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#1 of 10 Old 08-22-2011, 09:56 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I have 2 pouches, a ring sling, a mei tai and a wrap. I like them all for different situations but there are also drawbacks to each one. What I need is a carrier that I can easily and discreetly nurse in hands free while grocery shopping. I can do that with my ring sling but my back starts to hurt very badly after a while. I need the even weight distribution of the wrap or mei tai for longer standing/walking. Plus, it's difficult for me to get things off the shelves and in and out of the grocery cart with babe in the ring sling. I haven't figured out how to easily nurse in the wrap yet in spite of having the thing for about 7 years and using it with 3 babies now. I have seen the videos on how to put baby in a nursing position to nurse but what I need is instructions on how to nurse the baby once he's already in the wrap and I'm already on the go. I don't think the mei tai would work right now because baby is only 4 weeks old. Plus, it's not very discreet since you can see in the sides so easily. The pouches are not conducive to discreet, hands free nursing.

I've been looking at a Baby K'Tan, which I really like the idea of, and something like an Ergo or Beco or Boba. My main concerns with something like the Ergo is the open sides, like the mei tai, don't seem very discreet, the price, and that I would possibly need to buy the infant insert. I did have a friend tell me my baby might be big enough (11 lbs. now at 4 weeks) that I wouldn't need the insert but the website says to use it with any baby under 4 or 5 months. The Baby K'Tan is much less expensive but I'm not sure I could nurse in it the way I want. The website has some explanations on how to nurse in different carrier positions but they don't really make sense to me and I can't find any demos on how to do it. The written instructions might make sense once I have the carrier in hand so that I can try it as I'm reading it but I don't want to spend the money on yet another carrier that I can't use for what I want. Since I have so many, I don't need another one unless it meets my criteria.

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The ergo has a hood you can snap over the baby when they are sleeping/eating/in full son. I have nursed my son several times in it and no one can see anything.

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The ergo has a hood you can snap over the baby when they are sleeping/eating/in full son. I have nursed my son several times in it and no one can see anything.


From the top, but what about from the open sides? Do you feel exposed on the side?

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I nursed in the Mei Tai when my daughter was less than a month old. I had to hold my breast though, but this could totally vary by person, height of baby, etc. I honestly don't think it matters about the open sides, someone would have to really be paying attention to see what was going on. Or you could wear a nursing bra/tank with a sling that supports the breast, and that might hide whatever part is exposed.

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I nursed in the Mei Tai when my daughter was less than a month old. I had to hold my breast though, but this could totally vary by person, height of baby, etc. I honestly don't think it matters about the open sides, someone would have to really be paying attention to see what was going on. Or you could wear a nursing bra/tank with a sling that supports the breast, and that might hide whatever part is exposed.


how did yo do that, exactly. i'd be afraid baby would fall ot the side.

I really need to be able to do this totally hands free after already having baby in the thing. I have to go grocery shopping by myself. Invariably, no matter how well I think I've planned, my babe wants to nurse halfway through shopping.it's not really feasible for me to stop shopping to nurse and then go back to shopping because i have my 4 and 7yos with me.

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I nursed a ton with my mei tai's and ssc's while shopping!  I would loosen everything up so the baby is a little lower on my body.  Then, I would use my arm as a shield for the side as well as a support for baby's head.  If I needed to reach for something with that hand I could still do it but I was a little stiff and slow.  :)

 

I also wear those nursing tanks from Target!  They wear nicely by themselves or under shirts so I can be even more discreet.  When I have a shirt on over the tank, people can't see even one inch of my skin and they never know I'm nursing because the shirt covers the top and the tank covers the sides and my body.  It's awesome!!!  

 

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Thanks, Kate. I almost ordered a couple of Target nursing tanks yesterday because someone else had recommended them but I wasn't sure which ones. There are ones that are $10.99 each and there are some others that are $15.99 for two. They look the same but I'm not sure. The store here doesn't carry them so I can't try them on. I was turned off by nursing tanks after I bought a Glamourmom one years ago. I got a white one thinking I could wear it by itself. When I got it I saw that you could easily see the hole cut out in the center for nursing and could see right through the one layer that covered there. It looks ridiculous. I never thought to wear it under a regular shirt like a bra, though. duh.gif

I've actually gotten my baby in my wrap twice so far and then nursed him when he wanted. It seems to be working although the position still feels a bit awkward to me. I'm going to try it around the house while doing housework and such to see how it works when I'm moving and bending. My wrap is too short right now. It just barely wraps around me so that I can tie it. Funny because when I got it I remember being annoyed at all the extra fabric that hung down after I tied it. Goes to show how much difference a little baby fat can make. So, hopefully, as I lose the weight the different carries will get easier for me.

I'll pull out my mei tai and try with that, too. I'm just not seeing how that would work with a newborn but, if I get it on and try it, maybe I'll figure it out.

I also realized that those SSCs like the Ergo can't be used until baby is 4-5 months old so I'm not going to bother with any of those. I need something I can use now. I'm guessing that at 4-5 months I'll be able to nurse in the mei tai even if I can't do it now.

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I can't really explain how I nursed my daughter in the Mei Tai--I just ... did? Not helpful to you, I know. I can't see how she could fall out the side if it was tied tight enough.

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just thinking about it i was imagining the side being big enogh that baby's head and then upper body would fall out if i tried to move him low enough to nurse. i should probably get the thing out and try it. maybe it's not at all like i am imagining.

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Hey there ~ I have several of the black nursing tanks and wear them by themselves all the time!  I have a handful of grey and white ones that I wear by themselves at home but I usually put a shirt on over them in public.  They can be worn in public but they are not as flattering to the figure.  :)

 

Happy Babywearing and Nursing!!!  I nursed my daughter in the mei tai from the age of about 1 month.

 

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