries.
I hope you can find some healing! I definitely think some PT/strengthening might be helpful.
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I used wraps and MTs.
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Yes, what type of wrap do you have?
Also, your LO is 7 months right? Honestly, they grow so fast those first few months that your body has a hard time keeping up with the weight gain, but that will taper off as you grow stonger.
I think the answer is not to stop babywearing, but maybe try out some different carriers. You could try a different SSC, a mei tai, a half-buckle, a woven wrap. My personal favorites are Kinderpacks, Bloo Kangaroo, Kindercarry, Storch wraps. I do have an Ergo, and it's ok, but I don't think it is for everyone.
I hope you can find a good solution, whether or not you quit baby wearing!
Yours in backpain...