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#1 of 67 Old 09-15-2011, 11:41 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I ask because my DH refuses to. I have tried countless times to sell him on the perks and benefits (you hold our baby AND have the use of both hands!!) but nope. He won't even try. Just wondering if this is your experience too.

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he sure does -- happily!

 

although he prefers a structured-type carrier.  he's worn a pouch sling, but he's never tried our ring slings (i think he just finds them too confusing to adjust).


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Mine does, but he prefers a mei tai because it's easier and faster and more masculine...somehow...

 

Oh, when the kids are young he uses a Moby-type wrap, but it's a dark blue.  He knows it's not politically correct, but he just doesn't like feminine color schemes if he's going to wear the baby.


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Mine does. Probably more than me lol.gif  He's usually the one who wears her when we go out. He has used a wrap a ring sling and an SSC. I think at the moment he prefers the SSC but he loved the wraps when she was smaller.


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Mine does too.  When DD was a baby, he wore her in my hot pink Moby.  luxlove.gif  That was back when the Moby was his only option though.  Since we bought an Ergo (and then a Boba) that's all he's worn her in.  He wears her much less often than I do though...I still wear her every day, and he wears her like maybe once a month.


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all the time and usually more than me.  i remember when we first had her we would fight over who got to wear her lol

 

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my ex never ever ever wore either of ours sons :(


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mu hubby does quite a lot. he has his own pouch sling but he prefers the woven wrap or mei tai. he also uses a stretchy wrap when our kids are very wee. i'd say that the only reason he doesn't wear the kid(s) as much as I do is because he's not with them all day like me.

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Dh does, and he loves it. He HATES strollers because he cant do down steps, has to pack it in the car, and feels silly pushing a baby around. He has chosen babywearing as an alternative.

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Yep! I got a denim carrier so that he'd be more comfortable wearing it. With DD, we both wore her, and would take turns if we were out for awhile shopping, etc. He preferred the carrier to pushing around the stroller, especially while she was small.

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Well I am pregnant with our first, so i don't know for sure, but my husband plans to babywear. He's even tried on various carriers, after looking through and selecting the type he prefers (ssc), and decided he wants an ergo performance. So we will get that for him, and the few I want for me smile.gif When we were babysitting our nephew as a baby, he kept commenting how he wished we had a carrier to use, and how much easier it would be love.gif I have him totally sold on the idea.

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we don't wear the toddler so much these days, but dh did wear her a whole lot when dd was younger.  she went to work with him till she was 6 mos old, and he wore her most of her waking hours in the moby.  it was the only way to keep her happy.  a friend also gave him a big backpack frame carrier and once he had to work on the pasture,  so he wore dd while he spread grass seed on the whole field.  he'll also wear her now when he has to do farm stuff and can't rely on her not to get into trouble unsupervised. 


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While baby wearing was initially more my thing, as the baby has gotten heavier he's been wearing him more and more.  He started out with a ring sling, which he found easy to use and intuitive.  I started using the Moby because the weight was distributed easier; it took him a bit longer becasue the Moby is kind of intimidating with all the wrapping, but now he loves it.  We also have a structured carrier, but we almost never use it (dunno why).

 

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More than I do at this point ... He faves the Moby & he can do it by himself and everything. I'm impressed. In fact I put his pic up in a baby-wearing picture contest :) - He's the one with orange-strapped mei tai in the market scene .... !! :)

 

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I think it is AWESOME that all these dads are wearing their babies! I convinced DH to try it and of course DS loved it and fell asleep cuddled up to daddy almost instantly. love.gif I think he's sold! At least at home... next I'll have to get him to do it in public. He thinks he looks silly. Honestly, and I told him of course, it totally ups his attractiveness for me. I'm so glad he tried it!!

 

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Oh my goodness mamaboss!  What a cute photo!

 

I'm glad that your DH decided to give it a try and loved it!  And your carrier is suitably "masculine" I would say!  You can tell your DH that most women think a man with a baby is very sexy!

 

My DH does wear DS (although we wear him less now that he's a toddler).  When DS was smaller he'd use the ring sling, but mostly we've used the Ergo.  DH will not wear the wrap (even though I bought a blue gypsy mamma so that he would!  I totally would have gotten a different pattern otherwise).  I think DH likes the Ergo because it is comfy, easy to use and maybe more "manly"??


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He is less likely to do so than I am, but he does wear them- especially as they get older.  His favorite carrier is a preschool size carrier I made because the straps- while padded like an SSC, can cross across his chest then he threads them through loops on the side like an onbu- no need to reach behind to deal with straps.  He isn't likely to reach for a ring sling, but will use a Moby with a tiny baby if they are fussy. 

 

 

 

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He's tried a couple times, but it's really hard on him. And ds3 would not have gone for it at all. He was the kind of baby who flipped out with anyone but me from the moment he was born. Even having dh hold him every night while I got ready for bed resulted in massive meltdowns.

 

I'll probably get him to try again with this baby.


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DH didn't wear DS until I got a Boba, and  has only done it once so far, but I think that he will do it more.  He had no interest in wearing the wrap...but I think that he was just intimidated by it than anything else.  We just got the Boba, so we will see how it goes - so far so good!


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The trick is in the DARTH VADER baby carrier I got DH for is bday lol

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In the beginning, I wore her more, but he occasionally wore her when we shopped in the ergo with infant insert. Honestly, he wears her almost every time we go out in his Darth Vader carrier, and I am free to do whatever shopping we need to get done. DD falls asleep on him a lot and I find she seems less comfortable on me and she tries to nurse to fall asleep. She also walks full time now, so I haven't really had occasion to wear her. She just sits in the cart usually or, rarely, I wear her in a sling on my hip.

 

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DH absolutely refuses to baby wear...I've tried to convince him how much easier it is to do things with DD when she's in the carrier but no. After  some prodding he finally said that it's because he likes actually holding her when they do  things together, not wearing her like a "squirmy backpack". Eh, to each their own I guess.


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My DH wouldnt until we got our Boba. Now he will, and he says it makes him feel really proud =)

 

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These pics are awesome!!!


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My husband wouldn't wear one until he realized he could play video games while the baby slept in it. Then he was all for it. He usually uses the Ergo because he finds it faster and easier to use. He adjusts it before he leaves the house so he can just put the baby straight into it.

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I'm pregnant with our first right now, but DP keeps saying that he ABSOLUTELY REFUSES to wear the baby in a carrier. :( So I guess I just get to be the one that snuggles that baby all day :)


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DS has tried on our Moby, and got all sad/frustrating looking at how complicated it was, but he was definately game. He also tried on the hotsling  I have here, and enjoyed that a lot more, but unfortunately it's not the right size, so I'm trying to sell it, and the one that is -my- size, won't be his size. After baby is a bit older we'll have to take a look at a more structured sling, because I can ttoally see him being the primary BW'er like many of you said, as long as I can find a 'suitable' carrier. 


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The moby can seem overwhelming at first, but it's REALLY easy with a little practice.  Just have him keep tying it around to get used to it for a bit.  I can't think of a more forgiving learning carrier really. 

 

A pouch sling really isn't going to be ideal with a newborn-  a ring sling would be better and would have a much smaller risk to the baby- also, you will both be able to use it. 

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Tell your hubs that babies are chick magnets. And women LOVE to see a man wearing a baby. Seriously, best icebreaker ever. DH got more attention when he was wearing our daughter... 

 

It's almost as hot to watch a man wear a baby as it is to watch him to the dishes... ;)


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My partner gladly wears our son, I don't even have to ask.

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